Start: 189 (June 2001)
Low: 152 (Nov 2003)
Current BMI=26.6; My Realistic BMI Goal=22.8
Don't have alot to say about all the negative vibes, except that I don't really think it will help the people you want to get to. I have been round and round with a friend who's going through a very tough time lately and the last thing she wants to hear is the cold hard facts or that she's worthy and deserves much more. I sort of see this desire to kind of light a fire under people here in the same light. Legcramp mentioned that we can't see the intent in the facial expressions, etc. Sure we all can use a ton more nutritional knowledge
The only thing I object to about the latest discussion here is that it got personal on Pezzy34's entry and then she proceeded to respond to a perfectly well meaning response to her. We have to leave it on the table sometimes--she had her say.
We've had these before here except that it was blasting someone who doesn't do what most of us here normally report that we do. It was in regards to the "Ana/Mia" afficionados (people who actually practice anorexia and bulimia as a weight losss regime). They came and went once upon a time.
Most of us overeat from time to time. We eat too many portions when we know better. We skip the vegetables/fruits on a daily basis from time to time. We drink too much beer/wine/liquor when we're with friends or drowning our sorrows alone. We skip parking a ways from the store entrance because we're pressed for time. Then if we haven't worked out earlier, we simply skip our workout when we have the time (for days on end) because just maybe it's easier to feel crappy when we already feel crappy.
This place (DDs), to me, is a tonic when I report these shortcomings. There's always tomorrow, a different plan, a new outlook when the sun comes up in the morning. We may not succeed that day. But we more or less know that if we're not losing pounds or inches and we are/are not serious about it. We need to get a grip. We do these things--we're not proud of them.
I don't care to engage the negativity. Even the two most complete and successful DD'ers on here, IMO, Halley and Rader did not exhibit perfection. I think for some it may be better to fly under the radar when things aren't going well for days, weeks, or even months, BTDT. If I felt I was being singled out as a failure, whether it was to motivate me or not, I may very well have abandoned the entire idea of DDs and disappeared. This place lends itself to support and safety for me. I can't tell someone how to do something, we all have to find our way. And if you haven't noticed, I'm still finding my way.
I love to eat. I love to bake. I have been known to make an entire batch of Oatmeal Date Scones (with real butter) and eat the entire batch over the course of 1 or 2 days. Of course that's just about all I ate on those days. I refuse to eliminate any food from my diet. I have a friend who has been on Atkins for about 6 years. It works for her physically, etc and she's lost and keeps off her weight. I couldn't do Atkins if you paid me. I don't like sugar-free products, they make my gut gurgle--don't know what that means, but I can't eat/drink them. Low/no carb doesn't jive with my exercise regime. I'd probably have a headache and be retching my guts out if I cut out complex carbs. I certainly wouldn't feel like taking a jog. But that's just me. How dare I tell you what you're doing is going to make you fail--I don't know you personally.
I'm here because I want support and I want to give support. Although, I probably haven't been a great example of that lately.
Be nice to people. If you can't be supportive, go somewhere else. (This is from the site policy listing.)
There are people (diarists) who have been important to me in my success here who no longer post, or post sporadically. Let's talk about SAS, who was in the UK--she went away after 11Sep01 because
she was getting nasty emails for her views on things. She was losing weight--she had an interesting diary--I think it's still on here to read. There was a very valuable diary by Canadian who included lots of little animations. She would review movies from time to time in addition to being extremely successful in her weight loss journey. Her diary is nowhere to be found here. Golightly no longer posts and I think more than a couple of us really have been a bit worried about what became of her given her last post. Chrysalis always had an interesting point of
view--I think we lost her to Mama Gena!
Herb, MichelleP (very supportive of me and doing well in her own right), PastaGal & Kyrin & Soccermom were integral to me to "keep on keepin' on" especially until I lost 10 or 15 pounds and proved to myself that I could do it. I went through and read the diary of Jo and discovered someone else who used the NordicTrack. There are other diarists who opened themselves and their lives up on here and last time I checked their diaries are still there--restellastarr, stellastarr, pushedtothewall--all one person's diary. You are a brave one Stella baby!
There are probably a zillion people who went away from here when she stopped posting regularly--same with Golightly. So DietDiaries has been around the horn. Let's nourish it--so it's still here when any one of these comes back or when others come to begin anew with the start of 2004--there'll be a ton I'm sure!