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TheMother - Monday Jun 06, 2005

Weight: 230.8

Happy Monday!

Hope everyone had a nice weekend. Mine was super busy as usual. We are in the process of painting outside. The shed is just about finished. The really big project is the house. Hubby who is a teacher will be done with school in three weeks so he will have about a month to paint before he and son leaving for their annual trip to DisneyWorld. The new roof is being put on this week and pretty soon my new front door and garage door should be delivered and installed. Big things are happening and I'm really excited.

Finally got back on the scale after a month hiatus. I was surprised to see that I didn't weigh as much as I thought I did. My new weight reflects a new starting point. I'm going to break it down into three mini goals - first goal is get to 210, second goal is 190 and the last goal is 175. I have no set time to do this. I do not respond well to deadlines as I feel like a failure if I fall short of the mark regardless of how much I've accomplished. Life is stressful enough so I am going to focus on one day at a time and weigh in once a week on Sunday morning (so I can enjoy my two slices of pizza on Friday night and not have to worry about weighing in on Saturday morning like I used to).

Daughter is currently in Italy, heading to Rome today. She will be there for the remainder of the week and return home on Friday. She just loved London and is having a fabulous time.

Nothing much else to report. Hope everyone is doing well and has a wonderful day. I'm hoping to journal at least twice a week and be able to read/comment on your journals as well. Thinking of you all! Welcome to the newbies!!!!

Have a GREAT OP day!


jolt on 06/06/2005:
**waves** There you are. Glad I didn't have to start a huge hunt for you :) Sounds like all is going well. Don't forget to breath through all those horrid times! Your goals are very realistic and doable!


Hugs and love


TheMother - Friday Jun 03, 2005

Weight: 235.0

Hi All:

It's been awhile since I've posted, however, I have been reading your journals here and there as time permits (I do this at work). Dietwise, I've been backsliding something awful. I had hoped to have lost at least 35 lbs. by now but I've only have 18 to my credit. I haven't been trying as hard as I should and know I can. Don't know what the problem is and why I'm not doing what I should be doing. God only knows I know what has to be done and I'm the only one who can do it (wish someone else could do it for me)!

Things have been busy at the office and at home. We are in the process of painting our house and shed which is very time consuming. We're also getting a new roof, garage door and new front door which is going to give the house a totally new appearance. Thank God these things we're having done by contractors - the painting we're doing ourselves to save some $$$ because I can't see spending $1800 for someone to paint my house.

Daughter is presently in Europe - just finished up a week's stay in London and now heading to Rome. She will be back next Friday. Son just marked his first anniversary with his gf. They are thinking about getting married in a couple of years.

That's about all that's new with me. I think of you often and hope everyone is doing well. Keep up the good work!

Take care,


cynthia on 06/03/2005:
Hey Missy ... glad things are going well for you even if a bit hectic.

We're thrilled to hear from you. You're a part of this alumni group!!! So, pay your dues and check in every now and again!!!

Losing weight is a complex deal. If it only involved the body and not the mind I don't think it would be as hard.


jolt on 06/03/2005:
Well there you are, I thought you had forgotten all about us! You can do it! Just keep being positive. Painting and renovating sounds like a nice change!



Bandmom on 06/03/2005:
Thank you for comeing home we missed you Mother!See you are wanted ,loved and need ,and missed!

TheMother - Friday May 06, 2005

Weight: 230.9

Hi All: Yep! It's me - THEMOTHER. I didn't fall off the face of the earth - just been incredibly busy both at work and at home. I have sneaked visits to this site here and there to check up on you but I didn't have sufficient time to post until today. Anyway, I'm hanging in and still struggling weight wise. Been walking at lunch time with a co-worker so that helps and have been out in the yard after work and on the weekend (when it's not raining) so I'm getting some type of exercise.

We're undergoing some more changes at work and the worst one is that the boss (female) that I LOVE may be moving to another position - possibly in MINNESOTA. At least she may be based there 2 days a week and hoping to work out of this office the other 3. It is still very much in the air at this point. I was so sad to hear this news because we get along so well. She is the BEST boss I've ever had. I now report to my other boss (male). He is nice, too, but I'm fonder of my female boss. Still, I have a good job so I can't complain too much.

Daughter went to see her "long distance" friend who was in from England on business in Philadelphia. She spent last weekend with him and came home very smitten. All I hear is "Andy this" and "Andy that". It's very difficult to do the long distance thing so I do not know what is going to happen. She leaves for London on 5/27 and plans on spending a couple of days with him there.

Nothing much is going on. I'm hanging in there trying to make good food choices but don't always succeed. I haven't given up the fight but it's really hard right now. I don't know why but it is.

Have to finish up some stuff so hopefully I can leave work on time tonight. Wish all of the mothers out there a very happy Mothers' Day. Enjoy your special day. I know I will.

Take care.


Jennifer68 on 05/08/2005:
Good to see ya back here TM! Glad it was just busy LIFE going on and that you are getting exercise. Take care, Jen

TheMother - Wednesday Apr 27, 2005

Weight: 230.9

Hello everyone: Just checking in on this dreary rainy Wednesday. I am struggling once again - can't seem to get past the 230 mark despite all of the work I've been doing in the garden last week and the tremendous amount of walking we did in DC the weekend before. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong but obviously I'm doing something. Maybe I'm too obsessed with the "number" and should pay more attention to how my clothes fit and how I feel. I don't know.

Took Monday off as hubby is on his school spring break. Got a lot accomplished which was nice and I had planned to take this Friday off too but the weather is not supposed to be the best so I'll wait plus I'm planning 2-3 days off in May. I don't want to use all of my accrued time as the year is still young and I like some time off in early fall.

Daughter is meeting her long distance "friend" from England on Saturday in Philadelphia. He will be in the States on business and they've been chatting quite often online and by phone since they met two months ago at a business convention in FL. I'm apprehensive about her going - she's going to stay overnight with him (share a room). I know she's 23 but I'm concerned for her safety. He can sound nice on the phone and turn out to be a psycho - am I over-reacting or what?????? She leaves for London on May 20th and plans on spending a couple of days with him there (the trip was planned with a college friend before she met him in Feb.).

Work is coming along. Once again we've had a slight reorg - I now report to my "second" boss (male) instead of my female boss who was the one who hired me. I still support her but her role has changed and she no longer has direct reports. I feel badly for her because she is great. My male boss is a nice guy and we get along well but if I had to choose, I'd rather keep it like it was. Such is life. At least I have a job so I'm not complaining by any means.

That's about it for now. I hope to catch up on journals today since both of my bosses are out of the office.

Have a terrific day!


Cynthia on 04/27/2005:
Hello Mummy, say hello mummy, it's so nice to have you back where you belong .... lol! Have no fear none of us have RUN off and left you behind where the weight loss is concerned. We all pretty much seem to be struggling right now but ... it is a phase and it is going to pass. We're all gonna drop a substantial amount of weight in the next couple weeks!!!

feeleebubs on 04/27/2005:
I can understand why you're apprehensive about her going to meet this guy. I would be too. My mom would be flipping out if my sister or I (we're 21 and 23) traveled any distance to meet a guy we didn't really know too well. She was really worried when I met a guy off the internet. He turned out to be great and we're still together...However my sister went to meet someone from a long distance friendship one time and he didn't show up. She ended up getting lost in a bad area of Chicago while walking back to the train and was raped by two men. I know how frightened my mom gets and rightfully so. It really sounds like your daughter is a smart girl and she'll look out for herself. I've gotta say I am jealous of her trip to London!

TheMother - Tuesday Apr 19, 2005

Weight: 230.0

Hi All: NO, I'm not missing in action although I haven't posted for 10 days. It's just that it's been SO busy at work (and that's where I read DD - ha!), I've had virtually no time to stay connected with you guys but I think of you often. I'm doing well. Down 1.5 lbs. from last weigh-in and I'm slowing getting back on track. Hubby and I went to Washington, DC last Saturday and walked about 15 miles - I kid you not!!!! The weather was phenomenal and it was so nice to be out in the fresh air amongst all of our nation's great treasures. We went to the WWII Memorial, FDR Memorial, Vietnam Memorial, The National Arhives which gave me chills to see the actual Declaration of Independence, Bill of Rights and Constitution and a bunch of other stops along the way. I love the USA! We had lunch at Hard Rock Cafe and had the most delicious grilled chicken breast with some garlic mashed potatoes and green beans. No dessert! Got home late Saturday night and Sunday I worked three hours in the yard. It is starting to shape up (hopefully I am too - ha!). Before long, it was time to get ready for another work week and here it is Tuesday already. I'm taking off next Monday and possibly the Friday after that as well as hubby is on his school spring break. I'm hoping to get some stuff done around the house since he is off.

Nothing else is new. Everyone is doing well and it seems that spring has finally sprung here in NJ. The trees are starting to bloom and the air is fresh and clean and it just makes me smile to believe that winter is finally over - maybe I can put the snowblower away.

Hope all of you are doing well and I'm planning on catching up on journals today/tomorrow since both of my bosses are out of the office on Wednesday.

Take care and have a GREAT OP day!


jolt on 04/19/2005:
Hey you,

Glad you didn't fall off the face of the earth like I thought :) Not to worry we all know how busy lives get, doesn't mean we don't miss ya and think of ya!

Sounds like a wonderful day! That walking is great, and the food (YUMMY)

Congrats on the loss.

Hugs Pat

cynthia on 04/19/2005:
Well mercy mercy me! It's about time you reared your cutsey little head!! Been missing you but, I completely understand about the hectic work pace ... I even assumed that's what was holding you up. I know you've been waiting for great weather ... glad you're finally getting your share of it AND being able to enjoy it! Your trip to DC sounded wonderful. Hey you lost 1-1/2 pounds, kudos ... we're doing this thang Missy ... an ounce at a time! xoxoxo cynthia

QT on 04/22/2005:
Great to see you back, great job with the weight lose. Keep it up.

TheMother - Friday Apr 08, 2005
Weight: 231.5

TGIF!!!!!!!!!!What a week and I'm ever so glad it's Friday. I'm in pretty good spirits today. Had a decent night's sleep which is one of the reasons. It's also supposed to be a nice weekend (had tons of rain last weekend) so I'm looking forward to working in the yard a little. I divide my yardwork into sections so I don't feel overwhelmed by all there is to do and it makes it more managable.

Tonight is pizza night and tomorrow is weigh in. I've been thinking about changing my weighin to Sunday morning so i can enjoy pizza and not worry how it's going to show up on the scale. It really shouldn't matter if I'm keeping to my points allotment but I don't know.

Just wanted to check in. Today is catch up day at work. Both my bosses are out so I'm hoping to read a few diaries and comment.

Have a GREAT day and terrific weekend. I'll check in next week.


jolt on 04/08/2005:
Hi fellow Pat. Yes Pats Pounds Off was me, however I went about the weightloss the wrong way and here I am again. Ready to succeed of course.

I love doing my yardwork! I also have to section mine off since my yard is so huge. Good luck to you.


TheMother - Thursday Apr 07, 2005
Weight: 231.5

Happy Thursday (already)! It's been a whirlwind week once again and I so miss not being able to check this site as frequently as I had in the past but as I mentioned before, the office (where I read DD) is hopping for the last few weeks. The days go so incredibly fast that I feel like I'm either on my way into work or going home from work and whatever happens inbetween is one big blur (ha)! I see we have some newcomers to DD so I wish you a hearty "welcome".

As for me, last week I've posted a 1 lb. loss. I'm pleased by this although I know I could have done better. It seems on the night before I weigh, I sabbatoge myself by having a little extra than I normally would. Why do I do that? The fear of success? I feel that I'm not worth it? I don't know! On the exercise front, I've done the treadmill twice this week for 20 minutes & 18 minutes. On Tuesday, it was so beautiful out that after dinner I worked out in my yard raking leaves and whatnot for TWO hours. I did not do the treadmill that night. Also I've been walking with a coworker at lunch and we do three laps around the parking lot (normally when I go by myself I do two). So, all in all, I'd say things are pretty good on the exercise front. An exciting thing happened over the weekend. I went pants shopping with my sister who had come up to help me with the taxes for my kids. We went to JC Penney's and I was able to buy a MISSES' size 18 pants - no more WOMEN'S. It was truly an exciting moment. There are some things I still need in Women's (like tops)because I am big on top. Still, it was truly a "moment" and I thought of all of YOU and couldn't wait to tell you guys.

The weekend is rapidly approaching and my plans are to finish the taxes (need to copy them onto a good form) and do some work in the yard. This, of course, is in addition to the usual stuff - food shopping, laundry, running errands, etc. Boy, I wish I worked a 4 day work week so I have the "extra" day to catch up but such is life. I'm planning on taking a day off on the 22nd of April and then a couple of days in May - one to drive my daughter to the airport when she leaves for Europe on 5/27, another to cook for my niece's college graduation party that we're having at my house on May 21st and then one day for ME on May 24th (to recuperate from the party and clean up). Then we have the long Memorial Day weekend so May is shaping up to be a busy month but at least I'll have a couple of days off - not too bad.

Nothing else to report. I hope to read some journals and comment here and there as time permits. Keep up the great job you're all doing. For those who are struggling (myself included) don't give up. WE can do it!!!!!! The weather is getting warmer and that, in itself, is an incentive to shed some pounds.

Thinking of you all.


jolt on 04/07/2005:
***YOU ARE WORTH IT**** Never forget that!

QT on 04/07/2005:
Great job on the size 18. I totally understand not being able get to this site much. I wish I had more time to read peoples entrys and comment. Keep up the great work. Your entrys are so encouraging.

TheMother - Friday Apr 01, 2005
Weight: 232.5

Hi All: I'm in a funk today. The weather is cloudy and foggy (just like my brain). It's been one hell of a week. I cannot believe it's Friday already (although I'm not complaining). I'm somewhat upset by a mistake I made in sending out a client communciation letter (I work for a pharmacy benefit management company - we're the guys behind your prescription cards when you go to the pharmacy to pick up your meds). It was an honest mistake and not really a big deal but the person who caught it sent an email to his boss who in turn send one to my boss. I guess it was "one of those days" because although my boss never said a word, I was really upset and was talking about it to the person who is training me on how to send out these email blasts and next thing I know, I'm crying (not boohoo crying but my eyes well up with tears). What's with that???? It was embarrassing to say the least but I could NOT control it. I guess it's a case of trying too hard and feeling very overwhelmed. I don't know. Anyway, I'm just feeling very vulnerable. Plus, there are a couple of people at the office that I just don't care for. Ever have that happen where you meet someone, never have cross words or anything but you just don't care for them for no particular reason. I can think of two right off the bat. One guy who is about the same age as my son became a new father (first time). I know this is an exciting time (the kid is now 6 months old) but all he does is talk about his wonder kid whose name happens to be the same as my son's (Sean). He brings in pix shows everyone around me (except me). I don't know why - never had an argument with him or anything. (I do have to deal with him occasionally businesswise but it's usually on behalf of my bosses' who are the head of the department so he is "nice" to me probably because of "who I work for" which I HATE people like that - maybe that's why I don't care for him). Sorry I'm going off on tangents.

Moving on to other things - the diet is going OK. Not super good like it once was but OK. I've been doing the treadmill 3X a week and walking at work when the weather permits (this week has been yucky!).

Tonight my sister is coming up to stay overnight so we can work on the kids' taxes (geez, they're due in TWO weeks). We will go to my favorite pizza place for dinner and then to Kohl's (we both LOVE that store). Tomorrow we'll work on the taxes (she was an accounting major in college) and hopefully get them squared away. Hubby does ours.

Son is down at his gf's school and daughter is constantly on the phone with her long distance "friend" and I mean "long distance" as he lives in LONDON. They met at a convention in FL the end of Feb and have been heating up the phone lines, text messaging and emailing each other for over a month now. She is going to London on vacation in May with her good friend from college (these plans were made before she met him) and they are going to spend some time together while she's there plus he may be coming stateside in May on business.

That's about it for now. My fingers are tired of typing and I need to get out an expense report for one of my bosses among other things. Today should be a good "catch up" day.

Hope everyone is doing well and has a good weekend. I'm going to try to read some diaries too.

Take care,


P.S. To Cynthia - thanks for your support and encouragement. It's nice to know I can always count on you! Have a super day!

cynthia on 04/01/2005:
Well, well, well. It's about TIME!!!! I'll go read your diary now! Cynthia

cynthia on 04/01/2005:
Ok Moms, I read it and let me be the first to say I CAN identify with your crying incident. You are one who handles her work in a professional manner and YOU don't allow yourself room for error so, when someone else takes a pop shot to blow up something that should have been done differently YOU WANNA let it take you out. No go, Missy. Ain't gonna work. You are obviously VERY good at what you do or else your boss would have taken the opportunity to jump all over you. Sounds to me like the person who reported this needed to make himself feel better. (I always feel kinda sorry for people who act that way) Anyways, hope he felt better after doing that and YOU regroup, and keep going. TAXES ... YIKES ... I TREMBLE WHEN I SAY THE WORD!!!!!

tabbylove74 on 04/01/2005:
You know what...people in the workplace topic makes me go all ranty an ravey. You spend more time with your workmates than you do with your family in a lot of cases....happy employees work harder for their employers...getting on with the people you work with is important cos if you get on ya all happy...SO WHY don't employers let employees have an opinion on who they wanna be working with during the next however many years when a vacancy opens up??? I don't know about you but during the first minute of meeting someone i know if we're gonna be friends or not. OH lets hope the geezer you don't like changes jobs soon....i bet he's after promotion and is trying to tread all over you to get there! It makes my blood boil that does!

Cynthia on 04/06/2005:
April 6, 2005 TM you've been gone for almost 6 days now ... I (we) are beginning to worry ... believe me the longer you stay away, the easier it becomes to stay away ... we don't want to miss you anymore. Cynthia

TheMother - Tuesday Mar 29, 2005
Weight: 232.5

Good morning, All: I have not been missing in action as some might assume. It's been getting incredibly busy at the office (which I love) plus doing stuff at home so the days are just rolling into each other but I have been reading your journals and posting a comment here and there. First and foremost, you'll notice a new HIGHER weight. This is due in part to the purchase of a new WW scale. I was hoping that I would actully weigh less but I never seem to have such luck. When I asked my family to weigh on the new scale, they all weighed within one/two pounds of what they were on the old scale so I can only assume I am up 2.5 legitimate pounds and the remaining 2 is from the change in scales. I'm really upset (maybe disgusted is a better word) because I have not made any progress on weight loss since the holidays and it's nobody's fault except my own. It seems everyone is losing weight but me. My son just hit the 30 lbs. mark and he's been dieting since the new year. My brother who had gastric bypass is down 56 pounds and it's not even three months. Granted he took a more drastic approach. My sister is looking good, too. Friday is April 1st and spring technically has "sprung" - although you would hardly be able to tell with the 4 inches of snow we got last Wednesday. However, with the 2 inches of rain we had Sunday/Monday, most of the snow is alreasdy gone and I'm anxious to get out in the yard and do my thing which to me is a form of exercise. Nonetheless, I'm here and will continue to be as long as it takes to get this problem under control (how long will that be - probably for the rest of my life). Anyway, had a lovely Easter dinner at my sister's. Hope you all had a wonderful holiday with your loved ones (those who celebrate Easter). I did indulge in some goodies but I can honestly say, I didn't go overboard. Yesterday, it was back to business as usual. I did 18 minutes on the treadmill and ate very healthy. Today, so far so good, had one granola bar and an apple.

Not too much else is new. Planning on taking a couple of days off in April and May. I have to run out to pick up lunch for a business meeting my bosses are in so I have to go for now. Hope everyone is doing well and welcome to all of the newbies.

Have a GREAT OP day!


cynthia on 03/29/2005:
Hey Girlie, you KNOW we have missed you but I DO understand. I work in an advertising office and we don't have a pressing deadline happening right now so that is why I am able to journal like I do .... I already know though that when that time kicks in it will be chaotic!

Whatever you do, keep that stick-to-it-no-matter-what attitude. Keep going, you will get there ... you will. I believe in you because you want this really bad .... CONGRATULATIONS on not OVER eating during the Easter season ... that is a big plus! I am excited about your getting in your garden ... can hardly wait to hear about it. xoxo Cynthia

Cynthia on 03/31/2005:
Hey Girlie .... where are you ... I'm pretty sure everything's OK ... we need you to at least take a peek at us ... let us hear a few words from you .... ok ok WE MISS YOU ... !!!! Luv ya, Cynthia

TheMother - Wednesday Mar 23, 2005
Weight: 228.0

Good morning, all: Today is a rather sad day for me. 20 years ago my wonderful dad passed away from a massive heart attack - no warning, no nothing. One minute he was here, the next gone. I simply cannot believe 20 years have passed. In some ways, it seems like it was only 5 years ago. The passage of time and how quickly it goes, makes me more cognizant of the fact that I need to "stop and smell the roses". I'm such a routine-oriented person that I cannot leave something work related undone (laundry, yard work, etc) and go have a good time on the spur of the moment. I need to get my chores done first, then I can enjoy whatever (at that point, I'm usually too tired to fully enjoy it anyway). I admire people that can simply drop what they're doing and take advantage of a chance to do something fun. I have no clue why I'm like this. Maybe my desire to be "good at something". I'm known as "Mrs. Clean" because I can't stand when things are not put away and I'm always picking up lint off the rugs (beats having to take the vacuum out everytime). Anyway, this is something I need to work on in addition to losing weight. Speaking of weight, I had a good OP day yesterday. Managed to do 25 minutes on the treadmill although I was so tired that towards the end I could barely lift my feet. Slept pretty well, in fact I woke up late but still got to work 20 minutes early. The weather is so befitting my mood - dreary, overcast and rain/snow is on the way. Yesterday was so beautiful - like the saying goes "what a difference a day makes".

Nothing else to report. My male boss has arrived so I need to attend to him.

Hope everyone has a good Wednesday.

Take care,


cynthia on 03/23/2005:
Hey there Missy ... sounds like you had a wonderful dad and I KNOW how sobering the anniversary of his passing can be; my dad passed away in November, 1985. Hugs to you and we thank him for giving us your precious spirit. Cynthia

Soon2BThin on 03/23/2005:
I don't know, when we moved here 4 years ago, there was one bedroom for me, the master bedroom, of course, because you know, it's all about me, one for the DH and the third became the "spare" bedroom, since we'd left our 3 grown sons back in Cincinnati and Columbus. You know, nice to have that extra room for "guests". Well, I'm sure #3 son will be out on his own soon. He will, right? Haha! He's gone back there for a visit this week so DH and I are soaking up the peace and quiet. So nice to have that "alone" time. BTW, you're doing great! Take care, don't work too hard and have a great Thursday.

Jennifer68 on 03/24/2005:
The passage of time and how quickly it goes, makes me more cognizant of the fact that I need to "stop and smell the roses".

A sad anniversary indeed, and it sounds like your body and spirit are telling you what you need to do, slow down a bit and take just 15 minutes each day to do something that brings you JOY. It may not sound like much, but it does make all the difference to go to bed each night knowing you have LIVED, and not just lived if you know what I mean. :)You deserve to smell the roses!!!

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