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Donkey - Tuesday Nov 16, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 133.5

Good morning!  You were right - yesterday was fine. Brutally busy, but fine as far as file management.  There were a couple of little landminds that I found - things that were mishandled or skipped over.  One I fixed, but the other one I really struggled with.  Do I fix it properly?  Or do I let it go and let someone else find New Gal's mistake?  In the end, I decided to fix it proplerly.  It was the right decision.  I realized that New Gal had been working on my emails and files.  I was NOT happy about that, because she hasn't been properly trained -- so I realize she was kind of learning on the fly, which is unfortunate for both myself & my files, but also for her.  That can't be a comfortable feeling.  But when we're short-staffed and very busy, that's what has to happen, and I realize that.  And frankly, only 2 mistakes/omissions --- that ain't bad.

Yoga last night was OK.  The instructor always asks me what I want to work on, so I told her "full body stretch", but it seems as though she came prepared with an upper body routine.  And that's great, except then why did you ask?  Also, the last move we did (cat pulling tail - I kid you not), really stressed out my back.  I was afraid that I might have lingering pain this morning, but all was well.  However, I had to do some counter-moves (stretches) on my own, after class, to help, and they did.

Daughter and I are fighting something.  She had a sore throat yesterday.  My ears have been bothering me since Thursday, and last night, I realized I was starting to get a cold sore, so I put some Abreva on that, to mitigate an outbreak.  The area feels much better today, so I think I may have caught it in time. 

Despite this, I pushed myself a little bit this morning with upper body weights.  My triceps are letting me know.  I ran out of time to finish, so I will do so tonight, hopefully.  If I feel progressively sick, though, then I won't, and I will rest instead.   

Progress as of today: 53 lbs lost so far, only -1.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/16/2021:
My 3 cats said to keep your classes far far away! But the alpha cat is proactive, so he said: we do kick ladies in butt pose!

Glad work went ok. You did all the right things

coffee&calories on 11/16/2021:
Hopefully you aren't getting a cold, it's so miserable! My kids all had a short-lived cough/cold couple weeks ago. I started to get it and fought it off pretty fast! Hope you're having a good day :)

bearcountrygg on 11/16/2021:
Lucky you don't do yoga with Jackys cats!!!! I hear one kicks butt!!! I know there is such a thing as yoga with goats!!! They jump on your back...LOL...Maybe Jacky could rent hers out!!

horn_of_plenty on 11/16/2021:
Maybe tell new girl not to handle your files if it's only a couple days.??? but then again, seems she didn't leave too many mistakes. maybe she will improve for next time.

i agree, seems the yoga instructor always has her own alternative plan.

i hope you feel better. rest is best for it.

Brett on 11/16/2021:
Yoga is good. My ex was into it.

Donkey - Monday Nov 15, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 133.5

Good morning!  I woke up early on my own this morning.  I probably did not go to be as early as I could have and should have last night, but it's good when I can wake up early and on my own. 

I got everything done yesterday that I wanted to except for watering my plants, which I will do this morning, before work.

I was feeling confident about the day earlier on, but now I'm starting to feel doubts creeping up about returning to work.  I'm not sure why.  Whatever happened while I was out, I'll be able to handle.  I *know* this, but I guess I'm not really *feeling* it.

I did OK with eating last night.  The title company cookies are gone, as I had the last one last night. It was a good run, but now it's time to buckle down and get to work.

Only slightly sore from the dumbbell class yesterday. In fact, I'm not even sure it's from the class.  This might just be old-lady aches. 

Progress as of today: 53 lbs lost so far, only -1.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 11/15/2021:
I guess the only people that don't dread the monday workday are the ones that work weekends. You will love retirement when the time comes....you will truly wonder how you did it all those years....you will find plenty to keep busy with and you might just start some new interests.....I promise...you will love it once the first shock is over. My 54 year old sons says his hands don t work until he has been out of bed for an hour.....at our house nothing works until we have been out of bed for awhile...and some things just don't even cooperate then....Tylenol is our friend.

Jacky82020 on 11/15/2021:
You’ll do fine tomorrow. No one likes returning to work except maybe those people who hate their husbands/wife/kids/fam etc.

Matt is often sore after working out & usually takes ibuprofen before running/cardio. Not so much for me. I don’t push myself like he does.

horn_of_plenty on 11/16/2021:
It is ok to feel some trepidation going back to work after some time off. it's normal for folks. i know you will be fine, like the others say! :)

Donkey - Sunday Nov 14, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 133.5

A later entry for me today because guess what I did today at the gym?  I signed up for the dumbbell class again from the Donkey Disaster #3 chapter!  I was in the mood for something different and challenging.  This week's class was taught by the regular instructor, not the substitute that I had the first time.  The substitute was a really bubbly personality, which I liked, but I also enjoyed Sheri's personality, which was fun but more down to earth. 

I really enjoyed the class this time!  I think that's because I knew what to expect.  Also, wearing the mask didn't seem so difficult this time - I was the only one to wear one throughout the class.  That's OK, I'm determined to be known as "That Lady Who Wears a Mask All the Time".  I think there were a few less people in the class this time, but it was still a good number.  The lady with glasses in the corner is a regular, as is the thin, athletic blonde lady in front. I think Donkey might become a regular at this class too, as long as she is craving something new in the mix.

As a bonus, because I went to the gym in the morning, I have the rest of the afternoon to enjoy.  I'm waiting for Husband to come back from his pick-up at Walmart.  Then I plan to take a shower, do a load of laundry, and wash some more stairs.  I have 9 stairs left to go.  My goal is at least 3.  I want to read, relax, nap, watch some football (maybe).  Just relax for the remainder of the day.

Progress as of today: 53 lbs lost so far, only -1.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 11/14/2021:
Football going on here today too. You seem to really enjoy the classes.....That's a good sign!!!

Donkey on 11/14/2021:
I am generally NOT a fitness class person. Zumba, Jazzercise - no thank you. But the weights classes are different. If the barbell class was offered on weekends, I'd definitely go. Heck, I'll go so far to say that if it were offered in the evenings during the week, I would make a serious effort to attend regularly.

IDK, it's kind of nice to be around other people, even if they aren't wearing masks, even if we don't say one word to one another. And I love that there are older folks, a couple of gents, overweight folks, younger athletic types, moms, etc. I actually kind of like it :-D

Jacky82020 on 11/14/2021:
I’m always happier at home with all my pets: cats, salamanders, dogs, fish. Total home gym person all the way! We hated the gyms when we were in college. All the sweating & grunting & farting. At home we have TV and music and only little doggie farts.

Donkey on 11/15/2021:
LOL - I dunno, sometimes I like to feed off of other people's energies. I like to see what other people are doing. I'm a people-watcher.

I love my little home gym (if you can call it that), but for myself, I need to stretch myself, physically and mentally, and get out of my comfort zone from time to time.

horn_of_plenty on 11/14/2021:
Lol to Jacky !

Glad you enjoyed your class sounds like it’s a great class for you! Even better that you now have a lot of time to enjoy additional activities today !

Same as you, by waking up earlier, I got a lot done today and didn’t even feel rushed. :-)

Donkey on 11/15/2021:
It's funny because it's still the same amount of time, but it feels like I have more of it if I get the gym time out of the way earlier.

I was extremely lucky yesterday because I also got to see my Daughter for a little bit before she left for work. That was nice.

Donkey - Saturday Nov 13, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 133.5

Good morning!  A slow start this morning. I slept in until almost 6:30am, even though I went to bed around 9:30pm.  I felt that I just needed it.

I was pleased & relieved to see that the number on the scale was heading back down.  I needed a sign that I hadn't let things get out of control.  As I mentioned to Coffee, I'm really looking for a weight range of 127-133.  Oh my, seeing that written down, really looking at it, seems a bit daunting.  That is losing 3-6 pounds.  Not easy to do as we head into the holidays and the darker, colder months.  It definitely has its challenges, but like Horn, I love a challenge, and I think I'm up for it. 

I have 2 loads of laundry in process.  I am planning to go to the gym today.  If I read today & tonight, I should be able to finish my 1st library book tomorrow.  I would really like to do this.  I should shampoo a few of the stairs in the house soon.  It's a bit taxing on the shoulders, but it's actually a relaxing, satisfying thing to do.  Something about watching the dirty water being sucked out of the carpet has a meditative feeling to it, lol.

Other than that, not too much planned for today.  I need to get my day started.  


I didn't mention this earlier but I have been struggling with sadness and anxiety today.  A LOT. 

This morning, it was anxiety starting to creep up, which I am sure that was related to knowing that my time off is coming to an end.  I started feeling paralyzed and couldn't get my day started because doing so would bring Monday all the more closer.  (A warped perception because Monday will be here, when it's here, whether I started my day or not!)

Went to the gym, and that helped a lot with dissapating the anxiety.  I haven't mentioned it here, but it continues to bother me about that whole personal trainer fiasco.  Wow, I never would have signed up for a "free session" if I knew how it was going to turn out as it did, and linger on and on and on....

It really bothers me to see him - I'm not sure why exactly, I mean, I did what I was supposed to do - and the problem is that he's at the gym pretty much all morning and early afternoon on Saturdays.  Bleah. 

So yes, he was there this afternoon, and he was training this woman who I have seen him train with before (before I trained with him).  Initially, a while back, when I saw these 2, I thought, "Wow, that trainer is tough; he's really working that lady hard!  I want that."  But today, when I saw them, I thought, "Wow, she looks so miserable working out.  At least I'm smiling, even if it's behind this mask."  LOL!

I don't feel so bothered any more.  And I don't feel so anxious any more either.  But I do feel waves of sadness.  Maybe it's delayed hormones from TOM?  Usually that happens right before TOM starts, not as it comes to an end.  I'll ride it out because if it IS hormones, it will pass.  And if it ISN'T hormones, it will still pass.  

I'm looking forward to cleaning the stairs - with a feeling of accomplishment - and then relaxing with reading my book, maybe watching a little fun TV.  

Progress as of today: 53 lbs lost so far, only -1.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 11/13/2021:
I also think a weight range makes a lot of sense... and today is laundry day here too.

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
I think a 6 pound range - with 3 pounds either direction - is OK. Not too narrow, but also not too generous. At my height, there is a significant difference between 145 and 135. I know this because my pants tell me so. (oof!)

Horn_of_plenty on 11/14/2021:
I also think of my weight as having a range. i do not weigh often; just when i feel it's either lower or higher. I do not have much reason to think it is lately, as my calories/diet hasn't changed much overall. i thnk i also don't weigh much bc i'm deep into maintenance...you are doing great, and i'm SO GLAD there's no talk of you giving up. no reason to, you can do this and you DO a great job with challenges. like when you lose all the weight in like 2 months...just recently i'm talking about. you've got this. you are a very strong person (character!), trust me - i know!

it's ok to feel the sadness and anxiety re going back to work. i CAN relate. when i was teaching, my FIRST year, after Christmas break, a week off teaching (for the first time), i couldn't do anything that Sunday at the end of the week off before giong back to work Monday. i couldn't think at all or do any work. I remember i think i had planned to, but couldn't..same kinda scenario as yours. i know what it's like good and well. try to breathe thru this - you said it best - no matter what, however you use today, you will be at work Monday. That kina of thinking that you implemented by writing that is something that helps me LOTS now.

Also, it could be your body just wanting to relax rather than do nothing due to anxiety. that is what i did yesterday, it actually stretched my day, by relaxing and then finally wanting to be productive cooking. like you say, it's a delicate balance..

of course it would bother you to see the trainer (you were supposed to have one more session with him?) if that's the case, don't feel bad about speaking up and planning it - unless you want to just let it go?

also, people like me and you don't really need trainers at the gym (in my opinion) if we are looking to maintain muscle/build but just for ourselves...if we know the basics, that's enough. we can do research and look up on youtube and online new videos and info on new exercises to expand our repertoire. i had around a year of personal training when i began (i think i was 23yo, working as a teacher in my first big paying gig and it gave me a great understanding of the basics. very helpful. if oyu do not have the basics, you could always do a couple months with a trainer...maybe this one is the wrong one. however, it's up to you. once you have the basics, that'll all you need...and then you can go to the gym and do your exercises when YOU want to and not work into a trainer's schedule. i'm glad you are smiling underneath your mask while working out!

it's def an accomplishment to clean the stairs. i'm sure they stay that way for awhile, but then again you have cats....so who knows! :)

i'll be doing my workouts this AM, before the day starts with family and errands!

Donkey on 11/14/2021:
I really want to do more with the weight training. I'm not sure how to formulate that into a goal, other than to continue to do it regularly.

I want to do more with yoga, but I don't. I would much rather practice it at a studio dedicated to yoga, rather than the gym, but that costs money and takes time.

To see the results I want, though, I probably need to focus mostly on nutrition, more than anything else. This is boring, though. LOL. It's boring because it's inaction and not action.

Donkey on 11/14/2021:
Saturday afternoon I got myself into a better mindset about going back to work, and I feel that I am ready to do so tomorrow.

The personal trainer thing feels uncomfortable because it feels unfinished. It IS finished though. I know I would not want to work with him, and like you mentioned above, at this time, I don't really NEED TO work with him or any other trainer, at this time.

Once I figure out what I want to do next, THEN I will be able to make a better decision for myself. Thank you for saying what you said about this. It has helped me reset my perspective properly.

Donkey - Friday Nov 12, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

Not much soreness - at all - this morning, from yesterday's barbell class.  Enjoyed yoga immensely last night.  The teacher asked me what I wanted to work on, and I said neck and shoulders, and she counter-offered with 2 new hip exercises she wanted to show me.  So I said, Sure! (because I can always use a good stretch in my hips), and so the session turned out to be more of a full-body stretch, which was really what I needed, after all!

I confess that last night, after dinner, I had a title company cookie.  Those things have to go.  The 2 or 3 that are left are not the better flavors.  Plus, tomorrow is weigh-in, so I think I can hold off eating one today/tonight.  After I finished the cookie, I immediately thought I had "blown it", but then I realized, it was just one cookie, and I didn't have to "blow it" by finishing up the cookies or eating anything else.   So I was done eating for the day, satisfied, and still on track (for the most part).  200 additional calories is a lot better than 600-800 additional calories.

After the gym yesterday morning, the rest of the day was kind of relaxing and quiet. Read my book, took a short nap, watched CSI with my Husband (now "our show"), rode my bike a little, had yoga.

In about 15 mintues I will be sitting in on the VA Move class today, with Husband.  This will probably be the only class I can attend with him, as an observer.  We're learning about tracking food today.  He has stalled on his weight loss for about a week, maybe 2.  This is because he's been eating more.  The reasons why he's been eating more are varied and complicated.  I get it.  It's hard.  All of it is hard.  Some days we win, some days we lose.  And some days, it's a draw.

I do hope to get to the gym today, but we also want to go to the range to shoot.  (This is going to be our "date" thing to do.)  I also hope to read more of my (1st) library book.  Oh, and I have a new episode of Great British Baking Show to watch on TV tonight.  Yay! (lol)

I don't know what the Boss is talking about.  I could get used to this retirement thing.

Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/12/2021:
Often I like that bit of soreness from working out. But getting too much in my upper back from changing water in the big tank.

Sounds like a terrific yoga class! Yay!

Don’t frets over one lousy cookie! I’ve been downing a big slice of chocolate mousse cake almost every night. Take Alli to block some of the fat. Too bad it’s only 25%!

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
These cookies are fancy. They are 170-200 calories each! I just don't want you to think I was overreacting. These cookies, eaten in bulk, can do a lot of damage!

On the other hand, because they are "gourmet" (eye-roll), one would be enough to be satisfying for a sweet-tooth. I'm very glad I was able to stop and catch myself.

coffee&calories on 11/12/2021:
I totally get the cookie thing! That is so me. You did the right thing. Great job!

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
Thank you! I'm glad I was able to catch myself, and see the situation clearly.

horn_of_plenty on 11/12/2021:
re below therapist, not all are created equal. i have gotten REALLY lucky ...got a few good ones recnetly. just had to leave them bc they moved on....

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
Oh that's for sure. Sometimes, I just wasn't in the right place for the therapy that was being offered, too, so there's that.

I never found the medications to be helpful, for me, other than the anti-anxiety drugs knocking me out. I'm not sure that's really a solution though.

The rest of them -- not really very helpful at all.

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
Oh that's for sure. Sometimes, I just wasn't in the right place for the therapy that was being offered, too, so there's that.

I never found the medications to be helpful, for me, other than the anti-anxiety drugs knocking me out. I'm not sure that's really a solution though.

The rest of them -- not really very helpful at all.

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
Sorry -- can't remove the double-post :-(

bearcountrygg on 11/12/2021:
The new ww program is now giving Muscle milk 2 pts and the diet Muscle milk 1.......so forget what I said about 3...LOL

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
I noticed this in your entry! I was wondering what had changed, LOL. Thank you for following up with me. You have probably figured out that I do rely on these protein shakes more than just the once in a while thing to drink.

horn_of_plenty on 11/13/2021:
Thank you for lending a helpful ear ;)

I’m glad you didn’t type a new entry today so now I can get caught up on your Friday one :)

Yoga sounds to be amazing ! I have this new monthly nurse therapist that I speak to on the phone 1-2x month. She’s been bc the other is on maternity leave and will prob stay with a reduced schedule. She recommend I do yoga - haha. I told her I’m good for now as I already have a routine that I like but that I have thought about yoga in the future as my body changes and heavy weights may be less suitable for me then :) after the first phone call, she seems to be a decent nurse / therapist. Due to my former situation, I have an opportunity eith my insurance to continue with this healthcare option as long as I need, for free, no copay. So I just continue as I live alone and do not chat too much so I figure an extra, non friend or family ear is good to have ;)

EXCELLENT job keeping it to one cookie ! Yes !!!! This is how to change a habit ! By changing your thinking. This is truly one of the hardest things I had to do with my own eating and habits. It helps to eat slowly, have liquids available after eating, and I sometimes (actually many times) hold my guinea pigs and cuddle which prevents me from getting up as fast for more….

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
I would encourage you, that if you have the time, to try very short yoga sessions on YouTube. The stretch can help you in an athletic way. I'm talking 10 minutes max. My one regret is that I didn't start yoga sooner, especially when I was struggling more in life.

Anyway, consider remaining open to the idea, if for no other reason than a really nice, structured stretch after working out.

**It's also a great stretch after sitting at a desk all day. 10 minutes is all it would take.

horn_of_plenty on 11/13/2021:
Like you, I find it fairly easy to get used to the retirement life and filling my days with other tasks beyond work. My owner of company doesn’t seem to understand either how I could take days off to “do nothing” as that’s what he I do. He has forgotten or never has experienced long commutes, such an early schedule, feeling rushed, not being able to poop on workdays !, and the things I deal with - also the need to look for another line of work that is more beneficial in my perspective, the need to partake in some courses outside of work to benefit me, the need to attend meetings outside of work….the list goes on. All I know is there are bosses that try to understand and those that could never even have the capacity to! I think I know where ours stand. They will not understand. You and the others were right telling me not to say anything bc as adults, silence is golden and a lot can be said by remaining composed and silent. Especially if I am finally able to walk away from this job in the future (I’m thinking 2-4 years, but seriously hoping 3 years…thru go fast….) but back to you, and relating, our time is valuable and it’s ok to use it as you prefer to. Nobody else has to support you but you…

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
I LOVE this! Nobody else has to support me but me. And you're 100% right: I won't be able to change some people's minds about retirement or taking time off. Just not gonna happen.

It hit me this morning, as now I'm no longer "on vacation" and am in the "regular weekend", that right about now, my Boss would be recharged & ready to go back to the office on Monday. Not me! I'm feeling a twinge of anxiety about having to go back to face the workload. Yes, I feel relaxed and recharged, but I'm not actually wanting to go back to the job. I'm not even really missing my co-workers much.

It has always amazed me how people just accept the longer commutes. When the kids were little, I was friends with a woman whose husband had a 2-hour commute one-way to work every day. EVERY DAY. Dude, move closer to work! Why would you want to do that? Your commute is a part-time 20-hour 2nd job in itself!

Donkey on 11/13/2021:
Yeah, gotta keep the mouth shut at work. I wish I could do that more. I've gotten better at it, but I have a ways to go.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/13/2021:
I'm so glad my commute is much shorter in the mornings. I feel for those people that are traveling 2 hours in the morning. without any traffic at all, mine could be 30min. usually, it's 45 which is still considered very good!!!

i also never understand people that have those 2hr each way drives without much traffic, on the off hours, ugh!

Donkey - Thursday Nov 11, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

Happy Veterans Day - THANK YOU all those who have served.  My grandpa was in WW II (Navy, Pacific action), My step-father was in the Marines, pre-Vietnam War before it became an official action.  My Husband was a Marine (Beruit).  My Brother was Air Force (not sure but he spent a lot of time in Saudi Arabia).  Someday, my Son will be a Veteran (Air Force).

Thank you for serving our country!  (And a big thank you to Candian and British veterans as well!)

I have today off from work - yay! - and I debated whether or not I would go to the barbell class at the gym.  TOM is here, so I've been feeling some fatigue from that, but I knew that if I didn't seize this opportunity to take the class, I would regret it.  I woke up early, on my own, felt OK, so I decided to reserve a spot and attend the class.

It was kind of neat going to the gym during the week in the morning - definitely not my usual routine!  I *AM* really glad that I took the class.  I was able to keep up for the most part, except when we put the barbell aside and worked on core muscles.  Twisting sit-ups just aren't my thing. I would take the class again, if it were offered at a time that I could attend.  

One thing I learned is that if you find a certain exercise has become easy, if you do that same exercise much slower, it becomes more difficult.  Oh yes... I'll let you know if my arms confirm this tomorrow!

So... Coffee had touched on this, and I would like to write about it for my own journey, as I am in a similar spot.  I thought I was doing a good job with estimating portions and "healthy choices", but I realized that this is not happening.  I am eating too much for what I want to accomplish, which is to be at a "fighting weight" for my doctor's appointment on 12/13.  Overall, I'd like to at least be a little under goal (135) to have some breathing room.  And neither of those things will happen if I stay this course.

I'm not sure what I want to do that will work for me at this time.  Do I want to start tracking again?  Not really.  Can I just practice restraint?  Maybe.  <<<The correct answer is a confident "of course I can!" but right now, I'm not feeling very confident.  That's probably because my leg muscles are feeling a little shaky from the barbell class this morning, LOL!

Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 11/11/2021:
How nice that you were able to attend a class that you usually wouldn't have.... You have already done a good job of losing......can you think of a time when it came off the easiest?

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
I think all of my weight loss has involved some degree of discomfort and hunger. However, I think the easiest was when I was in my 20's, and I just followed common sense and added walking to my days. I went from 164 to 141 in about 7 months.

Of course, everything is easy when you're in your 20's...

The other easier time was when I lost weight the first time at my current job. I was walking at lunch and then come home and take walks in the evening (in the summertime). My Daughter would walk with me, sometimes, so it must have been 5-7 years ago. Again, I was younger, in my 40's.

I wonder if things get harder with each new decade, LOL. Actually, what made that time "easier" was that that my Daughter was helping me too. It really does help to have a partner or a buddy.

horn_of_plenty on 11/11/2021:
I prefer an entry with my laptop too over my phone ! Lol for the DD world, we prefer old school logins for good reason! I read your comment back to me. Sorry I say I’ll message you and then don’t - if I do this, consider the matter is over or I am no longer confused lol about whatever it was I meant to ask you for your opinion on lol ! Sorry to be confusing you and sorta teasing that I was going to possibly do something and then didn’t. I’m ok for now…..

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
No worries - just know that I have a listening ear and a sympathetic shoulder :-)

Glad you're in a good place with whatever you were working on :-)

horn_of_plenty on 11/11/2021:
Lol every month it’s like it’s TOM for the first time. Such an inconvenience!!! I also reset after TOM begins - always thankful When it finally appears and when it’s done !

Sorry to hear about male coworkers issues. I’m sure a therapist would be good for him

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
He HAS a therapist, but I don't think she's helping him. Or rather, I don't think HE is utilizing his appointments to their full potential.

horn_of_plenty on 11/11/2021:
It’s quite nice to hear how so many men in your family have served our country- especially your son!!!

That is so true that doing slow sets is way harder and challenging and a good way to increase strength further !

Well you can try to keep your selective restraint and resort back to the app here and there when you want to pay which should really motivate abs also help you reach your goal if you need it…

Continue to use that app if you need it bc it will help reinforce the good habits you used for weightloss. Later things will get easier -

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
You are right: I need to go back to the app or some kind of tracker.

Donkey - Wednesday Nov 10, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

I was not able to log in yesterday morning, during my designated DD time (lol), because of internet outages.  It's very difficult for me to log in on my phone.  I did not have time to write last night.  It's hard to come back to my computer in the evenings after being at a computer all day at work.  I do not log in on my work computer.  

Monday was a good day.  Yesterday was OK.  Today will be great, because not only is it my "Friday" (since I'm taking the rest of the week off), but New Gal won't be there either, and I'm always a little more on edge when she's around. 

Last night, I had a title company cookie.  IDK, I felt like dinner didn't have enough carbs, and I was kind of needing some consolation.  Monday, I had gone back to a piece of dark chocolate, and that's what I'll do today as well. 

TOM is finally here, so now my body can re-set itself.  Swelling, inflammation, my back, my moods, my weight -- everything can go back to the way it should be, once I get over the initial cramps.

Yesterday, Male Co-Worker was at a breaking point.  He is realizing that he just can't do his job any more, but he feels that he cannot retire.  There's always a financial need to work, but he also fears that he wouldn't know what to do with his time if he didn't come to work.  He's very creative, and I am 100% confident that he would find things to do that would feed his soul, but he can't see beyond what's in front of him now.  Very sad.

Today was lower body weights.  I plan to do more of them tonight! :-)

Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/10/2021:
I hate using the phone anymore than I have to! Too tiny! Basically used to let Walmart know I’m out back waiting for pickup.

Terrific you have a LONG weekend!

How old is that coworker? Why can’t he do the job? I always found real estate contacts to be boilerplate, but have only seen ones for residential real estate.

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
Male Co-worker is 68 years old. Just can't keep up with the pace, for the most part, I guess. Also, the job involve a lot of multi-tasking, and I think it's getting more difficult for him to keep things straight. In his defense though, we are MUCH busier than usual, so there's a lot more to do and a lot more to keep straight!

Also, and bear with me because I may repeat this in future writings, but because of the amount of mistakes being made by New Gal and Mistakes Girl, *everything* takes a LOT longer, because every file has to be checked and re-checked.

bearcountrygg on 11/10/2021:
I'm as always glad to see that you are eating some carbs....My old mantra = carbs are happiness foods!!! You aren't eating too many....but just enough!!!! Yeah Donkey!!!

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
I think it's a better balance overall, but mostly, it's the satiation feeling that is the real bonus. It's odd to know that I am full, but not have the sensation of it. It's happened quite a few times to know that it is for real.

Jacky82020 on 11/10/2021:
Donk, you are inspiring me to give yoga another go. You are the most inspirational Donkey I ever knew. So steadfast in your exercise & diet regimens. Other donkeys are asses compared to our DD Donkey!

Donkey on 11/11/2021:
I hope so! In fact, I have been feeling pulled to go back and do YouTube yoga, even though it isn't "live". Since you and I do a lot of cardio, I feel it's important to stretch a lot too.

Jacky82020 on 11/11/2021:
Exactly! The stretches!

Donkey - Monday Nov 08, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

All in all, I would say it was a lovely weekend, with much needed recovery time from the toxicity of work, to clear my mind and spirit.

With the time change, I changed the 2 clocks that needed it, but forgot to change the clock on the coffee maker!  This was actually a positive thing, because I heard the timer beep at 4:10am, meaning that the pot had brewed, and that got me out of bed much earlier.  I brewed a peppermint mocha pot of coffee and was very eager to try it out.  Oh it's quite delightful!

I woke up to a text message from my yoga teacher, asking if we could move yoga to Thursday night this week.  I'm quite OK with not having yoga tonight, because Mistakes Girl is still out of the office, and I figured that I might have to stay late today.  However, I'm not sure I want yoga on Thursday night, so there may not be yoga this week.

My back is still bothering me.  Once TOM comes, it's sure to improve (I hope).  Yoga sometimes helps with that, but sometimes, like last week, it makes no difference.  Oh I must be careful with my back!  Nothing ages me faster than back pain, and that's the truth.

Queen Bee is coming to work today, to help with phones and monitoring emails.  I just have to put up with her for this last day, if she shows up, and then I'll be done with her for a while.  Must remember:

  • Keep my mouth shut
  • Do my own work
  • Mind my own business

Eating last night went so well!  I had a smaller piece of chcolate with my decaf, and then I was satisfied, not tempted to eat anything else.  You know why I think this was so?  Because I had more carbs at dinner.  I had a small portion of rice, a half a cup of chick peas, and some slices of seasoned sweet potatoes.  I think this made a big difference. I wonder if my night cravings are caused by a dip in blood sugar or something like that, due to the lack of starchy carbs.  Hmm...

Finally, I had not realized this, but thanks to Horn - and perhaps others have been trying to say this to me too and I just didn't hear them -  I see now that I've allowed myself to become distracted by surrounding negativity, allowing myself to be drawn in by that, rather than holding my head up high and focusing on looking forward in my own journey.   

I want to remember and embrace this teaching moment. 

Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/08/2021:
How was that coffee? Must have been marvelous awaking fo the aroma!

Hey, girl! Thanks for the marital advice! Matt’s been irritating me lately.

Donkey on 11/10/2021:
It was pretty good. I have a gingerbread flavor I want to brew next, but haven't done so yet. Need a few days of regular brew in between, to make the flavored coffees (offered seasonally) last longer.

bearcountrygg on 11/08/2021:
Winning attitude...today should be a great one!!! I agree carbs are happiness foods and keep the gut happy........

Donkey on 11/10/2021:
Monday was a good day. Tuesday was a B, maybe B-.

Something with carbohydrates and satiation... That's why I can't have just salad for dinner, or I get shaky and binge-y feeling. I feel "hungry" even though I know that I am full.

bearcountrygg on 11/08/2021:
They call them carboHYDRATE.....for a reason...I just became aware of this a few days ago and thought it was interesting.

Brett on 11/08/2021:
What HOP said, girl.

Donkey on 11/10/2021:
Completely. I have been reminding myself not to be distracted, several times.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/09/2021:
i thought you wrote an entry today but i guess i am wrong...thought i saw something for Tuesday earlier...but prob not.

Remember i'm not in your position and not you, i am only giving opinions that i THINK are helpful and i'm glad if you find them so. :) xoxo My friend, C, always is focusing on everything else, actually, and constantly distracted by those things, but in a different way completely than you. she is NOT affected by other's sadness or stuff like that. not empathetic like you. it's not the same, but i realize she tells me a lot in detail about her work, but that is a bigger part of her life than yours as she's single like me...anyways, back to you bc i'm rambling big time.

the peppermint mocha sounds AMAZING! what brand is it?

yeah, if you do not want yoga, do what you want - not the teacher, it's your valuable time. totally with you there.

i may need to send you a message somewhere else regarding something about me that i have a question on, but will wait till i'm relaxed and not about to work out..

what you mention about the carbs is why i now have a good percentage of my calories from them. they seem to work for me...

Donkey on 11/10/2021:
Yesterday (Tuesday), I was able to comment on Coffee's entry before I lost internet connection and couldn't do more on DD.

I see your opinions as objective observations and not judgments. I also know that you know that not every suggestion will work for every person. Still, it's good to talk things through, which is what I do here, to help me clear out my headspace and get my thoughts organized. And to help me keep an open mind, as I tend to have tunnel-vision with my thinking.

I should have messaged you about my internet outage. Feel free to message me.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/09/2021:
i don't know if Bear is agreeing with you and I about the satisfaction and hormone effect of carbs, but i think she is?

Donkey on 11/10/2021:
I think she is too ;-)

Extremely low carb / keto isn't for everyone. And yet for others, it works really well. Go figure that one out.

Donkey - Sunday Nov 07, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

Good morning!  Oh how nice it was to wake up to light in the sky.  I went to bed at 9:47pm and got out of bed at around 6am, although my FitBit says that I got up at 4:51am - no, that's not true.  We're having a couple of warmer days in the low 60's today and tomorrow, with sun, before the cooler temps come back. (Please come back!)  I'm hoping this means that the gym will be emptier with people outside more.

I want to thank you for comments about aging and ability. I realize that the best thing I can do for myself now is to be pro-active in keeping healthy and mobile.  Not only do I need to WORK AT keeping an optimal weight, but I also need to keep working on:  maintaining strength & muscle mass, balance, and flexibility.

I got my renewal booklet in the mail for my health insurance, with the new prices, and WOW, all I can say is that the lesson learned there is: 

  • DO NOT HAVE A BABY - no worries there;

It will be very expensive out-of-pocket.  Even something like type-2 diabetes would cost me about $3300 a year out of pocket to deal with.  Yowza!

As I get older, and I see & feel the signs of aging, I am torn between acceptance and fighting it every step of the way.  I'm not talking about dying my hair or wrinkle treatments (beyond a good moisturizer & sunscreen).  I mean, healthy eating, yoga, weights, etc., that I talk about here.

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I had written some harsh words about my co-workers who do not take care of their health, but decided to delete what I had written.  Let's just say that it's frustrating to be with people who could be doing more to increase the quality of their lives, and yet choose not to.  I will allow myself to say that it is especially disconcerning to me to see my Boss, who had a heart attack, but has not done nearly enough to rehabilitate from that.  It's very sad.

On the other hand, I'm so happy that my mom works very hard to stay healthy.  I wouldn't say that she's fighting old age, but she is doing a lot of pro-active measures (diet, exercise, mental exercises, etc.) to stay active and healthy.  Way to go , Mom!

This morning, I attempted to try some barbell movements using a broom, just to learn the movement, without any taxing weight to lift.  Well, first, let me say that my back was none too happy about this. (Ha ha)  Also, I now understand why weightlifters drop a heavy barbell with weights, after lifting it.  So I do want to take the class on my stay-cation, so that I can learn proper technique.  I hope that my back will allow me to participate.  

I did upper body weights at the gym.  I am learning that I can lift/pull/push heavier than I usually think I can.  My Husband had an interesting comment to me.  I can do cardio at any time, so more of my gym time should be focused on weights.  I do 25 minutes of cardio (includes a cool-down) before I work on weights, just to get moving.  Maybe that's too much?  IDK, I love using the cardio macihes at the gym, but Husband has a GOOD point, especially with my limited time.  Hmm... I might consider this as a December goal.  

I made really good progress on my library book.  I plan to read more today.  I must, because the other book I have on interlibrary loan has come in, and that's a huge book too.  So I'm delaying picking book #2 up, so that I can make as much progress on book #1 first, LOL.  

Eating was OK yesterday, although I had a little extra peanut butter last night. This needs to stop.  I will not be at my "fighting weight" for my doctor's appointment, if I keep this up.  Also, my lax eating is taking away from what I want to achieve.  So this stops now, and now starts a better eating.  Title company cookies will need to remain in the freezer for now.  No more peanut butter at night -- go brush my teeth instead.  (This is not deprivation, as I am still planning to have a small piece of dark chocolate with my evening decaf.)

OK, I guess I've chatted enough here for now.  I am grateful for my DD friends :-)

Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/07/2021:
Americans are digging their graves with their forks. Most age related issues can be mitigated by activity & proper diet & not getting fat. You won’t have these problems, Donk. You’re doing a terrific job!

Years ago I stumbled across a bodybuilding book for women over 50, many featured were much older. Of course it was all the same free weight moves anyone would do, guess seeing the terrific shape these women were in would be more motivating than looking at Mr. Universe. Anyways, barely 30, I vowed I couldn’t prevent getting old, but I would never get fat & old. Therein lies heart, liver, lung disease & numerous obesity linked cancers.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
Thank you for your vote of confidence. I know that there will be some inevitable limitations, but this little burro is going to give it everything she's got to keep on moving. I'm very inspired by women (and some men, too, yes) who are my age and older (older more so), who maintain active, healthy, & happy lives. I just wish I had more of them around me in my real life.

bearcountrygg on 11/07/2021:
Pro active is a good mindset to keep....with a little reality mixed in too.......I have to say here that when I was 48 I had a hysterectomy...it was necessary.....hemorraghing isn't compatible with life so...I had no choice...I had a complete hysterectomy so at 48 I quit making estrogen.....I'm not totally sure if that was the right thing to do...ovaries are there for a reason but it's done and I believe other autoimmune issues started at that point as well as weight gain and some other things that seemed to start around that time....Staying as active as you can is important.....aging will happen and you can adjust accordingly. Brushing teeth as a great way to stop eating too. It sounds like your Mom is setting a very good example.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
You make an excellent point, and I am aware that sometimes we can't help what happens to us. I have no idea what menopause will bring, so that may really (REALLY) change things for me. No choice there. And when I've hurt my back, everything else gets thrown down the toilet too (due to pain). Thank goodness I've been able to recover, but suppose not - then what?

I hope I didn't sound too arrogant or conceited. I guess it's like that meme/quote that I see on FB a lot: Everyone is fighting a battle inside, so be kind.

bearcountrygg on 11/07/2021:
You never sounded arrogant or conceited. Until I became old.......I assumed that old people just gave up....I wondered why they didn't pick up their feet etc......and then it happened and we realized that joints don't move the same, getting off the floor is now something we have to preplan for......D just called me a few minutes ago to come outside and help him collapse the 22 foot ladder and help him carry it to the barn...( I didn't even know he was on the ladder)......a year ago he wouldn't have needed help....The reality is a bit of a shock.....and we thought we would be different....but we aren't.....a neighbor in her 70's just passed away last week....a friends fiancee age 56 is in the ICU on oxygen and on friday they lowered his oxygen from high to moderate and he wrote how happy that made him on facebook......BUT...a few hours later he took a turn for the worse and was put on a ventilator....and she is home recovering herself and can't go see him. If there is something that any of us can do to get healthier then we should do it ....

Donkey on 11/08/2021:
I'm quite relieved. I'm just trying to figure life out and prepare myself as best that I can for the adventures that lie ahead, for me.

It IS startling when you realize that things have changed. I'm already getting surprised like that in significant ways: reading glasses, loss of coordination -- well, look at the recent revelation about no longer able to jump without pain and consequences.

I'm so sorry to hear about your neighbors. It really highlights how quickly things can change for any one of us. This example has reminded me to have a grateful heart, always.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/07/2021:
i thought the same thing this AM. i loved the light shining in thru my window onto my bed as i got up! so nice! lol, i was telling my parents today that chicago has been warmer than NY! we'll see what happens this Winter!

as you know, not everyone makes the best choices and this happens in every field, every office. know that if you were to work somehwere else, you'd say it all over again. i honestly think that this part of what you are saying about your office is kind of a distraction to what is really the focus - your destination / steps to next job. and you do NOT have to have it all figured out per a schedule. keep being kind to yourself.

yeah, husband has a good point about your weights at the gym and the time, but, i think you have your good weights routines and cardio (in my honest opinion) may be THE most important exercise. if your body can do it, i wouldn't eliminate it all ffrom the gym, maybe a little bit, but i'd say every bit helps...like even 20 min is a whole mile or so.

it's great that you are reading. i haven't been reading much if at all...without the public trans. I may start to push myself to really take public, in order to read. OR, i can push myself to do it at home, in the evening, by changing my habits to me more constructive..... ;)

try not to beat yourself up. be kind to yourself....! you are very worthy.

Donkey on 11/08/2021:
I am hoping for a cold, snowy winter. Oh yes, it's a bother but it's what we need for this area. I am struggling a lot with climate change. If I wanted warm, I would live in Florida.

I appreciate your input on the cardio/weights. I like my routine now. I am mulling Husband's comment though, if I wanted to try (again) going to the gym during the week. If I just went in, warmed up for 5 minutes on the rowing machine, and then hit the weight machines or cables. I would still get my morning bike ride at home, PLUS my lunchtime walk.

That might work. Hmm...

Donkey on 11/08/2021:
WHOA - what you said about my co-worker musings... WOW... SPOT ON!!!! I hadn't realized that I was making a distraction for myself, but you are SO RIGHT.

That (distraction) is not what I want. That is not what I need. I do not need this negativity in my life -- so why am I creating more of it by my constant criticism? I guess I'll say that in a way, it's storytelling -- maybe showing myself "This what NOT to do" or "I don't want my old age to be like theirs"!

And that's OK, I guess, but brings nothing constructive or productive to my own journey, my own struggles and triumphs. Wow, I am SO GLAD that you pointed this out. GAME CHANGER!!!!

Donkey on 11/08/2021:
In order to get through the book I'm currently reading, I have had to change my weeknight routine significantly. I am not able to focus on this change, sometimes, if my brain is exhausted (from work).

The change, though, is very positive. It keeps me from wasting too much time watching reruns on TV or flipping through social media on my phone -- both non-productive wastes of time that keep me up too late.

So by reading, I turn off the lights earlier and get more sleep. Plus, reading is a much better "exercise" for the brain than watching TV.

Donkey - Saturday Nov 06, 2021
(Low carb eating w recumbent bike, yoga, weights)
Weight: 134.5

Something went wrong with my plan last night, because I woke up in the middle of the night sweating.  Not a hot flash, but rather from eating too much and my body turned up the metabolism to burn up what I had eaten.  We had this very sweet pulled pork, with slaw that my Husband made.  Oh the slaw was soooo good, that I had a large 2nd helping.  I also had a small 2nd helping of pork.  I guess both of those were a mistake, although I didn't feel overfull or stuffed. I felt like it was a good dinner.

I had my usual cup of decaf and a frozen cookie.  I probably didn't need the cookie, especially before weigh-in the next morning.  So I don't think that the cookies should be a nightly thing.  I will resume having a small piece of dark chocolate most nights, and then save cookies for 1-2 times a week, and not the night before weigh-in.

Woke up to lower back pain.  I do not think this was the result of Chair Yoga last night, but that this is hormonally related, since TOM is soon.  Oh hormones:  you are a blessing and a curse.  So I must take care with my back today, because when the hormones are swirling and swelling up my body, it's very easy to injury the hips/back.

Barely made it to bed before 10p (November goal) because everything in my evening routine was delayed due to Chair Yoga.  Perhaps I *did* overeat and not realize it because dinner was so late (for me).  Hmm... Aside from the slaw, I think everything else was in moderation.  Oh well, moving forward.

I had a conversation with Male Co-Worker and the Boss Friday morning.  What a couple of bitter old men. 

  • The Boss is terrified of retirement. He just can't imagine what he would do with himself.  He can't fathom volunteering because why would anyone work for free?  Wow, sounds like he sold his soul to the almighty dollar.  I think he pictures retirement being sitting at home, in front of the TV, letting your brain turn to mush. And when I tried to tell him that my own mother is enjoying her retirement life, he kept shooting me down as to why that wouldn't work.  Well, it works for HER and she's fulfilled - don't tell me it doesn't work, because it does for her. 
  • Male Co-Worker says that he won't ever have the retirement he wants because his wife has so many emotional issues that she can't really step outside of her limited comfort zone.  She is 70 years old and unemployed -- not retired, unemployed.  She recently got hired by a fabulous company and is chomping at the bit to get started, and the company is moving at a much slower pace in getting her on board.  Perhaps once his wife is back to work, Male Co-Worker could consider retiring, because he's have time to do his own thing, with his wife at work.
  • And what kind of lady at age 70 needs to work in order to feel a purpose and fulfillment?  She spends her unemployment sitting on her butt, watching TV, and gaining weight.

It's just so sad to see these old people stuck in their thinking.  And not so much that they are "stuck" but that they are stuck AND UNHAPPY.   

Well, time to get my day started. I definitely need to read this weekend.  During the week, this week, the week before -- I've just been so empty and DONE at the end of the day that I don't have it in my to pick up my library book to read.  I have one more week to finish it.  It's a good read, and not a difficult read.  I just have very little brain power at the end of the day.

I'm so glad that we get to turn back the clocks tonight.  And I've already started to look ahead to my mini Staycation next week.  There is a barbell class that I want to take at the gym on Thursday morning. It's offered only during the day during the week, so I'm going to try it out.  Hopefully by then, my back will have settled down, so I will wait to make my reservation until I'm sure I feel 100% about bending and lifting.  I could also take daytime yoga classes at the gym.  I might try that too!


Progress as of today: 52 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 11/06/2021:
Thanks for reminding me of the time change! Need to make sure all the DVRs are set up for my recordings.

Many older ppl work far past typical retirement ages because they enjoy the continued challenges. Recent story in NYT on people over 90 working. They had careers, not jobs to pay the bills: physicians, lawyers, research biologists, professors etc. I think that’s cool! Also much press on people over 65 working, some out of necessity & some because it beats daytime TV. Seems like people with big hobbies like traveling do well with early retirements.

Donkey on 11/06/2021:
The Boss just can't really keep up at work, and he seems so unhappy. Hey, maybe I'm projecting. I didn't consider that!

There has got to be more choices to retirement besides TV and no retirement. That, or there truly is no hope.

bearcountrygg on 11/06/2021:
No way do I want to go back to work...I LOVED working....but it has it's place...LOL

Donkey on 11/06/2021:
Yeah, I think on an emotional level, he's just not there yet. I guess it was just so sad to hear him be so negative about it.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
i had a little sweaty sleep this afternoon after a slight binge. i know what you are talking about, used to have a lot of those.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
I guess I was just surprised, because I didn't think this was a binge. It didn't feel like one at all. I guess maybe cole slaw is difficult to digest?

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
i also learned a couple back/stretch exercises at both yoga/therapy periods in my life. i do recommend you do that reset of the hips incorparated into your routine either instead or in conjunction with your other moves.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
I think I need to do this. I have one stretch move that is particularly helpful with resetting the hips. I haven't done it in a while. I think I will do it today (Sunday), because my back reminded me that it's still not quite happy with me yet.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
i'm so happy to hear you will be off next week thurs and fri! That's a true short week; i am off Thursday also! And i KNOW you will notice and feel much better than usual at the end of the week to come! a nice time to rest up and do other plans instead of a typical work week.

I also try to bring enough veggies for my lunches at work to be satisfied. it's usually my healthiest meal of the day, lunch, in terms of a mix of protein/veggies/carbs. And a good lunch makes me able to avoid snacking in the afternoon at work in most cases. I love that period of giving my body a break from ingesting things (besides usually tea/coffee/water in the afternoon) and i feel good about having food again once i get home from work.

by keeping with your eating/exercise, your later years will be better for YOU. look at those healthy older folks; and then look at the unhealthy ones. you don't want those struggles..by working at the polls, i SAW myself having more trouble than some of the older women working the scanners (they were in their lower 50's - 3 of them that did well). and i know it's totally due to lifestyle. aside from taking a break today, i am still eager to keep moving despite a desk job too. running i shouldn't look to do, but i should continue to add in periods on my feet and walking more....perhaps by adding more public transportation days little by little.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
YES - you get where I'm coming from. And I will write more about this in today's entry. But I see older people who struggle, and I want to be as pro-active as possible. And pro-active NOW.

When I look at my Boss, I see someone who never had a weight problem and completely took his health for granted. Old age hit him like a brick after his heart attack, but instead of DOING something about it, he's just fallen back like he's given up.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
my executive (highest) boss in the trailer said something interesting to someone yesterday. they were talking about her daughter and she was saying her daughter goes out, does errands, comes home and complains she "is tired" and she was saying she just doesn't get it and how she's not that way...and the boss said, "yes, It's a real feeling," because she's not used to that kind of hustle. when you don't have to push at life or move around much, you aren't used to it when you have to...and you cannot do those things with ease as if you always did them. for me, it's that way with public trans. i have a hard time with it, because i am not used to it at all. i drive a car on weekends and for errands. i don't have to rely on it. going up and down those steps much...only when i do it for work. and therefore, since i don't stand or do what some people do all the time, it gets me more tired than it would if i used it more.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
Now that's a good point that your boss makes. I've experienced this fatigue when starting up exercise. First, it was cardio. Then it was weight-training. There's some fatigue at first, but once I made a habit of it, these activities don't tire me out as much. And I seem to recover quicker too.

For yourself, one of the benefits of taking public transportation is that all of your cardio is accomplished. Kind of like a 2-for-1 deal: get to work AND exercise out of the way. That way, you would only need to do weights in your free time.

Would this mean cardio - oh I mean public transportation ;-) - 2-3 times a week? LOL... I understand it's not as easy as it looks on paper. There's a lot of effort in the execution, e.g. getting up way early. It's just fun to talk about options and alternatives, I think :-)

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
regarding keeping your mouth shut, as you say, a few entries ago also (Thursday entry) - i gotta agree that talking less prevents many issues. I can remember a VERY recent case of this with myself. I do talk a bit at work due to it being extremely tolerated and the culture in the trailer. my coworkers like my manner and that's why i do it.

however, the young 24 yr old girl (with the 3 hour commute that prob includes at least 30 min fast walking each way if not more), asked me how it was working on election day. I told her it was physically challenging. she understand my answer. she has had surgeries due to a car accident and bad back due to all that. she's a former gymnast and pursued it a little even after recovering from car accident in part of high school years. she doesn't know / hasn't experienced my particular struggles with pain in my legs/ankles that you are aware of and possibly others here. she doesn't understand what it's like not to be able to walk as fast as her (or want to!) or to be out of shape cardio wise compared to her level. she told me i cannot actually believe that working at the scanners could be called difficult! she meant it. she said, "look at these electricians working outside all day and heavy lifting, and you think standing at a scanner is hard?" and after a bit of back and forth with her, the general foreman who i don't work with too much but he is in the trailer and she does a lot of work for him - he said, "that's it, enough, stop discussing it!" to both of us. so, yeah. she's 24 and not about to understand how something was for me that she cannot relate to herself. she compares the job and the person doing it to having the same fitness and routine as someone who does the job daily. but when you don't, like i was saying earlier, it can be more of a challenge.. i could have stopped explaining myself earlier to her...

and get this, she went on a very quick vacation to florida (orlando) last week only Wed-Weekend and was back Monday at the office. Fast Vacation, she said it was a little cold (low 70's-which is normal for Orlando, i think, this time of year!)...but i guess she didn't realize when booking? anyways, she did a lot, i'm sure it was a struggle, she starting to get a cold early this week...and didn't do anything about it. she never sleeps enough as she can't even if she tried due to her early wake-up for her 3hour commute and to be at work around 6:30-7am (so she can get outta there at 2:30-3pm or so). anyways, she also has asthma so when she gets any cold, it can turn to bronchitis she was telling us. she avoided taking any days off after her trip, pushed herselp, didn't take care of the cold/cough as it got worse...and on friday a coworker and her left during the morning to drive her to an urgent care...where of course she was diagnosed with bronchitis (which definitely is a challenge when having!) so what i'm saying is, it's like she recieved what she was due...she told me she couldn't believe what i did was such a challenge, but then she didn't take care of herself and met her own challenge. she tends to let things go to far before taking care of herself - and she's had quite a few health annoyances this year bc of it...anyways, we learn from this as we get older; and she hasn't learned that one - to take care of herself a little better to avoid bigger health issues.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
I commented more on this below, so please take a look, but let me just add that I see a lot of similar behavior in Mistakes Girl and her Husband. She started with us when she was 26; now she is 28. They are very much into spontaneous road trips, that are go-go-GO from the minute they leave. I would need a vacation just to recover from the vacation!

Maybe it's because I'm older, or because I have a Husband who moves slower, but these jam-packed vacations are NOT a vacation for me. I don't mind sight-seeing, but vacations for me are about relaxing, and not so much having fun-fun-FUN.

Actually I don't think it's because I'm older. I think that's just who I am.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
i was going to write about her, above paragraph, and that incident in my own diary, but sharing it with you and whoever reads this is enough. i'm glad i took that second day off after election day; even if others cannot understand. it was the right thing for me.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
See below :-)

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
i was going to write about her, above paragraph, and that incident in my own diary, but sharing it with you and whoever reads this is enough. i'm glad i took that second day off after election day; even if others cannot understand. it was the right thing for me.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
Oh definitely -- Some of that might be that lady/girl's personality, but a LOT of it is just her inexperience and age. She is unable to relate to you because she has not experienced this herself. It WILL catch up with her. Trust me on this. Especially since she is taking advantage of her youth (not a lot of sleep, not a lot of rest). I predict a rude awaking for her, one day, but by then you will be out of her life.

So you'll need to be content with knowing that she'll learn this lesson one day.

Also, in conversations like that, I usually give it 2 tries and then I quit, because you just can't change narrow-minded people. This is applicable to political conversations too.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
title comp cookies sound great. i would have taken some too, for sure. nice to get free goodies!

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
Definitely! But it's definitely a test of moderation.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
leaving comments for your friday entry below at friday entry rather than here....see your below entry.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
Oh, that's fine- I try to respond to all comments, so as long as you comment anywhere that I can see it, I'll most likely respond :-)

Horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
now for your entry today: yum to extra slaw. i'm sure the calories don't matter very much on that; as slaw itself without the sauce has like no calories! so add in some sauce calories, at least there's no base calories in the slaw itself....

i've had a meal today of slight overeating. habits are hard to keep when you are tempted! BUT, we must push to stay on good streak for life.

perhaps your boss fears retirement bc his wife is a MESS. it would mean his being around her, MORE. that sounds like a demotivator to retire, for him, indeed...if she were healthy, they could have enjoyed walks and a typical retirement...instead, he doesn't have her to enjoy typical activities with like most retired couples...oh, hence a similar comment from Male Coworker in the next paragraph. ...and then i am SURE you can relate to those things; and also be somewhat glad you are working; maybe you wouldn't want to be home all day (at this point in your life) either with your hubby, though he is younger than those two so perhaps it would be nice to be together during this time with hubby...so perhaps me writing that isn't right.! (the part about you, not the others).

there are two ways people are motivated in their life and thinking. it could be a positive set of ideas and personal beliefs or negative ideas that cause them to act. seems they are motivated by the latter, which means LOTS more negtaive thinking and motivators. i am trying to turn that around with myself too...because thinking in a negative manner will hurt a person in the end as well as usually deteriorate their relationships with people (friends, cowokers, family). a more positive outlook helps people in all aspects of their life, including their health...

the barbell class may include an exercise for your hamstrings/back...the deadlift...

i should start with deadlifts at home...i think that's what they are called; as i DO have my weighted barbell!! hmmm, thanks for mentioning the barbell, i never thought to do deadlifts...i may revamp my exercises a little or on and off...would be good for me to add in antoher back/hamsstring exercise too.

Donkey on 11/07/2021:
I am *sure* that a lot of the Boss' outlook is because of his wife. I guess they've been fighting a lot lately. He just doesn't know how to handle her correctly, so he denies and avoids, which just makes her even madder. My Husband says that Boss is an enabler. 100% agree.

I think his plan all along was that he would get to this point and they would do a lot of traveling. That's not going to happen. And he had no real Plan B for himself.

I'll write more about what you've mentioned here and above in today's entry. I think we're on a similar wave lately :-)

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