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Donkey - Friday Sep 06, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Still here...  Not a lot of time to write today.  I'm very tired.  I think the "mindful eating" has resulted in a calorie deficit, which is great for losing weight, but not so good on energy.  I feel like I could sleep for a million years.

Some of it might be work stress.  Trying to keep a light-hearted tone at work, keeping everything positive, but it wears me down.  (Being negative or venting though, isn't the answer.  That would not help build me up, if that makes sense.)

I have a volunteer appreciation breakfast tomorrow morning, for legal clinic, so while it's "fun" and "free food", right now, it seems exhausting.   

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 09/06/2019:
Possibly the seasons changing...? Days are shorter, weather is cooler. I agree about the venting...venting works for a little while...and then it becomes something we flat out focus on.....Maybe focus on the fact that you get to go home?

Donkey on 09/07/2019:
Yesterday (Friday), was so bad, at around 10:30a, I asked outloud, "Is it 4 o'clock yet?" Just one bomb after another... Even my boss made a comment about it.

Reflecting back, I do think it was the stress from work that was causing the fatigue.


Horn_of_plenty on 09/08/2019:
i've gotten into those "spells" where i crave to sleep a long time. last night,i was able to actually do it. was really tired after lots of exercise walking around NYC. went to bed around 9pm...woke up a few times to cramps...but slept all in all from 9pm-7am or so.

sometimes i guess after a week of slacking on sleep, it feels good to catch up (my opinion).

yes, anyone can be negative / whine about work. and trust me, everyone does, everywhere. yes, it will not help much. you can always write it here there, just to get it.

i also get weary on social things like your volunteer clinic, it is sometimes and not all the time which is good..perhaps schedule it so afterwards in your schedule is "you time"



Donkey - Wednesday Sep 04, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Quick check-in:

One thing that I want to work on - REALLY work on - is getting rid of the careless eating.  For example, when I prepare my food for work, I sneak in a handful of nuts, or a bite of cheese, or a bite of something else.  NO.  This is not mindful, intentional eating.  It is a bad habit, and a good way for extra calories to sneak in without really being accountable to them.

MUST get back to weights.  I do not want to lose the upper body gains that I achieved over the summer months doing push-ups.  I WANT to do this.


A new yoga studio opened up near me.  I could theoretically walk to it, but it would be much better if I rode my bike or drove.  Unfortunately, they opened in August, and I just now learned of this, so I missed all of the deals.  They do not offer free classes, and about half of the classes are during the workday, unfortunately, but they do offer some evening classes that looked good to me.

Most of the classes they offer are slower paced, stretching and relaxing, which is more of what I want/need from yoga, at least at this time.  They do offer Chair Yoga, but I don't know if my husband would go by himself and if he had to pay for it.

They do offer  "name your own price" meditation sessions, which that I might consider trying. I was thinking $5.

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

legcramps on 09/04/2019:
That's awesome there is a yoga studio where you live! How convenient!


happy-1 on 09/04/2019:
Ah the luxury of a yoga studio you really like and neighbors who are like-minded... maybe see it as an opportunity to have friends you can really relate to right next door?


Horn_of_plenty on 09/05/2019:
I admit also to tastings of food when i prep my own. this morning i had tastes of half an avocacdo, the rest of it going into my breakfast. i think it's human nature to want to do this, but i agree it's a habit and can be stopped a bit. don't get too angry at yourself as i think it's human nature, but i do think you can do it if you want to stop. for myself, i work it into my calories, these tastes.

just like you want to get weights, i have come to a realization that i now need at least a bike in my apt. i don't think i want to try and get reimbursed for it though. i think it could cause problems if i try, so i will not try. (reimbursements are usually for copays or office visits...or if you can get a dr's note....i am not sure i want to be reimbrused for a bike right now.)

$5 seems fair if it's name your price. i think they would be just providing a room for you to do your own meditation in????

this yoga studio sounds amazing and i hope you can try it.

the reason i have to get a bike in my apt is that it works diff muscles from the stepper/walking/jogging and it's already getting darker faster and cooler soon....and i know my biking outside days after work are ending soon.


happy-1 on 09/05/2019:
I chew gum while I am cooking and cleaning up anything but fruit and veg. It actually helps.



Donkey - Monday Sep 02, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Logging in a little later than I might normally do on a day off, because I wanted to get my exercise and errands out of the way first.  The weather could not be more perfect for a day off - it is warm, but not too hot, and sunny but with some clouds, so it's not burning hot. 

I am almost done with the book about going grey, ironically titled "Going Gray".  Early on in the book, she mentions that she is 49 (when she starts this "research" project, which ended up being this book), which is right where I'm at, so this is really one of those "right books at the right moment" situations.  While I haven't finished it, I did want to mention that what really speaks to me in this book is that accepting one's greyness is really about self-acceptance. and embracing where one is at, at that moment. 

Staying mentally young isn't about the color of my hair, but being open to new things, whether it's ideas, or technologies, or experiences.  This is definitely something that I need to keep in mind for myself, because I tend to get stuck in my ways, which can be offsetting to those around me.  Plus, being stuck in my ways means I might miss out on things that I would otherwise enjoy or benefit from.  I am hoping that the next book I have waiting for me (Women Rowing North) will speak to this "un-stuck-ness".  My goal is to work on my mindset or focus, so as not to be so stuck, but rather, to be more open.  In turn, I hope that it will also develope some peace of mind or contentment.


Speaking of being more adventurous, keeping an open mind:  Yesterday, while I was taking a walk, I started to think about how I think my running days are really over.  With my back and hip issues, I'm thinking that it's time to start being more guarded and protective of my mobility, rather than trying to push my limits.  (Granted, this is not being open-minded at all, but this was before I read those chapters in the Going Gray book...)

So of course, after dinner, my daughter mentions that she'd like to do a 5k race with me.  Where were you 3 years ago when I could run???  UGH!!!!  She doesn't really want to run or win any race, but rather wants the t-shirt and hot cider or hot chocolate at the end of the race, LOL....   There is an animal shelter that does a 5k event that I might consider.  I would need more information, but I suppose it's something to try with her.  It might be fun...

 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 09/03/2019:
and at these 5ks, many people walk them....so it'd nice to do and be part of the team of people signed up. you'll be amazed by their positive spirit and energy that these folks have so early in the morning. it's a special event, for sure, to try out. i do hope you'll do it with your daughter. even if she runs, you can walk....you can go to it together.

i am not ready to face the face that i may be at the turning point to in terms of actually getting better in my fitness....grrrr...

but, it is true that it's better to take care of your body than to beat it down.

there are still ways to strengthen...

Donkey on 09/04/2019:
I feel that I need a turning point.


happy-1 on 09/03/2019:
Do they hand you a cat at the finish line? Could you inline skate it? *grin*

Donkey on 09/04/2019:
LOL - if they handed out cats or adoption discount coupons, I'd definitely think twice. I don't think that skating would be allowed. I just don't have enough time to prepare for this. Time is the biggest impediment here.

I need someone orange in my life.


happy-1 on 09/05/2019:
You definitely need a big orange tom cat to chase you around the house... and eat food you are tempted by so that you don't.



Donkey - Sunday Sep 01, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

Happy September!  A new month, a new season, new goals...

I am quite pleased to report that I got some good sleep last week!  With the exception of Friday night into Saturday, because I stayed up too late, I got over 7 hours of sleep each night!  Even my short night, I got 6.5 hours of sleep, which isn't too bad for a lack of sleep.  This is something that I'd definitely like to to maintain or focus on.

I confess that I haven't thought of any concrete goals for this month, yet, but looking at my calendar, I see that there are many new potential adventures.  Not this week but the following week, I will be attending "Yin Yoga" (free at the library).  Also, the yoga studio is offering 3 free classes on Sundays this month, with their "trainee" instructors.  I hope that I will have the courage to go back and try.  I am also taking a half-day off on 9/11, so that I can do Chair Yoga (at the library) with my husband, seeing as Veterans' Yoga was canceled this month.  Theoretically, with the exception of this first week of September, there is a free yoga opportunity available every week.  Yay?

 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 09/01/2019:
Yoga is such a healthy thing to do......no body damage but great stretching of the muscles....it's a great thing to keep up with. 7 hours is terriffic!!!


Horn_of_plenty on 09/02/2019:
i was thinking to try yoga tomorrow, but i like my weights routine too much to skip it....

nice job getting into yoga and FREE!? how awesome is that!

My calendar seems pretty packed actually for the fall season! in October for instance, i am signed up for THREE 5k's! i am excited and will do some walking and some jogging for them. but by taking part in the 5k, it takes a lot of power out of my legs (yes, really), and i have to be more focussed on my planning on how i will still plan for my own cardio goals. however, a 5k is much shorter than 5 miles and i do think they will all go pretty well...being that it's still a lovely time of year, let's all keep up our goals and stay fit..


happy-1 on 09/02/2019:
Yay yoga!



Donkey - Saturday Aug 31, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 134.0

 I remembered to weigh in this moring - LOL.  Glad to see that the number is still within maintenance range.  I know my weight was a lot lower at the beginning of the year, but this 131-136 range is just about right for me, at my heigh of 5 ft, 3 inches (sorry I do not know the metric conversion off the top of my head) with a large bone structure.

My pain subsided and reconciled eventually.  I'm rather embarrassed to say that it was TOM cramping that woke me up early Thursday morning.  TOM affects my joints too, with swelling, soreness and sciatica down my right leg.  My back and hip problems are more vulnerable during TOM as well.  I've been to my doctor, who says that other than the anemia (which I am managing with OTC vitamins), everything else is OK.  My boss' daughter, who is a physical therapist, says that as long as I am pain free and able to move, then no other adjustment or action is required or recommended even - the old "if it ain't broke, don't fix it."  Once the hormone surge passes, I go back to normal, and thank goodness for that.  I truly am grateful for that.


I had goals and errands for this morning, but then I realized that we have a parade going through town, and won't be able to get out of my subdivision until after the parade is over at noon.


I have a lot of thinking to do today...  Goals, both inside and out.  Really, seriously, it's time for some serious work.  This burro needs to get back on track.


EVENING EDIT:  Did well -- but no weight training! -- but found myself being NOT so mindful & intention when it came to eating.  That is to say, I felt that I was munchie today, and reaching for food.  

Some of this was from thinking about work stuff, some of which I wrote about but deleted, because I realize that I do what I do to survive at work and get my work done. My work environment is toxic,  and unfortunately,  sometimes that rubs off on me, too.  I own up to my mistakes when I make them,  and that's all I can do. 

My work-life balance is out of whack again,  so I'm going to use the remainder of the weekend to reset my focus. 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 09/01/2019:
I also deal with sometimes uncomfortable TOM months when, yes, i do also wake up in the middle of the night and get pain down also my right thigh. i totally understand it can be so painful. don't be embarrased, it's just something that causes us pain here and there and thank gosh we can somewhat manage it with OTC medicine.

I cannot even really believe it's September! omg. on a similar note to you, i do feel i've TOTALLY gotten off track! one of the good things - i have managed my pain better than maybe several of the summers preceeding this one.

but like you, i know i have to do more (cardio for me) training.

keep taking care of yourself.



Donkey - Thursday Aug 29, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

I am taking this moring off from work to take Mr. Donkey to the Rheumatologist this morning.  Just want to hear what she has to say.

My beautiful orange friend at Cat Yoga was adopted last weekend.  I'm very happy for George... but kind of sad for myself.

The yoga studio was offering free "hot and fast" yoga.  No surprise that I didn't sign up for that one, even if it was "free". 

Did not do any weight training last night.  After my evening bike ride to decompress, I just wanted to go to my room and hide.  I went to bed in pain and woke up at 2:34a in pain.  Took some Advil and Tylenol and went back to bed.  Woke up feeling like I had attended the "hot and fast" yoga class... 

Looking forward to the long holiday weekend here in the US.  

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

legcramps on 08/29/2019:
Oh no, what's up with the pain? Do you know what it's from? Is it a chronic issue? I'm sorry you had a rough night :(

We get a long weekend here in CA too this weekend! Even though I had a short week last week, I can't wait for this long weekend LOL.


BearCountryGG on 08/29/2019:
Knee or hip pain? Did walking irritate that?? Hope you are feeling better today! Us cat people...LOL....1 is too much and 5 aren't enough. D's brothers family got caught up in cats very suddenly back a few years ago....the kids were both teenagers swearing they each wanted a cat...so off they went...to get 2 cats...and couldn't decide...so they brought the ENTIRE LITTER HOME...all 5 of them...now...2 are in cages because they fight...and refused to get litter trained...3 roam the house and would do okay...except...they are home alone all day and like to tear into things, knock things off surfaces and travel the 3 levels of the house and basically hide......the 2 boys are now adults...still live at home and couldn't care less about the cats.....SIL has never been a houskeeper...so then you can just guess.....no one is allowed in their house anymore...and it was a beautiful house when D helped him build it.....oh...and they also have a GIANT aquarium....that the cats like to fish in....UGH!


Maria7 on 08/29/2019:
Bless your heart. I sure do hope you feel better today.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
Good luck to Mr. Donkey, i hope he finds something to lessen his pain.

lol, seems you are finding out what types of yoga are best for you ;)

were you nervous about the dr appt today? is that why you had pain last night? i hope it's gone now.


Maria7 on 08/30/2019:
Hope you've been having a good day.



Donkey - Wednesday Aug 28, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

Daughter and I spoke to Mr. Donkey again last night, at dinner, about eating less meat.  Mindful portion control went well again yesterday, although I realized, as I was putting chicken on my plate, that I probably took a little more than what I *should* have, if I'm looking to reduce the amount of meat I eat. 


 Yesterday, we had a client come in with her husband to re-do their wills, since so much had changed since they had their wills last drawn up.  These are ex-neighbor's of the boss' daughter.  They brought their youngest child, who looked to be about 3 or 4.  Her husband looked to be in his-mid 30s.  She looked much, much older.  I told my boss as he stepped into his meeting to find out how old she was and if he thought I looked that old at my age, then I needed an intervention.

So I am 49, and this woman is 42.  Nice Lady is 72 and she looks about the same as Lady Client - wow!  Now granted, Nice Lady looks great for her age - people never think she's 72, but still!  I asked my boss what the story was, and he said that Lady Client had recently lost a lot of weight.  I asked if she had been sick, and he said, no, she just lost the weight.  Of course, he didn't say that I looked as old as she did, so then I asked him if he thought I was fat, and he said, no, if I lost any more weight, we'd lose you to the wind.

(Talk about putting my boss on the spot -- poor man...)

Anyway, Nice Lady, and Mistakes Girl (who is 27) had a conversation about this client, and how this has completely thrown me for a tailspin, with my whole issue about dying my hair.  Just when I had eased into self-acceptance, then something like THIS happens.


I am going to try to stay grounded and focus on today, and try not to think too much about things that in the long run, are inevitable or not important.  Right?

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
....i love that vocab word, Wanderlust! yes! i have it too, but don't exercise my own wanderlust very often as i prefer routine and being successful at my home routine. LOL.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I don't really have wanderlust. It's just not in me to want to see the world.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
the only way i know how to limit my meat is by taking a serving and putting the rest away right away. and also filling my plate with enough other food to be satisfying...veggies. this works well for me at work as i take a portion from home or from the buffet and obviously i cannot go back for more. once in awhile i do feel i need more protein, and i have more but usually i dont' have much because we don't need much protein at one single time at one meal i mean. i got this idea from my friend who used to be much slimmer. her diet is high in carbs and low in just about everything else. she surely doesn't need more protein though, and i realized it was another way to limit calories at a meal as she just didn't eat much of the protein. she'd order fried rice at restaurants and just taste the chicken (a few large bites and that's it - like 4 large bites worth) and then just eat the rice. lol she doesn't even like to eat the bits of veggies that are in the rice! but what i'm saying was, it's a way of minimizing portions. a few large bites of chicken is enough, about one serving. and it's a high quality protein, not like a quinoa or bean serving, but true protein. vegetarians don't even get the true meat source and they are ok...so i figure we don't need as much as we think of the meat/fish/poultry. for instance, half a breast of a rotisserie chicken should be fine. or a drumstick and that's it should be fine....in my opinion for the usual amount. of course, every once in awhile if you are craving more, why not.

so i don't get it...why does the lady look so old? maybe she doesn't eat well? usually even not eating well doesn't cause such a drastic difference. then again, who knows. maybe she had a gastric sleeve or bypass...that may cause serious loss of nutrients and possibly make someone look older (in my opinion!). does she not dye her hair?

i don't think you NEED to dye your hair. i do see people that don't on the subway. sometimes it looks nice natural, but it sure is popular to dye it. it does make you look younger, i have to say the truth.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I'm not sure why Lady Client looked so bad. Perhaps she lost weight too quickly or in an unhealthy way. Her hair isn't grey - the aging is all in her face.

I think dying can make one look younger but can also look artificial. I can probably still do it, because I don't have a lot of wrinkles (yet).


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/28/2019:
i mean dying hair makes most people look younger, not just you.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
I knew where you were coming from. I think we get to a certain point where it's obvious, and that I do not find so attractive.

On the other hand, when I'm totally gray, I do plan to dye my hair something grand like bright blue or red, pink...

I do not think I'm being clear. Little old lady with brown dye job - not so good. Little old lady with bright pink hair - AWESOME!


legcramps on 08/28/2019:
We have no idea how a person's life has changed them. My relative in Hungary, she is 53 and has had a very tough life. She looks older than my mother, who is over 70. She doesn't dye her hair, doesn't dress in current styles, etc. But who cares? I certainly don't; I have enough problems in my own life and I don't need to start comparing mine to hers. We're so different!

So does mindful portion control mean choosing a portion of food that will satisfy you, or choosing a portion you think is the 'correct' size to eat?

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
You're right - who cares? I've only recently become fascinated by the aging process, perhaps because my stepfather had become sick and then passed away? Or perhaps seeing it in my own mother?

My interest brought about my awareness in my own aging process. It's fascinating when it happens to you.


legcramps on 08/28/2019:
Nvm, I believe I answered my own question to you by re-reading your first paragraph, LOL. Mindful portion control sounds like an excellent way to gauge hunger.

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
Yes, I felt that I was putting too much meat on my plate at dinner, and then it would sit there like a rock in the evening. I would catch myself taking 2nd helpings of meat, just to prolong the dinner hour with my family, too.

So the mindfulness is to (try to) make sure that I'm getting what I need and not overeating.

There ARE other factors involved, too, but not the main thrust of my goal (environmental, ethics).

Funny how I do not want to overeat with meat, but I have no issue with overeating on vegetables.


Maria7 on 08/28/2019:
I bet you are very beautiful...maybe lacking a little self-confidence, as we all do, but gorgeous, nontheless!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
My co-workers were kind enough to say that my grey looks like highlights. Isn't that very nice of them to say?

I also can agree with them, to some degree, because the grey is around my face, like highlights... just maybe not the color I would have chosen initially.


happy-1 on 08/28/2019:
I dunno what could get a guy to eat less meat. Maybe more beer and cheese first!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
love happy's comment hahaha

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
She's a riot - makes me LOL.


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/29/2019:
to maria's comment: yes, donkey is very pretty!

Donkey on 08/29/2019:
Aw shucks... thank you!



Donkey - Tuesday Aug 27, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

Just a quick check-in to say that mindful eating went well yesterday.  I was very deliberate in the amount of meat I put on my plate last night, and then took no more.

Did not do weight training, but should get to doing some of that tonight. 

Trying to convince my boss to take a mini-vacation (long weekend) up to the Detroit area, to buy his wife a motorized scooter.

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 08/27/2019:
It is so nice when plans work out easily......hoping that that trend continues for both of us!

Donkey on 08/28/2019:
I hope so too... Oh there's always some fly in the ointment.


grannyannie on 08/27/2019:
Well done!

Donkey on 08/28/2019:
Thank you!


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/27/2019:
Is boss' wife older than him to need a motorized scooter?

I'm glad you are doing well. I really don't like to eat big servings any more of meat. like i was telling you. i took two meatballs with my lunch and even that seems like a lot. my friend Christine had made me some but she added some veggies into them and mozz cheese so they look bigger than they really are as there's more than meat in them. lately i don't eat a lot of meat so i am craving it. like at the water park, i was so happy to eat the huge hamburger. one of my goals for this Winter is to cook more meat/chicken.

i hope you are able to weight train. i had a good session last night...and i was reminded that i should prob not skip another day for awhile since last week's session was weak in some areas.

Donkey on 08/28/2019:
My boss turns 69 in October, and his wife turned 70 this year, but she has many, many, many health issues, some which have affected her mobility.

My boss likes to travel and do things. With his wife unable to walk much at all (she uses a walker now), this has curtailed his wanderlust greatly.

I'm training fewer muscle groups during my sessions, it seems. I need to get a couple of weight plates for my weight bench.


happy-1 on 08/27/2019:
"^^Thank you, Happy - I've been looking for an alternative to heavy whipping cream or half-half for my coffee!"

I bought the flavored sampler pack... so far... they are ok if you want a specific flavoring and are into flavored coffee creamers. After this though I will just buy the unsweetened plain flavor in bulk.

This is actually a really good way to do MCTs / bulletproof coffee. You can stick some in a ziploc or canister and put it in your purse for work/out and about. I still pour in a little of my dad's 2% milk, but at least the transfat and cholesterol profile is waay better.

Donkey on 08/28/2019:
Ohh, that's a thought - I love flavored coffees (or flavored creamers, in coffee).

I'll have to do some more research. I had a Amazon list going on, but then my husband went and ordered stuff for himself on his own. So now my list will have to wait. (Had a fight about it last night, now going for the silent burn...)


happy-1 on 08/27/2019:
Why did I read this post and picture him carrying her in his lap on a hoveround and their silver hair blowing in the wind?

Donkey on 08/28/2019:
LOL - oh Mrs. Boss is going to be Hell on wheels, quite literally. I told him to try out the scooter too, just so he can tell if it's a quality machine and if it can take corners tightly. I had to clarify that I didn't mean for his own usage, LOL...



Donkey - Monday Aug 26, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

The wonderful thing about books & libraries is that whatever crisis you're going through, someone has probably already been through it and written a book about it.

My library never has any of the books that I want at the moment that I want it - I usually have to do an inter-library loan request - but I think this was meant to be, because I found a book yesterday written by a woman who has gone through this whole debate about coloring her hair!  I hope you realize, it's not really about coloring the hair, but rather, one's approach and acceptance of the aging process. 

I would have started the book last night, but I also checked out another book about aging, but more so towards the end of life -- and I still have the book I held onto, to finish up.

I admit that I'm fascinated by the whole process of aging.  I think what really started it was my memberships to a couple of FB groups for "weight training over 50".  It's mostly men, but there are quite a few women.  However, some of the women are trying to look older than they really are.  And that's fine if that's how they want to carry themselves, but I see some of these pictures and think that they're trying *too* hard - it looks so unnatural that it's almost embarrassing for them (although they obviously don't see it for themselves).

Back to my friend who got an old-lady haircut, I believe, from what my daughter told me, that she got this hair style for convenience.  As her hair was getting greyer, it was also changing the texture, and this new haircut will be easier for her to manage/control.  I get that.  And her hair won't change any of the admiration that I still have for her.

So just as I made peace with this whole hair thing, my 19 year old daughter comes bouncing in with a box of hair-dye, wanting to change her hair and her life -- "happiness in a box".  So I asked her how come she didn't get me a box - after all, I want to be happy too - but then I was OK that she did not get me one too.

(More to say in my responses to your comments in yesterday's entry...)


 Goals:

  • Start weight training again (did a little on Sunday)
  • Get some awesome sleep (did this last night)
  • Keep aiming for 100 ounces of water.
  • Mindful portion control
  • Weigh in on Saturday -- MUST DO

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 08/26/2019:
I totally understand the joy of finding just the right book when it's needed.....so uplifting....and probably why the internet is also so addicting...type it in...and there it is....but a book, when you find it...is extra special.


happy-1 on 08/26/2019:
If you really have to buy a box, I’m really happy with the new loreal anti brass shades


Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/26/2019:
yeah, your hair is very fine and easy to manage. i don't share the same type of hair as you...i like your hair in all your photos it looks really nice long or the chin length.

totally agree about the books...lots of advice / authors in same situations or same emotions. books help me a lot to mentally "toughen up" or to expose myself to tough people/tough situations.

you've gotta share what you read about the woman & her "hair color crisis" as i'd like to know anything of interest..

i totally understand your friend and the chopping of her hair. after all, i did it myself. if my hair was thicker/smoother/more naturally fine with more keratin to keep it smoother, i'd have probably not cut it. but it tends to get damaged as i used to put it up a lot for exercise and i had a lot of split ends. i don't see myself struggling with long hair any time soon, either.

i've been getting more sleep like you also and i also am restarting weights tonight (took Sunday off / weekend off) as to relax a little more and give myself some extra down time to "feel good" in my attempt to not run myself into the ground (it worked).


grannyannie on 08/26/2019:
I quit colouring my hair when I was in my early 60s'. As for ageing, I think I was my most fit at age 60.



Donkey - Sunday Aug 25, 2019
(Lazy/dirty keto & recumbent biking (indoor))
Weight: 136.0

I'll recap some thoughts, and then I want to talk to you all about something I'm having an awful time processing, and I don't know where to go with these feelings and thoughts.


RECAP:

I moved my evening exercise bike yesterday afternoon and it has made all of the difference in the world!  Wow, I should have done that months ago.  I can see the TV better, and I have more room for my weight bench and my morning exercise bike.  I have not yet really done weights on the weight bench, but it's on my list of possibilities today.  

I was most productive until about 10:30a today.  Now I've had a breather for about an hour.  I still have stuff to do on my list, but I've gotten done what I wanted/needed to do.  The rest is optional, if I am looking for something to do.  This includes weights and yoga (easy yoga, DVD at home).

Beautiful sunny day, cooler temperatures. Need to enjoy these days before winter...


OK, now on to what has been bothering me.

My daughter's best friend's mom is about my age, give or take a few years.  Seriously, I'm 49, and I don't think she's much older, if she IS older.  She might actually be 46, 47...

Anyway, she has had this beautiful full head of naturally curly hair, very dark brown or black, but like the rest of us, the grey hairs have been coming in, but I'd say at least half of her hair is still dark.

So my daughter tells me yesterday -- yes, this is how long I've been chewing on this, I was so shocked! - that Mrs. B got an old lady haircut!  Rather than this beautiful mane of shoulder-length hair, now she has a shorter, bowl-cut, cap-like hairstyle!  Because her hair is so full and curly, though, it looks like a short afro, almost.  My daughter says that the shorter hair makes Mrs. B look like a little old-lady, with her hair looking much greyer with the short style.

Let me first say, there is nothing wrong with short hair styles for women. They can be cute, stylish, cutting-edge, etc.  But to have a hairstyle that makes you look older, that brings out the grey.... I cannot handle this.  And this is from someone who I've always admired as being modern, gutsy, forward-thinking.

I've been struggling with whether to color my hair or let it go grey.  I have only grey in the front, framing my face.  The rest of it is still brown.  I stopped dying it because my hair is thinning out and I was afraid that the harsh chemicals were causing more harm than good.  But now, seeing one of my PEERS turning into a "little old lady" --- ACK!  I'm freaking out!

Please understand, I have no problem with grey hair.  If my whole head were grey or even 50-50, I'd be OK with it.  I don't like where I have these whisps and patches of grey.  Once I have more grey, I do not think I'll have a problem keeping it grey.

I know some of you here are older than I, and therefore, have had the experience and wisdom of having gone through this already.  I guess emotionally, I didn't think this would happen for another few years???  Why would anyone willing want to look older than they are?

 

Progress as of today: 50.5 lbs lost so far, only -0.5 lbs to go!

BearCountryGG on 08/25/2019:
Well...about the grey hair...i had always had thick very dark brown hair.....and then the grey started...and got worse...i started dyeing it.....and it and that was fine for a few years...but then...what was coming it got to be all grey...and I seemed to always have a grey streak across the top of my head ( along my part)...I took my Mom to her doctors visit...and the dr ( a middle eastern man)...looked at the top of my head ( the grey part) and said...."If you were a horse, you would be worth a lot of money".....apparently he made note in my Moms file of my NOT getting his JOKE...(I got it...but acted like I didn't)...because 6 months later at her next appt...he tried to explain himself....I still acted like I wasn't phased.....after that...i stopped dying my hair alltogether...let it grow out...still kept it long and just put up with it....a couple of years ago...it finally ended up about 80% grey...but for some unknown reason...the back continues to want to come in a darker shade of grey...my grandmothers did this too.....Not coloring it has been great...i'm now just letting it be natural and it's still very long...although I recently cut about 4 inches off.....I figure....that since I have never been one to follow the crowd...I don't want to start now......and one thing that had always botheered me was that when I dyed it...it took the natural look away...my hair had never ever been such a solid color...it also took the shine and health away....so...i tried to hide it...and al it really did was point out that I was dying it because of that apparent "HORSE STRIPE" that always showed up about 2 weeks after I colored it...but my hair grows supeer fast anyway...I've always taken the attitude that it wasn't my business what others thought of me though so i don't really care what they think.....I'm just me.

Donkey on 08/26/2019:
This really helped me put things into perspective with my friend. She has always lived her life, at least seeming as though she doesn't care what others think.

That is to say, I'm sure her feelings do get hurt and stuff, but at the end of the day, she's very comfortable in her own skin. At least that's how she comes across to me.

I also like your comment about how it takes away the natural look away. Yep 100%


Horn_of_plenty on 08/25/2019:
it's a beautiful day here too. i did go for a bike ride but i'll admit i was on the couch most of the day.

maybe she was just sick of all her hair so she cut it in the summer for ease? for instance, the only real reason i keep my hair short is that it's not really wavy or totally straight and i have trouble maintaining it, so i cut it because it's easy for me to get ready in the mornings. that's the reason.

maybe she did the same.

i am almost 37 and do not have many grays. i started getting them a couple years ago, but, they have stayed for now at minimum. i was dying my hair with highlights to cover them up, but now i don't care again because for now it's just a few.

Donkey on 08/26/2019:
Yes, I believe she did the same - her hair, as it got grey-er, also changed in texture, and it became unmanageable.

I suppose I should embrace my grey highlights. I think that's what I should do.


Horn_of_plenty on 08/25/2019:
there are a lot of natural hair dyes if you do choose to dye your hair. but i have seen some women with lots of gray and long hair that looks nice. i do think keeping hair long keeps you looking younger most of the time.

Donkey on 08/26/2019:
I have so many cowlicks that I cannot do short hair. Also, being so fine, it tends to just fly every-which-way when I have short hair (layered).

However, I do OK with a cute bob, just under the chin, as long as it's all one length. I've been toying about going back to that, but for now, I'm going to keep it long.


happy-1 on 08/25/2019:
I wish I didn’t have to dye my hair to hide my roots. I should have shaved my head in solidarity with my mom... I’d rather have grey than dyed hair. Such a pain. Why not buy that brown hair powder spray and see if you like it and feel like it makes a big enough difference to be worth it?

Donkey on 08/26/2019:
GREAT idea! There are some sprays/powder applications that are temporary, that I could try. And I don't have to stop at medium brown. I could go for bright red, and see how I like that.

And if I don't, just do a shampoo, and I'm back to Donkey brown (with grey).

I might pick up a few kits of this stuff and give it a try...


innerpeace on 08/26/2019:
I go through this all the time. My hair is lighter brown and I will let it go for as long as I can stand it...it gets grayer/silver first around my temples and then moves to the top. I am one of the oldest people in my office and I wanted to just let it go, but then it starts making me feel older than I am and I'll get a comment from DH or the girl about how much gray I'm getting and I'll go get the gray covered up again. I once read an article that women over 50 shouldn't have hair past their shoulders... I have always kept my hair above my shoulders - maybe its a thing from being in the military for so long - but when it gets longer I think it starts looking raggedy and uneven and even feels different, so I'll cut it off again. Maybe it's vanity, i don't know, but I think if I feel better about myself than it just makes my whole life feel better and go better. I hope you can come to a decision and be happy with it.



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