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Donkey - Saturday Oct 22, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 157.5

Still very stressed out about many things in life:  husband's health, money (our house, my job, his job) -- thank the Lord I don't have to worry much about my kids, my workload or my own health!  (See, it could always be worse.  I just have to get through this trying time, one day at a time.)

I went to a dinner party last Sunday night with my church ladies.  I was going to bring a bottle of red wine, but then decided not to, since I didn't want it to put anyone into an uncomfortable position -- especially my hostess, who I don't know very well.  So when I got there, there was white wine, so it was going to be "that kind" of a party, but not that many people drank alcohol.  I know I didn't.

Right now, for me and where I'm at, it's best that I stay away from alcohol.

Progress as of today: 29 lbs lost so far, only 2.5 lbs to go!

trishpiglet3 on 10/22/2016:
Alcohol can be a tricky one. I haven't drunk alcohol for a long time and find it not exactly strange that others do but like something that I no longer relate to. The UK has a large culture centred around pubs and drinking such that getting drunk is almost normalised.

You are so thoughtful for not wanting to put anyone into an uncomfortable position!

One of the things I advise my stop smoking clients is to stay away from alcohol for a bit, at least until they are more confident that they will not smoke. I could speak similarly re my own (previous) drinking and eating things I shouldn't - if I had a drink at a party then I'd be much less likely to exert self-control at the buffet.

Love, peace and power to you!

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Donkey - Sunday Oct 16, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 159.5

27 pound off and I certainly did work for it.  Lowered my carb intake and ate the vegetables and fruits.  Very happy with the results, but wonder if my mood didn't suffer a little bit for it.  Hard to say, because I've had a couple of clients that did some really unreasonable things and my boss was of no help to me whatsoever in keeping the lines of communication open and CLEAR between our office and the clients.

So maybe it was the low-carbing, but maybe it was just me being justifiably honked off. 

Grateful for warmer weather this week, only in that it will make morning walking easier (somewhat).

Engagement ring fits tightly on the finger, and the wedding ring is almost on all the way, but would still be impossibly tight to wear all day even if it did fit all the way down the finger at this point.

Progress as of today: 27 lbs lost so far, only 4.5 lbs to go!

puddles on 10/16/2016:
Congrats great accomplishment. Soon that wedding band will fit. My rings are getting too loose find that I have to make sure I take them off before my shower because they slip off too easily with the soap. Keep it up and have a great week.

hollybelle on 10/17/2016:
Great work Donk!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 10/17/2016:
Hi J Donkey! Congrats on your loss. You did it yourself with your own efforts and it truly is something you can maintain and be so proud of. I know the determination it takes to lose weight and the focus it can require. But also it gets easier as we learn ways to feel full and in general feel content with life to help us maintain that lower weight with less complexity. As we learn what we can eat and ways to feel full still, weight loss will become maintenance and surely a way of life and fitting into our lifestyles because we have learned to live in a way that includes a way to maintain the lower weight! Hope you understand what I’m saying? No. Your weight loss was YOUR DOING. Please don’t let anyone or thing else take the credit !!!

Be proud of yourself. You did this. Remember how you did it. Keep in line with how you did it…so you can maintain what you accomplished with your own efforts and nobody else’s. It’s YOUR doing. YOU are in charge of YOU. You have the POWER to make change in YOUR life. YOU. I support you 100%.

Yes…we have really nice late summer temps going on right now also this week! So cool! And really great that I’ll be in Texas soon and continue the warm weather just awhile longer even.!

The rings will fit…keep up the good work. You are doing wonderfully. Remember to give yourself the credit. Realize you are worth it.

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Donkey - Sunday Oct 09, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 162.5

Not a lot of time to write at the moment, but I'm staying accountable.  Thought I weighed in at 162.5 last week but when I logged in, the weight tracker said 163.5.  So either I lost a pound or I maintained.  Either one is fine with me.

Good news is that my shoes (Saucony -- usually a good brand, but this time they tore up my feet) are finally broken in.

Switched out my summer wardrobe for my winterwear and am giving away some of the capri pants that I will never fit into again (hopefully -- I take nothing for granted in this weight loss journey).

24 pounds gone -- can't wait to see the big 2-5.  The wedding band doesn't fit, but I can finally get my engagement ring on as long as it doesn't stay on for too long.


Progress as of today: 24 lbs lost so far, only 7.5 lbs to go!

hollybelle on 10/09/2016:
Shoes are so hard! Glad yours are broken in now!!! Congratulations on the loss (or maintenance)! keep up the good work and your rings will soon fit.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 10/11/2016:
I'm glad your new shoes are working out!

Congrats on your success, stay positive and accountable so that you can continue to feel good and maintain the lower weight.

Donkey - Saturday Oct 01, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 163.5

Curses on my new walking shoes!!!

They were what I wanted:  leather upper to protect me in the wet & cold months to come ahead and more substantial cushioning and support.  But I can't remember the last time I had a pair of shoes that caused so many blisters.  On my left foot, I have a huge one on the edge of my heel and then on the outside of my big toe.  On my left foot, I have one on my 2nd toe.

I am pre-disposed to blisters.  I guess I'm a tenderfoot :-(  But it's been a very frustrating week.  The pain and care have been distracting from matters at hand.

Financial matters do not allow me at this time to purchase a new pair of shoes, so my feet will have to toughen up and I will make the best of this pair.

On the positive side, I did lose another pound.

I have not started wearing the professional waredrobe that has been waiting for me, but I'm not ready to put away my warmer-weather clothes yet.  Probably after this week, though.

Still too fat to wear my wedding ring.  The engagement ring *almost* fits.

Progress as of today: 23 lbs lost so far, only 8.5 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 10/01/2016:
Ouch! Comfortable, good fitting shoes are mandatory for me! My rings get very tight on me and pinch as well.

puddles on 10/01/2016:
I always have to brake in my shoes it is a pain. Good luck.

hollybelle on 10/01/2016:
Curses on those shoes is right! I hate when shoes don't work out. I find it very hard to find suitable shoes. My feet cause me a lot of trouble. I have know folks who use those little toe 'tubes' on toes that tend to get blisters, Also - there is something called moleskin for the areas on the heels. I haven't used these - but have a very wise friend who does so I thought I'd mention.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/04/2016:
Be kind to yourself Donkey. Remember all the good you have accomplished before you hit yourself over the head with what you are still trying to achieve. You will get there <3

Also, maybe you can buy some pads to stick onto your feet wear you get the blisters? i don't know. i am sure the new shoes will HOPEFULLY feel good with time as you wear the in.

Donkey - Saturday Sep 24, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 164.5

I am now officially less than 10 pounds away from my (first) weight goal.  Eating this week -- making smart choices, portion control -- has been difficult this week, but it has paid off.  Actually, it was probably the exercise that helped balance things.  That plus having VEGETABLES with just about every meal except breakfast.

I treated myself to a new pair of shoes that are made for walking.  They are much more substantial than the cheap shoes I bought at the discount store, but those were just to get me started.  These I like but my right foot steps differently than my left foot.  The back lip of the right shoe feels like it's rubbing wrong against the back/ankle of the right food.  But no blister and that sensation is not always there, so go figure.

Work has slowed down for me so the work is manageable.  Still, I have to work hard at remaining calm and pleasant.  Sometimes I'm successful, sometimes I'm not.  But at this pace/workload, I can focus more on delivering customer service rather than trying to meet deadlines.  When I'm rushed, the customer service tends to fly out the window.  Some people think that I have only one file to work on:  THEIRS. 

My goals this week are more spiritual than physical:  serenity, patience, kindness, calmness, humility.

Progress as of today: 22 lbs lost so far, only 9.5 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 09/24/2016:
Good job!

hollybelle on 09/24/2016:
What kind of shoes did you get? I've had new shoes that seemed like they rubbed my heel/back of ankle a bit at the beginning but once I wore them a bit they worked out. Glad your work is giving you a break!

Horn_of_plenty on 09/25/2016:
You can always bu inserts or something to balance out the shoe???

You are doing good. Work is always a challenge for me also. I also have to spend time working on being positive. Like many, I struggle at times with depression and anxiety and I work hard to prevent it. It's worth it - being happy :) I like your goals. I am going to try them too...even more.

Also, congrats on your weightloss achievement. Everything is possible.

Donkey - Sunday Sep 18, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 166.0

I have officially crossed the 20lb weight loss mark.

I am already starting to think ahead to the holidays, trying to figure out how I'm going to handle the extra food.  The month of December is particularly brutal:  work Christmas party, family Christmas party, anniversary dinner, New Year's Eve party and New Year Day's dinner.  Throw in the random possibility of a church or friend Christmas get-together too.  Consistently, in the past, I've gotten so sick of eating by New Year's Eve, but that doesn't mean I still don't celebrate.

The anxiety of my money/house problems has dispersed a bit.  Now I'm starting to focus on needing to find a job that has insurance -- I guess because I got tired of worrying about the house, LOL.  Walking sure does help with stress. 

The hardest part will come in November when day light savings time ends and we change the clocks.  Very hard to remain motivated when faced with the cold and dark.

Progress as of today: 20.5 lbs lost so far, only 11 lbs to go!

hollybelle on 09/19/2016:
Congratulations on 20 lbs lost! Best wishes on finding job with insurance. Sounds like a plan!!

grannyannie on 09/19/2016:

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/19/2016:
OMG congrats! 20lbs is a major success! you must be thrilled.

for the holidays, i HIGHLY recommend having tons of veggie sides, extra, so you can overeat without really hugely a damage to calories. that's my plan, actually...have the veggies ready with the meal. take portions of everything, but the extras only from veggies. don't have dessert aside from tea with equal...that's my suggestion & fruit.


I agree it's harder with less light. I tend to get a little depressed too.

The most important thing, for both of us, is to keep a positive focus. No matter how bad things are, we must see the LIGHT. We must continue to push ourselves to be our best. This is what i'm thinking too. On my way to work, i saw so much sadness during my drive (homeless asking for money as they walk on the street while we are at the red lights!!!, a child severely handicapped in a wheelchair getting picked up by a special needs schoolbus with a ramp and unable to take care of herself...so much sadness that i cannot even comprehend. I realized not to even worry about being 5 min late to work....there's so many more challenges and worries this world has. I am thankful and for that i am happy.

Donkey - Sunday Sep 11, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 167.5

Only 2 more pounds before I'm at the 20lb weight loss mark!

I was thinking about how glad I am that I've committed to losing the extra unhealthy weight that I gained while I was in paralegal school and then from my first job as a litigation paralegal, and then the extra weight I put on from my current job as a real estate paralegal.  When I last changed jobs 3.5 years ago, I took less pay and no benefits in exchange for a very short commute.  So I had a few goals for myself:   1) lose the extra weight and 2) work on speaking Spanish better, and 3) learn Quickbooks.  Well, one out of 3 so far....

I made a goal for myself to do better with the monthly budgeting.  I fell off the wagon in June so it's time to get back on.  This has been a struggle for me though.  Just too much to think about, but I can't be an ostrich when it comes to money matters -- as much as I would like to.  Unfortunately, it's one of the major stressors in my life right now that is totally stressing me out but I can't ignore it.


Progress as of today: 19 lbs lost so far, only 12.5 lbs to go!

hollybelle on 09/11/2016:
Congratulations - 20 lbs (almost) is great! Finances can be a big stressor. Are you thinking about taking a different job again, or is there potential for raises at your current job? I have recently retired, but would love to come up with a way to earn from home or working only a day or two a week to ease the cash flow a bit. Could you moonlight doing paralegal stuff on an as needed basis?

Horn_of_plenty on 09/12/2016:
Congrats so much with your success! 20lbs is huge! Amazing job to you. You did it because you wanted it.

I am sorry the financial stuff is not working out the way you want it to or as fast as you'd like it to. My suggestion is to take it slow - small goals that you know can be achieved.

im71 on 09/12/2016:
Good Morning Donkey! Congratulations on your weight loss so far. As for the financial stuff, .... remember to always pay yourself first. Even if it's a very small amount. I always told my sons to save 10% of their money, whether it be wages, allowance, gifts etc. Then forget they had it as far as it being available for use. There are 6 of them and some took my advice and some didn't. The ones who did, are now very wealthy. The ones who didn't aren't so well off financially but are doing better than in their younger years as their children are now grown and not dependent on them. I think you've accomplished the most difficult of your goals. LOSING WEIGHT! Many congratulations on that! I'm betting you'll accomplish the other goals as well. Have a great day!

Donkey - Saturday Sep 03, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 170.5

I should probably log in more than once a week.  I want to comment on people's entries, but I'm so far behind it feels overwhelming.  Please know though that if you comment on your entry after I post weekly, I do read :-)

Down 1/2 pound in spite of an off week.  Weather curtailed my walking.  Did not always practice moderation or the best food choices.  But mostly stayed on track, and that's the key.

The wedding (anniversary celebration, actually - 25 years together) was wonderful.  Much more Spanish than I thought there would be but I understood a lot more of what was being said than I thought.  The food was delicious!  And I was fine with no alcohol (more about this below).  There was minimal dancing, but for the religious reasons of the bride and groom, it was kept to a minimum.  We left as the dancing started.  We're not much on dancing, and with my husband's illnesses and physical limitations, he was ready to go home and rest.  I was fine with that because the rest of my table (co-workers) left at that time as well.

About alcohol:  I have been sober for quite some time.  The last drink I had was a 1/2 glass of wine (with ice because I have to have all of my drinks served cold) at a work-related party in late July.  Before then, I had stopped buying wine/beer -- since I think the end of June -- because frankly, I was adding $20+ to my grocery bill every week with booze.  I also found that when I have wine/beer/etc. in the house, I have a drink every night.  For me, I do not want that to be come a habit.  An occassional drink might be OK, but not nightly.  

No judgment on others -- just saying that this is not something I want for myself. 

So I have the last wine bottle in the cupboard with about 1 glass of white wine left in it. 

I'm hoping for a better work week and more focused on my walking.  I need to come up with a plan so that when it rains, I still get out there and walk.

Progress as of today: 16 lbs lost so far, only 15.5 lbs to go!

puddles on 09/03/2016:
Good luck for the week.

grannyannie on 09/04/2016:
Have a good week.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/06/2016:
I disagree that it matters what you should probably do...you say you should prob log on more than once a week but there's no rules! you do what you need to do for you Ju.

Congrats on another 1/2 lb lost - that's really great. I think I might be 1/2lb up after indulging. Def looking back to getting fully back on track. But i gotta say - indulging was quite fun. and laying off the gym was sorta necessary as i really did party quite bit & the extra rest helped....wait..i should be commenting about you stuff!....

I am SO glad that you enjoyed the party girlfriend. And that you left when you could & that it was fine.

Have a nice week.

hollybelle on 09/07/2016:
Good to see your post. I know what you mean I am about 3 years behind on posts - that's one of the great things about this site....we come and go, but it's so great to come back and see familiar people. I did the best lifestyle when I was posting regularly, but I probably can't post every day, so going to do the best I can....

Donkey - Saturday Aug 27, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 171.0

I do not like being busy on weekends, but alas, this is one of those busy weekends.  In addition to having 3 contracts to open (I brought the work home because I'd rather work at home than have to actually go into the office this weekend) and 1 file to update, one of my co-workers is having a huge 25th wedding anniversary vow-renewal ceremony tonight (Saturday) to which i've been invited (along with my family).  The problem is - in addition to taking most of my Saturday evening chill time - we'll be one of the few that speaks only English.  Everyone else speaks Spanish.  Oh well the music and food should be good.  No drinking and no dancing though.

Personally, this is not my kind of thing, with over 250 people invited.  I'd much rather be my introverted self and relax, but oh well.  So now I'm cramming in all of my stuff today in a shorter period of time because we have to leave around 3:30p.

So why am I logging into Diet Diaries and seemingly wasting precious time?  Because I just had to tell you all that I am down to 171.0 - WOOT!

Have a good weekend everyone!

Progress as of today: 15.5 lbs lost so far, only 16 lbs to go!

Donkey on 08/27/2016:
I've pretty much reached the half-way mark!!!

puddles on 08/27/2016:
Congrats and make the most of your evening out.

OhioRaven on 08/27/2016:
Congratulations ! You Rock ! At the party, relax and have fun and nod politely to everyone speaking spanish.

Diamond50 on 08/28/2016:
Woot woot woot! Happy dance for you! Congrats on the loss! Hope you ended up having a good time at the party.

Horn_of_plenty on 08/28/2016:
Sorry Donkey that you have to do something that you don't want to do. I really do understand because i'm the same as you. I don't like big events - especially if i'm not friendly with anyone there!? But, ummm, i hope you realized that all you did have to do was show up and you could have left when you wanted to!

Congrats on the weightloss! woohoo!

also, why no dancing!?

you are doing great. remember to take time our for yourself. I do like puddles suggestion above. and OR too has great advice.

DO you thing. this week, try to take it easy - especially maybe Monday.

Donkey - Saturday Aug 20, 2016
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 172.5

Just checking in for the week, to announce that I have officially reached the 14 lb weight loss mark.  Of course, this could just be a temporary thing.  I feel like I'm a prisoner to my hormones :-(

Progress as of today: 14 lbs lost so far, only 17.5 lbs to go!

Donkey on 08/20/2016:
Just realized that 15.5 is the half-way mark to my goal weight.

Once I reach my goal weight, I plan to maintain for a while, depending on where I am with life. Then I would like to set another goal, as I am truly most comfortable at a lower number than 155.

Diamond50 on 08/21/2016:
Congrats on your progress Donkey! You'll get there.

Horn_of_plenty on 08/21/2016:
of course it doesn't need to be temporary...just keep at it. don't quit!

I am a prisoner to my hormones this weekend. And all last week - oh man bad mood swings bc PMSing early and man was I a bitch! at work too! Nothing compared to other folks though haha. Thanks for all of your encouragement and remember to always continue encouraging yourself. Take the credit where it's due...your loss is because you made the effort. But to keep it off, you must continue with the program and make sure you are eating to feel full when you eat - using veggies or other low cal options :)

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/23/2016:
lately...i'm bugging off my hormones too...remember it all passes...the bad feelings go away xoxo

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