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Horn_Of_Plenty - Tuesday Feb 28, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Home: acv in seltzer with stevia; and hair on honey on a spoon, just a very little bit of local honey as i'm trying to get rid of my Spring allergies...we shall see how I feel in the Spring.

Breakfast with dessert i'm insane....leftover chocolate i had at work 200 cal for just that it was milk choc filled with pb and j....reg breakfast was a nice ripe banana 120 with wrap 60 and peanut butter 200 and a lil cinnamon: 600 or so. fine! oh and a bit of honey at home 20 cal. def 600 so far. 

Planning on early lunch maybe so i don't need a snack this AM...maybe. 50 cal almonds.

Lunch: planning on early...extremely healthy of leftover salmon cooked by my mom with spinach and stuff...and sweet potato. good shiznit. small potato 100, large salmon like 400 tops, spinach around 100, plum 50: 650.

1300-1350 and extremely healthy...

snack before gym: granola bar and caffeine 100

1450

after gym: i'm thinking protein cookie on way home :)

1850 today and ready for bed soon.

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!

museumgirl on 02/28/2017:
I see you take probiotics - what kind do you take, and do you feel they help? I have taken them off and on....

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/28/2017:
YES. they help.

I take them in liquid form...like the apple cider vinegar in seltzer and i add stevia straight in morning early before food so i can (usually) use the bathroom before work. It makes me have a bowel movement in around half hour from the time i start drinking. i drink around 2 cups of liquid (ACV in my seltzer). beware - this type of solution is strong and might be too acidic on your stomach.

I have also tried probiotic waters (new ones by Suja) that i love because an entire 2 cups may only be 30 cals total.

I love kombucha, i like most of the major brands, but some of the smaller brands i find are not strong enough, but kombucha has both caffeine and more sugar...and i have noticed that it's just too much caffeine in the morning when i'm also wanting tea or coffee once i get to work.

i'll never get sick of the kombuchas though - so many flavors and brand options by me! like,well over 30 options of flavors / brands...and always coming out with more...!

As long as your stomach can tolerate, mine is sorta not sometimes so i may have to rethink the ACV but hopefully not, i recommend.

It makes me feel less bloated and leaner for the day, after using the bathroom and all.

Once in awhile i also have muffins that have a probiotic in them. they are single serve and i found them on amazon - called Mighty Muffins. I like the chocolate and choco with peanut butter chips flavors. I had one for dessert last night after a sorta large volume meal...and it worked out well for this morning...

i hear it's better to take the probiotics at night, but i do in the AM to relieve myself ... works for me, for now.

I usually, as of late, have the probiotics more during the week...because i'm rushed to leave and like using the bathroom before the day starts at work - .... and on weekend, usually, i've been having things like oatmeal which work, yes, but not as fast.

I like the rapidity that probiotic drinks work in the AM. feel free to ask for more details...if you have any other relative questions...i have literally YEARS of experience.

i first tried kombucha several years ago - around 2006-2008. not sure exactly when. but around then.


museumgirl on 02/28/2017:
Thanks for the info. I've tried kombucha, but just occasionally. I don't really have any issues, but I think it is interesting how our "gut" influences so much of our health and I strive to keep mine healthy. Not really having any issues at this time, but I think occasional probiotics could still be beneficial...

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/28/2017:
Yes I agree with you. Other probiotic stuff includes anything fermented like slaw salads i think? and other pickled foods.


jayhawkjen on 03/01/2017:
I hate the taste of SCD probiotics (liquid) but they do work. I'm thinking of trying it tonight.

Horn_of_plenty on 03/01/2017:
whats SCD stand for?



Horn_Of_Plenty - Monday Feb 27, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

1 banana at 2am 120

1 banana after probiotics 40, 120

300 total so far

Breakfast at work: coffee with some sugar and milk 50, wrap 80 everything flavor, with cream cheese 100, pepperoni 70: 300, good.

Maybe snack before lunch of almonds if necessary ...60 - 10 almonds salted and smokehouse variety.

Lunch: brown rice with veggies little sauteed 250, leftover sauteed wheat gluten which is a protein 100 (not much), tofu "pork" sorta a big serving 250, cabbage 50: 650 decent.

1350 or so before lunch and healthy. fine....will try for a lighter dinner, sorta...just happy to not be overeating. i think i'm doing great and maybe that i'm using these extra cals ;)

Dinner: (and hopefully early to bed) indulged with dessert 750 - sauteed veggies, roasted potatoes, choc protein muffin

2100 :-) fine.

2083 3day

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I think i need a week of more protein in my breakfasts...which is why i'm using my cream cheese before it expires...and the pepperoni and stuff... 

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!


Horn_Of_Plenty - Sunday Feb 26, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Vinegar drinks 50 and some candies 50 - fasted during morning

Nice home cooked lunch with my 'rents after visiting grandma - Salad big with olive oil and vinegar 150, bread 150, salmon sorta big 400-500? Gotta check, and cookies for dessert 250 1100 tops 4pm 

chocolates and orange slices 120

1320

Pretty healthy dinner: pea chips 2 servings 250, 3 egg white and 1 egg 150, small bit pumpkin side 100 tops and some sautéed spinach side around 100-150: 650 tops

1950 approx, good and around 1.5 hours strolling around park with parent dad

2 day avg: 2075

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!


Horn_Of_Plenty - Saturday Feb 25, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

2200 today. very healthy choices bc after gym instead of a protein muffin, i ate real food again. but some extras. 600 cal.

8:30am big breakfast: banana 120, almond milk 30, oatmeal 150, very last packet very high quality protein powder by shakeology 200,  peanut butter 150: 650. big but healthy. 

11am: almonds lightly salted 150 i feel healthier now as i've been eating better. things are going well for me this almost SPRING. 

12:30pm nice lunch: turkey burger 150, chips 150, some pumpkin 50,and some veggies 100?500 or so.

wow i am eating much better.so much healthier after increasing carbs.

3:30pm snacking: tons of strawberries and some lite ice cream 200.

1500...and also will have one more carb snack before gym probably...

1500 - a bit high but really no cares lately....since i'm not gaining weight...as i've increased cardio it seems that i'm balancing, mostly, my weight and calories. ..but lately i was also having short weeks and even a day off in February due to snow...so in March it's back to the grind of long weeks at work - so - .....i will see if my weight can still remain stable with calories in the 2000s...need a lower cal week soon though i think!  ??

Before gym at 5pm: oats and honey granola bar 120 and caffeine.

around 1600 so far today, excellent.

after gym: not sure, maybe a protein muffin with sweet potato also...but this can change!

now time to relax this AM....reading.

slept really well.

weights at gym today...

tomorrow home with parents and visiting grandma as well as a short walk after lunch with parents ! yay!

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It's 11am and i've already cleaned my shower just because i wanted to, clothes are washing, i am relaxing, ready to finally read....things are good & I am happy. I wanted to spend the day home and it feels good to be doing so!

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!

Donkey on 02/25/2017:
Sounds like the weekend is off to a great start! I have a LOT of stuff to do this weekend, but I too hope to get some time to read, watch a documentary on Netflix, and knit :-)

Horn_of_plenty on 02/25/2017:
Which documentary. I may have to invest in Netflix....better things for me to watch on TV...I may actually do it today - join Netflix. Thanks Donkey.



Horn_Of_Plenty - Friday Feb 24, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Home: vinegar drink 20

Breakfast at work: banana perfectly ripe bc i bought them last night! 120, wrap 60 with cooked cranberries 30 and peanut butter 200, coffee with milk and some cane sugar 60

snack: almonds? 170

lunch: totally healthy leftovers: saag 250-300, rice 150, cabbage 50, turkey burger 150: 650, all healthy. maybe a plum also 50. 650.

Had a low carb sugar free blue Monster Energy drink after lunch and took around half hour stroll around community and even picked up some veggies that i'll have for dinner tonight...good food.  

And now i can go home & relax and not have to exercise tonight because i was able to walk in the sunshine this afternoon!  I see myself in bed early tonight...very tired...the more I have excelled at my weights routine and the stronger I have gotten, the more sleep I need...

.... It's not too much  - but I've come to realize that I function well on extra sleep - more than 8hours is good for me. So, tonight I'll get a long sleep to make up for any missed sleep during the week.  I enjoy the extra sleep on weekends. Very much.

1300 after a healthy lunch and for sure leaving work at 4:30 so i can go home...unless i walked at lunch...and leaving at 5pm...tired, but need to walk a hair...maybe or just rest...doesn't better. walking was good but i'm ready for bed. for some reason, the fitter i get, the more sleep i keep needing!

3pm snack big plum 50...

for some reason very hungry i think i'm a combo of BORED and pretty TIRED.

4:30pm - and a nice milk chocolate with jelly and peanut butter filling. 50 cal -  coworker give me a bar, so i'm having some little by little...each square is 50 cal so that's a nice treat here and there! In total there's 6 small pieces. i've had only 2.

1400 so far...i have healthy dinner stuff at home and bringing home so today will end up being a wonderfully healthy day despite the monster drink :)

Nice dinner: 

2080 7day avg. almost 2100 a bit high but not gaining weight really.

Today was 2200 as I indulged big time at dinner. Got take out and bigger portions but healthy.

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!


Horn_Of_Plenty - Thursday Feb 23, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

6:30am: kombucha 30 and some leftover vinegar drink 10: 40.

Breakfast: banana 120, wrap 80, cooked cranberries 20, peanut butter 200: 420. coffee 50. 470.

snack:none, not very hungry this AM...to excited thinking i'm going to both Vegas and Haiti this year. wow! living it up.

lunch: to be very healthy - leftovers - turkey burger 150, rice 200, cabbage 50, saag 250: 650-700. I made the burgers last night...so proud of myself! - so glad i'm cooking now.  Cabbage was nuked in mircowave this morning bc last night i got tired and didn't want to bake it up like originally planned. but little by little i'm cooking more & it is wonderful. Saves so much $$$.

snack before gym: caffeine and bar 150 might drive to gym and not go next to work, bored of next to work, don't mind driving tonight, actually!

after gym: probably a protein cookie..450, chips bc i was too not satisfied 200. 650.

2000 cal, good :-)

2060 6-day, decent :-D

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Two upcoming trips to plan for: 

1- July going to Haiti! with 1 friend who is a world-traveler (so i feel good doing this with her as Haiti can be risky...but so cool...and cheap as anything!!!!!) very excited about this! Nothing booked yet but plans are to go for 3-4 days during July 1-15 not planned exacty when.

2- October 11th-15th flight is already booked - going to Vegas! with 1-2 friends.  Also excited about this one!!!!!  This trip to include skydiving.

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Gym tonight after work :-D

 

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!

innerpeace on 02/23/2017:
Great job cooking! I know it does save money. DH and I was spending up to $300 a month on fast food. I love the extra cash!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/23/2017:
Me too...loving the extra cash maybe to pay for upcoming trips in July & October.


Donkey on 02/23/2017:
Cool vacations! Haiti is an interesting choice...

Horn_of_plenty on 02/23/2017:
it is expensive flight...but cheap over there...i wonder if we'll book it or she'll prefer somewhere else. it's 75% going to be booked right now :-) weather should be good there. we want to do something off the beaten path. she's an adventurer :-)



Horn_Of_Plenty - Wednesday Feb 22, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Hi!

Home: kombucha 50 good.

9am Breakfast at work: wrap 80, banana 120,peanut butter 200 400. coffee decaf with milk and stevia 50.

snack: smokehouse flavor almonds oh my good! 100 cal.

healthy lunch: half tiny avocado 150, white basmati rice 150, half large orange 60, 4 large egg whites 100, small serving saag 150 600 or so, all healthy.

4:30pm small piece chocolate 50 with peanut butter and jelly filling

early dinner, no exercise as my body is tired and i'm happy to go right home, cooking up some ground turkey tonight..but not even sure if i'm in the mood for it...maybe just a veggie potato based burger and rice and cabbage...yeah. i got it all at home already....i may bake the cabbage... I cooked turkey burgers! yay go me! had it 150, and some leftober saag 200-250, and okra sauteed 150 some chips and strawberries 200. 750 at most. excellent dinner!

2000 and all healthy! go me! eating healthy is def easier as i have started cooking and will save me money too!

phone is in car, totally not going to get it - planning on early to bed tonight wahoo!

2070 5-day average and eating healthy. far less sugar.

 

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Late start to morning and actually got to work late too, but nobody's here much this week and i'll of course make up the time later on today when i work till 4:45 instead of 4:30 - it's not a problem here.  I slept really well last night and would have slept more if not for my alarm. Good sleep, no pill, naturally. I was tired.!  T

onight no plans after work - except to cook up some ground turkey with taco seasoning. So i'll have nice meat to eat with the remainder of my meals this week - and not only eggs.

Good to save money by cooking at home more...feeling good about March right now. I'll make it work in March, despite not having days off I think I'm going to try to get thru it without taking a day off - nice challenge for me. I can come in late / leave early couple times and then not take a day off that Month...we'll see how I feel as the month goes thru.

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Despite eating more calories per avg each day, I have not gained any permanent weight i do not think. and today i feel slimmer than i have been in months....! i'm not really losing weight, just not bloated today at all. 

really feeling good, but still darn right thigh leg cramps which is weird bc my period is basically over but i've had light lower back pain and thigh pain from the hormones the whole like 5 days even though the actual flow lasted only like 3..sorry.

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!

innerpeace on 02/22/2017:
March and August are the longest months ever. I will be taking my trip to OK in March and DH has knee replacement surgery at the end, those will help me get through the horrible month of March. I should probably eat more eggs. Have a good day.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/22/2017:
yeah egg whites when mixed with some healthy fats / veggies or eat a yolk as long as you have good cholesterol otherwise just the whites and some other fat like avocado...will fill u up and egg whites are like no calories! was good idea for today's lunch...

yes the trip in OK will be good for you...March stinks...i've run outta days because our new days start in APRIL...but if i have to, i'll take one extra day off in March if I'm starting to get too run down. otherwise, i just plan to sleep in one of the days in March..

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/22/2017:
i mean sleep in, and come to work still...just be late and have an excuse ready. gotta do what i gotta do.



Horn_Of_Plenty - Tuesday Feb 21, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Banana at midnight 120 - bad right thigh cramps i think bc i had a lot of caffeine earlier in day...also a huge workout / period ending...combo stuff going on.

6:30am: Vinegar drink in morning: 10 cal by Suja a new one on the market that i liked

8:30am work breakfast: banana 120, wrap 80, peanut butter 200, cinnamon 400.

snack: maybe some bar strawberry cheesecake but tasted not like that at all, only one so i'm dealing not the worst. 150.

...emphasis on pretty healthy lunch :-D ...my weight was so low this morning around 114.5? but it's due to eating very lightly yesterday...kinda nice how my relatively small increase in cardio has led to rather moderate and i gotta admit far easier ability to maintain a lower weight.  - to put it consisely: added cardio has made it easier to maintian 115lbs weight for me. I do know that i cannot push this cardio and after walking around Sunday in boots, i know i cannot overdo right now...legs are slightly sore, but no injuries :-D my workouts and leg work is paying off!!!!!! leg strength has a defiite noticable increase :-D - this means that i am able to walk more, less limitations. i'm happy!!

Early lunch: planning on taking an early lunch today at work, proably alone...i am happy just doing what i gotta do, no worries. ate with a male, married, coworker from phillippines, he's a fun man. always great conversation!...had half a blt 200-250...and some sauteed eggplant 100? and lots of sauteed pumpkin 200? bc of the oil. 550-600 all healthy.oh and a large orange..100.

1400 after a satisfying lunch. i didn't sleep much all night, my mind was thinking out everything i wrote about in this entry today...but i plan to catch up on sleep tonight. bc i'm tired, i'm craving caffeine soooo much.  craving diet coke but it's bad for my skin so i'm refraining and trying to make some better choices as it's kinda nice to have the better skin as of late!

snack after work: ? almonds around 200 cal :-)

1600 and HEALTHY - before dinner....

Union Meeting from 6-7pm located 10 min walking from my apt so i'll go there tonight.  This is why i planned for gym last night :-D 

Dinner after union meeting: will def involve eggs bc i have a whole dozen of hard boiled tasty ones cooked up perfectly at home! up to 600.

2200 total.

2088 4-day.

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I am not asking for advice really on what is below - I have learned what many teens, young adults & adults have experienced, finally. Letting a love go. :-D  It took until now, but now i have found the closure i need and i'm content. I'm fulfilled and know i gave my all...and that relationships are never one-sided so...if someone cannot give me what i do really need, i have accepted it, finally...and it's not what i need...and therefore it's not fullfilling. it took me a long time to gather the real courage and strength to face it...and i have.  I am proud of myself for facing the facts and reality of my situation and that it was so very unhealthy to me (and him probably) and now i can continue to grow and face new relationships and people and situations....i am happy about this......

These past 2 years until now, I've learned more about being a grown-up, about negative frienships, and about negative romantic relationships.  We all have to have our hearts broken and to end those sorts of relationships that aren't really good for us. I can say I have grown as a woman these couple years because of these events. It is never enjoyable to end long friendships nor is it easy to end loving someone. 

For me, it was easier to break away from the frienships as it was  me who wanted out.  As far as liking a man (actually loving him on my end), it was hard to break off of that love and hurt when he didn't return my feelings. The way I eventually got over it was by realizing that this man loved to be in control - he was the boss and owner of his work and he didn't like to answer to anyone outside of work.  He could not fullfill what i needed to be fullfilled...

He wanted full freedom and being boss meant there was nothing i could do to change his mind or make him love me - that if he didn't want it, i should be honest with myself and move on from a person that couldn't give me the love i was waiting and hoping for. I realized that it wasn't fully my fault at all, that this man is turning now 46 in the spring and he's still single...and it isn't my fault that he lives the way he lives. A relationship takes two, and the only one that wanted it was me - so i have realized that i will have to accept it -- and move on.  

It took me a very long time to understand P (known him around 4 years i think now)...and to understand that "he's the boss of him," and "i'm the boss of me" and that it's going to be that way till eternity. That he's not emotionally available and never was..  As I look back on all the red flags, there are certain ones I notice now that I overlooked.

Slightly graphic ahead, very adult content - I had to write it for me, I am sorry if i offend anyone - 

Big red flags were the night i hung out with him. He made it clear from almost the start of the night that he would NOT give into any of my desires - meaning when i went to try to kiss him at the bar when we were laughing and enjoying ourselves - he made it a huge deal saying "i'm not kissing you!" and laughing...when we were at another bar that night i asked him to dance with me - he said "i'm not dancing."...and when i was slightly "getting intimate with him in his bedroom and things get heated..almost...and i went to lick him (i am very sorry for being graphic i aplogize but this is the biggest red flag)...

...- he stopped me as my tongue touched his ----s and said " your friend is downstairs, this isn't a good idea..." and i stopped for him (but now i realize that i played into his control game - i should have fought him to continue - he was so afraid to lose control with me or do anything at all out of his comfort...and i listened to him at a moment when i should have pushed him to continue through this emotional and physical moment. the problem with why this negative and controlling semi-relationship went on so long is that i listened too much to him - i didn't realize the extent to which i tried to follow his "rules" and thinking that i was getting more succesful and winning him over but really i was just a player at his own game.  I was running a race, but never moving forward, like a mouse on a wheel.

He let me wallow in attempting to catch him for several years, but he held the rope and always kept me several feet away at bay and never able to catch him.  He was in control and wasn't going to let his guard down, even in the MOST INTIMATE of situations, he stopped himself, when he was fully aroused (and just so you know it seemed i never saw a man so close to climax and stop ok? i'm sorry to anyone reading this if it's too  much but i have to get this out......do you know how hard that must be for most men????? he just stopped himself..he walked away, into the bathroom, but his underwear back on...do you know how upsetting that is to me? ...he isn't and will probably never be able to lose his sense of control and feel vulnerable.  I don't know why and do not care -  i have figured him out despite only hanging out with him that one night over a period of texting (i texted him basically daily every single day) and chatting (voice) almost never /very infrequently (he wouldn't agree to many phone conversations...it was a struggle to get him on the phone - another of his huge limitations) over FOUR YEARS!!.

I've learned a lot of myself and my needs. I KNOW that I am able to be in better and more honest / honorable relationships. If i have offended anyone, this is a journal / diary and i needed to write it out.

I am over him and it took till now to think about it.  Over these couple weekends, i went to a couple shows about broken hearts, actually 3 in total and i was able to gain more insight on the topic. It's something that most adults experience - in order to really reach true love with someone later.

It's sad, but it happens to many. I am not alone.  I am glad I can move forward understanding the situation better, especially after the programs i attended in person on these 2 weekends.

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12:15am:  still right thigh cramp...took a 12hr pill similar to a midol and had a banana.

it's after midnight, need to go to sleep but not worried, of course, as i slept great all weekend. it's how it works with me & my gym routine. I am for a few good days, which balance out the others. and this has worked for me now...i have learned better balance which i'm happier with now. 

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Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!

innerpeace on 02/21/2017:
I'm glad you got this all out - closure!That is some serious control. I've known men who wanted to and just couldn't because of ED or underlying medical problems and this would irritate and make them crazy. I have never heard of someone being so close to the edge and not finish. This is almost celibacy at it's finest or taboo or something. He is a strange one, I'm glad for you that things didn't work out. I would hate for someone to crush your spirit just for a little s&x.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 02/21/2017:
My spirit is good now..thank you for your kind words. This was very difficult for me to get over. It was the guy i had written about over and over and back and forth. I finally see the truth without any fabrications and i see things now without the rose-colored glasses...I have a tendency to like these types of relationships and get attached to things that are not actually feasible in real life. This one, i had already been in a couple sorta online stuff but that were reserved for online on purpose for fun i guess and knowing i will never see them - but this guy lived here and i had promised myself it would never come to this...and it came to it...what i mean is - this relationship with this man came to all the hurt and negative and bad relationship aspects that i always intended for there NOT to be with this one. I have learned to break away faster or never start up one of these types again. It's the emotional bit that got me.

Yeah, he was the opposite of ED...he was def able...for sure...i saw...i felt it in my hand actually pulsing more than any man before...and he then just disconnected from it...told me it was a bad idea...and had me put my shirt back on (pants were still on me...time of month..i'm sorry inner i know this is a lot of stuff)....and he walked to the bathroom...probably did what he needed to do - on himself. and he got dressed in there. and that was it. Last memorial day. it was the strangest ever. I do not think he sleeps around with any women. I think, despite his GREAT looks, that he only takes care of that aspect of his life by himself, with himself. It makes me sad to think about it.

I do NOT think he is comfortable anymore with anyone.

It's enough writign i've done on it, i have moved on.

I still think highly of him and respect him.

He's just not the man for me...

I want to think you.

This last confrontation of me and him was last night, i stopped by his work before i went to the gym. it went very poorly....it's over now :-)

thanks again. it's still raw but i'm over this relationship.

I'm happy i'm free and not tied down to anyone right now in general. that i can hang out with all friends and my life is open to experience more - really thankful for this!

gosh.

when you say mine was a strange guy, he was....very atypical...very controlling with his entire life and everyone he knew.

but you see isn't that nuts, he couldn't be intimate sexually or emotionally. he was totally unable at all to do anything relationship-wise.

i will never try to "wait" to see if a man can open up....that's not going to be good for me...i'm ok.

i'm happy i'm still young and healthy. i don't think i want kids, i'm 34...so that's not a factor for me that needs addressing...

i think i am still in the running to find the right man for me <3

I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart again...as i was addicted to this guy for several years now and it's good to get the closure. he never allowed me to get closure which is what continued this, but now it's done. And i'm so thankful about it.


Donkey on 02/21/2017:
Wow, I am blown away (no pun intended) by the depth of honesty that you've put out there in your diary. I completely understand when you say that you're writing this for you. Something about putting it down in writing is reaffirming. It can be really difficult to be honest --- truly honest --- with oneself, but I think you nailed it.

I'm very proud of you for shedding yourself of (what seem to me to be) these toxic relationships. Some people never get out, but you've done it. Twice.

My only finger-wagging, lecturing, mom-voice is the part where you mention doing all that walking around in boots! Horn, you must be more careful with your footwear considering your previous injury and your NYPD goal. Proper and healthy/correct footwear is EVERYTHING. Ms. Donkey knows this from her own sad experience, so please learn from my mistake!

Horn_of_plenty on 02/22/2017:
Hi Donkey J. Thank you for the support. Yeah, I'm out of it. It did take so long to figure out when enough was enough. Thank you for your support, again!

Yeah, boots weren't the smartest. Right leg is good to go but of course left ankle is still tight. It's good to know I was able to handle it better, but, I will listen to you and just not go crazy with the boots again for a long time...maybe invest in some sorta flats that look good for going out instead of sneakers that i can use my orthotics (inserts) with. You are right...boots do defeat the purpose haha. THANK YOU.


grannyannie on 02/21/2017:
Hey, HOP. Been a bit busy so haven't been commenting. Will faithfully be here when we get home next week!

Horn_of_plenty on 02/22/2017:
Hi Annie...wishing you continued packing success and travels...catch up when you return :-)



Horn_Of_Plenty - Monday Feb 20, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

1:30am - pita crisps 220. waking up too often with appetite. 

9am breakfast fiber one 2 cups 240, almond milk 30, blueberries 120 400. 620, good. Currently doing few small loads of laundry.. Snack: almonds 110 730.... My friend is coming over to plan our flight to Vegas for October!

Only snacking until lunch at 3! - coffee 50 or so?

nice and healthy lunch at diner: mushrooms sauteed 150, some stewed zucchini 100, and half my BLT (the rest is for lunch tomorrow) 300. 550-600. excellent.

after gym: protein cookie 350.

1750, excellent considering my high cal days as of late! good.

2050 3-day avg. good!

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After lunch i picked up some basic items from supermarket. I'm def prepared for this short week ahead. Glad it's just 4 days.

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Tomorrow I have a meeting after work as to which i am happy to attend.  It feels good to have planned gym and everything so that i can attend - no prob! ;)

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We are only planning the flight dates and booking today - not doing hotels or anything else yet bc it's too early and we are waiting to see prices on groupon in a few Moore months .. Couple errands Gym in evening around 4:30pm-6:30pm HAPPY PRESIDENT'S DAY!

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sorry i'm not commenting, i've been quite active off here as of late.

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Vegas is booked, done. I got a very cheap flight - basically the cheapest around so I got very, VERY lucky. Round trip, non-stop, it was $360 from NYC.  This is, by far, a not good, but a GREAT price. Did great. I actually got a $60 discount - by calling up and helping my friend take care of her ticket - i was awarded $60 off. I got very lucky today!

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!


Horn_Of_Plenty - Sunday Feb 19, 2017
(counting calories/walking/elliptical/weights)
Weight: 115.0

Breakfast and snacks 700. All healthy. Some caffeine also. Going to a show today with my friend and dinner after...show only $10.

50 cal chocolate , strawberries 800..

chicken 150, sauteed veggies one big bite of fried plantain 200, pumpkin 150.

1300-1350, healthy.

dinner: fish 200 at least, roasted cauli 250 at least, few fries 50-100, cabbage cooked some oil 50, seaweed salad 50? - 750?

1.5 light beers 200 cal...

2250-2300. blech! but all in great fun....awesome day, trust me!

2day avg = 2200. bed soon.

 

 

 

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 3 lbs to go!


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