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Donkey - Monday Apr 16, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.5

Not a good start... My back was stiff, so getting up took too long. Didn't want to face the snow but there it is. Not much, just enough to make things messy. Started riding my exercise bike and almost 10 minutes in, realized I didn't move my Fitbit from my wrist to my shoe (to register steps), so I lost about 10 minutes worth of steps for my daily count. Then, had to interrupt my workout to use the bathroom, and didn't make it back on my bike soon enough so I lost all my stats, and had to start over. Can I just go back to bed and hide?

EVENING EDIT:  Oh my word, you would not believe the crap that was waiting for me at work this morning, after I wrote what I did.  Here's a sample:

  • Plumbing work done over the weekend - broken toilet parts and tools left all over the place.
  • Pushy client came in at 9:20a WITHOUT AN APPOINTMENT to talk about her son's contract.  Client is foreign and very difficult to understand, wants everything at a discount.
  • 41 emails waiting for me while I'm dealing with the pushy client.

The best thing about today is that I got through it.  I'm charging my Fitbit now, and then I will go upstairs to get ready for bed and watch TV with my husband.  I'm supposed to do upper body weights but I think a day of rest will do me better mentally and physically.

Besides, I think I've proven to myself enough already today that I am strong enough to survive a day like today.

Progress as of today: 54 lbs lost so far, only -4 lbs to go!

Maria7 on 04/16/2018:
Hope you have a good day. Hope you feel better. :-)

bearcountrygg on 04/16/2018:
YUP...there it is...here too. Still coming down...apparently another 6 inches of snow by daylight tomorrow. Hope you day goes by quickly!

happy-1 on 04/16/2018:
Hugs. I am right there with you on the day of rest doing me better mentally and physically. I looked at the clock and it was 5pm before I knew it and I hadn't even drunk my one cup of coffee that was sitting in front of me.

horn_of_plenty on 04/17/2018:
with the missing recording the workout, needing the bathroom, losing your stats...don't worry - you've hopefully learned a lesson and you can try to remember with reminders or just remember the importance to move the fitbit to your shoe and perhaps use the bathroom before you start the exercises next time...

The point is to do the exercise - this you did...the recording and everything else is secondary. We all make mistakes and learn from them! Twice, i have walked into a turnstyle (once at work - bc we have to swipe into the building! and once at the train to swipe and walk thru a turnstyle to the subway train)...i just walked into it and that hurt and i realized - "duh! swipe your card dummy!"...so...we all make a mistake and that's how we learn! so your experience this morning has taught you some things you def will change for the next time...next time you go to the bathroom you can even write down your numbers that you were up to - if you need to get off the bike midway! :) there's ways around it - so the same thing doesn't happen again!

A much better end to your day...remember - work is one of the games of life...and you are good at it.

Donkey on 04/17/2018:
100% Correct - and that is what I tried to keep in mind yesterday, especially last night when I synced the Fitbit for total counts for the day. I made my goal, but just barely. I had to remind myself that it was actually a better day than what the numbers showed, because I had done more.

And actually, it was a better day than that because my day shouldn't be defined by a number. :-)

Donkey - Sunday Apr 15, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.5

 The weather here in Illinois has done nothing for encouragement.  Woke up to icy rain.  The trees in the backyard were covered with ice and we lost a major branch that will need trimming down and chopping up.  Guess who will do that, since Mr. Donkey can't do things like that any more...  Then it started to snow.  So we have ice covered with snow, covering everything.  My neighbor down the block commented to me that the wind last night knocked down a stop sign at the corner.  Totally flat to the ground.  This is ridiculous.

I will write more when I'm in a better place, mentally.  This weather just has me beat.

Took a half-nap - rested with my eyes closed but not really asleep - and then had another workout, just to be moving. It feels good to move.  Then I rested while I knitted in the afternoon when the TV reception came back (lost most of our channels due to the ice/snow).

Developed an upset stomach right before dinner, but that didn't stop me from having my last piece of birthday cake and some ice cream.  I've got my water bottle to finish, some mint tea to drink (for my tummy), and then some seltzer water -- all to drink before I go to bed.  

PLUS I forgot that I still have my leg exercises to do.  I'm determined to get my legs toned up after I had daughter take front and back pictures this weekend to prove to myself that I really do have tree trunk legs.  I do.

Progress as of today: 54 lbs lost so far, only -4 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/15/2018:
Your weather sounds like our weather....so we are getting sleet after our rain..on top of our snow and ice....it just doesn't seem to stop...

Donkey on 04/15/2018:
They are saying after Monday, we'll have moderate temperatures in the low 50s. I'm not sure I believe that quite yet. ;-)

happy-1 on 04/15/2018:
Would you trade with me? I've got oppressive heat and dryness even though it's only April... and zero shade. And all my plants are dead.

happy-1 on 04/15/2018:
I feel like that branch is meant for some broke teen on your block to make $20.

bearcountrygg on 04/16/2018:
I'm thinking keep that broken limb for your son to work on if he gets home in the near future......chain saws can be pretty dangerous...my Mom bought herself a little one and she scared ME half to death when she used it........they can kick back and do terrible damage.

horn_of_plenty on 04/16/2018:
TEA is so good ... i used to be a major tea drinker...but haven't been drinking it regularly in a couple years now...

sorry about your weather, our weather is also chilly but not snowy just rainy...it will warm up...i've been moving more also - even though it sorta tires me out to move, it's been better and i feel better by the end of the weekend.

Donkey - Saturday Apr 14, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.5

Woke up this morning only to find that Mr. Donkey had been up most of the night with back pain from his AS, mostly due to the weather, I'm guessing.  Cold, wet, VERY windy weather, so no desire to be outside today whatsoever.  However, I think I'd like to take my daughter to the store to get bird seed and salt for the water softener.  Maybe she'd like to stop for coffee, too.

This past week, I've used the new recumbant bike for my morning workouts a few times, although I still love my old recumbant bike the best, even though it's very noisy and doesn't offer much resistance.  I notice with the new bike, I sweat.  Not a lot, like I used to in my old gym days on the elliptical, but definitely more than when I use the old bike.  So why do I still use my old bike? It's great to use just to get me moving and limber.  As I get older, my workouts don't have to be bustin' all the time. 

I plan to ride a little more later this afternoon and do some weights.  I could have done weights this morning, but decided I would rather have breakfast and write here, and save a workout for later.

I wore my new pants yesterday and they were so comfortable!  So I have no fears about wearing the other pairs to work at any time, Queen Bee be damned. 

I almost feel sorry for Queen Bee, if she weren't so obnoxious and mean.  She has tried so many times to lose weight and invested quite a bit of money to no avail.  I'm sure she's heard so many times that she has a beautiful face, if she'd only lose some weight.  Her mom is a very tiny woman (works hard at it) and her dad is tall and lean.  So I'm sure some of her comments to me about clothes that don't fit, or the vegetables that I eat, or new pants (comments anticipated) stem from envy and insecurity.  And I'd have more pity if she just weren't so nasty about everything.

Anyway, enough energy today thinking about her and work.  Even though I don't have much planned for today, I DO plan to make it a nice day with things that I like to do:  knit, read, get laundry done, spend time with daughter, sit with my husband as he catches up on his sleep. 

Progress as of today: 54 lbs lost so far, only -4 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/14/2018:
Awww....Hope your hubby feels better......are you getting the same weather we are? I too like to go back and use old familiar equipment.....something about the familiarity is nice...like a comfy old pair of shoes..... I think you answered the question about your coworker...she is jealous.....I'm happy to hear you are comfy in the new pants at work......she will lose when she gets it...if she never gets it...then she will have to live with it...but don't let her dim your shine.

happy-1 on 04/14/2018:
Sometimes I think that when I was fatter anyone doing better for themselves made me feel guilty and angry and although I don't think I was mean about it... there's definitely an element from what you say she does that is about "keeping you down on the farm". Especially if you are all at an employer that doesn't provide health coverage... it fosters that culture.

Maria7 on 04/14/2018:
Nice plan for today.

Horn_of_plenty on 04/15/2018:
Excellent plans for the weekend with family and doing things that will make you happy. I'm planning also on a coffee today! Lately, i'm enjoying more coffee :) enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Donkey - Friday Apr 13, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 132.5

Do the right things, gain weight... *sigh*

Queen Bee took today off, so I will take this opportunity to wear my new pants. This will allow me to get used to the form fitting fit, so that I'm in a stronger place when I wear them and she's making her obnoxious comments.

Progress as of today: 54 lbs lost so far, only -4 lbs to go!

horn_of_plenty on 04/13/2018:
But remember what i said - try to be your own person even when she's there...how's her body, btw?

I'm glad you wore your new pants!

Happy Friday!

bearcountrygg on 04/13/2018:
The same thing I just said to HOP...It's normal...the scale is just a snapshot in time.

Maria7 on 04/13/2018:
Hope you have a good day.

jayhawkjen on 04/14/2018:
New pants, yay!!!

Donkey - Thursday Apr 12, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

It is my daughter's birthday today!!!  She is 18 years old - WOW, how did THAT happen?

Woke up early today on my own - that's a good sign of a great day!  Had a great workout, probably going to leave early to get to work early.  Warm and sunny out :-)

While exercising, I was thinking about adversity and dealing with disappointments in life, how it's important to keep trying, no matter what, and that what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.

We have not heard from our son, so maybe he managed to get himself another week to try to pass.

Thank you all for the birthday wishes for my daughter.  I baked her cake tonight -- oh my, the house smells SO heavenly.  Yes, this is what Heaven must smell like:  freshly baked yellow cake.  If Love had a smell, this would be it.  

I may not get around to frosting/decorating until tomorrow morning, because the cake has to be completely cool.  I'm sure there's short cuts, but I don't want to mess this up by rushing it.

Today was the last of the warm weather without rain/snow.  I had a wonderful walk at lunchtime.  I'm really surprised my final step count wasn't higher for the day.

I've been sticking to my plan to update FitBit at the end of the day.  I seem to hit 10 or 11 of the 12 days with enough steps.  So close!  But it's better this way, to help keep me sane.

I will do my best to remember to weigh in tomorrow morning.

Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/12/2018:
Very true...and Happy Birthday to your daughter.

horn_of_plenty on 04/12/2018:
Yes, your son can still do something like train to be a PO or something? Apply to be a firefighter if it's paid...all the civil service jobs are good....a court officer makes ok money too...if he leaves that first opportunity, even garbage men around here make GREAT money. just saying. civil service jobs seem good...he's still have to exercise but he's young enough to be able to actually get fit quicker i think than me at least.

I agree with what you wrote below...

Happy bday to your daughter...18 sounds so young to me...but that's definitely a milestone! :)

But, if he wants to train to do one of those jobs, he has to also work in a field that's on his feet, i'd say, is preferable to a desk job...

i hope though he just passes the pushup test.

horn_of_plenty on 04/12/2018:
sometimes, the adversity and disappointments are what cause us to become stronger...usually that's the case anyways.

trishpiglet3 on 04/12/2018:
Happy Birthday to your daughter! :) Major achievement raising a child to be an adult

Maria7 on 04/12/2018:
Happy bd to your Daughter. :-)

happy-1 on 04/12/2018:
What about fire inspector? https://www.firescience.org/how-to-become-a-fire-inspector/

Happy birthday to your daughter!!!!

Good job cougar mom!

Donkey on 04/12/2018:
"cougar mom" - LOL :-) You help me really look at myself in different ways. THANKS!

Donkey - Wednesday Apr 11, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

So.... as you know, my son did not pass his push-ups test today.  He had a meeting at 2pm this afternoon with his training instructors.  We thought we might get a call this afternoon with instructions on when to pick him up at the airport tomorrow, but we haven't heard from him.  So maybe we'll hear from him tomorrow?  IDK... he will come home to no job, no medical insurance, no car insurance, and no car.  All of that has been changed and can't be changed back easily or at all - especially the medical insurance!  Well...  failure is an opportunity to challenge yourself.  Lord knows I've hit rock-bottom myself more than once in my life.  It will just be difficult.

I was pretty much useless at work after I got this news.  Finally told my boss at 4pm so that he would know why I just couldn't deal with some of the files that needed help. I need to go to bed and start a new day tomorrow.

I almost weighed in this morning, but didn't because it's a Wednesday.  I'm not sure I want to weigh in tomorrow, as I did not eat much because the news put a damper on my appetite.  I did not have my 2nd breakfast --- yes, I'm a Hobbit --- and I did not have my second piece of fruit, didn't finish my broccoli, didn't snack on my raw vegetables.  Oh, what I did have was the rest of a small bag of Jelly Belly's that one of the agents gave as a gift.  That was about 150 calories.  I don't want to weigh in on my usual Saturday because dinner on Friday will be salty, and there will be cake for my daughter's birthday.

That's how much my weight fluctuates.  Having a special dinner or dessert can really sway the numbers in a big way that isn't very reflective of where I actually am overall.  Very frustrating.

So my plan for tonight, to get through it:  a little cardio to warm up, upper body weight training, shower, tv, bed.

Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/11/2018:

Donkey - Tuesday Apr 10, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

So I realized that by the end of the week -- end of tomorrow, actually -- all of my recent worries will be resolved:

  • Hormone/lower back pain  
  • Son's fate
  • Need Spring-like weather

Making tomorrow morning very difficult to get up and face the day.

My dear daughter's birthday is Thursday, but we are celebrating Friday. So I think I will try to weigh-in Friday morning - if I can remember - because dinner is sure to be salty.  I will do my best.


Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/10/2018:
Sometimes its easy to wish future days away...I'm doing that myself right now.....I guess they will come soon enough. Hang in there.

Maria7 on 04/10/2018:
Glad you at least are looking forward to having relief of your worries. Stress is not fun. Hoping all goes well for everyone.

horn_of_plenty on 04/11/2018:
My fingers are crossed for your son. Is it easy to be in touch with him?

Always proud of you!

Maria7 on 04/11/2018:
Hope you are having a good day. Getting closer to Friday! :-)

bearcountrygg on 04/11/2018:
I'm sorry to hear that your son didn't pass...but when 1 door closes...another opens.....hopefully there is a job/occupation that will be a better fit for him...I firmly believe that what happens is what is supposed to happen...and we don't always know why...but over time...the reason will show its self. He will figure it all out. Hugs to you...I know you were hoping that he would find himself there...

Donkey - Monday Apr 09, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

All of my recent stressors will be resolved by week's end.

I thought I'd come back from the bridal shower all b****y, wanting to kick some workout butt and WOW everyone with arm muscles and shapely legs at the wedding in 6 weeks.

Instead, I left feeling sad that we're all getting older, regretting some of the choices I've made in my life that would have made things easier or better now. Just sad.

Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

horn_of_plenty on 04/09/2018:
Just remember that the choice remains yours on how you want to see your life. What i mean is, you can take the negative view or the positive. SAME FOR ME.

I saw a girl at the gym yesterday. She had the most negative sad face on. It never changed. I saw her arrive and saw her again later. I almost wanted to ask her what was wrong. But i didn't because she didn't look approachable..

It is up to you how you choose to represent / present yourself. Seeing her at the gym reminded me that I SHOULD put a smile on my face. I should attempt to look my best (lol, i totally don't on this end clothing wise and based on what i wear, no way...).

but, what i'm saying is, you are saying you are sad about things that you cannot even change, literally: you are feeling sad you are getting older. you are regretting PAST choices. This is not healthy bc you CAN'T change those things.

You can ONLY change the now and the future.

So, try to continue with the things that DO make you happy now. Those things do include exercise and you DO want to change your appearance you've said a little bit...the nails, the clothes. This is good and you are on a good path.

Your mind i think is looking to the past as a habit as what you've always done. Try to see yourself at the preset. At the present, you are successful! You look beautiful! You are improving your fitness! Keep this.

Perhaps you do not love social gatherings? For me, they are stressors more than not...perhaps (i may be wrong here) you were stressed by the gathering, people getting older - made you think of the past - and perhaps that started your self reflection on the past in general.

But that is NOT you now!

You DO look good now.

You are kicking the workout butt ...

Maintenance is another beast, yup!

Being negative is a hard habit to break. I've actually let it seep in a little bit into my workouts - by thinking i cannot get better or that the possible has certainly become impossible.

Try to lift yourself up a bit by remembering the success you DO have now.

You have to give yourself credit for your success not only think of your failures!

Ok...you cannot change things completely in 6 weeks. and you do look good now...

you are already at maintenance...pretty much same for me.

I think the wedding is a good goal, but perhaps instead of only a weight focus, also focus on your happiness and plan things to do to make yourself feel better...like other rewards.

i'll have to give this more thought later. i'm in a similar boat as you.

horn_of_plenty on 04/09/2018:
oh, with myself, the goal is to now get to a new workout level. To move to higher weights...i think i was letting things slide...and forgetting how hard i did work and push myself when i was starting the routine. for me, as winter passes and those low feelings and small weight gain, i'm ready to do things differently now.

but i guess happiness is all of life..not just weight and workout goals.

horn_of_plenty on 04/09/2018:
other ways to be happy for me include being outdoors more, and doing 1 fun thing on the weekend (usually social with Ricky) to expand our minds...see a movie at home, walk at a new park, go somewhere new.

i think you have to try to get out of a rut by doing something different :) but also balancing that with some time to relax (for me, i need this).

perhaps by planning your next day off from work.

Maria7 on 04/09/2018:
I couldn't agree more with what all HOP has taken the time to write above, bless her heart...this is actually good advice for all of us. WTG, HOP! Cheer up, Donkey! You're beautiful, just as you are! (AND you are YOUNG!!!! You should have no stop signs in your way of your aspirations at your age, especially.) Perfectionism can sometimes get the best of us all! We all love you! Be happy (don't worry)! :-)

bearcountrygg on 04/09/2018:
Basically...NO ONE ever feels totally put together...only we know all of our failures personally.....and so often the ones that come off as together...are really the most insecure. Instead of reminding ourselves of our problems...we instead reminded ourselves that EVERYONE has problems of their own...and that we all only have a certain time here on this earth and we are supposed to take care of each other and take care of ourselves...and relax a little and just enjoy our time together. Shortly you will all be at a wedding together and your opportunity to have some time together may possibly be the last time you see many of them....you can just relax and enjoy yourself.

bearcountrygg on 04/09/2018:
Well...rereading what I wrote sounds ominous...LOL...I meant you may not ever some of the oldsters again.

Maria7 on 04/10/2018:
Hope you are having a good day.

Donkey - Sunday Apr 08, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

Argh I forgot to weigh in again today!  I realized it after I was mid-way into my workout, already having had a fully cup of coffee and halfway through my 24 ounce water bottle (3 cups, 750 mL), so no weigh-in this week.  I'm OK with that.

Yesterday.... I finally took a step forward and bought some pants for work that actually fit me.  Before yesterday, I have the sport-knit jersey pants with elastic waist from Lands End that are now way too baggy.   My co-workers have commented several times --- especially the Queen Bee who feels that she needs to voice her opinion about everything -- that my clothes don't fit any more.

So I dragged my dear daughter to Goodwill to help me discern if the pants I chose actually fit or not.  I truly cannot be objective about this any more, especially in fitting rooms where the mirrors and lights play tricks on my perception.  She was sort of laughing at me because she could see that my judgment is impaired when it comes to clothing on myself.

I am short, so petite sizes are best length-wise, but I am not small, so I have wide hips and thick thighs.  Petite clothing is cut for a short AND smaller frame.  I think I need to start a line of sizes called "Petite Plus" for us solid shorties.  Also, because my pelvis is misaligned, I cannot wear anything that isn't flexible, so like the stiff waists that you find in jeans are totally out, because the constriction causes the misalignment to affect my back.  

I pulled 5 pairs of  "stretch" petite 8's, 2 black, 2 grey, and 1 beige (for warmer weather).  I THINK they all fit -- so hard to tell because they are form fitting around the thighs and seat, but I think that's how work slacks are supposed to be.  HOWEVER, I just could not bring myself to buy the beige pants...   Too revealing, I think.  I have completely mixed feelings about this.  On the one hand, I'm proud that I did not spend money on something that would most likely sit in my closet unworn.  On the other hand, I feel like I lost a little of the battle of body-image.  IDK -- my daughter said, There will always be a pair of beige pants you can buy at a later date.  Honestly, I know she just wanted to get out of there, but she's so right.  I raised a smart, wise girl.

And the whole time, I'm thinking of Queen Bee at work making comments -- and she always talks SO LOUD:  "OH ARE THOSE NEW PANTS?"  "WOW WEARING PANTS THAT FIT!" etc., etc.  I mean, how do I answer that?  What am I supposed to say to that?

Anyway... on to today.  I am leaving soon to attend a bridal shower for my husband's niece, so another food challenge.  I had a volunteer appreciation breakfast yesterday, which I think I did pretty well at, choosing protein and fresh fruit, stayed away from pastries - but I've been there before, so I had a pretty good idea of what to expect and planned appropriately.  I'm compeltely out of my element with this party though.  I won't know many people, and those that I do know, I don't like and they don't like me.  I'm rather fascinated by my niece.  While she is beautiful, she is quite overweight.  And yet, the extra weight didn't impare her from finding a nice, handsome man to marry.  I will write more when I return from the party, as I have several thoughts about how this will relate to food, goals, exercise, and overall mental well-being.

Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
PS Wedding ring with engagement ring is still a little tight, so I'm just wearing the engagement ring. It's not a big stone, but I do like to admire its sparkle :-)

Maria7 on 04/08/2018:
Hope you have a good day today.

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
It was nice, if not a little tiring and overwhelming. I really treasure my quiet time, and today was not quiet, but it's good to mix it up with family, so I'm grateful.... Just wish I didn't have to go to work tomorrow, LOL.

bearcountrygg on 04/08/2018:
Sounds like an interesting day....and I say good for you...on leaving the beige pants behind...from a distance women look like they are naked when they are wearing beige pants!!!Just my opinion! And talk about revealing...when I wore scrubs to work I occasionally wore white ones.......then many wearings in....I caught two co workers with their heads together saying...YUP...you can see right through those white pants! Well...guess who never wore white scrub pants again. LOL Your coworker sounds like a big mouth jerk......I've worked with people like that too...I guess there are plenty of them out there unfortunately. And finally...on your husbands overweight niece and finding a nice man...when it all comes down to it...looks fade...and the personality remains...marry the personality that you can live with...because years down the road...the body will be different...count on it.

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
LOL on the white scrub pants story! Oh I'm so sorry that happened to you, but it was kind of a funny story.

That's so true about bodies changing over the years. The young couple is very lucky to have found each other -- they both seem so nice.

Horn_of_plenty on 04/08/2018:
I'm happy your daughter was able to go with you to get the pants. To make you feel better, i don't generally wear beige either. but if you did buy them, just wear them like a QUEEN that YOU ARE!

As for the queen bee, she reminds me a little of my sister's husband. He's a big man, literally he's prob around 6'2" and a decent build muscularly. he just has a big ego and thinks he does no wrong. he'll say things to people and not really care what effect he has on them or their feelings. he can act like a little kid and somehow people take him like a man. it doesn't really matter what he says or does - people listen.

Well, regarding him, he recently pissed me off (well he always does) but this week i was thinking a bit too much how i'm not friends with my sister's husband on facebook! and when i go to take pictures of the family sometimes just to have because we do not take photos together too often, he says "don't take any of me." and i have to listen of course! but i do not like mostly that he will not consider being my friend on facebook. i think i was friended him, i am not sure, and he didn't accept! for a long time, i was so annoyed i blocked him. he's friends with other people...but me - i just have to be the one not on his list and i'm the sister of his wife. Ricky told me to just turn my head to it. but my coworker, who i shouldn't speak to but of course i do (he's 70 and retiring and it's only us working together in a small room)...well i told my coworker who said it's this simple: your brother in law just doesn't like you! so my brother in law, by not wanting photos taken by me or posted by me and not wanting to be my friend on facebook - means he doesn't like me which made sense once my coworker put it that way....

what i'm saying is, i let the stupid things get to me. and shouldn't have. next time he tells me not to take photos..or of him, what i should do is act like a big guy myself and say - "i'll take photos when i want to."

he tried to actually get me in trouble at a dinner recently one week ago. when i was taking extra veggies that my mom didn't want me to take, when parents weren't looking - he called me out on it! he tried to get my parents to actually notice and get annoyed! i couldn't believe it! I should have said quietly to him later, "I can eat what i want when i come here, whether you like it or not, Peter..."

so, with your pants and the coworker....

i'm not saying pick a fight, oh no...and i'm not saying to be rude to her.

if she comments...just say, i'm glad you noticed i bought new pants. ??????

or i guess you can say...you've gotta say something that shows you just don't care what she thinks or feels about what you do.

you can't let her see or know that what she says bothers you. and it should also try to put her in her place...but i doubt it will bc people like her don't get phased...

I'd just say something like, yes, nice you noticed! and just go back to work. just end it. like, a short reply a smile and just move on....

don't worry so much.

some people are just J*erks.

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
I'm going with "Thanks for noticing - yes, these are new!" and then walking away. Taking the high road, here.

PS I'm sorry about your BIL... I would just ignore what he says and do what you want when you are with your family. If it helps, my BIL completely ignores me. Not one word in over 10 years.

Horn_of_plenty on 04/08/2018:
honestly, i think it would do her some justice if you wore the beige pants haha...

some people are so nasty. no care in the world. it's like they think they are gods.

but those people, they don't seem honest to me. I think they are the fake ones.

Horn_of_plenty on 04/08/2018:
i think as the Spring arrives we all around here on DD will be feeling a bit better and going out more. keep on.

remember that a lot of people don't realize their affects they have on your feelings.

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
THIS. TRUE. 100%.

trishpiglet3 on 04/08/2018:
Ouch! Co-worker! ...hmmmm I have encountered similar persons in my life and have (with increasing success, starting from not very much success) tried a different number of ways of tackling, depending upon the person. Sometimes, perfecting a smile, a laugh, and an eyeroll, can do wonders. In other cases, taking the person aside and asking them to please not comment on your appearance can be helpful. I once had a co-worker who said to me, loudly, across the office "What happened to you? you've got really FAT!" to which I replied, not quite so loudly but audibly to everyone who'd heard what she said "I've had a recent bereavement so I haven't been keeping up with my exercising" (this was true btw). Co-worker then tried to turn into concerned and caring person to which I eyerolled and walked away. I don't think anyone is naturally evil, excepting psychopaths, but I think people lose their way/have bad influences, and sometimes those people like to try to pull themselves up by dragging other people down. You are the better person because you *don't* do things like that.

Donkey on 04/08/2018:
For dealing with this co-worker, because she's just a nasty person, it's better to just laugh it off or answer positively so that she can't use it against me in the future, as she's done with others in the past.

Actually, one thing I do appreciate about her is that what she usually says IS true. It's just not always kind, and most of the time it's hurtful on some level. So I know though that if I ever need the truth about something, she is the person to go to. Maybe I should have taken HER pants shopping with me - HA HA HA! ;-)

happy-1 on 04/12/2018:
What a bitch! Who is she to make personal comments? If she was a nice person she'd have said you look nice today is that a new outfit or did you do something to your hair?

Kohl's has a line of petite plus wear, but why waste money on retail?

You should look for pictures of what you want to look like and make a vision board. Then whatever you see out there you will gravitate to and have a goal for and not be stressed by human pigeons.

Donkey - Saturday Apr 07, 2018
(Reduction of processed carbs & wishful exercise)
Weight: 131.5

I FORGOT TO WEIGH IN TODAY --- I think this is a good thing, too.  I mean, I really wanted to know what my number was, but I love that the numbers, the ritual, isn't so enmeshed in my brain that it's compulsatory.

As I was getting dressed, though, I could hardly put on my wedding band.  Decided to take off the rings, and couldn't get them off without soap and water.  So only wearing the engagement ring with the thin band.  Ah, so maybe weighing in today wouldn't have been a good idea, anyway.

I'm kind of in dangerous territory today, because I don't have anything that I MUST do.  I'm fighting the compulsion to see if I've gotten in my 250+ steps every hour -- NOPE, not gonna do it, not gonna sync the FitBit until the end of the day.  Yesterday, even though my stepcount was lower (but still over goal), I managed to reach the 250+ steps every hour for 12 hours.  

My daughter says now I have to start bulking up, by eating more, lifting weights, and doing squats.  Lower body exercises are a hard one for me because of my back/hip/knee/feet issues, but also because I tend to bulk up instead of slim down in the legs.  

And then, if I gain weight because of the extra muscle, that's not very positive or morale boosting either.

EVENING EDIT:  I didn't throw away any of the remaining pastries at work because I was not the last one to leave the office -- at 6pm! -- and didn't want to be blamed for anything.

The co-worker that I bought the air fresheners for seems very thankful for my gift, LOL!  I think she's being sincere, but she was so pleased with the one scent that she was telling everyone what I had did.  (Now I'm wondering if she was being sarcastic, but that would be mean, and she is a very nice person.... so hopefully not.)  I'm looking forward to her trying out the other scents when she gets to them, personally speaking.

I did buy a nail buffer yesterday and a nice nail strengthener polish (clear).  I'm not impressed with the buffer, because its shape makes it hard to use.  Also, it seems like I'll go through the buffer's usefulness quickly, but it did do the job.  My nails are almost all the same length.  I'm not sure if I will apply a color or not.

Too bad my fingers are too swollen to wear my rings, though -- oh the irony!


Progress as of today: 55 lbs lost so far, only -5 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/07/2018:
Does bulking up mean muscle? I guess if it defined muscles...but it would be my luck to just make my legs bigger...LOL

Donkey on 04/07/2018:
Yes, that's what she means, but my body seldom cooperates. Then again, apparently thick legs and round butts are in style...

bearcountrygg on 04/07/2018:
BaDonkADonk!!! ???????

Donkey on 04/07/2018:

happy-1 on 04/12/2018:
Muscle always looks better. Strong is sexy. Plus it burns fat... so build that muscle!

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