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One more entry because I feel insipred tonight. :)
I just wanted to say... with all the noise coming from all sorts of social media on the Internet... My advice to everyone is: stay true to your own self. Don't consider others as "role models", don't fall for the influencers. We are unique... we only get to compete with ourselves, and we are on an eternal journey to reach our Forever Best! That's the real higher power, within each and everyone of us.
IMPORTANT UPDATE!
For the 48 hours, you can join the DDs FB group via this link. It should automatically join, no approvals needed.:
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Woohoo, Sunday!
The rest day... well. I've been resting for two days now, as I have the period and it's always a mess on several levels. Why can't we women "get used to it" over the decades, why... maybe some do, I just can't. I'm an emo wreck and my physical wellbeing is affected by all this, too. I feel bloated, fat, I keep critizing and sabotaging my own self over the course of these monthly period of 4-5 days. Then I have to work extra hard the rest of the month to lessen the damage...
Alert - some ranting follows...
I've been reading a tad bit too much of FB groups lately. I'm part of groups related to ADHD, decluttering/minimalist life, home gym and fitness groups and ultimately, the big group of Overeaters Anonymous. I don't know if you guys are familiar with the concept of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and OA (pretty much the same but focused on eating disorders)... but both of them are spritual approaches and they have the Big Book of AA/OA and they follow the 12 steps and take one day at a time. The baseline is to accept that there's a HP (Higher Power), that can be God or something else entirely if the person is an atheist or something, doesn't matter. The aim there is to accept that we are powerless about food and we become humble enough to seek help of this HP entity.
After this brief explanation, I have to say the group entries wind me up big time because people misuse the group for a diet group. OA is not a diet. OA doesn't follow or promote any diets. OA promotes having regular OA meetings (live or online) and a sponsor with whom we can work the progress based on the 12 steps, creating a meal plan, having regular talks to keep accountability on a certain level. OA is not about pounds. Not about inches. Not about losing weight. It's about balance, health, body and mind. It's about finding the reason behind the eating disorder and tackling the problem by its roots. It's a healing process, without drugs, without diets. People really don't understand it and keep posting stuff like "I need to lose 30 pounds until next month because I have a wedding to attend" and things like that. Bah...
Anyway, I feel like I should leave all the groups that have posts that make me nervous on a regular basis. They keep posting stuff that triggers me big time and I get anger issues over it. It's not like as if I was violent or anything, mostly I don't even bother to comment and I certainly don't break the phone/computer screen over them. A rule I live by is: do not argue with strangers on the Internet. But it doesn't mean they don't get on my nerves, haha...
I don't even do OA, but I respect/understand them and I like to read their motivational and success stories and their tips and tricks to work on the 12 steps. I'd love to assist an online meeting, too, but I'm afraid that it's so connected to religion and I'm not religious. For me, it's really difficult to find a HP they are talking about.
By the way, the 12 steps are the following:
Sunday Wisdom:
I wouldn’t read/stay in groups that irritated me. I am very active on Twitter and quite liberal with my use of the BLOCK feature. Unfortunately this fish forum has only an Ignore button. That means you won’t see this person’s posts, but they can read yours. If they comment, you know, but can’t read it unless you reverse Ignore. Greatly prefer Block. It’s as though the person never existed for you.
I’m saying less & less in this fish forum. “met” a nice man who lives in Northern England. We email & trash the mean ppl. Seriously fun!
Oh my, it's already Saturday! I had a crazy week at work!!!
I'm sorry I haven't come back on the FB group topic earlier. So, yes the group is closed, can you guys write to me or add me, and I add you to the group? Here's my FB page:
Alternatively I can ask the owner to open the group for some time? Maybe that's a good option as well, haha. Don't forget I have ADHD I get confused over basic organisational tasks! Haha...
So... this week was a disaster for me personally, I had to work a loooot and it was really upsetting. It was common to work from 8 AM to 11 PM on a few days. My back is killing me. I got to phyiscal therapy only twice (should have been 3) and to the gym??? BaHH!!!! Only once! It's so annoying that I have to sacrifice my wellbeing and my hobbies and even family time, for the sake of work... but yeah, next week should be calmer...
There is certainly a light at the end of the tunnel, my son's school starts next week, next Thursday is presentation day, then Friday onwards, primary school it is !!! YAY!!!
You guys want to see my ADHD in action?! Compulsive buying hit me hard while buying stationery items for my kid... These I acquired for myself and I know I won't do anything with them because I hardly ever write into diaries or notebooks, my OCD doesn't let me do it, because I would ruin them with my awful handwriting and mistakes...
What’s this FB group? Something unrelated to here that uses the same rather generic name?
I don’t do FB, but was thinking of joining because the guy who sold me my big tank said he quit the local fish FB group because of all the crazy arguments. I wanted to be a spectator. My bad.
Hope you get more PT & that back improves.
I DO understand what holds you back from using them though, with the OCD, not wanting to make mistakes, etc. I wish I had suggestions on how to overcome that. Maybe open up the journal or agenda with the intent of making mistakes. Start with the mindset of "This journal will not be perfect." Maybe take your mistakes and turn them into little doodles or drawings? Like I said, I wish I had better suggestions.
Rise and shine,
Monday, new day, new week, new challenges to keep it together. 
I had a good weekend, although yesterday morning hours were hellish, the day significiantly improved by some friends who came for lunch and a nice walk.
Chinese / Japanese restaurant (buffet - all you can eat style) two days in a row - I wouldn't dare to hit the scale today, hahaha...
It's nice to hear that your day improved after a bad morning. Sometimes, it just needs a reset.
Yep, just tryin' to keep it together. I hear ya...
nice to see a walk during the day. walks are fabulous!
Good morning awesome people of DD!
I hope you're having a great weekend!
Finally I have some time to write an entry! I'm trying to catch up with you all and sometimes commenting is not possible when the thread is older than some days? I couldn't figure the exact rule but it's something like 2-3 days. Oh well, I have to do better and visit daily, haha.
So... my life is still hectic enough as my son is still at home and I had to return to work after a period of two weeks of holidays. I work from home, so it's not easy but at least it's also not impossible. I feel bad though because he's hooked on digital stuff all day and me too (but mine is actual work).
School will start only on the 20th, it's crazy how late they do it here in Portugal. Some of you may know this but as a reminder, I'm originally from Hungary. Hungary is a small country in central Europe, with surprisingly big echo on international news too often - for the worst reasons. Bad politics, dumb people, add these all up and you get quite a mess out of it.
BUT... I have been living in Portugal for 15 years and I clearly see the pros and cons differences between the two countries. I still enjoy more living here, sadly for my homeland, but Hungarian schools start 1st September sharp, like, there's absolutely no excuse for them not to start on that very day, except when it falls on a weekend. Even then, if 1st Sep is a Saturday, they start on the 31st Aug with the presentations of the teachers, classes, and start on 3rd with the full routine. No warm up time. LOL. I wish it would be the same here. 1st Aug - 20th Sept is far too big of school holidays for them kids. And for parents it is NOT sustainable because we can't get so much time off from work, right!? Because this is not the only holiday season of the year, there are more around Easter and Christmas - New Year combo is also two weeks off for them. I don't say there shouldn't be a break for them, but there should be activities organized by the municipalty or school. This happens sometimes but not for this loooong summer period, no. Meh.
In terms of exercise - I visited a doctor on the 11th because I wanted to know if I could do Animal Flow safe and secure with my condition (I have implants in my back). Instead of getting simple answers and instructions, I've been put on physical therapy, 15 sessions altogether. It's quite boring, the only good part of it is a heavely back massage they do in the beginning. After that there's electrostimulation which does nothing to me, and a session of exercises - which I already know and have been doing for years anyways..
I have to say I'd be better off without this extra time consuming thing three times a week. I do a more efficient workout routine and now this is a mess too because I can only go to the gym two times a week instead of 4-5 times, simply no time to fit all these activities in plus my job and family... Well, at least it's 100% covered by the insurance so I haven't paid a dime... I hope these 15 sessions will fly. I only did 2 so far... haha.
In terms of weight and nutrition - I haven't been on the scale since mid-July, on purpose. I thought, my life is a mess, my routines are instable (who am I kidding, I do NOT have routines atm), so I'm better off "on the lose". But nowadays my head has been messing with me big time, I kept poking myself and checking my fats in the mirror too frequently. It's a sign of obsessive behavior so I thought - ok, let me see what the scale says after all. Otherwise my mind will keep nagging me that I'm getting fat again. The scale, on the other hand, showed 1 lb less than I had in mid-July, so I'm pretty okay with that. As long as my foods are 80% okay, I don't binge, I have some exercise in, I'm doing enough for maintenance. Better times will come. Routine will come back. If covid taught us something, one is how unstable everything can turn suddenly and we still have to manage... Gym and school closed several times over the last two years for longer periods, and I still managed. Because there's simply no other choice... Keeping up and keeping the sanity are important factors.
Soooo I wanted to show you guys a product I bought recently and I absolutely love it. I know most of you are from the USA so maybe this is no news for you, but ... I found a peanut butter which is in POWDER form!
It's actually amazing and it's like half of the calories of the regular version, with significantly lower amount of fat (70% less). It's this guy. I add this to my breakfast oatmeal or greek yogurt and it's amazing. It's very high protein content (56g in 100g - sorry for the metric system but I think it's clear, 56% of a dose would be protein).
As for my current post... I found these words pretty encouraging:
I'm so glad that you posted! It sounds like you are doing well. I agree with Bear on her comments regarding kids & electronics. I would make sure my kids got a break, that we did other things, but both of them are very into computer games & applications. And so are a LOT of other people their age. A LOT.
We have some members here who use/used/tried powdered peanut butter. I have not yet, not sure why. It probably would be a good idea to have a jar in the pantry.
Horn has a theory similar to the professor's, calling hers "Better than Nothing." Hers was more towards workouts, but I can see from your example how that applies to other areas of living. Very interesting.... I am going to see if I can apply this more to my work environment too.
(Anything that keeps the binges away is a win in my book.)
My sister's husband was born in Hungary! :) I'm sure it's really different in so many ways (customs, religions, language, holidays) from portugal!
our city schools in New York City are starting very late this year also; after some holidays that are celebrated by a good percentage of the population, though they are still minorities, the city always give the schools off for the jewish new year and day of forgiveness. so since those 3 days fall early in september, the city decided to begin school after them, sept 13! half a month into september, but not as late as your son's school. teachers must love the extra time off ;) haha. parents, not so much!
if you do not like the PT (physical therapy), maybe do not finish it. especially if you have to pay a copay or other payment for the PT. i cannot see you paying for something you don't find to help you?
yes, here in the USA the powdered PB has been around a long time. I personally never loved it, but i know people who enjoy it a lot! it's still not easy to find everywhere, but it's been out on the market many years here. :) it's nice if you like a pb taste but i never thought the taste was strong enough for me.
I do agree that doing something for a little while is better than not doing it at all! That goes along with the "BTN goals!" Better than Nothing goals!
Alive and kicking... :-)
All good, I just feel more tired than usual, for some reason. Weather is changing, can be that. I don't even feel the ADHD medication having any effect on me anymore.. My sleeping schedule is also slightly messed up. I will try to write more later.
Have a nice day everyone :)
i sometimes get VERY tired too. i am in that type of emotional cycle now where all i want to do is sleep. i was good for two days on sleep but now i'm back to being extraordinarily tired.
Hey!
So... I'm officially 40. Forty. Not thirty something anymore... but four-zero... Birthday went well. It's too hot nowadays so we only went out for dinner and then medieval tournament. It was the last day today, there's the annual medieval fair happening in town, in the moulds of covid restrictions, of course.
I had my second (and for now, last) vaccine shot on the 8th, so I have the certificate now. It means I can travel, it's a good thing because I haven't seen my friends and family for years. It'd be good to catch up on them, face to face... but we are not in a hurry for now, as the situation is still pretty unstable.
OK so today is Friday, and sadly, it's my final day of the two-weeks vacations, too. From Monday onwards, I'll be working, from home, with the kid still at home until mid-September because schools start by then around here... And all this means... Adaptation! Oh, my ADHD... I'm already overwhelmed but I have the following plan: I'm going to change my schedule and wake up at 5h00 AM sharp. Take the dog out for his walk, and immediately after, I go out for outdoor workout, every single day. I will come up with something better but for now the idea is to get used to it so I will need to get it done every single day until I'm more comfortable with the schedule. This way, I will have my exercise done before having to deal with any of the above mentioned... How does this sound? Hopefully I will be able to sleep enough, luckily I have no major problems with sleeping.
My cake was a typical regional almond cake. Very heavy, marzipan cake filled with egg cream.
In the book of your life, Chapter 40 sounds like it's off to a good start. I like your daily plan, at least through quarantine. :-)
Your cake is beautiful ! :) what a nice cake!
40 sounds like a good age. i'm right behind you at #39 soon in september. good ages!
adapting is hard, but it's all about keeping with routines and not getting side-tracked. for this week to come, my goal is to improve my bedtime hour by sleeping earlier; as well as getting up earlier to walk before work!
Hello, Fit and Fabulous People of DD!
So... I'm feeling better. The woman didn't say a word, and I don't really care anymore. My mom used to tell me "when you decide to step out from somewhere, make sure you don't let the door behind you permanently closed". Basically this just means we should try to quit a job, finish a relationship (any kind, not just romantic), on mutual agreement and not in a bad way, if possible. I try to live by this rule, and I just feel that this woman has permanently closed the door on our relationship. Again, not romantically speaking, LOL!
I didn't do much yesterday. I wanted to clean up because I spotted a roach two nights back in the kitchen, and this was the first and only ALIVE one I've ever spotted in my home (actually two dead ones randomly appeared this summer in different places of the apartment floor)... I freaked out, and it was high on one of the kitchen cupboard doors, so I couldn't reach it immediately and by the time I built up courage and fought of the deep inner disgust I felt towards it, it vanished... 
But... me and deep cleaning... we haven't been in speaking terms for years... I have ADHD and I feel constantly overwhelmed by anything messy. And ... a six year old kid does a LOT of mess... I also do a lot of mess by leaving stuff randomly all over the place. So, by the time I have time and some will to do deep cleaning, I never know where to start, and I end up doing something only very remotely efficient and never see the end of it. I normally turn on the TV to put some music on YouTube and end up dancing and singing, using the broom as microphone... Yeah, I'm soon 40... years...old... 
I made it to the gym yesterday and made a new friend. A personal trainer I never talked to before, we ended up having a really nice conversation. He lives nearby (well, everything is nearby in this town anyway, but he lives a street down from my building), and they have a 5 year old daughter. I always see these things as an opportunity to build a new friendship and possibly the kids could play together or something but... I always think a lot ahead and that's not how it works. Again, ADHD. I have to control impulsive behaviours, because unfortunately good intentions can be misinterpreted, especially when I'm trying to build friendships with males..
I have to start my day and do something remotely useful. Thinking... 
Hope things work out with trainer & the kids have fun!
However, that's really nice to hear about your potential new friend at the gym. That sounds very promising!
Make sure there are no holes that need to be closed where roaches are possibly entering. they are quite sneaky..
a friend of mine always cleans with music, she says.
how nice, maybe your son will become friends with his daughter!
Hello everyone!
First of all, have a nice week, and a nice August!
I'm on holidays for two weeks, today is day #1. I'm stressed out of course, kid is at home, but I don't really know what to do...
That woman sounds like a blasted ingrate! And you were being so very kind!
Oh just forget that other lady... How rude for not letting you know, though. That would eat away at me a little bit, but let me tell you: don't waste another minute stewing about her. I hope you are able to enjoy your holiday day off.
so pretty. i think you have lost quite a bit of weight! nice going. you look healthier.
well, that was so nice of you to offer to watch her girl and if she doesn't like your plans, then she shouldn't leave the girl with you. you did nothing wrong, the girl would have had a great time with you, i know! ah well, her loss!
I'm so dead.. hehe.. I tried Animal Flow because I find it so elegant and challenging ... So, I tried this one after machines at the gym:
20-minute workout: Animal Flow - Furthermore (equinox.com)
It's NOT 20 minutes... maybe if I did it for a year, I would get to there but if I did all these reps and stuff, I would still spend an hour struggling with most... haha...
I will come back later, I'm in a hurry... xoxo
I'm back! :-)
So, I'm really enthusiastic about this workout routine. I find it super challenging, yet it can be done slow and steady, body and mind conscious turned on 1000%. I haven't done the above one in 20 minutes, not even close (I haven't measured but I'm sure it was a lot more), and I certainly haven't done the reps they suggest in the text...
I decided to find another, better session for beginners and slowly build it up. Also, the GIFs are cool but it's very difficult to get the hang of the full motion because these are heavy exigent compound exercises... and they are called "flow" for a reason, right...?
I found these so far.. but there are so many, it's overwhelming for my ADHD... I don't know where to start! hahaha...
(26) Primal Movement Beginner Flow Tutorial (Follow Along) - YouTube
(26) 50 Weird and Challenging Animal Movements (Exercises) To Apply To Your Training - YouTube
My dogs and cats don’t do much animal flowing. The little narcoleptics.
Animal flow is a cute name for a yoga flow. I hope you feel a little better today :)
I guess start with any and once you get really good, do the next...
nice job finding some free yoga workouts...
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So true and a lot to think about.....
Donkey on 09/13/2021:
You are SO RIGHT about social media... I feel like I'm getting caught up in a couple of women's journeys. One is realistic, she sounds a lot like me. The 2-3 others I follow, though... when I started realizing that I was comparing myself, then it started to feel uncomfortable.
One thing I wanted to mention is that my entire life seems to have been dictated to me by my uterus: the dangerous moods, the cramps, the nausea, the inflammation as a result of surging hormones, even my back problems are related to my uterus! It's hard not to feel like a prisoner in my own body.
horn_of_plenty on 09/13/2021:
Great advise to be True to Yourself! i asked someone advice not too long ago on how to be more professional or what to do in general to give myself an honest / good reputation at work - she also said be true to yourself.
I like having DD in one place, for me, because i do not feel i could keep up with it in two places and don't want to feel responsible to reply even sooner to people bc of facebook's "instant gratification" timeline if you know what i mean?
maybe i'll just join to watch and not reply...
horn_of_plenty on 09/13/2021:
yes, i am knowledgable per your entry below and how AA is very religious, god/christian based which works very well for many of it's members.
I have been to a couple AA meetings, to observe, not for me; and those two meetings had a spectacular leader who did a wonderful job. the meetings were very emotional and supportive :) I spoke of OA in it, actually! a few were OA!
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