went out on a somewhat of a splurge food shopping. Got the good whipped cream cheese:
Now sure why it uploaded sideways, but that's my fave whipped
cream cheese!
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
9am nice breakfast: small bagel 120 with cream cheese (store brand not as good, i keep forgetting this!) 50, coffee 30...kombucha 60
small snack, jellly beans regular not sugar free small halloween treat size 30
1:30pm lunch: last bit of my ratatoille 200? at most, chips 200...400...fiber one large soft choco chip cookie so good! 130
3-3:30 ate my nasty last bits of the Chinese food and threw out the rest (too disguting, too many different mushrooms without other veggies, not good), a medium apple, popcorn. 200 approx.
dinner: used a $5 off $10 for "halloween!" which is how Seamless app advertised the coupon for poke bowl. the tuna i ordered spicy in a sauce ...350? not too many other sauces...some wanton crisps though 100?..soybeans too 100? and some other things 50.600-650. followed by Haribo candy 2 servings of a bag i bought while at the supermarket of those slightly gummy berries with harder outsides. 250.900.
1950..
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Been craving fries...but i have so much food that it makes not too much sense to go out to buy things today...so prob not doing any purchasing today.
I have signed up for more volunteering, up to 2x per week, because it is pretty physical and tiring and i have my own work to do at home, etc, aside from volunteering (which feels great to do). I get a "high" similar to a workout high from volunteering.
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it was in the 30's (F) thru morning temps, very chilly for end of October but sunny. So i'm home most of today. No laundry bc a lot of people are in lobby volunteering to make sure no trick or treaters come to the building as it's "cancelled" this year in my building - and i don't want to constantly run into people - and laundry is also pretty minimal, still. :D
I may cook a broccoli today...maybe broccoli and tofu combo, actually, since i have tofu and that would make some good eats, don't you think!?
Talked on phone with french friend and good friend at same time, they met each other today online, for ...too long! haha...we spoke for literally like 3 hours...some parts i was just listening because one friend was explaining some internet stuff to the other. DONE
Around 2pm i'm back to doing my own thing.DONE
Before the phone call started, 10am, I was able to get some writing and work done for the alt dispute resolution / mediation course. that was time very well spent - the time between 9:30am-10am!!! :) DONE
2pm - i'm on a "hunt" to find the word Einstein - written ONLY ONE TIME - in 200 pages of material. i've searched yesterday by scanning the pages thru and unforunately i'm going to have to search it all over again...not my happiest hour...!..i could guess the answer to the Einstein question (and already tried a thousand google searches...and i know it's about problem solving and asking all the questions...but i want to see that sentence again and quote it in my answer...hopefully i find it well before 3pm! DONE (finsihed MUCH later than 3pm, wasted a lot of time, Donkey helped me with the tip of using Control "F" in a microsoft word document! thank gosh.
i did leg exercises already while on the "friend call"DONE
no doubt i'm also going to study PM app...in progress
lastly, i will attempt a walk outside in the cold - but not gonna force it if i change my mind and may just use stepper for half hour / bike indoors.
tomorrow i'm onto Week 4 out of 7 of my online ADR paralegal course. i'll be reading the online material and possibily also copying/pasting it into a word doc in case i will need to use CTRL F again to find something! (thank you, Donkey!!)
Skipping farm tomororw due to rain (i don't need to work outdoors in the chilly rain)...and signed up to do a shorter volunteering session on Monday to make up for being home Sunday..
Tomorrow i have weights and more work to do at home. I will possibly try to get outside and walk in the morning before the rain rolls in!
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
7:45 am quick breakfast: warm cereal with small walnuts and my raisins, some quick black coffee 300
morning snacks: mounds small bars 200
2pm snacks jelly beans 70, sugar free gummies 80, coffee
3pm wanton soup (two smallish wantons) and the broth and some pork pieces 300.
4:30 - 5:15 small ice cream 100 and some gum...apple 100
light dinner: crackers 150, ratatoille so good. 200. extra broth.
9pm white chocolates, 150, half a spiked seltzer from yesterday 50. 200.
gonna use my PM app to study now, 10pm, for at least 15-20 minutes and that's enough for today...in progress..
1700...
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Today i volunteered from 8:30am until around 12:30pm at a food pantry but outdoors. it was very cold and rainy and my feet got very soaked and cold. they did have hand warmers thankfully...yes, they did! but i got them sorta late in the game. but then i kept using them and put them also in my wet shoes...they helped a bit. DONE!
It feels good to volunteer and I was pretty busy despite it being around 40F and raining. there were tents up. so it was worth it. i got home and took a HOT shower. i don't think i'll get sick...i can rest up now :)...
it was also good exercise / standing. later i'll do my leg workout perhaps and maybe some bike. (seriously, when i'm home i'm...ON THE COUCH! so, i'm not kidding that volunteering is really, really good for me....
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i still have lots of food, i don't need to cook today at all. yeah!...although i do have a broccoli that would be terrible if spoiled...will cook that broccoli soon ;) prob cook it on Sunday.
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I'll be studying my Paralegal ADR - answering some questions, maybe all...in progress in part 1, week 3 of questions due. there's 3 different parts (tests) for week 3...finished 1 test, the other is almost done but struggling to find an exact answer bc it's very specific and mentioned one time in around 200 pages of reading material...when i find the answer i'll be done with two tests, and the other i'll finish tomorrow... :) done for now.
then i do have to go back to studying PM for the test...yes, i tend to put this last and don't always do it. and yes, that's not the brightest thing to do. but at least i'm being productive with both options i am going for :) (PM Test and paralegal class)....in progress.
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In a week or so, i'll take some practice PM tests and see where i'm at and if i should schedule a test (it's done at home over the internet with someone watching me thru my laptop camera)...for late november. but we'll see. it's around $500 for each time i take the test so i'm not just gonna blow it without some thought.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
10am late breakfast: hot wheat cereal banana walnut flavor, yellow raisins, almond milk, kombucha 400
noon snacks until 2pm: pb 100, 3 tiny bags of jelly beans 90 and a small coffee 30, light sparling juice 30
4:45pm early meal: some leftover homefries from mom good amount 300?, some of my own ratatoille 150, small piece of bbq salmon from mom 200?, and chips 200. 850.
6:20 sugar free gummies i found online, new flavor, great brand. (3g sugar actually.) Project 7 is the brand. 60 calories. x2 (had one more) 60
9:30 pb cheese crackers (kellogg's) 200
spiked seltzer, just a little bit.
1900 total.
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Rainy day at home - so will be most probably staying home in totality :)
that's the reason i kept going back to sleep this morning until it was already passed nine - i was up sorta late last night until around 11pm.
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I'm fnishing a long chapter in my ADR paralegal book...hope to start answering questions on it today...IN PROGRESS, will def finish the chapter today :) (chapter is almost 100 pages long!)..at 9:30pm i still have a ton of reading left but i'm gonna to try to finish it all in ONE HOUR...took over an hour, but DONE
I do have upper body weights to do today (was going to do it in morning, but will do it in afternoon)..Starting now 2:45pm ..DONE
rode indoor bike for 30 min :) DONE
I will be using my app to finish the Tips session for PM test....last task today...
May go out to drop off bike that i sold, but it's really scheduled for Friday...so, we'll see if buyer wants it early today...I asked him if he wants it today (bc i am sorta bored being home...) DONE!!! it was a one gear, 26", male design for riding, painted fully black, thick tires and no rust at all...sold for 100 bucks.
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I (might) wash the guinea pig fleeces but no other laundry bc most of my clothes are clean still.
I have a bit of leftovers so there's no need to cook today.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
i've found it's good to live with someone bc you (hopefully) both motivate each other on things and can lead to less laziness / more moving around thru the day. (ah, my opinion!)
10:20am Breakfast: hot what cereal that comes with walnuts and my own raisins, almond milk. 350.
Bread little extra 300, 1 fried egg 150, cheese 100, seasonings 550 later a clementine 50 rice 50
3:30 snack chocolate 100, pretzels and cheese 100
Dinner / dessert - 1 large soft taco lots of veggies and some pear for dessert 750
late night snack - fiber 1 choc chip cookie 130
2100, fine day.
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8:30pm Stepper back at home for 20-30min before going back to some reading since I only read like 5-6 pages? At my parents house. DONE
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I am with family most of today. Slept in really late, so less time to do anything other than some reading and breakfast before I go see them (that's ok). Hopefully we can walk in afternoon but if I really want exercise I may just head on my stepper tonight or bike while watching tv ...rainy day and I am reading anyway.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
There will be days alone to read and study and write - especially if your weather is changing soon.
I'm not really on track to take the test, but i will soon decide on a date and take it. it may even be in November if possible. My test will change when january hits, so any tests I take must be done before January because i will not be familiar with the new test as much as this older style.
9:30 oats 150, banana 150, raisins 150, almond milk 50, kombucha 50. 550.
<fell asleep until noon>...not proud of how i used the time, but i'm now up and doing activities...
Noon-12:30pm snack jelly beans 70, then later on chocolate 70
1pm hopping on my stepper for 25 min, then lunch, and possibly some writing work to do for my class...or, i'll cook :)
2pm lunch: leftovers - some green beans, some squash with cheese 100, half a big chicken breast with cheese/light sauce 250, part of a large sweet potato with a little butter 150, black sweetened coffee. 500.
5pm-5:30 snacking turned to dinner: apple, low cal drink 100 - some roasted delicata squash, not enough seasoning but filling and healthy, 100, ratatouille which i drink the liquid like a soup also 150. 350...and half a garlic bread i made...i think only 200-250.
8:45 chocolates 150
2050...
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phone app for PM test...TOMORROW, i'll start with this...after dinner...in progress...
Studying / writing for ADR class Week 3 assignments (still the course is only in week 1, but there are also a couple other studies working in advance of the due dates)....It's a short class that is only just under 7 weeks, so, when it's over, I will not be taking another class until January. That's why it's nice to get the course done fast - I'll have a longer break before the next one starts (and a good possibility I will be back to work as well). ..in progress...will read a little more...DONE
walk or bike ride? or stepper/indoor bike, leg strength.....DONE!
porbably cook ratatoille so I have it to eat all week....and cooked some roasted squash....and cooked some garlic bread (leftover i had from a previous meal, kept the bread in my fridge)...DONE!
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Tomorrow i'll visit family - I'll be there for lunch and dinner...hopefully some walking and relaxation. Maybe studying at their house, not sure.
Thursday I'm home / rainy day..will do weights on Thursday.
Friday: October 30th I signed up for some outdoor Volunteering that I think i'll drive to, not sure about public transportation, looks like there should be a few spots there...for FRIDAY :)
Saturday (Halloween) I think i'm home mostly...
Sunday is the last day of Volunteering at Queens County Farm.. :)
Next week is mostly up in the air right now, with another Volunteering day next Saturday, November 7th, which i'll prob take the train to go to bc parking isn't good and the train is close by and a great option (and it's a quiet saturday so bus/train will not be packed!). I wanted to volunteer with Nov. 3 elections but haven't heard anything so I doubt I'll be assigned anything...I really don't care too much if it works out or not.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
Do you feel you are on track to take the PM test in December? I only ask because I have a friend studying for the MCAT in January, and she told me yesterday that she's behind, might have to take it in April.
Bathroom shower is cleaned!!!!! before breakfast. Thank gosh!
10am nice breakfast: oats 150, raisins 150, banana 150, kombucha 50. 500.
Noon lunch: leftover tuna very good still 200, popcorn 100, fiber one choc chip cookie 130, small coffee 70. 500.
3:30 jelly beans 100
wasted money on cruddy Chinese food (new place for me to try, never again) sauteed veggies, veggie assortment was poor, 200, wanton soup not impressed 300, small ice cream 100
leftover spiked seltzer and pumpkin spice yogurt 200
10pm white chocolate. 150.
2050..
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2hr phone call with French friend...in progress..to be DONE
two phone calls: election volunteer - sent email bc nobody picked up the phone...I see i may not be able to volunteer - bc the process is disorganized...DONE.
notary application phone call.....DONE, RESOLVED!
reading online first for ADR...in progress...DONE for today...
short half hour walk DONE
get pants at dry cleaners / pick up sunflower wreath close by, same town (facebook marketplace); DONE
Weights workout tonight early in today...DONE
do phone app study for PM...TOMORROW, i'll start with this.
walk or bike ride? or stepper/indoor bike....
porbably cook ratatoille so I have it to eat all week....
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
Have a fantastic day today :)
My last time at the farm is coming up, next Sunday :) I am excited for it and am grateful for the opportunity. I will do it again next year - hopefully !
Good Morning All!
Breakfast: last of the pumpkin pie (glad it's done for now!) 2 smaller slices 400 cal, kombucha 50. the pie tastes good but is NOT at all filling and i get hungry soon after. but like i said, i love the taste of the pumpkin pie...450.
Small, easy Lunch tuna 150 on small bagel 150...300
snack after farm jelly beans 100
4:30-5pm ice cream 200, coffee 50 while reviewing new work for ADR
6:40pm dinner: leftovers - roasted squash with some cheese and seasonings 150, half a chicken breast with some cheese and tomato sauce 300, chips 150. 600. light drink 50.
100 apple
1850, goodnight.
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I'm up adding some fixes to the paper i posted a couple days ago...adding a good little concusion paragraph that wraps it up a bit instead of leaving it open-ended. my mom is the one giving my feedback to add an ending in...and donkey advised me to write a little bit more about emotions (which i certainly agree is huge). i may just tell her little story how clients are advised to take a half hour and grab a cup of coffee and then reconvene! something like that is what i'll prob write...i'm also doing New Week #3 assignments today (mostly reading first...). this course has been really educational - Alternative Dispute Resolution. ..this work is mostly DONE, but i'm doing some reading of the Week 3 (out of 7 weeks) website material and will start reading the textbook (also chapter 3) tomorrow as well.
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i do think i'm going to be working again soon (November or early December), so i also want to get this course (7 weeks only) out of the way if possible before I start work. I also do acknowledge that this is the time to study for the PM exam ! ha! no, i'm not taking very seriously. i guess i have my doubts about passing it...
This reason i think i'll be working again is that i have a possible "in" at this other company that i interviewed at last Tuesday, with someone i know from my previous job. there is potential for me to even be assisting him...time will tell...hopefully this works out for the relatively "long term." (meaning i'm not out of a job again in 6 months).
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I will also spend time today on the PM study app on my phone for review...planning to only do a little bit, tonight, maybe half hour and that's it...
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today is the farm from 1-4pm. it's cold today i think high of 55? so i'll dress appropriately. looking forward to the exercise.. was GREAT...not cold bc we were moving around, nice and warm in my clothes i chose to wear. good exercise DONE
(i have ONE session left and then the farm volunteering is over for this season). when farming ends, i suppose i can try to be more routine with my weights and not skip as many sessions as i have been. !!! The farm has been fun and i do want to do it again next year :)
i should also do weights tonight (not willing to do them this AM)..if i do not, i'll just do them Monday which i figure is just as good - so we'll see how the day goes
weights monday :-) (def not in ANY mood to do it tonight, just wanting relaxation, reading, light studying...reading) :-D
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laundry has been done previously...but i put in a load tonight as by separating darks from lights it's easier to see when one load can be done (and i like this approach to separating laundry...from when i take off the clothes, i separate...it's been saving a lot of time!) DONE!
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cooking is done...but still can make a ratatoille soon.
still the shower needs to be cleaned...ha, i am a procrastinator!
MONDAY:
I'll do the shower tomorrow morning.
I will also do my weights routine tomorrow, after breakfast, early.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
I'm glad that you found my comments/story to be helpful. I did not mean my comments nor story to be a critique or criticism. So I hope you're not changing your paper because you thought I was telling you to do so!
Being a Psych major in college, I'm definitely biased in approach to such scenarios, which is why I am amazed at how intuitive my boss is. He used to be a prosecutor, so he's very much into people's psychology and emotions (sometimes), with voir dire and all. I think my dream profession would be to do research into voir dire (jury selection) and how juries work, think, act, how they come to their verdicts or stalemates.
Sounds like you have a “good bias”
My friend is on a jury but for some reason the jury was hardly done Voir dire - basically everyone selected for jury duty was chosen no matter what. They are selected for 1 month to decide in case extensions or reduced sentences. It doesn’t sound like typical jury duty and may be related to something changed due to Covid and the running of the court. They didn’t even ask the potential jurors anything - they were just all selected !
9am breakfast of...2 small slices of pumpkin pie! (now only 2 left, thank goodness!) and coffee
Lunch leftover pizza smaller slices from parents with a fried egg I added on top - really feeling a desire for protein after the pie breakfast which isn't filling egg 100, half slice 400, crust of another slice 150...650...saving some of the pizza mentioned to take for the walk with parents (not eating all at once bc I feel full)
one stroopwafel cookie (ode to Donkey!) my sister bought them and left them at parent's house...150
dinner: big salad with some olive oil 200, small amount of sweet potato with little butter 100, taste of pasta 20, green beans 50, chicken just a little 150, two cookies 150..700 tops
1950...
4mi walk today :) with parents.
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Off to parents' house today for walking in the afternoon, lunch, and dinner...a full day. :) should be good. we are also going to watch a movie together back at their house. my sister is back in NYC with her husband and baby today so it will be quiet at my parents' houes and restful! haha!
Walking with parents at a preserve that we have both never been to - should be GREAT!
I may use the app for PM study a bit or just start that up again tomorrow...
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
You're a pumpkin pie fanatic! LOL
It was supposed to be a response of a page at the least and didn’t need to be a certain format like typical essays :) thank you! Will write back later
Enjoy your day and I’ll write more later too.
Oh yes, the Streuplewaffle - delightful! Did your package say that each cookie was 150 calories? Mine had the European label where calories were per 100g.
What movie did you watch with your folks?
we watched a REALLY, REALLY great movie i highly recommend, so funny: My Cousin Vinny! first time i watched it!!! it's so fun!
also, i read them my assignment that you read, so i will add what you said (something more on emotions)...and i will also add a conclusion stating how there's an umbrella of similarities with these two fields because they share many methodologies with each other in how the tasks and jobs are completed...etc etc.
8:30 Breakfast: slice of no sugar added pumpkin pie from supermarket (it's good!) 200, kombucha 50
10:30 more of the pumpkin pie (it should go fast!) 200 ;), kombucha 50 (decided not to have both pieces for breakfast but break them apart over the morning!)
12:45pm lunch: mini bagel 150, tuna with mayo and bits of celery 200, crackers 200. 550.
did stepper for 25min...glad to get off it lol...while watching Judge Mathis---good show.
3:30pm jelly beans 100 and a small apple kombucha 50
4:30pm ice cream 100
5:30 small apple while cooking dinner / meal that will last me till at least Monday..i have a lot of food now at home..and I still want to cook up some squash also - either Saturday or Sunday. and keebler club crackers 70 (supposed to be part of the meal i'm cooking, but, i ate them before the meal....
bigger dinner: salad with a little dressing 100, baked veggies with some olive oil and cheese on top 100, 1/2 chicken breast with sauce and little cheese on top 250, chips 150, pumpkin pie 200.800..full.
2220...little much but i really don't care tonight.
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Plans:
Deciding to skip any more laundry until after the weekend (I'll do it Monday)...had enough to do it today, cleaned the guinea pig area, so...Laundry DONE!
as well as the bathroom floor...(the sink / toilet i do occasionally all the time) this part is lol and i did quickly clean the sink and toilet..DONE!
I want to finish the ADR work for these two weeks (due dates for these two weeks) today..DONE for now...deciding to put the rest of the work on the backburner for the next couple days. almost everything is done and my brain doesn't want to only concentrate on this class right now, so i'm DONE
..maybe some indoor stepper for now..25 min.DONE
And i admit to sort of skipping studying for PM these two days, but i'm back to it today...using phone App...i will continue studying the "Tips" section...starting this at 3:30 after i went on the stepper for a little bit...DONE...but want to do more of PM studying tonight
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I will cook the other meal I have today so the veggie part doesn't go bad...just reminded myself to take the chicken out of the freezer!..it even look slike some of the veggies went bad - i'll check it out when i'm ready to cook, after studying some PM...meal is in oven, so it will be DONE
Everyday lately has been very foggy/humid cool in the mornings with nicer weather in the afternoon - i think i'm staying inside much of today and maybe trying for a bike ride later??..not eager to go out...i think i'll also ride on indoor bike today, while watching TV tonight...DONE
I will clean the shower today :)....!?!?!?!?!?!? not so sure...
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I'm glad i watched the debate last night...i thought they both "picked on" each other too much, but that it was a decent debate.
An assignment I wrote that i'm proud of:
The “Top 10 Tips for a Successful Employment Mediation,” is an article written by Frank Burke in October 2020. Burke is an attorney with a vast amount of experience in employment mediation, the topic of his article. His biography section states that Burke has “42 years of experience as a business trial lawyer in national law firms having handled a diverse range of business disputes …in 26 states, China and Canada. His website is www.burkemediation.com and he blogs on mediation strategy and advocacy topics at www.adrconflictstrategies.com . He is a 1972 graduate of Cornell University…and a 1975 graduate of Harvard Law School.” (https://www.mediate.com/articles/burke-10-tips.cfm)
Burke is a great example of a professional who continues to transform with the times. He uses his former education and skills but seeks to combine them with modern technology to stay current and attract a large clientele. Although Burke graduated in the 1970’s, slightly under 50 years ago, his article is very applicable to the current, modern-day ADR and mediation approach. Additionally, as mentioned in his biography, Burke uses the latest technology, including Zoom (an online live video conferencing platform), to stay current as a professional attorney in mediation today. He also has a website and writes informative blogs.
In his article, Burke mentions the top 10 tips for successful employment mediation, many of the same tips covered in our Alternative Dispute Resolution course:
1. Create an effective and comprehensive mediation memorandum
2. Make the most of your pre-hearing conference with the mediator
3. Prepare yourself and your client for more effective oral presentations in mediation
4. Deal with emotion in the mediation
5. Explore your best, worst and most likely alternatives to a negotiated agreement
6. Take into account non-monetary considerations: apology, reference letter, reinstatement
7. Set the stage with your opening offer
8. Plan your settlement moves in mediation
9. Work with the mediator to avoid or break impasse
10. Close the deal
(https://www.mediate.com/articles/burke-10-tips.cfm)
As the above 10 points are self-explanatory, I’d like to write a bit more about my main thoughts on the above 10 points of Burke’s article and how I perceive them to relate most directly to the attorney’s successful management of mediation cases.
The reason why my main thoughts move towards a lawyer’s success in managing employment mediation is because that is actually the main duty of the attorney. As a former assistant project manager myself, most people’s work is essentially their project. And to be successful, a project manager needs to do certain main steps, just like a lawyer needs to do certain steps when managing a mediation, of a project which relate exactly to Burke’s 10 points and I will continue to explain why.
1. Just as a manager needs to create an initiation (even before the project starts), certain events need to take place. Research needs to be done, for example, to see if the project is justifiable and if it makes sense at that place, community, and time. Is there suitable funding for it? As an attorney working in mediation, Burke’s point #1 refers to that initiation, or creating a “charter,” and it is Point #1 in the article, “Create an effective and comprehensive mediation memorandum.” The lawyer’s Memorandum is the charter. And the lawyer also must decide if the client has appropriate funds for the mediation as well.
2. The next major phase, and usually longest phase, of a project is the planning phase. In Burke’s article, several of the above points are exactly that – planning. For any job, any occupation, any project, any mitigation – including a mediation project for a lawyer – planning must take place. Without a plan, a project is destined to fail and so is a mediation. We must plan for the risks that come up in projects as well as mediations. There are monetary risks as well as relationship risks, to mention just a couple.
The following of Burke’s 10 points cover planning:
Point #2: “Make the most of your pre-hearing conference with the mediator”
Point #3: “Prepare yourself and your client for more effective oral presentations…”
Point #5: “Explore your best, worst…most likely alternatives to a negotiated agreement”
Point #6” “Take into account non-monetary considerations: apology, reference letter,
reinstatement”
Point #8: “Plan your settlement moves in mediation”
All of those above points contain words and phrases that directly relate to how the client and lawyer will work together in the planning stages, outside and many times before the actual mediation takes place.
3. The next phase of project management is execution. This is when the actual mediation is taking place between the two (or more) parties. Points from Burke’s article included in the actual mediation are:
Point #4: Deal with emotion in the mediation
Point #7: Set the stage with your opening offer
Of course, some of the planning points will also show up during the mediation as the steps of a mediation as well as project management have a tendency to overlap.
Importantly, as in project management, mediation will essentially involve some emotions and it is best to understand the motives and goals of the other side of the meditation as well as possible if the parties are intending to solve their negotiation through mediation successfully.
Setting the stage with an opening offer means trying to present an offer that is reasonable and justifiable to the other side. If an offer is over the top or too difficult to be realized, it can upset the entire mediation process. This is true for project management as well. All sides involved in project management must be able to explain their offers and work with the stakeholders for there to be success throughout the project. Everyone must work to get on the “same page.”
4. The next to last step of project management is to monitor & control the project. There may be risks that have been met and need managing. Some of the project or mediation may have been successful but perhaps a conflict has now come up that is leading to an impasse. This fourth step of monitor and control relates to Burke’s Point #9: “Work with the mediator to avoid or break impasse.” During monitoring and controlling, the mediation is in session or has been taking place and the impasse or conflict leading to an impasse must be monitored closely and controlled so that a negotiation and the final closing phase can take place successfully.
5. The last step of managing a mediation and project is the closing phase. It’s the last stage of a project and signifies that the mediation has ended. The goal is to end it successfully and that is the point of Burke’s article. Of course, there are also unsuccessful mediations that lead to litigations, but that is not the point of Burke’s article.
Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
I use wipes on the sinks/toilets in between cleanings. The tub/shower is the worst. Hate cleaning it.
Our weather is unpredictable. Can't even believe BBC half the time.
yeah, it seems i have run low on my wipes, but i have tons of cleaning sprays...so instead of using those wet wipes, i'm going to work on using up my liquid cleaning sprays...should take me many months!
I believe you're right in that a lot of the work is actually in the preparation. This would be very true of real estate closings, too. In fact, I see closings as another type of mediation, because anything can happen at the closing. And it is true that most of the work for a "closing" happens beforehand.
We had a deal cancel at the closing yesterday. The mediation failed.
And touching on that, I would say that #4- the emotional aspect - of the mediation meeting is the MOST IMPORTANT part of handling a client. I wish (from my own psychology degree background) that you would have written more about emotions in mediation - but then, this is a paralegal paper, not a psychology 101 class.
My boss has often told clients to leave a closing and get a drink at the McDonalds for an hour or so. This helps cool off heads and can "wake up" clients (sellers or buyers) to realize, Hey this could fall apart. How badly do I want to buy/sell?
Yesterday, at another closing, one of the buyers was very upset (over-emotional) and our New Guy didn't know how to handle her. Nice Lady was with him and took over that aspect, to show him how you bring down a client who has gone off the deep end.
9am Breakfast: oats and raisins, almond milk, coffee 400
11:30am snack of not the healthiest but fun...finished off those starburst gummies 160, with some kombucha i picked up this AM..50 210.
1pm lunch-2pm: small bagel with butter and small amount of pastrami 200, chips 150, clementine 50, cookie 150. 550.
4pm snack: ice cream 100, pumpkin spice yogurt 160, small apple 50
7pm bagel 120, tuna fish 180, veggies 50...350
9:45pm during debate: 1 chocolate and, small slice pumpkin pie 200
2050..
i did both legs and upper body exercises ...DONE
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I woke up and laid in bed a little before some breakfast, did an assignment quickly, and went out to help cousin again with another bike he wants to sell! yup, another! it's another bike that he's owned for around 15 years and now he has a trike because he can no longer balance well on a bike...
...so his other bike will be sold on facebook marketplace by me :) i took it home in my car (boy is it big!), he had to get his tool to unscrew the handlebars (smart guy) or it wouldn't fit into the back of my vehicle...we took photos so we can sell it on facebook.
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Today, I'm doing what i enjoy which is finishing the work for my ADR class...lots more to do...IN PROGRESS, finished some...DONE for now...
Then I will study using my phone app for PM...?????
I have to lift weights (unless i want to get very week?) today...not sure what time, maybe after lunch?..DONE...
I want to cook, but may wait one more day...
i also just sold some candy on facebook, some sugar free stuff, to a buyer that i stay in touch with specifically for sugar free stuff! ha!...i will drop off to her...she paid me extra, so i'll include a couple apples and cake mix for her (since i am not really interested in using a certain cake mix i bought anymore)...dropped off, DONE
Will watch the debate tonight :)
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Progress as of today: 2 lbs lost so far, only 1 lbs to go!
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Happy Halloween!
Store brand - as opposed to name brand? Or do you have a special deli to get your cream cheese? (I love cream cheese - I'm not sure why I don't eat more of it!)
Are you planning to do anything for Halloween? Carve a pumpkin perhaps? We are not passing out candy this year :-(
There's the Breakstone brand that makes the "Temp Tee" containers of whipped cream cheese in their pinkish containers. I love that whipped cream cheese and it would always be bought to accompany bagels for birthdays and other school / activity / work breakfasts. It was fluffier and richer tasting than other whipped cream cheeses. the store brand of this whipped cream cheese (packaged, non name brand i mean!) is slightly more moist / watery and not as fluffy or tasty in the least...i would throw this cream cheese away before finishing it. it will prob not get finished as i don't really like it - that's how different it is from the Temp Tee whipped cream cheese.....
cream cheese can be high cal...it's good you don't have more lol.
no, staying home on purpose for halloween bc the weather isn't so great. it is sunny but rather cold. i may take a walk later, but, would rather not run into everyone - another reason to stay home today.
i have some good work to do :)
grannyannie on 10/31/2020:
Yum I love real bagels with cream cheese. Can't get any real ones in my area. :(
although, these were older supermarket mini bagels and cream cheese wasn't a name brand (there's a very specific brand i love and this is not the first time that i forgot there's a BIG difference in the taste of different whipped cream cheeses!) haha, i'm such a foodie....
Maria7 on 10/31/2020:
We love our coffee, don't we? I drink mine black now.
i have been doing a lot of black, mostly when i'm having it after lunch...
in the mornings, i'm still putting some almond milk in, but i realize it's tasty by itself (as long as i add stevia!)
coffee's always nice. i don't have any tolerance to it though...and the caffeine tends to hit me quick.
bearcountrygg on 10/31/2020:
Happy Halloween!.......Oh the Einstein question......what a puzzle.
oh yes!
bearcountrygg on 10/31/2020:
Is it...If he had 1 hour to solve a problem and his life depended on the solution...he would spend 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask and then 5 minutes or less to solve the problem.
i wish it were that easy...here's what i found:
Another useful ploy to break an impasse is to ask "Einstein" questions. What do you want to happen? What can both agree on? How would each put the other sides' case? What will you do if you fail to reach an agreement? What will it cost? What do you think is fair? What if...?
the above is the quote from the class articles i had to read online. turns out the quote was in the online articles, not the textbook!
it simply means that when there's a disagreement which is hard to break between the negotiating parties, ask questions that will get the disputing parties back on the same page so that the negotiation can be successful...LOL.
Jacky82020 on 11/01/2020:
Whipped cream cheese sounds delicious I liked whipped yogurt Tried whipping my own. Spun a powerful mixer forever and it doesn’t work. They must be using additives.
i think there might be something you can use to help make your yogurt whipped, i'll share it later with you!! (but need to do research before making sure it would work before buying...)