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Jayhawkjen - Friday Dec 16, 2016
(Not sure)
Weight: 203.0

 Feeling so good!  Still wine-free.  

I might be crazy, but it seems like that one small-ish change has made an impact on my other choices.  Which kind of makes sense since whenever I did it, which was pretty much every day, I felt bad about myself so I had a "Oh, screw it" attitude.

We had scones and clotted cream at work this morning for our holiday party and I only ate half of mine.  

This weekend is going to be a challenge because we are having a big party on Sunday which involves eating and drinking all day.  At least I have a running start on doing well.  


Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 33 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 12/17/2016:
Well done! It is so hard to break a habit. My husband brews really good ales and beers in our garage and he has some around dinner time and later in the evening. Hard not to ask him to bring me a glass as well.

Parties or eating out with friends is the biggest challenge for me as well.

Donkey on 12/17/2016:
Parties are hard --- make sure you have a glass of water/seltzer/club soda in your hands at all times.

I cut out drinking because I found that I was adding $20-$40 to my grocery bill every week just on alcohol alone.

Horn_of_plenty on 12/17/2016:
I love Donkey's advice. I love to have something in my mouth to eat or drink...so i do like having seltzer / water on hand the whole time at parties. Also maybe you can bring veggies.

Horn_of_plenty on 12/17/2016:
oh and i'm glad you are feeling good :)

Jayhawkjen - Wednesday Dec 14, 2016
(Not sure)
Weight: 203.0

 I am so happy, happy, happy to be making better choices!  I successfully skipped happy hour again last night.  Walked up 10 flights of stairs today.  We are super slow at work, which means lots of sitting, unfortunately.  I wish I could be out there, doing something constructive to get ready for Christmas.  

Anyhoo, back to positive changes, I know that if I can kick the happy hour wine & snack problem, I will reap many benefits -- better health, better sleep, weight loss, fewer headaches, and a better attitude overall.  I think part of my reason for the happy hour is that I cannot stop doing housework until I'm drinking a glass of wine.  I'm a compulsive cleaner which is probably due to anxiety.  If my house is in order, I feel some peace.  But there's always something more to do, I'm never, ever finished.  Sometimes I'm cleaning things that are already clean, and I can't stop without that wine.  The other thing I notice is that I have the craving for my happy hour at a certain time of night, usually about 5:00 or 5:30, and if I can delay, then the craving goes away.   

I read today that eating in bright light increases the appetitie.  I have a huge chandelier in my dining room and it's my normal habit to dim it, so that's good, right?  We have a foreign exchange student staying with us for a year and it has been a wonderful experience.  One of the best things about having him has been the leisurely family dinners.  I set the table in the dining room (no more eat-in kitchen for me) and we really enjoy it.  He is used to eating more vegetables in his country, which has resulted in me trying to serve more veggies.  

One of my biggest fears is this:  every time I successfully lose weight, I only gain back more.  If I had never dieted, I know I would not be this heavy now.  I guess my hope is that by not dieting this time, maybe I will not re-gain.  If the focus is on making better, more healthy choices, then the deprivation is not there, which - at least for me -- has a boomerang effect.   I do know this -- I certainly eat a lot more than anybody else on this board!  LOL.  

Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 33 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 12/14/2016:
Hello JHawk! Nice to see another entry from you!

You def sound happy & proud of yourself. Try to maintain this level of positivity it will def keep you on track.

That’s great you were able to skip happy hour temptations. And 10 fights will def bring your heart rate up! Nicely done…

I totally get ya with work. Being at work simply means being at work. There’s no getting anything constructive done really besides maybe typing here LOL, or making appts haha, or ordering on Amazon….but….when at work, we’re at work…and sometimes it’s not the MOST productive thing, especially for our minds. A break is good, I totally get you! And you’re right, let’s get back to chatting about something else now…!

Remember, there’s low cal options to substitute to have instead of wine – like seltzer (carbonated water). No calories and no artificial sugars (if you prefer to stay away from those…)

I thought it was dim light that increases appetite? Where is the exchange student from? That’s so cool that he enjoys more veggies! I love that!

Instead of dieting per se, try to make lifestyle changes that you KNOW you can STICK WITH. If you feel like you are doing things that are too limiting or you feel deprived, you will not be able to do the changes forever. … try to make changes that work for you in the long run, little by little.

This is why I like SUBSTITUTIONS. It’s not about deprivation but substituting better choices so that you can still eat and drink but things that fill you and don’t have quite the # of calories as your old choices…

jayhawkjen on 12/14/2016:
Thanks HOP. Yes -- substitutions are key. I was able to kick my Coke Zero habit by switching to La Croix, which just has to be more healthy, and now I really don't like diet soda anymore. I do sub seltzer water for the wine and it helps.

Our student is from Belgium. He's absolutely delightful. We are having a fantastic year with him. He is extremely healthy, loves exercise and eats well. I notice Europeans never eat on the run. No matter what, they sit at the table to eat. Eating anywhere else is not really done. My sister used to live in France and she agrees.

Thanks for the kind words.

grannyannie on 12/14/2016:
Good attitude! Yes, 'dieting' doesn't work, but changing your habits and just eating healthy and trying to be active does. Good luck!

Horn_of_plenty on 12/15/2016:
I love La Croix too :) I just had a Mango flavored seltzer from there that i picked up at an Asian-inspired supermarket by me! I've never seen the Mango flavor anywhere else :)

Horn_of_plenty on 12/16/2016:
That's all very interesting about your student from Belgium. Sounds like a very healthy approach. I think all countries do a better job sitting down at meals compared to us US folks!

Jayhawkjen - Tuesday Dec 13, 2016
(Not sure)
Weight: 203.0

I feel so good today!  

Goals met yesterday:

No wine, no pre-dinner happy hour snacking

Only 3 pieces candy, and I gave away my stash of Pecan Delights

Healthy eating throughout the day with fruits/veggies (2 clementines, 1 apple, fruit smoothie and a salad.)  

Light exercise (stairs, walking)


I realize I can easily cut 500-1,000/day by cutting out my happy hour wine and snack.  I know this, but for some reason, I back-slide.  I really, really need to remember that daily happy hours really pack on the pounds and it is not worth it.  Just a weird habit I get in to while I'm cooking dinner and watching the news.  I think -- I know I have a lot of anxiety and this is my way of self-medicating.  But in the end, it doesn't help.  Note to self, right?  LOL  

The kids are coming home from college this week and I'm so looking forward to having everybody home.  





Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 33 lbs to go!

puddles on 12/13/2016:
Welcome to DD. Yes the happy hour can be costly on the calorie total. Have a great day and keep up the good work.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 12/13/2016:
You can still drink & snack...just switch to something lo cal----i love diet tonic water (must do diet) for the nice flavor along with flavored seltzers and i add liquid stevia...there's also low cal things you can eat...you can cut up peppers or snack on cherry tomoatoes...or a pickle or cucumber salad...the list is endless...or one serving chips with the drinks ...you don't have to skip eating / drinking, just substitute!

congrats so far!

grannyannie on 12/13/2016:
You're doing great! I love wine and beer as well, but the calories!

Jayhawkjen - Monday Dec 12, 2016
(Not sure)
Weight: 205.0

I would like to change:

Daily wine habit

Too much screen time

No exercise

Prolonged sitting at work

Cut back on simple carbs, especially candy

I would like to replace old habits with:

Some kind of exercise after work to replace drinking wine and snacking

Adding a walk at work during lunch and/or doing stairs

Engage with my family instead of screen time or tv

Adding more vegetables and fruits to my diet

Learning how to lift

My goals

To feel more healthy

To have more stamina

To be a good example to the kids

To look better

To be more comfortable

To take control of my health

To stop feeing bloated, bad, tired

To be more fun and have more fun

To develop an exercise habit that I enjoy

To reduce back pain

Progress as of today: 0 lbs lost so far, only 35 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 12/12/2016:
You have a great outlook of goals and desires.

I would say to pick one change and one replacement at a time from your list above. Once you successfully have done 1 change and replacement for 2 weeks, add in another one....! little by little it will become easier to eventually have them all in your routine.

You can even try making one goal last 3 weeks (the time it usuallytakes to create a habit) before adding in another. One at a time for best results in my opinion.

Your goals are wonderful - but sometimes trying to accomplish too much can result in an overwhelming feeling and in turn not being able to accomplish anything...from my own experience.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 12/12/2016:
Oh....and welcome to DD !!! :)

jayhawkjen on 12/12/2016:
Thanks! I was thinking the same thing -- tackle one goal at a time. Replace one bad habit with one good habit. I want to start with the most damaging habit, which is drinking a glass of wine after work, and the accompanying snacking. I feel very hopeful.

innerpeace on 12/12/2016:
Great plan, the trick is putting it into action. Good habits are hard to create, hopefully you can find some motivation and inspiration here. Good luck! Welcome.

jayhawkjen on 12/12/2016:
Thanks. I've been a user in the distant past and this website was very, very helpful.

OhioRaven on 12/12/2016:
Try Frisbee Golf. What part of Kansas are you from ?

jayhawkjen on 12/14/2016:
I'm in Missouri, lol.

Horn_of_plenty on 12/12/2016:
instead of wine, you can drink seltzer...you can still drink, just switch it :)

grannyannie on 12/12/2016:
Welcome to DD. Excellent goals!

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