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Donkey - Tuesday Jun 12, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 128.0

Today was a good day.  Good at work.  Nice dinner with the family -- but only got in 1 glass of water for my drinking-water challenge.  No worries. I will still be drinking more water tonight.

I'm done with my decaf coffee, so I'll stop eating out of the 16 dark chocolate chip stash that I had from yesterday.  I have 2 chips left, but I have no reason to finish them because I'm done with my coffee and satisfied.  They can wait for tomorrow.

Hoping for an early bedtime tonight....


Progress as of today: 58.5 lbs lost so far, only -8.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/13/2018:
Good waiting...Donkey...that takes great self control!!!

horn_of_plenty on 06/13/2018:
i have heard very good things on amino acids for exercise gains. i used to take some, i do think perhaps they did help. i stopped bc i just didn't stick with it...perhaps the ones i bought were very artificial tasting...like this sugar free cherry flavor lol, so i guess i didn't buy it after having it...and it could also be i didn't want to stick to the habit of taking them...but i do think they worked..it was a powder supplement to add to any drink like water.

sounds like you are satisfied for today...very good job! i'm due for an early bedtime tonight too.

Donkey - Monday Jun 11, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 128.0

Only managed 1.5 cups of water during dinner tonight.  I had finished most of my meal by the time I refilled on my water cup.  Still, I'm finishing up the 2nd cup of water, and it seems to be helping me avoid finishing the remaining  dark chocolate chips of the 16-count I grabbed.

I have a Facebook friend - who I met on Sparkpeople.com originally - who lost a LOT of weight using Advocare products.  She has since regained all of the weight back, due to unfortunate circumstances in her life that caused her not to be able to afford the Advocare system any more, plus the emotional distress of her circumstances, of her Advocare "friends" dropping her once she no longer bought the products, all caused her to revert back to emotional eating.

I have another Facebook friend who sells Advocare and is trying to get her home business started, but has not had much luck with that -- just as she has not had consistent success with losing weight, with Advocare or otherwise.  So it's kind of like I want to support her home business... but on the other hand, she's not really into working the program (which kind of dampens any enthusiasm I might have for trying it) and, more truthfully, Advocare is VERY expensive. 

So I've been trying to do the Advocare system on a budget, with cheaper substitutes.  I asked my first FB friend what products she felt really worked for her, and she said Spark and Catalyst.

I found a very good substitute for Spark - for much cheaper and much better tasting at Walmart!  Now I have found a substitute for Catalyst, which is an amino acid supplement, which I'm waiting to arrive from Amazon.  So once that gets here, I'll pick a start date, and we'll see if it was worth the $20 for a 90 day supply.

So in 3 months, I could be one heck of a muscle babe - on a budget, LOL...  Not really, but I would love it if I could be a little leaner.

Progress as of today: 58.5 lbs lost so far, only -8.5 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 06/11/2018:
I've seen the behind the scenes of mlm companies for weightoss. I peomise you you are capable of doing this without them. If you really want a business to help you lose weight we can start a blog together for losing weight while saving money and publish coupon sale price matchups, and run ads alongside. Much more likely to earn revenue, sustainable, and a hell of a lot cheaper.

Donkey on 06/12/2018:
I guess I just want to prove to myself that I can do this without having to become an Advocare groupie. And seeing what it's like with the 2 Facebook friends I have -- it's almost a love-hate thing I have with Advocare. I don't know if I'm jealous or resentful or what. I DO know that what they did to my one friend - the one who gained it all back - was NOT NICE, and for that ALONE, I would never use their products.

But you're right, I've essentially done most of the work already, by myself.

Horn_of_plenty on 06/12/2018:
Well, i've heard good things about supplements and all the major bodybuilders take em...so let us know how it's going so we can try it thru you!!

also, like happy says, we are always here for you. this is always support enough for me, people wise.

Donkey on 06/12/2018:
The amino acid stuff comes tomorrow. 90 days is 3 months' supply so I just need to decide when to start.

I agree with the online support here -- CANNOT be surpassed.

bearcountrygg on 06/12/2018:
Keep us posted about how you like that.....sounds interesting.

Donkey on 06/12/2018:
I will -- this is an experiment for me too!

Donkey - Sunday Jun 10, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 128.0

So after that successful work during the week, I went ahead and had dinner out with my husband.  Not only did not make the best choices (onion rings instead of fresh fruit), and not only did I eat most of what was on my plate, but I also had a scoop of peppermint ice cream for dessert!  UGH what came over me?   DANG IT....

Right now:  cool, cloudy, feels like we'll get more rain today, but it is not currently raining.  Another unstructured day...  I might go for a walk, especially if it remains cloudy like this.

It continued to sprinkle on and off, so the walk never materialized.  That's OK.  It's hard for me to slow down, but on Sunday afternoons, I watch old British & Australian mysteries on PBS, which I find very enjoyable and relaxing.

My daughter finished up my leftover onion rings.

I feel that I did better with food today, but when I went to the freezer in the garage to get a big bag of frozen vegetables, I noticed that there is still graduation cake leftover.  1 really big piece or 2 medium pieces, or one small corner piece and then 2 smaller regular pieces.

I guess I've really thought through that cake- LOL!  Anyway, I really want that corner piece, so I'm having decaf coffee with the chocolate flavored creamer, and 16 dark chocolate chips (80 calories).  After I finish typing this up, I'm going upstairs for the nighit.

Progress as of today: 58.5 lbs lost so far, only -8.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/10/2018:
It's okay....you are maintaining...and that allows some goodies too.....then if you seriously diet other days......you will drop a bit...and then you can eat what you want again....you are good....

Donkey on 06/11/2018:
Thank you - this was very helpful to hear. I second-guess myself a lot!

horn_of_plenty on 06/11/2018:
I do agree with BCGG...maintenance does allow some treats. I'm learning this too- still i'm learning as i'm generally a very all or nothing type of person...

Yesterday the bridal shower did have cake - it wasn't too good actually! and the coffee was GREAT...i wish it came earlier but it hit the spot!

The woman i was sitting with has one kid that's 4 1/2 and also a baby 9 month old girl. She already lost practically all her pregnancy weight. This girl is a picky eating who eats plain foods. She's not into fancy food or anything and doesn't eat a lot of greasy food or fried things. She's healthy. maybe doesn't eat enough fat. but, she's also a very mindful eater. She doesn't binge or ever had a food problem to my knowledge. she enjoyed trying bites of the desserts and was able to take just a moderate amount of food from the buffet and didn't even think to have to clear her plate. me on the other hand, i took tons of veggies, but also some treats of fried potato stuff and ravioli (just small amounts of all the treat foods) but i ate to finish so even though she ate tastes of everything her servings were probably smaller and my calories (despite a lot of healthy food) may have come out higher...ok...

so my point is that mindful eating and eating in moderation is always best for weight loss.too bad i like to eat to being full full! lol.

i'm glad you enjoyed one scoop. that's a good size. and an onion rings side with a meal is not necessarily the worst thing. what did you eat with the onion rings??

also, wonderful snack at home! the coffee and choc chips...

also, i think i'm done with my huge servings of whipped cream. it's so over the top...so unhealthy. i'm going to try to cut my portions a little bit at night...lol. we'll see.

Donkey on 06/11/2018:
I had what was essentially a chicken gyro sandwich with the onion rings. Also a cup of chicken noodle soup. I saw the lady across from me got the fruit plate side dish (instead of the onion rings) and I should have gotten that. There was a LOT of beautiful fruit.

My mom used fat free Cool Whip to help her in her weight loss journey. She would freeze it and then eat it like ice cream. I personally do not care for the taste of Cool Whip. It's just my biology -- I would love to have something like that, that I could use as a dessert crutch.

happy-1 on 06/11/2018:
You get treats. Tells your body there's no famine... but I dunno I'd want old cake, lol.

Donkey on 06/11/2018:
LOL on the old cake. You know -- I hadn't thought of it as "old cake"... I'm still thinking of it as "graduation party cake", but your observation is more accurate: Old Cake. Do I want Old Cake? Really? Hmm...

Donkey - Saturday Jun 09, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 128.0

At the lower end of the maintenance range this morning -- take THAT, darn title company donuts!  (LOL...)

I feel that it's important for Logical Donkey to remind myself that this is maintenance.  I find that this helps keep a practical, manageable perspective.  (Crazy Donkey does not have a healthy perspective on numbers.)  It would be nice to be able to stay at the lowoer end of my maintenance range, but during the cold and dark season here in Illinois, it gets much more difficult.  Throw the holidays in there, and the slippery slope into winter weight begins.

So what changed this week?  I had a couple of days during the week where I had a lower caloric intake -- more vegetables.  I also had a couple of extra walks in the evening, so my step counts were higher a couple of days.

My drinking-water-during-dinner challenge seems to have dwindled down to 1 cup of water during dinner.  I would like this to change back to 2 glasses:  this will be my goal this week.  I do make a point of drinking water on my drive home, so that when I get home and sit down to dinner (which is usually within 10 minutes of getting home), and then I continue to drink water after dinner.

Another thing I've been thinking of changing up is the decaf coffee (with flavored chocolate creamer) I have after dinner.  I'm wondering if a flavored tea wouldn't be more satisfying with less calories.  I have a cranberry vanilla tea that might hit the spot to satisfy that "after dinner sweet" craving that has been quite persistent.

Progress as of today: 58.5 lbs lost so far, only -8.5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/09/2018:
GREAT JOB!!!! Even with the temptations....you did it...wonderful weigh in!!!!!

Donkey on 06/09/2018:
Thank you! I was doing some mental visualization before I stepped on the scale, LOL - as if that would really change anything! But kept envisioning a number... Not the one I got, but I'll take it!

Maria7 on 06/09/2018:
Congrats to you. Every calorie counts including those you don't have. Smile.

Donkey on 06/09/2018:
That's true! I never thought about calories like that -- but very correct. Thank you! :-D

Horn_of_plenty on 06/09/2018:
the tea is a good idea some days after dinner. though the chocolate coffee sounds outright amazing and what a good idea for after dinner treat!

also, when i used to drive on my commute, driving home or to the gym or from the gym or whatever, always involved lots of liquids / drinking :)

Donkey - Friday Jun 08, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

The day before weigh-in and the title company rep comes in with a bunch of bowls of fresh fruit, boxes of cookies and donuts.  ****

So while I did not gorge on the fruit - like I did last time, which resulted in my face breaking out AND a weight gain - I still had 2 bowls of fruit... and then I did a little more nibbling after that.

Did well at dinner --- really wanted 2nd helpings but didn't -- but ran out of decaf coffee, so had only 1/2 a cup... and 18 dark chocolate chips.

I'm afraid this isn't going to be a good weigh-in for me this week.  Gosh, blast it all! 

Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/08/2018:
It's just a snapshot in time......it will be okay!

Donkey on 06/09/2018:
THANK YOU -- I must remember this. A real sanity saver!

Donkey - Thursday Jun 07, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

I didn't have much to say yesterday.  Work went much better -- I must continue to remind myself of the personal boundaries required for my work efficiency.  Gonna work hard at that.

Leaving at 5:30p-ish really does me well.  Gives me enough time to get in an evening walk.  I needed that yesterday; came home for lunch instead of walking, due to storms.  Coming home for lunch also screwed up my eating.  I'm not sure if I ate enough yesterday, but I just wasn't hungry.

Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/07/2018:
Sounds good!

horn_of_plenty on 06/07/2018:
yes boundaries are important.

so many people here like to go to lunch as a group. i'd MUCH rather go out and walk and do my own thing outside. after all, after sitting in an office all day, it's nice to get away from people even if they are nice!!!!! haha

Horn_of_plenty on 06/08/2018:
it's hilarious - i'm def not a huge people person or need to be constantly with someone. the complete opposite of the guys/gals i share my new office with!

happy-1 on 06/08/2018:
I think we are all on an online forum because we prefer to be on our own away from a group, lol. I feel you.

Donkey - Tuesday Jun 05, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

Today was a MUCH better day.  

I ran yesterday's scenario past my Male Co-Worker this morning -- not that I trust him, but because I think he has the most objective perspective and insights that I find really helpful.

He mentioned that this co-worker assistant is a Drama Queen.  Her whole life is drama.  There is ALWAYS something going on in her life that is bad/sad news.   And whether it's intentional or not, she draws drama into the workplace.  "She stirs things up" were his exact words.  

This was SO HELPFUL.  Once I realized that this is part of who she is and what she does - intentional or not -  I realized that I have it within my own personal power NOT to allow myself to get drawn into her drama.  So I did a few things:

  • I spoke to my boss, because if this happens again, I want him to be aware of this pattern.  I let him know that I didn't expect him to have a solution.  I wasn't sure if this was a complaint or just a vent, but now he knows.
  • I spoke to the assistant attorney and explained that the documents that were supposed to be completed yesterday couldn't be completed, because we're missing data.  I told him, As soon as the data comes in from the title company, DQ is more than welcome to prepare the documents.
  • So I approach DQ and let her know that we have what we need to prepare the documents, and she starts going down the path of "oh I can't do that because you said I couldn't" -- how old are we really?  I mentioned very calmly that I spoke to the assistant attorney, and we have what we need so please feel free to proceed as you wanted.  Then she seemed to be OK with it, mainly because I think I said that this is what SHE WANTED.  (LOL)

My lunch walk was shorter today because I took lunch very late.  Why do people think that lunchtime is a good time to call me?  Hello, it's my lunchtime!  But during my walk, all I could think about was Horn's GOOD advice:  KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT AT WORK.  Yes, and to this I want to add, for myself:  STAY OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE'S DRAMAS.

My eating was on track today for the most part.  At around 3:30pm, I wanted to go into the breakroom and snatch a few chocolate covered almonds, but couldn't because the downstairs clinic was having a staff meeting.  This right there saved me probably 250 calories.

I left work at 5:30p which allowed me the time to take a walk after dinner, to make up for the short walk at lunch.  So nice!

Now that my work issues are resolved - for now - I hope that I sleep better tonight.  I haven't been sleeping as well the past 2 nights, and I do feel it.

Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 06/05/2018:
LOL. **** stirrer!

bearcountrygg on 06/06/2018:
That gal you talk about reminds me of 4 people I know...who are bipolar. They ALL act exactly the same.......things are catastrophic...HUGE plans...EARTH shaking...NO ONE LOVES Me...NO one listens to ME....I have the POWER!!!!!.Threats to hurt people..and then they all calm down...and become perfectly sane...for awhile...until their next manic episode. My guess is that your coworker is bipolar.

horn_of_plenty on 06/06/2018:
your entry made me smile...i have more to add later...just catching up myself at work this AM but wanted to say hello and that i'm glad my advice worked. lately, i'm needing a reminder to shut my mouth too...as i'm in a new office and don't know the people that well yet...so better i observe than talk or say something wrong...which i do always, i have a tendency to speak without thinking of the consequences...so for me being quiet is just better too...there is so much drama in my office you wouldn't believe. i'll maybe write about it when i have more free time.

innerpeace on 06/06/2018:
We have people like that too. I always just think they feel they need to be the center of attention and want everyone in their business to make them feel important.

legcramps on 06/06/2018:
LOL! Great post. I work with drama-stirrers too. They work me up when I let them; I have to always be aware of how the behavior of those around me impacts me, and decide whether to "buy in" to their balogne or not let it affect my day. Sometimes, the latter choice is a difficult one to make, especially when you know they are just spouting bad news. Chin up!

Donkey - Monday Jun 04, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

I woke up this morning feeling extremely anxious about my files at work.  This set up my whole day for an epic fail.

My one co-worker, who has been an assistant to our associate attorney --- yes the one who stabbed me in the back --- for many years has decided today to start dictating what happens with that attorney's files.  So rather than just forwarding the email to me to address, she sends it to our stupid intake assistant (the one who makes a million mistakes on every file she touches) to handle. 

I told her, please do not have (Mistakes Girl) send out anything.  Let's try to keep people working on a file to a minimum.  It's bad enough that they're sending her settlement statements and closing confirmations.  

Then she decides that she'll start preparing closing documents --- just out of the blue.  No, please check with Male Co-Worker to make sure he's on board with that, because otherwise, he won't know what the hell is going on with the file when he gets it from me.  

And on and on and on....  Maybe I'm just being overly sensitive, but we have a system, and she's not really following it.  And that's a problelm for me, because I need to know what's going on with the file.  I know Male Co-Worker doesn't care who does the work -- the less work he has to do, the better -- especially if it's not him.  I just feel completely overtaken or trounced on by this assistant.

One added benefit of all this angst and anxiety:  I took a longer walk at work, and I sure didn't feel like eating much today.

Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/04/2018:
Hugs!!! Hope tomorrow is better.

Donkey on 06/05/2018:
It was a MUCH better day - thank you!

horn_of_plenty on 06/05/2018:
some folks get away with murder in the office. in the new office i'm in, this one woman is soooo spoiled. she can be so rude on the phone and demanding, and people take it. some can do it i guess. and this one is only 28. she's spoiled i believe.

Donkey on 06/05/2018:
Yes! I'll write more about my light-bulb moment in my own entry, but pretty much a parallel example.

Maria7 on 06/05/2018:
So sorry you are going through this. Good on getting in the extra walking. :-)

Donkey on 06/05/2018:
Thank you - now that I have some insight & awareness, I can do better... and I will do my best to do better.

Donkey - Sunday Jun 03, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

I mentioned the volunteering to my son and he was quite receptive to it (surprisingly to me).  Now let's see if he has the motivation to do something about it.  Getting started is the hard part.  I want him to do this on his own, not have me walk him through it.  He mentioned that one of his instructors had mentioned about volunteering with dogs as a way to prepare himself, if being a dog handler is what he wants to do.

I was reading some posts in the groups on the FitBit boards.  One guy was showing off (deservedly so) that he reached a personal best of over 100,000 steps in a day.  He mentioned that he can easily get 60+ just at work, and that he can run 4 miles in like 25 minutes.  Presuming he's telling the truth, and not clipping his FB to his dog, it got me thinking about how sedentary I am at my job.  I know that when I buckle down to get emails cleared out, I can easily lose an hour or 2 of any activity.  I started increasing my activity at work by printing at another printer that I have to walk more steps to than the one that I share with the attorney.  I've also broken up print jobs, so that I print documents on the printers at opposite ends of the office.  I take the mail out, I try to bring the mail in.  I'll go downstairs to get something out of the refrigerator in the conference room.

If not for my efforts, I would not get in many steps at all!  Yuck!

In my search for low-carb success, I came across a keto page through Facebook.  I've been looking for a NO CALORIE sugar substitute.  I love my saccharine (Sweet n Low) but I know that stuff is not good for you.  And I don't like agave, which still has calories.  And I cannot stand the taste of stevia -- way too bitter.

Anyway, I've been looking into sugar alcohols, and the keto page had receipies for Swerve, so I ordered some (to fill out an Amazon purchase), and I have to say... I don't like it enough to order it agan.  It was quite expensive for what I got.  It's not quite as sweet as sugar, so I have to use more of it.

And I haven't experienced the laxative effect that some folks have with using sugar alcohols.  Either I'm not using enough of it (no, thanks) or I have a very stubborn GI tract.  Not that I was looking for a laxative, but I appreciate anything that helps things move along smoother, if you know what I mean.

So I'll use it all up, but I'm still looking.  


Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/03/2018:
That's great that your son is interested in working with dogs. 100,000is amazing.....I am quite sedentary too.....even when I worked on my feet and climbed rolling ladders all day...I don't think I could have gotten 10,000

happy-1 on 06/03/2018:
Being a dog handler would be amazing.

bearcountrygg on 06/04/2018:
D's a diabetic...and his dr told him to use erythritol...I get it on amazon...( not sure if that is what swerve is or not)...but he likes it a lot.

Donkey on 06/04/2018:
Swerve is erythritol. I guess I just don't have the taste buds for it. Or maybe I need to try another brand.

Horn_of_plenty on 06/04/2018:
I have also heard good things about erythritol. as you know, i use stevia for now bc i like to have my sweetener usually in liquid form which is one of the ways stevia is sold.

i hope your son can do it on his own to set up the volunteering...if for some reason he doesn't i do think you'd have to go with him when is conveninent for you but i do agree that you should just try to motivate him with words and talk at home, before you actually and hopefully don't have to go with him...

100,000 steps is huge. he must have been traveling or touring!

Donkey - Saturday Jun 02, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 129.5

I can't believe I'm about to write this, but I was actually praying last night for a weigh-in under 130 this morning.  Such things are vaniety!  And that's really not what praying is for!  So I guess what I really meant is that I was praying for a little encouragement -- or at least asking for less discouragement, after the kind of week that I had at work.  My prayers were answered, LOL...

I plan to relax this weekend.  I have nothing on the agenda -- and as you may recall, this is kind of dangerous for me, because when I don't have anything to do, then I tend to get into trouble with eating too much. I'd like to get some outside walking in and I'd like to take my son shopping at the thrift store to pick up some shorts.

A few things to update on, that are not weight-loss related, but kind of are because I'm a stress-eater:

  • Last night, I had to get a little tough with my son, because he seems to be stuck.  He hasn't found a job yet, and aside from applying online, I don't think he's made much of an effort.  He needs to get out of the house!  So, since one of the things he mentioned wanting to do in the Air Force is being a dog handler, I would like to propose that he approach a couple of local animal shelters to volunteer as a dog walker.  I know it's not a job, but it will satisfy the immediate need for him to get out and be with other people, it will be an opportunity to see if dog handler is something he really wants to do (or rather, determine if it's something he doesn't want to explore), and it may open other doors for him.  
  • At least for now, I have accomplished my fingernail goals:  no biting, nicely manicured (by me, so not really all that "nice") with the shape and length I like.  My life didn't magically change with well-groomed nails, but at least it's one less thing to be down about.
  • I approached my husband with doing a 5-year plan, and he whipped out a 3-year plan in about 10 minutes.  Not exactly what I had in mind, but it helped me realize that the next 3 to 5 years will depend on some decisions by third-parties, i.e. out of our control, that will happen this year, financially.  In the meantime, we're making improvements to the house in anticipation of definitely moving within the next 3-5 years, once the kids have figured out their next steps.  

More to come...

Progress as of today: 57 lbs lost so far, only -7 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 06/02/2018:
YEAH>…..look at you......GREAT job making that prayer come true!!!!

I totally agree...tough love is in order. Our oldest got 2 football scholarships but chose not to use them. His best friend was going off to college in the fall.....right after sons high school graduation...he informed us he was taking the summer off before starting work...I thought D was going to have a stroke!!!!!!! he told him that now he was an adult and he would not be getting anymore summers off...that he would be either going to college and working summers or going to work 12 months a year....son was quite surprised!!!! Said "OH"....and went to start his apprenticeship......After 13 years of summers off and working at jobs as he wanted to like helping on area farms and in a egg factory...he figured the summer vacation thing was just going to continue. He started his carpenter apprenticeship...and moved out when he got engaged...he was 20 or 21 then. I also had all of the kids start doing their own laundry between the ages of 12 and 15. Since he is a legal adult...if he isn't paying you room and board...he can also be responsible for things like lawn, landscaping, snow shoveling etc...the older he gets and the longer he just lays around the house...the more entitled he will get.....he's a man now. We raised a couple of boys...and we had to teach them the ropes about adulthood....they don't always understand or want to do it all themselves...

Donkey on 06/03/2018:
Oh yes, he's definitely helping me out with stuff around the house. But I was firm that this is not a free ride.

Horn_of_plenty on 06/03/2018:
i do agree that it's best for your son to get out of the house and get out and work or volunteer (he can easily do both especially if at first he finds part time work...)....can you ask him to apply at stores / sales so he just starts working and sees how it is to have to be somewhere and stick to a schedule.

i do hope he's still exercising and he might way to look at what is required fitness wise for what he wants to do so he isn't ill prepared (like i was).

i also crave weekends to relax after lots of activity and social events! i hope you enjoyed relaxing. it's something we do need, as i always agree with you especially if you are a person who enjoys your quiet time! that is important!

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