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Donkey - Saturday Sep 23, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 130.5

 Almost at 100%:  my back feels just about normal (functioning-wise) and the sinus infection has pretty much cleared up, with the exception of some pressure in the afternoons and an occassional cough.

Because of the medicine I was taking for my cold, everything tasted dull and tinny (like an aluminum can).  So you would think that would cause me to eat less, right?  WRONG.  I kept eating MORE because I was trying to reach that point of satisfaction and could not reach it.  Also, I had no desire for any sort of raw vegetable, which is usually my "fail-safe" at work to deal with stress eating.  Fruit might have substituted well (although too much fruit causes skin  breakouts and digestive issues), but we were out of fruit!  I ran out of protein powder that I use to make my morning shakes, so I switched to oatmeal and walnuts for breakfast.  

My whole eating routine was out of balance this week!

THEN on top of that, those lovely hormones kicked in and had a Hungry Day or two, where I wanted to eat all the time.  And I sort of fell to that.  I often wish that I could eat less, but that never seems to work for me.

This week has been... busy, I guess is the best word for it.  Work has gotten quite busy again, to the point of where it would be nice if I had help, but my daughter (who was my help) started her new job this week, so help is out.  My son went  to Chicago this week for testing for the military.  I guess he's really going to do this.  Of course, I am very upset, but then I had a friend tell me that I must have done something right as a mom, if I raised a child who is willing to make this honorable and noble sacrifice.  That has been of some comfort to me.

Also, made appointments for our driveway to get sealcoated and the trim on our house to be painted this week.  The driveway is getting done today.  This is in preparation of putting the house on the market in January/February.  I think the next appointment will be with the handyman to make some cosmetic repairs.  

I fell short this week of my goal to fill up the garbage can and recycling bin.  Just too tired, in too much pain, too sick, not enough time...

This is where I run into problems:  I work late, come home, have dinner.  Do I use my ONE HOUR of free time to purge stuff in the house or do I walk to destress and relax?  This week, I've been choosing the walking, except for last night, when I went grocery shopping so I wouldn't have to do it today.  FEEDBACK WOULD BE APPRECIATED.  What do you think?


PS  To BiscottiBody:  I am looking not only to downsize, but to also find a property where I do not have to maintain the outside of the property.  My husband really cannot do any of this any more without suffering a week of pain and problems, and his condition will only get worse.  My son (my muscle power), is leaving in January, and my daughter will be with us for maybe another 2 years at the most.  I cannot ask her to be responsible for all of the yardwork and repairs that I cannot do (either due to my back or to my shortness), since she is only getting busier with her own life.  We are trying to figure out if we should stay in this god-foresaken state of Illinois or move out to Nevada to be closer to family or to move to a state that is more beneficial tax-wise and health-care wise.  A lot of unknowns right now, so I'm trying to stay focused on the first couple of steps, but my back pain sidelined that this week. 

Progress as of today: 56 lbs lost so far, only -6 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 09/23/2017:
It's good to hear that you are starting to feel better....and I hear you about eating waiting for the satisfaction point to kick in ... all I can figure out about myself is that somewhere along in life I started looking at food as something more than fuel...and it has become a mindset for me...I know it stated with extreme stress....but the stress is no longer there and I haven't changed back to food for fuel mode. We downsized to a much smaller house 6 years ago...and no lawn...we have trees and ferns right up the a 5 foot row of gravel all around the house...and we love it. We will stay in Michigan even with the winters...I know you have the same winter issues in Illinois.

Donkey on 09/26/2017:
I wonder if stress has residual effects. Sort of like PTSD but on a smaller level. Just because the stress stops, doesn't mean the biological responses to that stress do. It's part of what has helped us survive over the eons. Please don't be too hard on yourself!

Yes, I do know what winter is like. Michigan probably gets more snow than we do or did (especially if you're in the UP). Still, I love the changes in the seasons. I just wish my back were stronger to handle the maintenance.

horn_of_plenty on 09/23/2017:
I see you wrote a lot and will write to you when I am home :)

horn_of_plenty on 09/25/2017:
Hi J-Donk!

Finally I’m back home (at work actually) and ready to read this long entry of yours :-P…happy to read it and finally comment!

Oatmeal and walnuts is still ok, J-Donk. It sounds that you were not enjoying the “uncomfortable” change in your routine while being sick and not having full taste. I get why you were eating more, as a comfort reason I do believe….to make you feel better / try to get that same taste satisfaction without being able to taste things right…don’t worry. Give yourself a break in getting to up in arms with yourself (respect yourself, lady!!! You are a great person, wonderful human being – stop punishing yourself!) while you are recovering! I am 100% supportive of you because I know you work hard. I know you are a 100% giving, honest, considerate, caring person. You are a beautiful person – and I want you to realize this. Be good to yourself!!

I also know what it’s like to not want veggies. I get like this around my period I just cannot digest the veggies – too much bulk with the increased / decrease in movement of those lower ab muscles that work the body during that time of the month. I am reading your entry and it seems you wanted / craved a balance when everything was outta balance. Try to just go with it more….sorta like what I did during my trip – we ate mostly fried small portions of food at each meal including a pastry like a croissant filled lightly (mostly just croissant) with chicken (hardly any) for breakfast!

I put in my mind something similar that I was telling Innerpeace – I realized that my trip was just a short amount of time….and that once home I’d be able to gorge / eat more quantity for my meals with the veggies. And this is also how I have begun to think during that time of the month when I don’t want veggies – I just realize it…and realize that I will be craving veggies again soon once the current time passes me….don’t worry about eating different while sick and/or hormonal changes – because you will be accountable after those times!

Realize that moments are moments. Times pass. You can move from not wanting veggies to wanting veggies. To listen to your body. All because you had a plan to have protein powder, maybe that’s what is not best for a week. If you like a protein powder, you WILL buy it again, and you WILL start using it again. Even if not the week you were sick :-D Try to comfort yourself and know that you are in control of the situation, even if it’s not the usual eating and stuff – that you will return to eating that stuff you were missing when you are able or want to!

Congrats to your son on leaving for military testing. Is this straight out of high school or he went to college? I forget how old your son is. I also agree with your friend that your son’s decision to go is extremely honorable. As a mom, I understand your discomfort. But I do think you should be proud of him for the choice he has made.

Good for you to get the work done on your house! Proud of you for being proactive in the selling process…Even though you feel short on the recycling / garbage, it makes sense since you were sick. We don’t always finish everything we want to….But you’ll do it as you feel better.

I think that relaxing is a GOOD idea and that it’s not right to come home from work just to work. Things do NOT need to be always done ASAP. Your mental destressing and allowing yourself to relaxing for an hour at home is also important. You see, doing housework is important, but it’s also important to rest your body and mind. So I think it’s ok not to choose to be Homeworking after Working. It’s about balance. And it’s NOT wrong to choose relaxing. You HAVE to make choices in life and it’s good to choose relaxing. Life isn’t meant to always be a pain in the butt…you have to make the choices that give you peace and satisfaction. It’s OK to choose to relax. Many do. I do. It makes sense to not want to be always on the go. If work is busy, choosing a slower pace at home is not a bad thing. I think you are just fine!

You are taking a great step to move to a place where maintenance is included.

Donkey on 09/26/2017:
Thank you for your wonderful words of support. You are right - I'm starting to want raw vegetables again. Yay! Because I really do like them :-)

It's very helpful to know that this "change in taste" doesn't happen to just me. You're 100% right, though: in order for maintenance to be a long-term success, I have to learn to roll with the waves, so to speak.

Donkey - Saturday Sep 16, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 133.0

Had back pain - in various degrees - final got it reconciled thanks to stretching, walking, and a physical therapy appointment. Finally feeling pain free today and I woke up with a sinus infection. Wah-wah... but I'm so glad my back feels better.

Gained a pound... I attribute that to some irregularity. Hope that works itself out (figuratively and literally, LOL)

Donkey on 09/16/2017:
(Biscottibody - I left a comment on your latest entry.)

bearcountrygg on 09/16/2017:
Back pain is the worst, I just posted a pic of the one I use last night...see below.

Horn_of_plenty on 09/17/2017:
I see it's been not so pleasant the past couple weeks - please don't worry....i know it'll pass....keep your head up and not in your JDonk like a J*acka$$.....LOL JUST KIDDING...but jack*sses are a type of DONKEY...lol...ok back to normal commenting...

You'll be ok and irregularity drives me nuts too!

next, feel better soon and get rest FIRST before exercise. SLEEP AND REST will solve the infection faster. Take it easy. It seems you were wearing yourself thin with the back pain maybe it caused a lot of stress on you and that's why you have an infection? possibly?

feel better, do not worry too much, you'll be back on the mend. This bad time doesn't stick around forever!

Donkey - Sunday Sep 10, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.0

Hurt my back yesterday morning, doing my first chore, so everything on my list has been put on hold until I can move around better.

Until then, stretching, easy walking, more stretching, and rest. *sigh*

Progress as of today: 54.5 lbs lost so far, only -4.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 09/10/2017:
I'm down with a backache today too...spending it on a heating pad.....Hope you feel better soon.

happy-1 on 09/10/2017:
Tiger balm is amazing. There is no substitute.

bearcountrygg on 09/11/2017:
I will look into tiger balm...Thanx!

horn_of_plenty on 09/11/2017:
Donkey, I am sorry that you are injured. I think what you body needs is exactly what you said – REST.

biscottibody59 on 09/12/2017:
Hope your back is getting better!

Are you downsizing in house--hope you get what you want!

Donkey - Saturday Sep 09, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.0

Maintained my weight this week, this in spite of having carrot cake for lunchtime dessert Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday...  The cake was from a co-worker's good-bye party on Wednesday (even though her last day was yesterday).  I just could not resist.  But I did remain firm on NOT taking the leftovers home on Friday.  The cake has nuts in it (of course) and my kids won't eat that.  My husband doesn't need the cake, and so I'd get stuck eating it all, which I don't need and would only serve to defeat me in achieving my goals.

It does seem sinful, though, to throw away cake.

I have several projects lined up for this weekend around the house, still working towards selling the house.  I've planned my exercising times around these projects and my normal errands.  It promises to be a busy but productive weekend.

I can feel the change in the seasons.  It's becoming harder to meet my water goals because of the chillier temperatures, and I wasn't very motivated to eat fresh vegetables.  It gets dark at the end of my evening walks, but that's partially my own fault because I've been staying until 6pm at work.

My daughter has been my walking partner, but she was sick this week.  She has a job interview after school on Monday, and if she gets the job, then I think she'll be gone some evenings during the week.  She needs a job though, and so I really am hoping she gets it.

Well now... must get up off my butt and get started.  Hope everyone has a good day!

Progress as of today: 54.5 lbs lost so far, only -4.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 09/09/2017:
Maintaining is GREAT isn't it? Good job with the cake...enjoy but not too much. I'm feeling the seasons change here in Michigan too...but I love fall...and I love the changing seasons..Have a Great day!

Donkey - Saturday Sep 02, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.0

 Finished up another very difficult week...  Professionally, personally, just not a good week - again!  Painful to get through... but I did get through it. Thank goodness for 3-day weekends.

Diet-wise though it was great!  Starting off the month with a good number.  Push-ups are practically an established habit now, so I'm just staying with it.

I don't have any specific new goals for September except to work on maintaining what I've established over the summer.  The cooler temperatures and decreasing sunlight after work will make it all the more challenging.  I live in a safe neighborhood (AMEN), so I would be OK walking at night, but mentally, it becomes more difficult to take that first step out the door.

Progress as of today: 54.5 lbs lost so far, only -4.5 lbs to go!

jayhawkjen on 09/02/2017:
I love walking at night but I'm in a big city so I have to be careful. Have you thought about making a walking date with someone? That would make it more fun and you'd have a harder time getting out of it.

bearcountrygg on 09/02/2017:
I'm afraid to walk at night...in fact I'm afraid in my own yard at night....BEARS!!!! But I d have to say..some people can be scarier than bears...BE CAREFUL!!!!

horn_of_plenty on 09/05/2017:
I am glad you were headed into the 3-day weekend and I do hope it was relaxing if nothing else!!! For the first time in my life, I’m learning to relax enough to relax in the comfort of a friend (a guy). It was a really nice weekend because of this – he adds so much fun and excitement into my life! I STILL miss Paul, the one I never got because he’s so accomplished at being just that – a tease – but realize that at least with Ricky I am having fun and enjoying myself. He says I do the same for him!

Yes, totally stick with the pushups, it’s amazing how perfectly they shape a woman on her upper body and shirts and tops in general will fit better and better over your upper traps around your neck. Speaking of those traps, I saw a man on the beach that OBVIOUSLY juices (takes supps like steroids I’d guess) because he’s muscles looked stupid and ill-formed with his traps just looking puffy and fat rather than muscular for some reason I knew it was not due only to exercise…lol…

Yes you can do the walking…maybe listen to music also – if the neighborhood is safe? Even half hour or 20 minute walk will be good for you.

Like you, my only goal is basically to maintain my progress. I may actually lay off weights (which I do NOT want to do) in order to progress in cardio….if I completely HAVE to. Or, I could just be happy with being a “below-avg” runner…which sounds really like a better choice in my opinion for me (just talking about myself!)…

Donkey - Monday Aug 28, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 134.0

I was so hungry pretty much all day long...

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 08/29/2017:
I have those days too...thankfully it doesn't happen everyday.

Donkey on 09/02/2017:
I think part of it has to do with the wave of cooler temperatures and the noticeable waning of daylight hours - especially after work. I'm a Leo - I need sun.

horn_of_plenty on 08/29/2017:
Lately i do have a bigger appetite at work too...MAKE SURE YOU SLEEP ENOUGH...bc once you start sleeping better, your appetite will GO DOWN!

Donkey on 09/02/2017:
I hadn't thought to check my sleep. I don't think I've been getting enough. Thanks!

jayhawkjen on 08/31/2017:
Have you every tried a small amount of juice diluted in sparkling water? It really helps me with hunger.

Donkey on 09/02/2017:
I have a sufficient supply of naturally flavored sparkling water. So why didn't I think of doing this??? DOH! Thank you for the suggestion --- this is what I will turn to, to see if it helps curb the hunger. The carbonation is very comforting. It might help calm me down somewhat too, LOL. Thanks again!

jayhawkjen on 08/31/2017:
Have you every tried a small amount of juice diluted in sparkling water? It really helps me with hunger.

Donkey - Sunday Aug 27, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 134.0

Very relieved that the garage sale is behind us. Today is my day of rest - except for laundry.  Next phase of our Moving Plan starts this week with decluttering:  throwing out, recycling, and donating.  A little online selling too -- gotta give at least a try.

Logged in this afternoon to say that I've returned to upper body weight training this morning.  May do legs tonight while watching TV or just save it for tomorrow.  Also did running intervals on the treadmill that my mom gave me when she moved.

My arms are sore, but in a good way.  I think they've missed the weight training :-) 

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 08/27/2017:
Sounds like a plan......good for you...you are e4tting lots done. When we sold our big house 6 years ago...we got rid of at least 75% of our stuff...but then again...big houses hold and draw into them lots of stuff...our current house is 1,300 sq ft and half th4e size of the previous one and we are still overloaded here..of course e moved some of my parents things in 2 years ago...and that adds up too....I'm looking forward to a big purge here again in the very near future...we really don't need all that we think we need.

Donkey on 08/28/2017:
I will keep this in my mind, to reference when I feel like giving up... like I did right now.

horn_of_plenty on 08/28/2017:
Hello again J-Donk! Now I’m getting into fully reading your entries!

Sometimes a push of carbs (like that apple pie) can YES make you feel better. The higher carbs does help you with at least a positive mood. Then again, all I ate was carbs yesterday, except chicken at dinner, and I’m feeling TERRIBLE today. I also drink around 3 glasses wine – so many that’s my problem too!? And lack of sleep. I’m a mess this Monday Morning! Ah, but now it’s actually 1:16pm….and I’m leaving a half hour early for dentist at 4:30…planning to YES maybe take a sleeping pill and bed early tonight. Like very early at 7pm or earlier. I’m wiped out. Maybe I will not even need a sleeping pill, actually, bc I’m already so tired. Who knows! But back to you!...

Like you, I’d hate a garage sale, but good idea that you did it! I’d also hate being out all day long dealing with everyone. Very energy depleting! But hopefully you made some cash! So you are moving for sure?

Yes J-Donk, stick thru your job, stay, keep your enemies close and just stick it out. As long as you keep to yourself, don’t complain, you’ll keep your job. !

I notice that when taking more days off weight training, arms become more sore after. Now that I go weighttraiing only 2x per week, I am getting WAY MORE SORE than when I did it 3x per week (never got sore!) so strange! I don’t know why but lately I get extremely sore between weightlifting sessions. My body is definitely adapting to 2x per week…weird.

If you have a sore body part, rest it until its not sore and then you can work it again.

Donkey on 08/28/2017:
Moving is for sure. Next year, both my kids will be out of the house, and I cannot maintain it alone, my husband can no longer help, and can't afford to pay someone to do the chores for us.

Good advice on the job. I will keep a stiff upper lip.

Donkey - Saturday Aug 26, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 134.0

 Succumbed to a piece of Dutch apple pie at work yesterday.  Feels like I'm getting sick, and coffee and apple pie was the only thing that was going to make my throat feel better.  And I was right. 

We've taken the first step in moving by having a garage sale this weekend.  This is so not my thing.  Too many strangers...  I was grateful that my husband handled the first day, with my son.  Today is the husband, myself, and then the daughter if she can.  She hates these things just as much as I do, for the same reasons.

My nice co-worker gave notice today.  She is getting a very sweet job with the County as a Spanish interpreter.  Benefits, pension, insurance...  So now I'm left with the Nasty Co-worker and our Closing Guy who always sides with Nasty.  Oh well, kill them with kindness...  I will continue to do so.

Push-ups and weight training were a no-go this week due to having all of the garage sale stuff piled up in the basement for staging.  

Husband's double hip surgery has been scheduled for the Wednesday after American Thanksgiving.  Also, it's looking like my step-father's cancer has returned.  Waiting for the blood work to confirm.

Pretty sure that my son will be joining the US Air Force in January.  I can't talk about it right now.

Good news:  my missing library book issue has been resolved, and that is a huge burden off of my shoulders.

Progress as of today: 52.5 lbs lost so far, only -2.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 08/26/2017:
Found that book while you were looking for things to sell eh? Sounds like there is a lot of tough stuff going on at your house now...hang in there. I'll be thinking about you!

Donkey on 08/26/2017:
No, the book is still lost, but the library said they would take the responsibility for it. Did thing, because I returned it on time, so I wasn't about to pay for the replacement!

Ironically, it was the book that Horn of Plenty recommended, about how to reduce physical pain mentally.

This whole ordeal caused me much stress, pain, headache, and embarrassment.

bearcountrygg on 08/26/2017:
Yeah...I hear ya...I hate it when things work out that way...frustration is so stressful.....and that is an ironic title on that book!

horn_of_plenty on 08/28/2017:
I'll be catching up on you more later...letting you know i'm getting onto you!....and that i have to read both this entry and your later one!

Donkey - Sunday Aug 20, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 133.0

Too sad and stressed out this week. Took a break from weight training as a result. Mostly walked, just to keep my stress levels to a "manageable" level. Forgot to do pushups yesterday.

Progress as of today: 53.5 lbs lost so far, only -3.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 08/20/2017:
Breathe...............things will get better or you will get used to it and let it go...your weight is at a great place...wish I was there! You have done amazing things...just look at how much you have lost! YOU CAN DO THIS!

Horn_of_plenty on 08/21/2017:
Donkey, you are handling your feelings well. YES, you DO TAKE A BREAK when you have your emotions in a jam. Take a bit of a rest / break and try to rest / sleep more. You have this. I would be doing the same thing as you.

Don't let your emotions overcome you. Remember all the good things you have. Your family, husband and kids. Your job (yes, it's good). All the good things you did to lose weight successfully and the work you do to stay in shape. But rest is more important and you don't get out of shape by resting a little bit, trust me! I know!....anyways, you are ok.

Breathe. Like BCGG said.

You aren't treating yourself with kindness. You are OK!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/22/2017:
I hope you have been on the mend since you wrote this entry, lady JDonk! remember, you set your own standards for yourself. Sometimes your standards are way higher than an average person's standards...so let yourself breathe and don't be so hard on yourself. You aren't do anything wrong except failing at your own implemented extremely high standards. You ARE SUCCESSFUL, let yourself realize it!

Donkey - Saturday Aug 12, 2017
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 135.0

So I am back...  Not only is this the best forum to keep me accountable but also, I like being here with you all, reading your entries and comments.

 Yesterday was a tough eating day.  Did not indulge but knew I was eating more than usual.  This is a hormonal thing - same thing happened last month. Maybe I'm actually more hungry? (felt like it) Or more anxious and unable to manage it as well as normal w/o the hormones? (this is probably closer to the truth)

I've been doing well with my August goals, but I'm not sure if I will be able to keep up with the running goal.  I've been doing it, but frankly, I'm more of a walker.  And that's OK.  I still enjoy reading about other peoples' running adventures, and I know -- at least logically - that I can always jog/run if I feel like it.  But I'm not going to be strick about a regimen at this time.

Not sure if I'll be able to open the IRA account this month -- our money situation is changing and maybe not for the better --- but one HUGE step I took for myself (and Mr. Donkey) is to clean up our credit scores.  That is another financial goal I've been putting off, so taking that first step was really difficult for me to do.

On the plus side, weight training is going really well!  Still can't say I'm in love with it, but I'm sticking with it!  With time, I may identify more with weight training than running!

Daily push-ups are consistent.  I've skipped only 2 days and that was because I completely forgot to do them!   Hoping to see some nice arm definition by the end of the month :-)

Progress as of today: 51.5 lbs lost so far, only -1.5 lbs to go!

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/14/2017:
Hi J-Donk!

And we like having YOU here, reading our daily rambles too! I enjoy reading yours & giving you insightful advice based on my own interpretation of your entries ! For real… now…let me start a readin’…!

You know, it’s not such a bad thing on some days to enjoy. I’m getting a LOT better at enjoying in smaller amounts – though I still have LOADS of work to do…hanging out lately with this male friend of mine who always stops eating when he’s full…I have learned from him. When I eat with him, I never come home in a mood to binge. It seems he relaxes me unlike what my relationship with my best friend used to be…it’s interesting! Even if I eat mostly carbs with him – like on Saturday night I had mostly beer and salad along with a bite of his bratwurst or something for dinner….i didn’t eat all night long or even have an urge to…something about hanging out with him has been REALLY good for my appetite…dampening it /letting me indulge in more of the dessert and carb world without getting hungry later…!?

I also eat more hormonally. When it’s that time of the month, I do crave to eat more rich, low fiber, food like chocolate, cookies, breads, pastas, crackers, chips, and ices and that sort of thing. It’s always that way. This past week I really went with it…and in turn had a lot less bathroom issues as I really didn’t need all the high fiber in so many veggies…had mostly grains and protein last week…it’s ok to get off the track in terms of substance…when overall you are doing it right.

Try not to blame yourself. I was practically angry at myself last night for deciding to “hang out” all weekend without the gym (to go tonight instead)…It felt so different to have fun both days of the weekend – I don’t think I’ve had this much carefree living EVER IN MY LIFE…and I was almost getting angry at myself bc of it…well….i realize that’s kinda stupid thinking. I realize that NOW IS THE TIME TO ENJOY (all time before academy)….and I invite you to let yourself relax along with me!

Hi Donkey…who says you cannot enjoy or indulge – especially on the weekend!? Most of my weekends are usually higher calorie than weekday eating. And then during the week my calories are (usually) a hair lower. Allowing yourself to relax a bit and indulge is not such a bad thing…as long as you can MOSTLY MODERATELY do it….don’t start to feel negative bc of a slight indulgence. Soon most indulgences won’t even feel worthwhile if you know what it takes to really maintain the body you want. Your tastes will shift. You’ll crave to eat things that help you maintain (like when I’m alone on a Friday night shoving tasty veggies down my throat – it’s not because I have to, but bc I want to)…you can share food with your hubby of the more glutinous type and mix it with a veggie base….anyways, don’t get angry, just move on forward. Learn from what you enjoy…include it in your diet.

And nobody says you HAVE TO RUN. Many fit people don’t. I wouldn’t, except for my NYPD major goal – so I HAVE to. I may stop after being in NYPD and just do a little elliptical or other lighter exercices like bike / walking. I am doing it bc if I do NOT, I will not be able to get thru or into the NYPD.

You know, the most important thing about exercise is that you should ENJOY it. You are NOT being paid to do it. It’s all on YOUR time. It’s not your job. Simply do what you enjoy. If you hate running, do NOT do it…

But more on running: sometimes it gets me anxious too. You see, running is a very different feeling from walking. It has taken me since like I think late May to get just SLIGHTLY better at it. It wasn’t easy. And just like you, doing something that isn’t easy is UNCOMFORTABLE. And pro athletes know this: in order to get better athletically / fitness-wise, you have to become used to getting UNCOMFORTABLE. Within reason though – as injury is NOT worth it. So it’s up to you – both HOW UNCOMFORTABLE (within reason) you want to get and how important it is to enjoy what you are doing.

As per the weights, I will always also love them more than cardio. They are what shape a body. Weights also produce muscle that burns calories when you are at rest which cardio doesn’t do. I think that lifting weights has a greater long-term benefit visually / aesthetically. I think weights are worth it in order to “feel you look good.” You have to decide what’s worth it – what you want most. I think you should keep up the weights, definitely. Weights and walking is certainly enough….

My mom doesn’t do weights…and her body shows it. Yeah, she’s slim, but are shoulders look so delicate that I could break them…I wish she’d spend money to learn from a personal trainer for like a half year. Oh how I wish.

You don’t have to be strict on yourself. Especially if your goals are not for career purposes. If my goal wasn’t for NYPD and I still wanted to run, I’d be running less, not as much as I do now. I’d probably just go at 1.5 miles of a walk/run each outing instead of my current 2mi. It’s just not worth the exhaustion / tiring oneself out. Luckily I’m getting through, of course, I have NO OPTION. You do more….take it.

Also, it’s important to keep switching a routine and seeing what works. The good thing I’ve noticed is that I’m really NOT losing much strength at all. As long as I keep up the intensity and reps (sometimes more reps are needed now in weightlifting to maintain my strength only going 2x per week). As I’ve added more cardio, my body has changed a little more…my abs / waist have gotten slightly smaller. Legs slightly leaner. So what I’ve learned is maybe it IS best to sometimes keep this routine of 2x a week weights & 2x a week cardio. This routine makes it VERY hard to get better quickly at either one…weights vs cardio…but it does allow me to keep a strength in each. I think when you want to improve, it needs to be 3x per week.

And that’s why I think people sometimes find it hard to fit in weights and cardio. It’s been very hard to balance the two. Like, I feel I cannot (as a working person) be really strong with muscles and be a runner. Or be really lean as a runner and be good at weights. But you can do both and be moderate at both, of course! LOL….just writing.

If you are cleaning your credit scores, does that mean you are paying back your loans / debt? Remember J, you cannot do EVERYTHING at once…just setting doable goals like you generally do will get you farther than you were last month. Not everything has to be an end-all, be-all. Just keep on trucking. That’s all you can ask yourself…

You just may identify with weights more one day. They are really important for us women!

Nice to hear of your daily pushups. Remember that when doing weights or any exercise, one day of rest between can be really helpful bc that is when the muscles you use have a chance to rebuild!

happy-1 on 08/15/2017:
Hugs. Glad you are back.

Horn_Of_Plenty on 08/17/2017:
I hope i didn't kill you with the long comment! You know me, it's relaxing for me to comment and provides a nice break at work!

Donkey on 08/20/2017:
No, that's fine! I always appreciate your input and reflection.

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