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Donkey - Thursday Sep 10, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 145.5

Overwhelmed with unidentifiable sadness today.  Started last night.

I did fairly well with eating until around 10:30p.  I should have gone to bed.  On a normal day, I WOULD have been in bed.  But my husband has been going to bed super-duper early to go into work early (3am).  So I don't go to bed until I am exhausted, because I toss and turn a lot trying to fall asleep.

So I was doing really well until around 10:30p.  Then I finished off the watermelon, 4 cups of it, easily.  Might have been less, but I doubt it.

I'm not sure what to do.  I just have to keep trying to get through each day as it comes.

Progress as of today: 34.5 lbs lost so far, only 15.5 lbs to go!

grumpy on 09/10/2009:
Thanks sweetheart, I will be thinking about you too, so you feel better. xo

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/10/2009:
donkster, it's ONLY watermelon. 4 cups is NO biggie whatsoever, only 200 calories. call yourself babe. you can do this and it is not all over! :)

mskitty on 09/10/2009:
What watermelon! Your freaked about watermelon>? Watermelon has an extremely high water content, approximately 92%. So if at any point in the day you didn't get your water in you just helped yourself out... you may even see a drop in weight because of water retention prevention. A cup of watermelon provides 24.3% of the daily value for vitamin C, and, through its beta-carotene, 11.1% of the DV for vitamin A. So if there is one food not to feel guilty about gobbling down in mass amounts watermelon is right up there along side broccoli and celery. Dont beat yourself up. And if your doing longer days tell exhaustion its probably better that you have a small meal around bed time. Some individuals rapidly burn carbohydrates, and if they are following the "don't-eat-2-hours-before-bed" rule, they often become hypoglycemic during the night, which can disrupt sleep patterns, growth hormones, and the immune system, causing them to wake up grumpy, hungry, starved, and in maximum fat-storage mode! Test yourself - if you don't eat 2 hours before bed, do you lie awake hungry at night, or tossing and turning as your appetite plows full speed ahead? Are you ravenous upon waking? If so, try a light meal before bed that mixes protein and fat. This will slow carbohydrate metabolism and leave you satisfied for a longer period of time. I recommend a small handful of almonds, walnuts, or sunflower seeds, or if you're allergic to nuts, try a few avocado slices, olives, or lean turkey breast or chicken.

mskitty on 09/10/2009:
Oh and I came here to thank you about the link it helped me find a suitable number for my calorie intake.


Donkey - Wednesday Sep 09, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 148.0

Weight is still up.  I know I should not weigh in every day. 

I did fine yesterday until after I came home from Curriculum Night at my daughter's school.  I have such problems with anything related to the schools.  Even though it was fairly positive and I felt positive after it was over....   I still succumbed to frosted mini-wheats cereal and quite a few pretzels (and more, but I won't go into it) as I was trying to "come down" before going to bed.

Anyway, today is a new day.


I wonder if I am on to something...  I have been having back problems, right?  So I have started wearing a truss or girdle or back wrap brace thingy -- kind of like what weight lifters wear, but specifically for back problems -- whatever you want to call it for several hours a day and it has really helped.

I noticed that when I wear this thing, I eat MUCH LESS.  I cannot even FATHOM bingeing while wearing my back brace.  I had a rather light lunch, and even that "sat heavy" in my tummy for most of the afternoon.

I think I will start to wear my brace around 4p, to take me through dinner and afterwards, until I am ready to get ready for bed.  Or, if I'm having a really GOOD DAY, earlier.

So I wonder, if I was wearing a figure foundation undergarment, like, Spanx or that Dr. Rey body shaper, if that would act as a deterrant to bingeing as well.  And, unlike my back wrap brace thingy, Spanx would help me to look more refined in clothing.

I dunno... something to consider, I think.  Or have I been so out of it lately that I've gone totally off the deep end?  Has Donkey finally lost it?

Progress as of today: 32 lbs lost so far, only 18 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/09/2009:
today is a new day. it's gonna talk a lot of patience and even a week before you might see any weight changes....so bare with it. you can totaly do it!

biscottibody59 on 09/09/2009:
RYC: That's my Fitday info--it will be back tomorrow (fingers crossed). The RMR (resting metabolic rate) is from shapeup.org taken from plugging in my age, weight and height. I have it there as a reminder to myself.

Have a good evening!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/10/2009:
no, i don't think you have gone off the deep end. people do all sorts of things to change their outward appearances....uh, plastic surgery! so, you couldn't be crazy for wanting to get that, after all, they sell them so why not.

but, i also hope you are not ashamed of how you look now. and if the back brace helps, by all means wear it!

Donkey - Tuesday Sep 08, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 148.0

Despite having what I thought was a good eating day, my weight is up still some more.  I have tried to do better today.

I turned in the job application that I had mentioned in previous diary entries, just to say that I did it.  The more I do it, the less scary it will be.  I do not expect to get an interview.  I'm ok with that, actually.

I did not sleep well at all last night.  My back has been twinging for several weeks.  Last night I got out the heating pad - even though my problem is disc/nerve and not muscle.  Today, I am wearing a truss or a girdle -- not a woman's girdle but a wrap to help immobilize my lower back.  I hope that this will help or I will have to get this looked at.

I went to the gym this morning and did cardio only.  I thought it best not to do weight training on the machines with my back spasing here and there.  I did only 45 minutes on the elliptical (instead of my usual hour) and then I spend some time on the recumbant bike, at a lower resistance than usual.

I would like to get into the habit of waking up early and going for a walk.  I would also like to start taking an hour to read, an hour to knit, and an hour to work outside on the yard or whatever.

Progress as of today: 32 lbs lost so far, only 18 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/08/2009:
and maybe take an hour to veg in front of the TV. You are like me, we feel a NEED to fill our time, bc if we don't, we fill it with food...seriously, i realized i do this.

it is good to plan though, it should help to curb your eating. maybe spend an hour at the library...out of your house, away from food. that has helped me MAJORLY in the past!

Donkey - Monday Sep 07, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 147.5

Thank you, friends, for "listening" to my problems.  I can't tell you how much I appreciate the support.  Even if there are no answers or solutions, it has helped me tremendously to pour out my feelings and frustrations here in this forum.

Not much planned for today's (American) holiday.  My husband is home and plans to relax because he has a hard week at work ahead.  I may go shopping to get dry goods for the kids' lunches.

I have decided to turn in the job application at the craft store regardless.  As I said in my previous entry, if they choose not to interview me, then this just means that the job - and more likely, the job environment -  is not suitable for me.  I think what the real solution is, is to return back to school and get some professional training.  And I do plan to do this, but right now, my financial situation is far too precarious to do so.

I ate very poorly last night.  All of my neighbors were outside celebrating and of course, I felt that I could not go.   So I ate instead.

Progress as of today: 32.5 lbs lost so far, only 17.5 lbs to go!

biscottibody59 on 09/07/2009:
RYC: Yeah, since I do a full body wt trng session, I always take at least two full days (72 hrs give or take an hour) between workouts. Thanks for your interest!

Have a good one!

glycrina on 09/07/2009:
Hey thanks for checking in with me. I think you should go for the job. I work in corrections and parole and most of the people I work with have really long criminal records and they still find jobs that they love. You are worth the chance and you have a lot to offer an employer.

Donkey - Sunday Sep 06, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 146.5

My stomach is revolting against all the crap that I've eaten lately.  Last night I was sick.  Today, I had a little breakfast, and I feel questionable.  Every now and then, I need something like this to happen so that I realize that I need to eat better for myself.

It has been quite trying lately.  I have thought about applying for holiday work at a local craft store.  However, they scrutinize background checks.  I have not submitted the application yet, but even if I do, I do not think I will get an interview.  It was good to fill out the application though, just to do it.

See, I normally do not list short employment.  However, since they do background checks, they would find out about my last employment, since I had my accident/arrest/conviction on the job that is related to my employment.  And because of that, I feel compelled to list my brief employment BEFORE my last employment, since that was at a police department.  Normally, I would not list either of these unsuccessful employment endeavors, as they did not last more than a couple of months.

Actually, the thing that this tells me is that this is not the job for me.  But I feel like I have to do something to bring in some money or we will have a very poor Christmas.  Maybe I should inquire at a temporary agency and see if they have openings/requests for clerical workers, since I can type.  Still, I would expect them to do a background check as well.

On the weight loss front:

I hosted a wedding yesterday at my church, and I cannot possibly gain any more weight.  My dress was so tight it did not fit properly any more.  When I came home, I changed into some shorts, and they ripped at the pocket as I tried to pull them up over my fat donkey.

Then last night, after eating ice cream, I started having my tummy problems.  I got my stomach to settle down enough to sleep, and this morning, I did not eat until I felt hungry, which was about 10a.  However, after having toast (w/peanut butter) and coffee, my stomach has felt cantankerous again.

I have decided to take 4 days off from exercising, and just rest and regroup.  Not that I will be all gung-ho to get back into it, but....  At least it's a change.

Progress as of today: 33.5 lbs lost so far, only 16.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/07/2009:
feel better! i've been having much food issues as well. i've been overexercising so that could be adding to my terrible eating.

biscottibody59 on 09/07/2009:
Sounds like it's been rough going lately--I hope you catch a break and your week improves--you deserve it!

Donkey - Friday Sep 04, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 147.0

I woke up this morning feeling very bloated.  My weight jumped from 144.5 yesterday to 147.0 today.  WTF...

I had my doctor's appointment today, which was rescheduled from Thursday.  It was very quick, and not painful at all, just a bit uncomfortable.  Although the doctor said that everything "looked good", she still took cells for a biopsy, which I believe is the prudent thing to do.

I had asked her if she might NOT have to have a biopsy, and she said, Yes, you might now.  But then she went ahead and did so anyway.  That's OK.

So now I wait for lab results.  But I am not worried at all.  The doctor said that my body may have fought off the virus on its own.  (insert muscle flex here)

Progress as of today: 33 lbs lost so far, only 17 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/04/2009:
wow, your body fought it off on it's own - that would be great. i feel like i don't hear anything like that often around the hospital, but i hope it is true in your particular case donkey!

sorry about your weight dilemna. please have a good weekend. did your kids start school or do they start after labor day next week? whatever the case, i hope the new school year brings you some happiness and peace.

Donkey - Wednesday Sep 02, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 146.5

I dropped in to leave comments and I figured I should probably write an entry too. 

I have decided to make it my goal to get out of the 140s this month. 

Tomorrow I go to the doctor's to have some "abnormal cells" removed.

Progress as of today: 33.5 lbs lost so far, only 16.5 lbs to go!

loveray on 09/02/2009:
you are totally right about my relationship and all of the preconceived **** is coming from me!! its all about how i percieve how "good" and "cute" and "happy" i am. i am a miracle just for being alive!! good luck with the procedure tomorrow:)

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/02/2009:
you know what, your recent binging may be because of your anxiety about your health? no? let tomorrow take it's course, don't be too strict with eating bc that will NOT help you.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/02/2009:
they mischeduled my appointment bc i cannot go to more than ONE in ONE day! :(

who knew!?

so, i have the psychologist in 2 weeks...

cupcakeLuv on 09/03/2009:
good goal!! and good luck at the dr hun

Donkey - Tuesday Sep 01, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 147.5

I'm not sure what to write at this time, but I wanted to start the month off with a weigh-in that was accurate.  Sort of like Catepillar's "Day One" philosophy.

I am in a lot of pain.  My back (disc) continues to twinge and shoot pain whenever I move in the slightest incorrect manner -- very unforgiving.

And I continue to struggle against the depression and anxiety that I have addressed in my previous entry(-ies). 

So this has started me thinking of what it is like to live with chronic pain.  I know that there are many people who do so.  I know that there are many people who push through their pain and strive to accomplish interesting or great things.

Progress as of today: 32.5 lbs lost so far, only 17.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/01/2009:
i am meeting a psychologist tomorrow and i may just go on a light antidepressent...

it is horrible to live in chronic pain and i think you have a choice over that.

you need to do something NOW before you continue to eat in an uncontrolled fashion. i don't want you to end up how i was last spring. (and i'm doing my best, sort of, not to get there again.)

Donkey - Sunday Aug 30, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 144.5

Well, I got my donkey out the door and to the gym to walk on the treadmill....  I'm happy to report that I am not getting sick either.  It seems as though each of us here has had a day where s/he felt like s/he was coming down with something but then it passed.  This is good.

Had a very bad day yesterday.  The neighbor's next door had a birthday party for their granddaughter who turned 1.  My b*tchy neighbor -- the one who hasn't spoken to me since my accident -- was there and the lady who used to own our house was there as well.

Although my husband was there, I just couldn't handle it any more and came home and spent the rest of the afternoon crying.  It's very difficult to be around people who think that you are a danger to children.  (I have a conviction of endangering the life of a child as well as a DCFS record now because of my accident.  While most people wouldn't know this, certain people do thanks to the local and Chicago media.)

I felt very bad also because I didn't want my neighbors (grandparents) to think that we weren't there because we didn't want to be or because we didn't care about their granddaughter.  Because that's not true at all, but I'm afraid that is what they will think.

I wish we could move, but we can't.  I hate living here. I'm afraid to step outside of my home many days in fear of my 2 neighbor ladies ("Staci" listed above and "Miss Dee" who came later to the party after I was gone).  Moving really wouldn't solve anything though.

And I couldn't face the lady who used to own this house, knowing that she knows what happened.  I don't know....  I guess seeing her also brought thoughts of how hopeful I was when I moved here to this town and to this house.  And then I went and ruined everything with my stupid driving while yelling at the kids I was driving.  Oh my....

I wish I could put this behind me, but it never really goes away.  Even on those few days that I do seem to live in a certain "denial" -- just focusing on the here and now -- it's still all there.

Anyway, I'm sorry to go on about this.  I know this has nothing to do with weight loss other than the fact that I use too much sugar and too much alcohol to try to help myself feel better.  Nothing helps, really, but somehow I keep trying to feel better, which is why I keep gaining weight.

Progress as of today: 35.5 lbs lost so far, only 14.5 lbs to go!

Catepillar on 08/31/2009:
Hey there my friend. You made a mistake. You have been punished under the law. You are, I am assuming, paying for the mistake. You owe nobody, nothing. Maybe that is why I avoid my neighbors for the most part. I don’t like people in my business because I know I do stuff that seems so good, and then when I fail, I fail mighty and people are always ready to judge us based on our failure far more than congratulating us on our successes. Human beings are odd creatures. When someone is struggling along and hopeless, people want to help. When they struggle along but have a good plan and are positive, people want to be nasty. When we fail, there are always people around who are the “I told you so” or the “Ha, that didn’t last, did it” or whatever they want to be nasty about. This isn’t a reflection of you, it is a reflection of their own lack of life in a little space of their brain that they feel they must occupy with feelings of being better than someone else, to avoid their own dislike of themselves creeping in. They can’t possibly see how they could ever do what the other has done! Well, they might not do what you did, but guarantee they’ve done their own fair share of crap and made their own heavy mistakes. We all do. It is human nature to focus on the negative in others to make ourselves feel better. I do it more often than I would like and spend most of my time apologizing to people for behaving that way. My goal is to STOP behaving that way in the first place, but I realize I have to forgive myself for my own mistakes and LET THEM GO, so I can clear my mind. God bless you sweetheart, it is going to be ok.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/31/2009:
are you still seeing a therapist? i think that you should go back because it really helps to talk to someone, anyone sometimes, once a week to just get these negative feelings out of your head. perhaps that'll help you not to binge as much. for me, staying active - with friends or just myself, outside of the house, really helps me not to binge - and eating a bit more (not strictly dieting) so i don't binge when i get the moment to do so.

i am so sorry that all of this BS has come up again in such way to get you down. but, i have to question you not being able to face the lady that used to own your house - why do you say this?? accidents do happen, you know. it is your house now. and i really don't think you need to worry about how she percieves you. :)

glycrina on 09/01/2009:
I agree with both Catepillar and HOP. And I second HOP on the therapy. You have been through a traumatic event. It sounds like you haven't forgiven yourself. I know you obviously feel very guilty and ashamed about what happened, but you are NOT a bad person, you just made a mistake. You cannot let this define you. Until you work through these feelings of guilt and shame and are able to seperate those out from who you are and what you have done, you won't feel better. Time will also help. There will be other scandals for people to focus on and in a few months . . .

Donkey - Friday Aug 28, 2009
(Calorie Counting & Exercise)
Weight: 143.0

Well, we're heading into another weekend....

Slowly, very slowly, once again, taking off the binge weight.

I feel like I might be getting sick.  Just a tinge of a sore throat. 

I'm sorry, I don't have anything new or positive to mention.  My life has been put in the status quo for now, although things may change very soon.

Next week (this coming up week) I get scoped.  So the week after that, I should have results.  I do not foresee this going beyond the biopsy but one never knows.

I also received a letter from my defense attorney saying that he is preparing to take me to court to collect his fee.  I no longer have any contact with anything having to do with my case, so if my husband cannot work out a deal (as my husband handles all the money), then I will need to prepare to claim bankruptcy, in order to handle all the debt we are under as a result of my husband's mismanagement of money and my criminal case circumstances.

Perhaps, though, we won't need to go that route.  On either issue.

So until something happens, my life has maintained a status quo of laundry and attending Masses.  And sleeping a lot.

Progress as of today: 37 lbs lost so far, only 13 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2009:
i've been doing the "eat, you are tired!?" thing as well lately. arg.

lately i feel like i can NEVER sleep enough!? i am usually not getting 8 hours though...

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2009:
you know, maybe buy that "airborne" that can be added to water/seltzer.

biscottibody59 on 08/28/2009:
RYC: I had never heard the word, prebiotic, until I looked up the packet thingie HoP mentioned. I'm not even sure what it's supposed to do--clean you out or prepare your gut for incoming "probiotics?" Yesterday I saw it in a commercial for dog food. (I think it implied that the bulldog would get more bit*hes--to follow him at least--haha, IIRC:-)

I have no recommendation as yet, but based on the article link I left in comments to HoP, it sounds like something that hasn't been studied much. I guess it didn't kill anyone at first ingestion, so they assumed it was okay.

I have been randomly re-reading my McDougall book too and there are some old studies that question the benefit of fiber that has been altered very much--as in pulverized apples (apple sauce). I didn't get that out of it when I first read it. Kinda interesting.

We and the food companies are so fixated upon "fiber" these days that alot gets lost in the shuffle I suspect.

Hang in there with it all--at least you're venting about it--gotta be a good sign!

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