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Donkey - Monday Sep 09, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

I was not going to log in thinking it was so late.  Looked at the clock, 8:09pm -- that's hardly too late.  So I decided to take a few minutes and comment and write.

 I did very well today.  My eating was definitely on the lighter side. 

Tomorrow morning, I am meeting up with Associate Attorney and 2 real estate agents (a tag-team) that we've worked with to connect and chat.  I do not want to do this on many levels:

I'm busy at work.  A delay in the morning can throw off a whole day.

I'm not really into the big breakfast thing.

Last time I was at this restaurant, the coffee was kind of funky tasting.  They use chickory (?) so it has a very strange, strong taste to it.

But there is no getting out of this.  The agents want to meet me, and this is a good marketing thing for Associate.  I do want to see him succeed, but I just wish he would step up and take more initiative.  

Nice Lady has hurt her back.  The CAT scan shows that she has a fracture in her spine.  She was supposed to get MRI's done today, but long story short, that didn't happen as scheduled, so she will have to try again, probably next week.

Rememer she is a little bit of a drama queen, so yes, she might make a miraculous recovery, but seeing as she is 72 or 73, I am wondering if this is a result of osteoporosis.

The good in all of this is that the next time I go to the doctor, in February, I am going to request a bone density scan for myself.  

(The bad in all of this is that we're all kind of speculating about when she'll come back, if she'll come back, and if she doesn't come back, what will happen to Associate Attorney, because he relies on her far too much.)

Logging off for now.  Getting enough sleep is a priorty for me -- especially since I MUST get up promptly tomorrow, so that I have enough time to do my daily routine before leaving for this breakfast thing.  I think I'm going to get a Mediterranian omlet, and bring half of it back to the office. 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 09/10/2019:
Glad to see you wrote an entry ;)

Good plan for breakfast, you can even ask the waiter to wrap up half the omelette while the others are eating if it's tempting you. also, decaf coffee / water is a good help...if you need to keep your hands/mouth busy.

wow, never had a coffee like you describe, i don't think?

i get what you are saying about nice lady. update us on what happens...and yes, keep taking care of yourself. i feel that you must have some strength in that donkey body of yours, as you are a bit active and not sedentary.

glad to hear you are focused on the sleep thing too. it's something i've been doing much better too - and getting thru the past couple weeks has been a lot easier for me, too. :)

legcramps on 09/10/2019:
Sleep is so important! More important than I ever realized until I got a bit older and can physically see the value in getting enough sleep.

I hope your breakfast goes alright...

BearCountryGG on 09/10/2019:
Some one in the 60's and 70's is in line for spinal crumbling and fractures...it comes with age....we have them here as well...along with slipped discs.....that is basically why old pepople get shorter....we have each lost 2 inches in height.

Donkey - Sunday Sep 08, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Kind of a wet, grey day here, and it kind of matches my mopey mood, but I'm not going to let the weather stop me today... I just have to get started, LOL...

I am going to a specialty grocery store with my daughter and then drop off cans at the animal shelter (part of their fund raising).  They are at opposite ends of town, so it will be some nice mother-daughter time, which is so limited these days.  I'm trying to avoid a Walmart trip today, if I can.

I have finished 2 of the 3 books I checked out from the library on aging.  The first one, Going Gray, was about someone my age.  The second one, Being Mortal, was about maintaining the dignity of one's life at the end:  assisted living, nursing homes, difficult conversations, palliative care, hospice, quality of life versus quantity of life (with respect to medical care).

I'm about to start the 3rd book, which is written by a woman in her 70's.  I'm looking forward to it.

My husband surprised me today by saying that he's willing and wanting to check out the Chair Yoga classes at the new yoga studio in town.  It would be $10 for an hour class, no long term commitment.  Wow!  The classes are Tuesday and Thursday mornings, each taught by a different instructor.  So I encouraged him to try both, when he's up to it, and if he likes it, to consider keeping up with it.

I wish I could go with him...

This week is Library Chair Yoga, on Wednesday, and I'm already looking forward to my half-day off.  My boss is going on a road trip Wednesday, returning next Tuesday.  That will be a nice break for all of us as well, although... this will mean we will have to rely on Associate Attorney. Oh well....

Again, I am struggling with trying to find something in my life that brings me joy.  Maybe this is because the Great British Baking Show has started a new season on Netflix.  I feel like I"m just trying to push through the weekdays to get to the end of the day, to the end of the week, to have time for myself.  I end up resenting things that come up on weekends because it takes away from the precious Me Time that I have.  

When I found out that Legal Clinic was canceled this month, I was so happy.  That is not a good sign.  I was just dreading it this month, because it takes up half of my Saturday.  And also because this month, I'd be doing more work that I usually do, because we would be down a volunteer.  Turns out, we're down too many volunteers, so they just canceled the clinic. Normally, I do love going to clinic.  So I'm not sure what's going on there...

I know that whatever it is that I'm looking for, to bring me joy in my days, it won't be work.  Since we're not going to be moving any time soon - made that decision a couple of weeks ago - I've decided to stay put at my job for now, even though this may be a mistake in the long run - as I have a decent salary and insurance assistance.  So now that things will remain status quo for a while, I have the time to think about what I want to do with the remainder of my time.

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 09/08/2019:
I may have mentioned this here in the past....not sure...but back in my days of selling real estate ( the 80's)...our office went to a seminal.....and they had us chanting all day..." He has my money in his pocket and I want it!".....while it really wasn't something I would have thought about on my own.....it did become something I used many years later when a job seemed to be getting tedious.........when I didn't want to go to work...I repeated it on my way to work....and started looking at it as money..instead of work problems....and it got me through....I'm so happy that you guys will be continuing with the yoga.....good for you...Have a happy Mom and daughter day!!

Donkey on 09/08/2019:
I do remember that story! I MUST try harder to remember this. I think it could help.

BearCountryGG on 09/08/2019:

Donkey on 09/08/2019:
LOL!!! I knew what you meant ;-)

Horn_of_plenty on 09/08/2019:
i will write back to you later, been a busy weekend, buy yes my goals / plans need work! yeah. the 5ks aren't really helpful, but it's good to get moving. i do have a better plan now. i am going to skip the arms so i don't have to think about them for now except for pushups.

i'm so glad your hubby wants to go to chair yoga instead of sitting at home. i hope he sticks with it. how will he get there?

maybe think of the weekend activities you don't enjoy that much as being things you appreciate being able to do and glad you don't have to be stuck at home? (i am in the process of changing up my own practices/mindset for the week/weekend...)

a decision is a decision and if you want to stay at your job, i can DEFINITELY understand why. i would almost always opt to stay in a job that looked like i could have it for longer and no chance of being let go (my current job there's unknowns about where i'll go when this project ends...the unknowns are too stressful for me)... anyways, with a career like yours, i would think you could find a job again if you moved doing the same thing?

how is your son doing now? are you still in touch with him?

Donkey on 09/08/2019:
I thought the 5K's were more helpful to you than they turned out to be (which is not too helpful). Narrowing in on the specific goals should be very helpful. Your time is limited, and this is just a temporary change until after the test.

My husband can still drive, so that is how he will get to yoga, but quite honestly, since he can't turn his head, it's not as safe for him to drive any more. Short, familiar runs he can do alone. Anything longer, like driving towards Chicago, he usually wants someone to go with him, to check the blind spots for lane changes.

Real estate in the Chicago area is about to change dramatically in the next 3-5 years. We are one of the last areas that uses attorneys for real estate transactions. Most everyone else uses real estate agents.

If we moved to Las Vegas, I would have to find a completely new line of work. That could be real estate related, but it might just be a transfer of office skills. I could work for an attorney, but there aren't too many other areas of law I would want to work in.

One of the areas I would be interested in would be bankruptcy, but Nice Lady -- who isn't really even an employee of my boss, she came with Associate Attorney when we hired him -- kind of took that over as hers, and hers alone.

We hear from our son every week when he calls, and sometimes more often through text. He says that if he can get through September, he is confident he'll be able to finish his job training. It's been kind of a roller coaster for him.

Horn_of_plenty on 09/09/2019:
keep cheering your son in...he is more pliable...he is young. this is the best time...it's not meant to be "easy."

yeah 5k's are good to get moving, and i am recovering faster after them.

you are right that this is a short term plan, i can try much harder here...or rather plan smarter.

Maria7 on 09/09/2019:
Happy that your Son is getting acclimated. I know that is a huge relief to you, as well. Sounds like he has been adjusting real well.

Donkey - Saturday Sep 07, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Off to the Legal Clinic Volunteer Appreciation Breakfast....  Truth be told, just between us, I'd rather not go, for many reasons.  Hopefully, those reasons won't matter once we get there. 

AFTERNOON EDIT:  The breakfast was fine and I'm glad I went.  In past years, it's been much more, with more turnout.  This event was a little anemic, but it was nice to meet up with the other ladies I work with, especially since there won't be a legal clinic this month.

Came home and went for a nice walk, after sitting for almost 2 hours, and then sitting again on the drive home.  Not feeling particularly inspired today.

Yesterday, work was one crisis after another.  It was very draining.  I met the husband and daughter at the diner for dinner, which was nice, but I was so empty that I wasn't really all that excited about it.  

So that I want to just relax, read, nap, today is OK.

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 09/07/2019:
Good job and good on you for supporting the community and doing some pro networking

Horn_of_plenty on 09/08/2019:
love how you write with description like the legal clinic being anemic! great vocab choice. enjoyed reading that, although i guess it was more spirited for you ;)

good choice to be active once getting home after sitting. it's what i would also have tried to do...

are you doing what you want to do today (sunday)?

i'm making lots of changes like you, working on a new schedule to reach my goals. weights are out for the time being. i may even move them to my garage for storage.

Donkey - Friday Sep 06, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Still here...  Not a lot of time to write today.  I'm very tired.  I think the "mindful eating" has resulted in a calorie deficit, which is great for losing weight, but not so good on energy.  I feel like I could sleep for a million years.

Some of it might be work stress.  Trying to keep a light-hearted tone at work, keeping everything positive, but it wears me down.  (Being negative or venting though, isn't the answer.  That would not help build me up, if that makes sense.)

I have a volunteer appreciation breakfast tomorrow morning, for legal clinic, so while it's "fun" and "free food", right now, it seems exhausting.   

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 09/06/2019:
Possibly the seasons changing...? Days are shorter, weather is cooler. I agree about the venting...venting works for a little while...and then it becomes something we flat out focus on.....Maybe focus on the fact that you get to go home?

Donkey on 09/07/2019:
Yesterday (Friday), was so bad, at around 10:30a, I asked outloud, "Is it 4 o'clock yet?" Just one bomb after another... Even my boss made a comment about it.

Reflecting back, I do think it was the stress from work that was causing the fatigue.

Horn_of_plenty on 09/08/2019:
i've gotten into those "spells" where i crave to sleep a long time. last night,i was able to actually do it. was really tired after lots of exercise walking around NYC. went to bed around 9pm...woke up a few times to cramps...but slept all in all from 9pm-7am or so.

sometimes i guess after a week of slacking on sleep, it feels good to catch up (my opinion).

yes, anyone can be negative / whine about work. and trust me, everyone does, everywhere. yes, it will not help much. you can always write it here there, just to get it.

i also get weary on social things like your volunteer clinic, it is sometimes and not all the time which is good..perhaps schedule it so afterwards in your schedule is "you time"

Donkey - Wednesday Sep 04, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Quick check-in:

One thing that I want to work on - REALLY work on - is getting rid of the careless eating.  For example, when I prepare my food for work, I sneak in a handful of nuts, or a bite of cheese, or a bite of something else.  NO.  This is not mindful, intentional eating.  It is a bad habit, and a good way for extra calories to sneak in without really being accountable to them.

MUST get back to weights.  I do not want to lose the upper body gains that I achieved over the summer months doing push-ups.  I WANT to do this.

A new yoga studio opened up near me.  I could theoretically walk to it, but it would be much better if I rode my bike or drove.  Unfortunately, they opened in August, and I just now learned of this, so I missed all of the deals.  They do not offer free classes, and about half of the classes are during the workday, unfortunately, but they do offer some evening classes that looked good to me.

Most of the classes they offer are slower paced, stretching and relaxing, which is more of what I want/need from yoga, at least at this time.  They do offer Chair Yoga, but I don't know if my husband would go by himself and if he had to pay for it.

They do offer  "name your own price" meditation sessions, which that I might consider trying. I was thinking $5.

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

legcramps on 09/04/2019:
That's awesome there is a yoga studio where you live! How convenient!

happy-1 on 09/04/2019:
Ah the luxury of a yoga studio you really like and neighbors who are like-minded... maybe see it as an opportunity to have friends you can really relate to right next door?

Horn_of_plenty on 09/05/2019:
I admit also to tastings of food when i prep my own. this morning i had tastes of half an avocacdo, the rest of it going into my breakfast. i think it's human nature to want to do this, but i agree it's a habit and can be stopped a bit. don't get too angry at yourself as i think it's human nature, but i do think you can do it if you want to stop. for myself, i work it into my calories, these tastes.

just like you want to get weights, i have come to a realization that i now need at least a bike in my apt. i don't think i want to try and get reimbursed for it though. i think it could cause problems if i try, so i will not try. (reimbursements are usually for copays or office visits...or if you can get a dr's note....i am not sure i want to be reimbrused for a bike right now.)

$5 seems fair if it's name your price. i think they would be just providing a room for you to do your own meditation in????

this yoga studio sounds amazing and i hope you can try it.

the reason i have to get a bike in my apt is that it works diff muscles from the stepper/walking/jogging and it's already getting darker faster and cooler soon....and i know my biking outside days after work are ending soon.

happy-1 on 09/05/2019:
I chew gum while I am cooking and cleaning up anything but fruit and veg. It actually helps.

Donkey - Monday Sep 02, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Logging in a little later than I might normally do on a day off, because I wanted to get my exercise and errands out of the way first.  The weather could not be more perfect for a day off - it is warm, but not too hot, and sunny but with some clouds, so it's not burning hot. 

I am almost done with the book about going grey, ironically titled "Going Gray".  Early on in the book, she mentions that she is 49 (when she starts this "research" project, which ended up being this book), which is right where I'm at, so this is really one of those "right books at the right moment" situations.  While I haven't finished it, I did want to mention that what really speaks to me in this book is that accepting one's greyness is really about self-acceptance. and embracing where one is at, at that moment. 

Staying mentally young isn't about the color of my hair, but being open to new things, whether it's ideas, or technologies, or experiences.  This is definitely something that I need to keep in mind for myself, because I tend to get stuck in my ways, which can be offsetting to those around me.  Plus, being stuck in my ways means I might miss out on things that I would otherwise enjoy or benefit from.  I am hoping that the next book I have waiting for me (Women Rowing North) will speak to this "un-stuck-ness".  My goal is to work on my mindset or focus, so as not to be so stuck, but rather, to be more open.  In turn, I hope that it will also develope some peace of mind or contentment.

Speaking of being more adventurous, keeping an open mind:  Yesterday, while I was taking a walk, I started to think about how I think my running days are really over.  With my back and hip issues, I'm thinking that it's time to start being more guarded and protective of my mobility, rather than trying to push my limits.  (Granted, this is not being open-minded at all, but this was before I read those chapters in the Going Gray book...)

So of course, after dinner, my daughter mentions that she'd like to do a 5k race with me.  Where were you 3 years ago when I could run???  UGH!!!!  She doesn't really want to run or win any race, but rather wants the t-shirt and hot cider or hot chocolate at the end of the race, LOL....   There is an animal shelter that does a 5k event that I might consider.  I would need more information, but I suppose it's something to try with her.  It might be fun...


Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/03/2019:
and at these 5ks, many people walk them....so it'd nice to do and be part of the team of people signed up. you'll be amazed by their positive spirit and energy that these folks have so early in the morning. it's a special event, for sure, to try out. i do hope you'll do it with your daughter. even if she runs, you can walk....you can go to it together.

i am not ready to face the face that i may be at the turning point to in terms of actually getting better in my fitness....grrrr...

but, it is true that it's better to take care of your body than to beat it down.

there are still ways to strengthen...

Donkey on 09/04/2019:
I feel that I need a turning point.

happy-1 on 09/03/2019:
Do they hand you a cat at the finish line? Could you inline skate it? *grin*

Donkey on 09/04/2019:
LOL - if they handed out cats or adoption discount coupons, I'd definitely think twice. I don't think that skating would be allowed. I just don't have enough time to prepare for this. Time is the biggest impediment here.

I need someone orange in my life.

happy-1 on 09/05/2019:
You definitely need a big orange tom cat to chase you around the house... and eat food you are tempted by so that you don't.

Donkey - Sunday Sep 01, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Happy September!  A new month, a new season, new goals...

I am quite pleased to report that I got some good sleep last week!  With the exception of Friday night into Saturday, because I stayed up too late, I got over 7 hours of sleep each night!  Even my short night, I got 6.5 hours of sleep, which isn't too bad for a lack of sleep.  This is something that I'd definitely like to to maintain or focus on.

I confess that I haven't thought of any concrete goals for this month, yet, but looking at my calendar, I see that there are many new potential adventures.  Not this week but the following week, I will be attending "Yin Yoga" (free at the library).  Also, the yoga studio is offering 3 free classes on Sundays this month, with their "trainee" instructors.  I hope that I will have the courage to go back and try.  I am also taking a half-day off on 9/11, so that I can do Chair Yoga (at the library) with my husband, seeing as Veterans' Yoga was canceled this month.  Theoretically, with the exception of this first week of September, there is a free yoga opportunity available every week.  Yay?


Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 09/01/2019:
Yoga is such a healthy thing to do......no body damage but great stretching of the muscles....it's a great thing to keep up with. 7 hours is terriffic!!!

Horn_of_plenty on 09/02/2019:
i was thinking to try yoga tomorrow, but i like my weights routine too much to skip it....

nice job getting into yoga and FREE!? how awesome is that!

My calendar seems pretty packed actually for the fall season! in October for instance, i am signed up for THREE 5k's! i am excited and will do some walking and some jogging for them. but by taking part in the 5k, it takes a lot of power out of my legs (yes, really), and i have to be more focussed on my planning on how i will still plan for my own cardio goals. however, a 5k is much shorter than 5 miles and i do think they will all go pretty well...being that it's still a lovely time of year, let's all keep up our goals and stay fit..

happy-1 on 09/02/2019:
Yay yoga!

Donkey - Saturday Aug 31, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

 I remembered to weigh in this moring - LOL.  Glad to see that the number is still within maintenance range.  I know my weight was a lot lower at the beginning of the year, but this 131-136 range is just about right for me, at my heigh of 5 ft, 3 inches (sorry I do not know the metric conversion off the top of my head) with a large bone structure.

My pain subsided and reconciled eventually.  I'm rather embarrassed to say that it was TOM cramping that woke me up early Thursday morning.  TOM affects my joints too, with swelling, soreness and sciatica down my right leg.  My back and hip problems are more vulnerable during TOM as well.  I've been to my doctor, who says that other than the anemia (which I am managing with OTC vitamins), everything else is OK.  My boss' daughter, who is a physical therapist, says that as long as I am pain free and able to move, then no other adjustment or action is required or recommended even - the old "if it ain't broke, don't fix it."  Once the hormone surge passes, I go back to normal, and thank goodness for that.  I truly am grateful for that.

I had goals and errands for this morning, but then I realized that we have a parade going through town, and won't be able to get out of my subdivision until after the parade is over at noon.

I have a lot of thinking to do today...  Goals, both inside and out.  Really, seriously, it's time for some serious work.  This burro needs to get back on track.

EVENING EDIT:  Did well -- but no weight training! -- but found myself being NOT so mindful & intention when it came to eating.  That is to say, I felt that I was munchie today, and reaching for food.  

Some of this was from thinking about work stuff, some of which I wrote about but deleted, because I realize that I do what I do to survive at work and get my work done. My work environment is toxic,  and unfortunately,  sometimes that rubs off on me, too.  I own up to my mistakes when I make them,  and that's all I can do. 

My work-life balance is out of whack again,  so I'm going to use the remainder of the weekend to reset my focus. 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 09/01/2019:
I also deal with sometimes uncomfortable TOM months when, yes, i do also wake up in the middle of the night and get pain down also my right thigh. i totally understand it can be so painful. don't be embarrased, it's just something that causes us pain here and there and thank gosh we can somewhat manage it with OTC medicine.

I cannot even really believe it's September! omg. on a similar note to you, i do feel i've TOTALLY gotten off track! one of the good things - i have managed my pain better than maybe several of the summers preceeding this one.

but like you, i know i have to do more (cardio for me) training.

keep taking care of yourself.

Donkey - Thursday Aug 29, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

I am taking this moring off from work to take Mr. Donkey to the Rheumatologist this morning.  Just want to hear what she has to say.

My beautiful orange friend at Cat Yoga was adopted last weekend.  I'm very happy for George... but kind of sad for myself.

The yoga studio was offering free "hot and fast" yoga.  No surprise that I didn't sign up for that one, even if it was "free". 

Did not do any weight training last night.  After my evening bike ride to decompress, I just wanted to go to my room and hide.  I went to bed in pain and woke up at 2:34a in pain.  Took some Advil and Tylenol and went back to bed.  Woke up feeling like I had attended the "hot and fast" yoga class... 

Looking forward to the long holiday weekend here in the US.  

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

legcramps on 08/29/2019:
Oh no, what's up with the pain? Do you know what it's from? Is it a chronic issue? I'm sorry you had a rough night :(

We get a long weekend here in CA too this weekend! Even though I had a short week last week, I can't wait for this long weekend LOL.

BearCountryGG on 08/29/2019:
Knee or hip pain? Did walking irritate that?? Hope you are feeling better today! Us cat people...LOL....1 is too much and 5 aren't enough. D's brothers family got caught up in cats very suddenly back a few years ago....the kids were both teenagers swearing they each wanted a cat...so off they went...to get 2 cats...and couldn't decide...so they brought the ENTIRE LITTER HOME...all 5 of them...now...2 are in cages because they fight...and refused to get litter trained...3 roam the house and would do okay...except...they are home alone all day and like to tear into things, knock things off surfaces and travel the 3 levels of the house and basically hide......the 2 boys are now adults...still live at home and couldn't care less about the cats.....SIL has never been a houskeeper...so then you can just guess.....no one is allowed in their house anymore...and it was a beautiful house when D helped him build it.....oh...and they also have a GIANT aquarium....that the cats like to fish in....UGH!

Maria7 on 08/29/2019:
Bless your heart. I sure do hope you feel better today.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
Good luck to Mr. Donkey, i hope he finds something to lessen his pain.

lol, seems you are finding out what types of yoga are best for you ;)

were you nervous about the dr appt today? is that why you had pain last night? i hope it's gone now.

Maria7 on 08/30/2019:
Hope you've been having a good day.

Donkey - Wednesday Aug 28, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

Daughter and I spoke to Mr. Donkey again last night, at dinner, about eating less meat.  Mindful portion control went well again yesterday, although I realized, as I was putting chicken on my plate, that I probably took a little more than what I *should* have, if I'm looking to reduce the amount of meat I eat. 

 Yesterday, we had a client come in with her husband to re-do their wills, since so much had changed since they had their wills last drawn up.  These are ex-neighbor's of the boss' daughter.  They brought their youngest child, who looked to be about 3 or 4.  Her husband looked to be in his-mid 30s.  She looked much, much older.  I told my boss as he stepped into his meeting to find out how old she was and if he thought I looked that old at my age, then I needed an intervention.

So I am 49, and this woman is 42.  Nice Lady is 72 and she looks about the same as Lady Client - wow!  Now granted, Nice Lady looks great for her age - people never think she's 72, but still!  I asked my boss what the story was, and he said that Lady Client had recently lost a lot of weight.  I asked if she had been sick, and he said, no, she just lost the weight.  Of course, he didn't say that I looked as old as she did, so then I asked him if he thought I was fat, and he said, no, if I lost any more weight, we'd lose you to the wind.

(Talk about putting my boss on the spot -- poor man...)

Anyway, Nice Lady, and Mistakes Girl (who is 27) had a conversation about this client, and how this has completely thrown me for a tailspin, with my whole issue about dying my hair.  Just when I had eased into self-acceptance, then something like THIS happens.

I am going to try to stay grounded and focus on today, and try not to think too much about things that in the long run, are inevitable or not important.  Right?

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
....i love that vocab word, Wanderlust! yes! i have it too, but don't exercise my own wanderlust very often as i prefer routine and being successful at my home routine. LOL.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I don't really have wanderlust. It's just not in me to want to see the world.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
the only way i know how to limit my meat is by taking a serving and putting the rest away right away. and also filling my plate with enough other food to be satisfying...veggies. this works well for me at work as i take a portion from home or from the buffet and obviously i cannot go back for more. once in awhile i do feel i need more protein, and i have more but usually i dont' have much because we don't need much protein at one single time at one meal i mean. i got this idea from my friend who used to be much slimmer. her diet is high in carbs and low in just about everything else. she surely doesn't need more protein though, and i realized it was another way to limit calories at a meal as she just didn't eat much of the protein. she'd order fried rice at restaurants and just taste the chicken (a few large bites and that's it - like 4 large bites worth) and then just eat the rice. lol she doesn't even like to eat the bits of veggies that are in the rice! but what i'm saying was, it's a way of minimizing portions. a few large bites of chicken is enough, about one serving. and it's a high quality protein, not like a quinoa or bean serving, but true protein. vegetarians don't even get the true meat source and they are ok...so i figure we don't need as much as we think of the meat/fish/poultry. for instance, half a breast of a rotisserie chicken should be fine. or a drumstick and that's it should be fine....in my opinion for the usual amount. of course, every once in awhile if you are craving more, why not.

so i don't get it...why does the lady look so old? maybe she doesn't eat well? usually even not eating well doesn't cause such a drastic difference. then again, who knows. maybe she had a gastric sleeve or bypass...that may cause serious loss of nutrients and possibly make someone look older (in my opinion!). does she not dye her hair?

i don't think you NEED to dye your hair. i do see people that don't on the subway. sometimes it looks nice natural, but it sure is popular to dye it. it does make you look younger, i have to say the truth.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I'm not sure why Lady Client looked so bad. Perhaps she lost weight too quickly or in an unhealthy way. Her hair isn't grey - the aging is all in her face.

I think dying can make one look younger but can also look artificial. I can probably still do it, because I don't have a lot of wrinkles (yet).

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
i mean dying hair makes most people look younger, not just you.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I knew where you were coming from. I think we get to a certain point where it's obvious, and that I do not find so attractive.

On the other hand, when I'm totally gray, I do plan to dye my hair something grand like bright blue or red, pink...

I do not think I'm being clear. Little old lady with brown dye job - not so good. Little old lady with bright pink hair - AWESOME!

legcramps on 08/28/2019:
We have no idea how a person's life has changed them. My relative in Hungary, she is 53 and has had a very tough life. She looks older than my mother, who is over 70. She doesn't dye her hair, doesn't dress in current styles, etc. But who cares? I certainly don't; I have enough problems in my own life and I don't need to start comparing mine to hers. We're so different!

So does mindful portion control mean choosing a portion of food that will satisfy you, or choosing a portion you think is the 'correct' size to eat?

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
You're right - who cares? I've only recently become fascinated by the aging process, perhaps because my stepfather had become sick and then passed away? Or perhaps seeing it in my own mother?

My interest brought about my awareness in my own aging process. It's fascinating when it happens to you.

legcramps on 08/28/2019:
Nvm, I believe I answered my own question to you by re-reading your first paragraph, LOL. Mindful portion control sounds like an excellent way to gauge hunger.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
Yes, I felt that I was putting too much meat on my plate at dinner, and then it would sit there like a rock in the evening. I would catch myself taking 2nd helpings of meat, just to prolong the dinner hour with my family, too.

So the mindfulness is to (try to) make sure that I'm getting what I need and not overeating.

There ARE other factors involved, too, but not the main thrust of my goal (environmental, ethics).

Funny how I do not want to overeat with meat, but I have no issue with overeating on vegetables.

Maria7 on 08/28/2019:
I bet you are very beautiful...maybe lacking a little self-confidence, as we all do, but gorgeous, nontheless!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
My co-workers were kind enough to say that my grey looks like highlights. Isn't that very nice of them to say?

I also can agree with them, to some degree, because the grey is around my face, like highlights... just maybe not the color I would have chosen initially.

happy-1 on 08/28/2019:
I dunno what could get a guy to eat less meat. Maybe more beer and cheese first!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
love happy's comment hahaha

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
She's a riot - makes me LOL.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
to maria's comment: yes, donkey is very pretty!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
Aw shucks... thank you!

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