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happy-1 - Wednesday Jun 14, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 243.8

Weight loss!!!! Yes!!! And not just a couple of ounces... Two whole pounds!

AND... I am past the halfway mark. I have officially lost more than I have left to lose.

Getting a late start today... Was up late sorting my mom's boxes into some kind of order. I'm tryng to put her different tools into clear plastic shoe boxes she can see into and I can label with what they are... make her a workstation. The boxes are full of junk mail and old plastic bags and maybe one tool.. No real rhyme or reason to it. While I was doing it, I heard this huge crash in my mom's room... No big deal until I looked up and saw bloody paw prints all over the rug. My mom had shoved my dog off her bed really hard and my dog tore a toenail loose.

Today is about unemployment paperwork, health insurance, and getting things done. Gotta get it together. Nothing I do here is helping. Not all the cooking or cleaning or repairs or anything. 

-- 

Talked to virtual assistant today. Best thing I ever did for myself. We reworked my to do list with the goal of getting me relocated ASAP. This online diary and the online therapist really help. I have a bit of a timeline that I can use to see where I am falling off track. Every time I start pulling my head together, something happens. Last month it was the huge fight I got into with my dad when I was checking him for a stroke and his 3 day rage trip that followed. Last night it was my mom's outburst. Shrink is right. Nothing I want in my life will happen until I am out and have control of my environment.

But I have cleaned up personal files, all my stuff sorted, a to do list, and a lot of help.

Progress as of today: 64.2 lbs lost so far, only 63.8 lbs to go!

Donkey on 06/14/2017:
Congratulations on the half-way mark - and beyond!

I didn't realize you were on disability. My husband wants/need to stop working and I'm so afraid of what will happen without his salary and his insurance...

happy-1 on 06/14/2017:
No I filed for unemployment. I feel weird doing it but expenses with parents are crazy high and the buffer... and hopefully placement assistance or job retraining... will let me think a little more clearly.

happy-1 on 06/14/2017:
Hugs on your husband's situation.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 06/15/2017:
Congrats on your weight loss...obviously all the good things you are doing has paid off!

Congrats on your positive thinking: past the halfway mark! Good to think of things in this type of way - to make you feel good and like you are succeeding and can do it - as you can! and are!

You sound on the right track. Just keep doing the good things and working on the relocation and insurance paperwork, etc., and you will get there.


No_Tomorrow on 06/15/2017:
Congrats! I look forward to that mile marker in my journey.



happy-1 - Tuesday Jun 13, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 243.8

Starting over, again. It always seems like I pull it together for a couple of days then I fall off again. Trying to get up on time. This morning I got up and made breakfast... blueberry pancakes, bacon, eggs. My dad's favorites. Instead of it being nice, it was a **** show... the fire alarm is too sensitive and goes off if the pan temp is raised to crisp the bacon. My dog freaked out and started digging iat my dad's door. I crated her but not before my dad flipped out. He started yelling and then made me stop everything so he could leave and go to McDonalds. My mom has opted to just not get out of bed again. I need to pull it together. This is not better than living alone. 2 eggs sunny side up 3 strips of bacon 1 blueberry pancake

Progress as of today: 64.2 lbs lost so far, only 63.8 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 06/13/2017:
It’s common to fall back to old habits. You have to make a new habit fun or at least as enjoyable as the old habit, somehow, in order to stick with it… Wow you made pancakes! Cool. I don’t ever make real pancakes – only ones that really include more egg / protein powders so that the nutrition includes more protein than the former original types of like Aunt Jemima or Bisquik varieties!! How do you make yours!?

Did you end up going to mcdonalds!? After all that hard work!? oh…I see…he went, not you…

Living alone is always more private.

happy-1 on 06/13/2017:
I used some sweet potatoes i mashed and stuck in the oven on low to dehydrate a little and then blended them up with oatmeal and an egg. With baking soda and baking powder the texture is about right.

happy-1 on 06/13/2017:
I just get a bag of them, put them in the slow cooker on low, then peel them when the skins are loose then stick them in the oven to roast and use them all month. I leave about half mashed in the bottom and dehydrate them on low. They make a great base for pancakes and bread

happy-1 on 06/13/2017:
I ended up calling a total womanizer I met camping to get some sexy flirt energy going so I could power through the rest of the day... and tackle my stuff. I was like "you were in the military, probably free right now because you are retired, and black so a pep talk from you will sound like it came from Morgan Freeman. Go!"



happy-1 - Saturday May 27, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 245.6

Pitched my idea for a different way to do a coding bootcamp to a guy in my area who has been having a rough time getting his off the ground. He really liked it and I meet with him and his key instructor next wed to go over details.

This helps smooth over the pain of losing S as my friend. Augh. Men will never admit they get scared. They just say they are busy and push you away. Of course it doesn't help that I am a total dork, not Scheherazade.

Did a good job of staying on track today. Even made my dad a low carb casserole with parmesan, garlic and cream cheese sauce, chicken, broccoli, and spaghetti squash. In the middle of the night. Without complaining. Much.

Also... cracked open the insurance docs today. Cleaning up my cluttered meltdown mess in the living room from my neck injury. I couldn't pick anything up from the floor so it was a wreck.

Fingers are still numb.

Progress as of today: 62.4 lbs lost so far, only 65.6 lbs to go!

Donkey on 05/27/2017:
Sounds good to me - keep moving forward!


Horn_of_plenty on 05/30/2017:
I agree that men will probably NOT admit they are scared if they don't have to. I have one male friend (not even a friend anymore) in my life (not really in my life anymore) that was the same way. he'd prefer to do ANYTHING BUT ADMIT any fears. This is why we couldn't date. The only reason why.

Continue to feel better and that's a nice job being creative and cooking that casserole!



happy-1 - Friday May 26, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 245.6

S says he just spaced and was like "I dunno, laundry? Clean?" not blowing me off. Benefit of the doubt. Not super eager to head down there again... but if he comes up with something good and I have the time... Maybe. I just feel like after two marriages and however many girlfriends, he's jaded and isn't excited about the miracle of having someone "like you like you". So it killed my buzz.

Dad boggles my mind.. I tried to meal prep last night for 3 people and a dog so I did the meat last night. Fed both my parents full meals and then let everything cool so I could put it in the fridge. Left it alone for 10 minutes while I set up the bathroom so my dad could shower... Came back out and discovered he had eaten it all but like 2 servings. I was astonished and horrified. 1) That much, that fast, without getting sick? Where did he put it? 2) That much salt, fat and calories... Did I just poison him? Then this morning he left the door open and my dog got out. I ran around the yard in my pajamas chasing her down for all the neighbors to see.  She thinks it is a fun game. @#$%&#.

Pulling my **** together today and ignore about a billion dishes in the kitchen... Which is hard because my ADHD brain says... go do them or I won't do what you want me to do!!!!! Trying to review insurance quotes. It's scattered across a million emails. UGH! WHY DO THEY MAKE THINGS HARDER????

Progress as of today: 62.4 lbs lost so far, only 65.6 lbs to go!


happy-1 - Thursday May 25, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 245.6

Another .2 down, a reward for getting my **** together yesterday, doing the thing I needed to do, eating right and going to bed at 11 instead of staying up till 3 or 4. Got into it with Scott because he's cancelled or declined all further plans, but keeps texting multiple times a day. Which is just frustrating. It's like dangling carne asada in front of me and then yanking it away. Why does he keep canceling/declining? He has to clean. He's got a nice case of ADHD/PTSD/OCD... which means that he is basically cleaning his whole apartment with a toothbrush until he feels in control again. Essentially it was too good, we had too much fun, and he's freaking out and looking for the catch... There's some fatal flaw that will lead to terrible pain and misery a few years down the road, so he has to bunker down in his fortress of solitude. It's heartbreaking because it was just so nice to get a peek at what was possible and because my good friend has a battle he can't really manage and I can't do anything to help with because now I'm the source of the problem and just additional pressure. I wish I hadn't deleted our years and years of texts... I just felt so sad last night and I didn't want to reread the texts last night and keep sending more texts today. Just breathe and move on and be open if he ever gets back in contact. Which he probably won't.

I think the US should just go for some kind of marriage lottery system... You turn 21, and you can choose to enroll in it. We'd divvy up the segments for matching based on religion, personal finance philosophy, recreational hobbies, politics, desire for kids, lifestyle preference, and a physical fitness test. Then you get married, with an optional no fault annulment at 6 months. You wait a year, then go into the same matching process with other people who also didn't stick with their partner from the first round. If that doesn't work out, you go into a third round a year later. If none of the rounds worked out, then you move on to open dating with everyone else who couldn't find happiness. If you stay past 6 months with anyone in the first 2 rounds you bypass additional matching and are put into the open dating pool. For kickoff we just separate out the people who want to participate by age group and number of marriages. Also, I think that there should be a central database of marriage records in the US so nobody can pretend to be single but actually be in a hidden marriage.

Anyway, that is my soul dump for the day. The thing that is eating me so that I don't end up eating it. I will just listen to my new audiobook "Its just a ****ing date" whenever the urge to text him comes up.

Plan for the day: - Do my hair and makeup - Hit REI for a grill pan and Trader Joes for food - Work with virtual assistant on various org tasks (amazing improvement in my life) - Try to eat healthy / low carb / paleo

The One Thing I Must Do Before Bed: Review entire insurance quote and decide whether to move forward or not.

Progress as of today: 62.4 lbs lost so far, only 65.6 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 05/25/2017:
Update: 2 seconds after I posted this, he sent me a good morning emoji flirt. Which is just more aggravating.

happy-1 on 05/25/2017:
I told him I was busy with back to back calls and free after 5. Not feeling like losing time to texting today.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 05/25/2017:
Men are so frustrating, indeed!

I think your idea for lottery is fantastic, Happy...

Lately i also have a plan that includes wearing makeup...with my newly purchased makeup brush. :-D



happy-1 - Wednesday May 24, 2017
(Paleo + beans + bootcamp + fitbit)
Weight: 245.8

Brain back online today... A little creaky. Accidentally stayed up till 3 am. My dad is up all night ad so I don't realize it is bedtime. Ugh. I swear I have zero internal clock... nothing turns on "sleepy".

Reupped at my coworking space last night. Today was first day. Goal was to just get the EDD paperwork (3 of them) completed. No small task for an ADHDer. 

I mostly just dragged all my "todo" clutter into the couch area and just kind of organized till all the mental clutter dissipated. Then I went and walked over to the Japanese market, bought cheap stuff for organizing (YES I do need new index cards, a folder for EDD paperwork, and a bunch of cheap bags... and a bunch of weird deli pickup dishes for meals and a ton of shiritaki noodles... Right???). Then I watched ADHD videos online and started this post...

... Then I actually completed ONE LETTER that wanted me to register for Cal Jobs... and I managed to do it BEFORE THE DEADLINE!!!! Yay me! ... Then I read them ALL!!! AND MADE A LIST! AND THE DEADLINE HASN'T PASSED!!!!!!

Even found the certificate program a friend is taking in Cal Jobs. The EDD might pay for it for him.

And I more or less stayed on track with nutrition.

Yay.

Most useful video of the day: How to cope when everything is awful and you're not ok

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKigm4NP7ko

Progress as of today: 62.2 lbs lost so far, only 65.8 lbs to go!


happy-1 - Tuesday May 23, 2017
(Paleo + beans diet and a 3x a week bootcamp)
Weight: 245.8

Holy s**t! I lost .4 lbs. Not a lot but the plateau is broken!!!!!

Need to kick my own butt today and get stuff done.

---- So far I have vacuumed out my car and organized food in the fridge. I still need to finish packing my tent and labeling it up for future trips... I bought a ginormous barn of a tent for 149 at Big 5... if the doors were bigger I could park a car in it! I would never normally buy a tent there but I wanted something that my dad could stand up and walk around in for the earthquake box. It is a decent enough tent but hard to put together and it needs some labels and color coded tape to make it easier to put up. It is also 7'5" tall so the guy lines are super long... I need to put the sparkly tape on it so it can be seen in the dark. Would be better with glow in the dark tape but I don't have any... hmm... not a bad item for the car kit either.

Have been so down the last couple of weeks. Glad to be snapped back to reality.

Progress as of today: 62.2 lbs lost so far, only 65.8 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 05/24/2017:
What kind of vacuum do you use for your car? I always have crumbs in my car from eating - I vacuum it every so often (i should do it today!) at the gas station with their vacuums. Is this what you do also? Or do you use your personal vacuum?

Welcome back to the Happy side of things....good to see you back. I like your ideas for making your tent visible in the dark! cool stuff. Talk more soon & congrats on your loss. I wish for you to get a lot done today!!


Donkey on 05/24/2017:
Glad to hear the plateau is broken -- that can be so discouraging to feel stuck.

happy-1 on 05/24/2017:
Yeah, I get a little stuck sometimes in a lot of areas all at once, then one thing clicks back into place and the rest follows... then I look back and see that I have lost a week... or this time 2... But that plateau break kicked the rest of my brain back online to move forward.



happy-1 - Wednesday May 17, 2017
(Paleo + beans diet and a 3x a week bootcamp)
Weight: 246.2

Ever get into a huge fight with your family, take off for a friend's house, get a bit tipsy, and then find out there is huge chemistry along the lines of "holy fing **** you're my new heroin dealer, how have I friend-zoned you all these years when we could have been doing THAT and then watched the same stupid shows we both like?" and it's just as good if not better the next day sober?

Yeah. Headed back on Monday night for another round of OMFG!!! Heh heh South Park, pizza, OMFG!!! Snore. OMFG!!!!!!!!! Was that legal? What do you want to do? I don't know, what do you want to do? Let's ride bikes. Ok.

Weirdly despite everything we ate, I am down to my plateau weight of 246.2 that is my lowest weight achieved in my weight loss effort.

Yay!!!!!!!

Progress as of today: 61.8 lbs lost so far, only 66.2 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 05/18/2017:
Hiya Happy Lady!

I think maybe if you weren’t in a fight with your folks that that guy wouldn’t have been AS GOOD as he was yesterday??? But I gotta say – that first paragraph sounds really, really delicious to me right now…as I would LIKE RIGHT NOW some loving LOL! We are women! God made us this way…to enjoy loving…Oh it’s just as good sober….that is good then! I thought you meant at first you only liked it while under the influence…I am so glad it’s just as good the next day sober ;-)

OMG…stop teasing me with all this loving you are getting while I suffer !!! JAJAJA HAHAHA!!! LOL.

Maybe it was all the “loving” burning all those cals that brought you down to your lowest weight ! LOL. Happy!



happy-1 - Sunday May 14, 2017
(Paleo + beans diet and a 3x a week bootcamp)
Weight: 246.2

Starting over again. Happy mother's day to all the moms!

 

Anyone here a fitbit-wearer? Or on ActiveOS? 

Progress as of today: 61.8 lbs lost so far, only 66.2 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 05/14/2017:
Some of my coworkers use the fitbit and other folks i know. but i do not bc firstly, i'd never get in the steps. I am just getting into being more active and that's why i don't want a device telling me i should do more, when i'm already at my limit. LOL.

I'll spend the day in NYC with my mom and dad and sister. should be a nice mother's day for us! enjoy your day, Happy!

Glad to see you here.

happy-1 on 05/14/2017:
Back again like a boomerang. I should have waited till September for LVL, a new one that will track your hydration and tell you when you have to drink water or have drunk too much.


Horn_of_plenty on 05/15/2017:
wow that seems really cool....! LVL.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 05/16/2017:
Lvl is an app?

happy-1 on 05/16/2017:
No it's a new wearable like the Fitbit but it also detects your hydration levels and scans your skin more deeply than the fitbit or apple watch for better accuracy


Donkey on 05/17/2017:
I had a nice Mother's Day - thank you :-)

I swear by my Fitbit. It's the main thing that got me motivated to get more active. Now they have social groups that I belong to: one for strength training, one for maintaining, and one for "getting toned" or something like that. The strength training group is the most inspirational for me. I'm so tempted to join the running group, but I'm not a runner.



happy-1 - Thursday Apr 13, 2017
(Paleo + beans diet and a 3x a week bootcamp)
Weight: 246.2

Took 10 min to make/eat breakfast this morning and was an hour late to work. But it was yum.

- Kale, chicken sausage, potatoes, 2 eggs

- 1 packet of trail mix

Didn't eat all day b/c I took adhd meds too close together

- Kale salad from TJ, with lentils

Later I will have:

- Kale, homemade turkey chili, 1/3 of a sweet potato packet from TJ, a little cheese

- A vanilla protein shake

- Greek yogurt with a little paleo granola.

A couple of people like a product idea I had and want to work on it. I am pretty stoked. It is really validating. I feel like a real authentic product manager now... I am amazed and joyful and I feel powerful.

My class was worth it. 

Yay.

Progress as of today: 61.8 lbs lost so far, only 66.2 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 04/14/2017:
Hopefully nobody noticed your lateness?

Breakfast sounds nice and tasty! Nice addition of the veggie, kale, into it! yum! was it cooked / sauteed kale!? how tasty!

1 packet trail mix = good job, Happy Lady! It's good to have a tasty portion of mix! YUM! I love eating my granola bars, pure nice rush of sugar, in the afternoon after work and before gym or before i run errands after work. Will prob have one today :-D

So explain to me these sweet potato packets from TJ's...i want to hear more as I am intrigued!

oh, so it IS turkey chilli! yum! girl you are doing GREAT!

I am so glad the class you took has benefited your resourcefulness at work! WAy to go! And the rest of it is you - be proud of you. Nice to feel good about your work! Congrats to you!


Donkey on 04/14/2017:
It's nice that you have that kind of job where you can be late and you don't have to hear about it. There would be some serious grumbling if I did that...I should try it sometime, just to see what would happen...

I'm guessing that a sweet potato packet from TJ is frozen sweet potatoes that you can microwave? My mom used those when she was losing weight and she liked them so much that they are a regular staple in her menus now! YUM!



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