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Donkey - Sunday Feb 21, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 181.5

No weigh-in this week but went for a nice long walk with my daughter yesterrday, since it was a warmer day outside.  Illinois (US) winters can feel really defeating.  I hope to go for a walk tonight too.

I have to be careful because I have plantar fasciitis in my right foot, and too much walking starts my foot hurting again (which then leads to knee and lower back problems).  Tonight's walk will be shorter.  Still, it's good to be walking again.

I am determined not to let this year's real estate season hold me for ransom from my family, my home, and my life this year.  Working until 7pm every night and going in on weekends to try to catch up -- not this year.

First, I am taking a day off once a month, or at least a half a day.  I'm rather introverted, so my co-worker said, "You know, you should really think about taking some time off and doing things you enjoy doing:  playing with cats, going to the library, going out for lunch..."  So, you know what?  That's what I'm going to do this year - once a month. 

Also, rather than staying until 7pm at night, I'm going to switch my sleep schedule so that I go into work early to get work done.  By doing this, I would use my time more efficiently and productively, with fitting exercise into my daily routine, and I would be able to get home at a decent hour and enjoy the remaining hours of the day with the people I love most.

Progress as of today: 5 lbs lost so far, only 26.5 lbs to go!

puddles on 02/21/2016:
I think that is a very good plan. Family time is very important. Enjoy your evening.

grannyannie on 02/21/2016:
I've had plantar fasciitis but I've been fine and no pain for about 4 or 5 months. I do prevention though - a brace at night, slippers with arch support, good PF shoes and sandals, and I only go barefoot when necessary.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/22/2016:
hi J. I like the way you are thinking. It's very logical & sounds reasonable as well. Taking a day once a month sounds nice too. I am considering doing this too, although I have used up my days, in March so that when I reach my sister's wedding i'm not totally beat come April! haha

hollybelle on 02/23/2016:
Donkey - I had plantar fasciitis and I have found that I must put good inserts in my shoes at all times - even my house slippers - and definitely no flats! I found some leather inserts by Pedag to be the best - they aren't cheap but worth it - I think they run around $30 and you can buy on line.

Donkey - Saturday Feb 13, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 181.5

Oh yes, another pound outta the park!  I've lost 5lbs so far :-)

Progress as of today: 5 lbs lost so far, only 26.5 lbs to go!

Duaa123. on 02/13/2016:
Excellent. . Keep going

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/13/2016:
Congrats J !!!

that is so awesome you have lost 5! I am working on the last 5 as well...cannot wait to finally reach the number I have been waiting for FOR SO LONG!! It's literally been YEARS. Haven't weighed what i'd like to weigh since EARLY fall of 2008! wow. so...7.5 years now.

biscottibody59 on 02/14/2016:

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/15/2016:
Regarding the comment you left on my entry....yes....eating breakfast later in the morning is contributing to helping me BIG TIME. I just drink a few low cal things earlier, especially a cup coffee to get things rolling once i'm at work, and it's really keeping my calories down. I'm also able to have a substantial lunch too with extra fat that seems more filling...

but like I was saying, eating my breakfast late instead of breakfast followed later by a snack is helping with weight loss / lower calories!

Donkey - Friday Feb 12, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 182.5

Just wanted to enter my weight in from last Saturday's weigh-in.  I attribute last week's loss to a night at the "la-dee-dah" gym earlier in the week.  I call it the "la-dee-dah" gym because I used to go to a different gym that was just your basic gym and not the fancy gym that "la-dee-dah" is.

I went as a guest of my co-worker who has a daughter who works for the hospital that the "la-dee-dah" gym is affiliated with.  My co-worker gets her membership for $10 a month.

Listen friends, the name "la-dee-dah" is well-deserved and well-earned. It is a NICE gym, and I sorely wish I could afford to be a member there. It is really expensive otherwise, and due to bad money decisions in the past -- namely letting my husband be in charge of the finances for 19 of the 20 years we've been married -- I just cannot afford the membership.  And if I could get my membership for $10 a month, I would be there every freakin' available minute.  As it is, my co-worker goes only 2 or 3 times a week, maybe.

But it sure was  nice, and I remembered how much I used to love going to the gym.

Progress as of today: 4 lbs lost so far, only 27.5 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 02/13/2016:
Well done on the loss. No la dee dah gyms where I live. Only one.

Donkey - Saturday Jan 23, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 184.0

I was doing well, and then last week I did not do so well.  This past week, I did not do well, either.  I was having a drink every evening which ended up with some unwise eating decisions.  So I'm surprised to see that I still managed to lose a half a pound this week.

I was asking myself if I thought I had a problem with alcohol.  I suppose if you have to ask, then that probably means there's a problem.  I dunno... I was asking myself if I would be OK if I never had another drink again in my life.  And I answered myself with a NO, but then again I don't want to go through life not ever eating bacon again either.  Would that make me a "bacon-aholic"?

At any rate, entirely cutting out the wine in the evening, so that, if for nothing else, I stay away from the unhealthy eating it tends to lead me towards.

Progress as of today: 2.5 lbs lost so far, only 29 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 01/23/2016:
Well done on the loss. All you can do is get back on track and not beat yourself up for overdoing. I like beer and cocktails and wine but it's not a problem - just the calories and the fact that a couple of drinks means the willpower goes out the window and I snack.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/24/2016:
So cut out the alcohol and when you want it back, have it! tell yourself you are doing it for a period of time (make yourself a goal for a set period of time) after which you will reward yourself with a couple drinks! Why not!? Instead of alcohol, substitute it with flavored seltzer and some fruit or a yogurt or something else.

all bc you aren't drinking / eating doesn't mean you have to fast instead :) substitute with lower calorie options!

Donkey - Sunday Jan 10, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 184.5

Weighed in yesterday but didn't have a chance to update.  I was surprised that I actually lost, because towards the end of the week, i wasn't doing as well as I had done initially.  Even caught myself taking 2nd helpings.

Still have yet to incorporate a regular exercise program.  It just didn't happen this week.  And to be honest, it's probably not going to happen this week either.  I will continue to focus on adequate water, minimal alcohol (or none), more vegetables and no second helpings at dinner. 

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 29.5 lbs to go!

puddles on 01/10/2016:
Congrats on the lost. Have a great evening.

Awesome50 on 01/10/2016:
Good job on the loss!

grannyannie on 01/11/2016:
Well done on the loss! I'm sure you'll figure out an exercise program you can be happy with.

livinglight on 01/11/2016:
Great news on the loss - good for you!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/11/2016:
You have good goals. Stay accountable (keep doing the right thing) and you'll lose more weight!

biscottibody59 on 01/12/2016:
Sounds like some good steps you're taking--do what you can live with at the moment!

Congrats on the loss!

Donkey - Monday Jan 04, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 186.5

My plan is to weigh in once a week.  I think this is a sound approach.  If I miss a week, I will wait until the next week (Saturdays, I think).

So exercising did not happen today.  I was thinking on the way home that exercise is what it's going to take.  I really need whatever it is that exercise does to lose weight.  Calorie restriction -- for me -- does not do it alone.  I think that is because of all the very stupid, reckless "dieting" I did in my 20s.  My body just adjusts and slows down, rather than dropping pounds.

Exercise did not happen because I got very little sleep the night before.  My husband works nights, but last night was his day off, so he was downstairs making noise, making a snack, making "lunch" (at around 3am, for him), doing computer stuff....  Drives me nuts.  I should have turned on the fan in our room for white noise. After all, that's what he uses during the day to help him sleep!  but I just wasn't thinking.

Add to that clatter, the general anxiety about returning to work and the kids going back to school today. 

Getting back into the exercise mindset might take me a little longer.  I'm not sure why this is always such a difficult hurdle for me.

Progress as of today: 0 lbs lost so far, only 31.5 lbs to go!

puddles on 01/04/2016:
Yes the great diet plans of our 20s....lol It is always hard to start but once you do you will probably say why did I not start before that was not so bad. Good luck.

grannyannie on 01/05/2016:
Once you get a routine it's easier.

OhioRaven on 01/05/2016:
Watch these girls on here. They've made small changes over a long period of time. They didn't go on a diet. They slowly changed their LifeStyle. Good Luck, Muley.

biscottibody59 on 01/05/2016:
The exercise is so good for the head--it's always been a great form of therapy for me. Then it also helps with sleep and so many other health issues. Even just a little.

You can do this!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/06/2016:
I understand the anxiety and also how challenging it is to change a diet and add in exercise. you can even make your goals smaller - like adding in exercise 3x a week for ONLY 15 minutes. Try with small goals...and little by little you can expand on them.

In order to be successful, take this whole lifestyle change at a pace that is good for YOU.

Donkey - Saturday Jan 02, 2016
(Portion control & exercise)
Weight: 186.5

Donkey is back - after a hiatus of, what, 3 years or so?  It's been so long that I'm "new" to many of the DDer's here.

Now that I've most of the other areas in my life back on track, now it's time to turn back to my health.  And even if the rest of my life isn't all that under control, I realized that I can't delay addressing the extra weight (and the problems that go along with that) any longer.

So one of my resolutions has been to be more accountable and not allowing myself to slip into denial about the current state of my weight/health.

Plan of attack:  start exercising by using the exercise bike I have in the basement until the outdoor weather improves.  Drink water at every meal.  Portion control, starting with no second helpings.

I find myself in the habit of taking second helpings to prolong the dinner hour I have with my family.  Especially during the week, when I work late, I cherish the time I spend with the husband (if he's not sleeping) and my teenagers at dinner, but once everyone's done eating, the magical time is done.  So I keep eating to extend the "magic".  This is not a healthy thing to do. 

Unlike 2015, I'm feeling anxious about 2016, but inaction or status quo isn't going to help alleve any apprehension, so now is the time to start.


Progress as of today: 0 lbs lost so far, only 31.5 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 01/03/2016:
Welcome back!

Donkey on 01/04/2016:
Thank you!

biscottibody59 on 01/03/2016:
Good to see you back here:-)

Donkey on 01/04/2016:
I'm glad to be back!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/04/2016:
so so so so good to see you here too (and not just on fb!) I have missed you...and will be writing more but must get ready to run out the door to work!

So happy to see you, J!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/04/2016:
You have an excellent plan of attack. I also will add to really eat more veggies instead of other food. You can always have extra helpings of veggies, by the way!

If you are still wanting to sit at the table, maybe chat in the living room / den with your kids! Also, you can drink seltzer after dinner? Maybe see if you can buy something so you can make your own carbonated water ?? Maybe it would save you money over time? Hmm...lately I drink a ton of seltzer (but I buy it - but will maybe look into making it but prob not) and I add extra stevia in - it tastes just like a fruit drink! drinking it now, in fact!

I wish some others would come back...like rlovell...and some others. miss them too...

yeah, being accountable helps. I was very unaccountable for a long time - so my weight didn't change! I never changed my calories (blaming my weight only on lack of exercise when I should have adjusted what I was eating to lose the weight) and now i'm learning how to readjust to lower calories. I'm getting better at it.

it's all relearning the good habits and dropping the poor ones. for me as well!

Donkey on 01/04/2016:
Yes, trying to arm myself with more veggies or fruit, as a second choice.

Donkey - Tuesday Jan 22, 2013
(Revised South Beach Diet)
Weight: 182.5

I wish I had gotten a chance to log on a couple of days ago when I was so sick of being at this larger weight.  I really could have used the vent....

So Husband, who has a form of rheumatoid arthritis, FINALLY made an appointment with a rheumatologist in December who told him the first thing on Husband's agenda needs to be to lose 100lbs.  OK? OK.  We decide to go into it together because I have about 50lbs to lose myself.  We gradually start the last week of December and by January 1st, we're in the low carb groove.

I decide that I'm going to weigh in on the 1st and 15th (approx.) of every month to monitor my progress.  OK? OK.

Husband does the same thing.  He has lost 29lbs.

I weigh in: I have lost 0.5lbs.

What???  WHAT?????  OMG half a pound in two weeks???  Really???  And I think the only reason why I "lost" that half a pound is because dinner was stinky fish the night before and I didn't eat much of it. 

Wow.  IDK but losing only half a pound makes me rethink if I should have gone ahead and had that chocolate, etc.  I mean, I was maintaining while eating a bunch of crap.  And now that I'm eating healthy, I'm still maintaining!!!!!!

Meanwhile, Husband is complaining that his pants keep falling off his ass.  Who's the REAL Donkey now?

Progress as of today: 0.5 lbs lost so far, only 47.5 lbs to go!

Umpqua on 01/22/2013:
That is SO unfair on your husband losing so much - but good for him. I also have rheumatoid arthritis and being diagnosed with that was what got me started on this weightloss journey many years ago. It does make a huge difference in my joint pain when I'm carrying less weight! As for your loss, don't give up. I've always had great success with low carbing - are you logging your foods and doing daily carb counts? I find that listing out my foods and using something like MyFitnessPal to track the calories/carbs/protein whatever really gives me the best idea of what I'm taking in so I can lose. Stay with us!!

OhioRaven on 01/22/2013:
I don't know why it is, but us fat guys lose big chunks in the beginning. I'm sorry for smiling while reading this post, but...you're a good writer. I'm sorry I don't have any advice to give. I'm pretty sure everyone here is as perplexed as you are. Just don't give up. Keep posting. I think you're at a safe place here.

Supercheese on 01/22/2013:
lmao....Men lose weight much faster than woman. Its a sucky suckyyy thing! My husband lost 30 lbs and I only lost 5. Dont give up! Hard work pays off :)

legcramps on 01/22/2013:
Well that's a conundrum. I would be a little pissy too! But don't give up :)

biscottibody59 on 01/22/2013:
Hey! You've got a good plan there--don't let your husband's success derail you--just keep doing your own thing and keep us posted!

thenewMLE on 01/22/2013:
I can so relate! I started my weight loss journey last year at this time and hubby just got thrown into my eating plan because if I cook it, everyone else will eat it. Long story short, he lost twice as much, twice as fast! But just keep tracking everything, because even if you are only losing a little, you are going to be mind and body much healthier than having your blood sugar always out of control. Make sure that you are eating enough protein to keep your metabolism charged up and don't forget to throw in a little exercise to burn those calories too. You'll get there and fortunately your husband will be healthier to cheer you on!! Have a great day!

Donkey - Tuesday Jan 01, 2013

Weight: 183.0

Progress as of today: 0 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

Donkey on 01/01/2013:
I've been away so long, I forgot how this site worked....

Happy New Year...

V on 01/01/2013:
Happy New Year Donkey!! How is everything going for you? Done with Law school yet?

biscottibody59 on 01/03/2013:

grumpy on 01/06/2013:
happy new year! I am also back after a big hiatus. How are things going?

horn_of_plenty on 01/09/2013:
happy new year! thanks donkey for caring...and also to you, good luck on your new job?

grumpy on 01/22/2013:
Awww, dear! Men ALWAYS lose more. It's annoying! but he has twice as much to lose, so thats good he is losing so much. maybe if you're not losing as much as you wanted, you could try to weight in weekly instead of twice a month? Just an idea. it does help me, because if i weighted in every two weeks, I would eat a lot for 10 days and try to fast for 4. It's mental. I need to be accountable. In any case, you lost which beats gaining! Keep at it!

Donkey - Saturday Jan 21, 2012

Weight: 170.0

Today was weigh-in day -- I weigh in once a month when I volunteer at the legal clinic. My philosophy is that since I see these people only once a month, they will be sure to notice any weight I've lost.

Of course, with only 2.5 pounds lost, nobody noticed today -- ha ha -- but I was glad to get the 2 pounds OFF that I had added back ON after a week of stress eating.  I want to look forward to being in the 160's at next weigh-in.

I started classes this past week.  I hope that this semester is less depressing than last semester.  Last semester I cried every night.  Seriously.  This was situational and not depression, although the situation was very depressing, if that makes sense.  I leave work early 2 of the 3 days that I am there so that I can get to class on time.  Monday night will be the first test of my nerves because I go from the law firm directly to school and don't get home until 10:30p.  So I am away from home from 8am-10:30p.  I don't like that.

I was very heartened to receive a phone call today from the teacher of the ESL class I have been volunteering with.  I like her a lot and I think she likes me; we work well together, that is.  But she understands that I am busy with my schooling, so she asked me if I would be able to help with her classes this semester.  I told her that I did not receive any sign-up sheets so I guess I was out of the volunteer program.

Let me tell you, it really hurts when you are REJECTED from VOLUNTEERING. 

The teacher told me, though, that I was already signed up for Wednesdays.  Well, I cannot make it Wednesdays, but I could make it Thursdays.  So even though I had chalked it up to "God's Will" when I thought I was rejected, I am happy to be re-included and agreed to help out.  Do I have the time to do this?  Not really, but I figure if I am more disciplined with my time, spending LESS time on Facebook, I should be fine.  The problem is that now I'm addicted to Words With Friends, thanks to Alec Baldwin.

Anyway, being busy keeps me away from the refrigerator, hopefully, and keeps my spirits up >>> very important for weight loss.

Progress as of today: 2.5 lbs lost so far, only 35 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 01/22/2012:
yup, in regards to being busy, it keeps me generally happier and out of the fridge too. however, working the OT is lately just getting my exhausted by the weekend. so i'm not sure that working so many extra hours in one place is healthy...but volunteering and doing other short-term and more "giving back" types of things is sure to help you and most people feel good and stay occupied, out of the fridge. i'm glad you get to do that...and speaking of fun activites, I will be judging some music students on Saturdays during the month of March and maybe a Saturday in May. I'll be doing this all day on those Saturdays,but it's a project i've given myself. similiar to your volunteering but we do actually get paid which is awesome! the activity overall is very rewarding and will be good for my wellbeing.

Maria7 on 01/22/2012:
Congrats on your lower number. :-) Happy for ya!

WII on 01/25/2012:
Congratulations! See what not giving up does for you?! Awesome work!!

glycrina on 02/02/2012:
Hey Donkey -- I must have missed you when you came back. It is good to see you back. It's funny how when I read your posts I think "I am exactly like that!" -- like the whole thing about getting rejected from volunteering -- I would have felt the same way but it turns out they did want you! and who wouldn't? Congrats on the loss!

thinnside40 on 02/28/2012:
I have read a few of your latest entries and will say that I can hear so much more positive from you.... I am happy for you & hoping things continue to have a positive outlook as well ;o)

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