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KathyBlue - Thursday Nov 04, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

I'm here, I'm okay, just no time to write in detail.

Work work work... family family family... Eat (not too healthy - too much!). Sleep (4-5 hours in average - too few!).


Jacky82020 on 11/04/2021:
That’s not a whole lot of sleep! Rest up when you can, girl.

Donkey on 11/04/2021:
I'm kind of in the same boat, so I'm not sure if I have any words of wisdom. I can offer you sincere words of commiseration, sympathy, and encouragement.

bearcountrygg on 11/04/2021:
I think it all sounds familiar.....work and kids at the same time is always hard......I promise you though when he is grown you will look back on it as one of the best times of your life......right now it is a struggle...but a worthwhile struggle.

Brett on 11/05/2021:
Go, She Wolf!

horn_of_plenty on 11/06/2021:
Love the quote ! I’m at the same place in my life too ;)

happy-1 on 11/09/2021:
Way too few! Why so little sleep?

KathyBlue - Wednesday Nov 03, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0


Jacky82020 on 11/03/2021:
Terence, this is stupid stuff: You eat your victuals fast enough; There can't be much amiss, 'tis clear, To see the rate you drink your beer. But oh, good Lord, the verse you make, It gives a chap the belly-ache. The cow, the old cow, she is dead; It sleeps well, the horned head: We poor lads, 'tis our turn now To hear such tunes as killed the cow. Pretty friendship 'tis to rhyme Your friends to death before their time Moping melancholy mad: Come, pipe a tune to dance to, lad.'

Why, if 'tis dancing you would be, There's brisker pipes than poetry. Say, for what were hop-yards meant, Or why was Burton built on Trent? Oh many a peer of England brews Livelier liquor than the Muse, And malt does more than Milton can To justify God's ways to man. Ale, man, ale's the stuff to drink For fellows whom it hurts to think: Look into the pewter pot To see the world as the world's not. And faith, 'tis pleasant till 'tis past: The mischief is that 'twill not last. Oh I have been to Ludlow fair And left my necktie God knows where, And carried half way home, or near, Pints and quarts of Ludlow beer: Then the world seemed none so bad, And I myself a sterling lad; And down in lovely muck I've lain, Happy till I woke again. Then I saw the morning sky: Heigho, the tale was all a lie; The world, it was the old world yet, I was I, my things were wet, And nothing now remained to do But begin the game anew.

Therefore, since the world has still Much good, but much less good than ill, And while the sun and moon endure Luck's a chance, but trouble's sure, I'd face it as a wise man would, And train for ill and not for good. 'Tis true, the stuff I bring for sale Is not so brisk a brew as ale: Out of a stem that scored the hand I wrung it in a weary land. But take it: if the smack is sour, The better for the embittered hour; It should do good to heart and head When your soul is in my soul's stead; And I will friend you, if I may, In the dark and cloudy day.

There was a king reigned in the East: There, when kings will sit to feast, They get their fill before they think With poisoned meat and poisoned drink. He gathered all the springs to birth From the many-venomed earth; First a little, thence to more, He sampled all her killing store; And easy, smiling, seasoned sound, Sate the king when healths went round. They put arsenic in his meat And stared aghast to watch him eat; They poured strychnine in his cup And shook to see him drink it up: They shook, they stared as white's their shirt: Them it was their poison hurt.

I tell the tale that I heard told. Mithridates, he died old.

Jacky82020 on 11/03/2021:
A.E. Houseman. One of my all time favorite poems since forever. Format didn’t come out right here

KathyBlue on 11/04/2021:
ahh awesome!! I have to check it on Google!

Donkey on 11/03/2021:
I hear ya, loud and clear. Sometimes the words just aren't adequate to describe the feelings.

bearcountrygg on 11/03/2021:
Yup...been there.

Horn_of_plenty on 11/03/2021:
sometimes we don't wanna write or explain ourselves. you got this.

Maria7 on 11/03/2021:
'...the paper stayed empty...'...says it all. Hang in there, Friend...

KathyBlue - Saturday Oct 30, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

I'm so tired... 

Three days of weekend now though, as 1st November is a public holiday.

I only made it to the gym on ONE ocassion this week - blagh! Why don't I get to have that 1% of time for my own self while my life is all about serving others?... I'm not depressive - YET, but I certainly feel like I'd be better off alone on some desert island every single day, starting around 4 PM.

Kid has the flu again, and he slept with me 4 nights, which means 4 nights of bad sleep for me because he's so tiny yet he's like an octopus, spreading existing and imaginary limbs all over the bed..

MEHHHH... I really need a better week starting this next one.... Please. Pretty please.

Jacky82020 on 10/30/2021:
Aw…. Poor kid. Do they have flu shots for kids? Only had the flu once in my life & don’t get shots myself

Next week will be better for you both.!

Donkey on 10/30/2021:
Oh I envy your 3-day weekend, although I have American Thanksgiving to look forward to, soon.

I feel similarly, that work is becoming so all-consuming that I have NO energy, physical or mental, at the end of the day to live my own life.

I wish I had suggestions or advice or insights. I don't. All I can offer is the comfort in that you are not alone.

bearcountrygg on 10/30/2021:
I remember those years well.......it does feel like you never have any me time.......((HUGS))

Brett on 10/30/2021:
I hope the little boy feels better soon.

horn_of_plenty on 10/30/2021:
Oh no! I hope your sim gets well soon! The flu can get a person pretty down ! I hope you don’t catch it and I wish you a better week of exercise ! Remember, if you can’t get to the gym, yoi can still possible take a walk around where you live and bring your son for him to get exercise too!

KathyBlue on 10/31/2021:
I walk a lot anyways because of the dog, but the weather is not helping either. It's been raining almost non-stop - and although the dog doesn't mind, I have an irrational fear of falling so I am not adventurous enough to go far or faster ... :(

Horn_of_plenty on 11/01/2021:
*sim = son !

Horn_of_plenty on 11/01/2021:
well, the good news is you do NOT have to go farther or faster! :) it is ok to keep doing what you are comfortable with! :)

PlayingQuietly on 11/02/2021:

happy-1 on 11/02/2021:

KathyBlue - Saturday Oct 23, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

 Hey everyone!

I mis-configured my diary as private for some time, but I'm back. I don't want to explain it in detail, nothing serious or sensational, my ADHD acting up, hahaha...

So, I had a reasonable week, lot of work, lot of errands and I'm glad to say that there's only two items pending on my list at the moment... Obviously there are many plans and other things to complete but in the back of my mind I have two I have to finish to feel completely "realized" for this week.

I picked up my son's new ID, finally. It's been a long waiting, because of the covid situation, all public (and non-public) services got stuck and temporarily closed or similar. The government made some changes of course to accomodate these setbacks but giving 6 months of "extra" tolerance after exipration date is still not the best approach. I think they should put more services fully online and less requiring personal appearance, face-to-face administration. I know, I know, it will take time, but... they could have already started somewhere, right?!

Gym & personal life (warning: some ranting coming) - I went 3 times this week, it's okay. I'm still planning to do Asana Rebel at home or outdoors maybe... , as I have a yearly subscription there and I haven't done much on it since I subscribed (February 2021 ) ... but hey, I'm trying. I have everything ready now, bought all the equipement, yoga mat, some ballet-type shoes that prevent the slipping ... so I should be able to do it, but I just can't start it somehow. I am not able to get started. I know it's because of my apartment being a mess and I can't get peace of mind most of the time. All the time, who am I trying to fool here idk. Last week I managed to clean up the living room so I could start there, by the end of this week my kid filled the floor with Legos. And this is how it goes, in a loop, this is how life is. I try ... I fail...

As for doing it outdoors - I still haven't got used to people passing by and looking at me. I am struggling with serious body - image issues again. I can't look into the mirror most of the time, and sometimes I see people outside and I compare myself to them. "Oh, am I as fat as her/him??" "Oh do I look like that in shorts / leggings etc. etc.". It's really really difficult for me at some point. I do feel that I improved a lot in the last couple of years when it comes to self-acceptance but this part of the body image is still something hard to crack...
In addition, it's so evil that when all the frustration and self-hatred come, the self-sabotage also begins (over-eating, compulsive eating and all those things).

Well, good people of DDs, have a nice weekend and I'm off to read your latest entries.



Donkey on 10/23/2021:
I'm so glad you posted! I can relate to a lot to what you wrote about. (If you look at my entries this past week, you'll see that I've been dealing with my own technology issues at work... actually, the week before too, with the stupid app that my gym uses, which now that I have it figured out, I'm going to delete, I think.)

I have a whole spare room that is supposed to be my yoga room. Instead, it has become a storage room and plant room. So I never use it for yoga. I could move things around to make enough room for a mat, but who wants to do yoga in a total train wreck of a room? It doesn't exactly contribute to the "zen" feel of yoga, right?

I wish I had words of wisdom or advice on how to get over the body image thing. I am not the person to go to for that. Lately, though, with the heavier weight training, I've been not so critical of my appearance, and more impressed with my performance, if I'm allowed a little vanity here. (((hugs)))

KathyBlue on 10/24/2021:
Yessss I also feel awesome most of the time. But I have parts on my body I really hate and I know they won't be "perfect" ever, and I just can't get my mind to accept and consider these "perfect in my own consideration". Mindfulness. It's just tough, most of the time. Yoga room, EXACTLY the same with me yes. Whenever I clear a space in my house, kiddo occupies it because ofc he enjoys the clean, big area as well, I'm not even blaming him. I blame my own procrastinating self and lack of consistency when it comes to cleaning and packing away...

Jacky82020 on 10/23/2021:
Nice to hear from you! Just flip off anyone who looks at you funny, J/K. Sure no one gives it a second thought.

Donkey on 10/23/2021:
^ Ha ha ha - Jacky has the BEST advice!

Maria7 on 10/23/2021:
Hope you have a good weekend.

PlayingQuietly on 10/23/2021:
my self image flip-flops from 'I look like anybody else' to ' what the heck?! yuck' ... I try to make an effort to make peace with myself when that happens

KathyBlue on 10/24/2021:
Yes, mine too, and I noticed that the worst days are the ones before and over the monthly period.. So I do believe hormones play a big part in this, too! And yes, mindfulness is key, but it's so difficult to derive these evil thoughts and channel them to something harmless or I go even further - useful...

Horn_of_plenty on 10/24/2021:
yes, putting most services online has helped me too.

for instance, i used to have to "show up" at a therapist office, now i have a monthly appt on the phone and the dr also is a bimonthly phone call. much better than going there in person. saves me a lot of time :) would prob be best for you too.

PlayingQuietly on 10/27/2021:
I got say, I don't miss those days at all... it's worth getting older just for life after the change (lol)

KathyBlue - Monday Oct 11, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

Well, hello everyone!

New week, new me! Oh wait, it's the same old me after all. Haha! 

Last week was crazy! My son started with extra sport activities - capoeira (this is a martial art, very cool, it resembles to a dance with acrobacies in-between, haha), and unfortunately, soccer. Yes, I meant to say that "unfortunately" and I put emphasis on it to everyone who mentions it is "cool" to have him on soccer and that he enjoyed the training... Sure. But in Portugal, soccer is taken very seriously, a tad bit too seriously for a 6-year old, in my opinion...

My son is on special education because he's emotionally not quite there yet, and he was flagged to psychologists because of that. So... I can see benefits IF ...

1.) it's not too pushy and stressful with all the games and stuff (competition - will this be good or bad for him??)
2.) he'll turn out to be good in it - which I seriously doubt, but I can be mistaken there. I don't see him being exceptional with the soccer ball, he doesn't seem to have that "instinct" and agility - surely they can train this to some extent but I just fail to see the talent.

He's talented for gymnastics (he managed to perform somersets on trampoline by the age of two) but he doesn't want to go back to that. ... MAN, I WISH THE YOGA WAS AN OPTION!!! He loved yoga, but the instructor had a baby, so... still waiting for her response about when and where to resume, IF viable.

I have to go to physical theraphy soon, 15 minutes to leave home, actually... Sigh. Still 6 sessions to complete the whole thing, but after those, FINALLY, it will be over and I get to manage my time again in a more efficient way...

I want to write about so many things but I have no time, grrrr.... 

Horn_of_plenty on 10/11/2021:
is there another nearby-yoga for your son? i'm so sorry she had a baby! but it will work out for your son, i know!

it's good he has the martial art and the soccer. at only 6, nobody knows if he will be able to improve tons at soccer. keep telling him its just for fun and to do his best, that is only what matters...to have fun! good luck to him!

KathyBlue on 10/11/2021:
No, nothing nearby! I mean, there are many yoga places and stuff but they are only focusing on adults. :-(

bearcountrygg on 10/11/2021:
He is little.....as long as he enjoys it then he will be fine.....next season maybe it will be easier to choose activities for him.....because he will most likely have some opinions about them then. Sounds like gymnastics would be good for him. Organized sports are good for kids as long as they can focus but may also help some kids learn to focus....I think gymnastics would be a little less team oriented and would mainly involve waiting his turn etc....But...activities should be enjoyable for them and he has plenty of time to figure out what he enjoys because if he likes it he will work harder at it and take direction easier.

KathyBlue on 10/12/2021:
True! He actually did gymnastics for a year or more. But the last time I enrolled him, we got really unlucky because they were 12, and the other 11 were all girls. Bigger girls. So the whole thing turned into more of a ballet class than anything else and he got really bored and upset with all the girlish stuff that's been going on and progressively lost interest. Too bad, I think he was really talented. Back flips, front flips, trampoline flips... aerial flips... it was all there so perfectly!

PlayingQuietly on 10/11/2021:
Hi Kathy

KathyBlue on 10/11/2021:
Hello, and welcome! :)

little_one on 10/11/2021:
Kathy, maybe you could find a kids yoga on line. Do it with him. I found that when I did things WITH my son, he enjoyed and followed thru. Maybe even ask him to help you.

KathyBlue on 10/12/2021:
That didn't work out for me. I can't even get him to do his homework without a lengthy session of tantrums and crying and stuff... it's exhausting. I need to learn how to captivate his attention and so far , in the last 6 years, I've been consequently failing with this. :(

Jacky82020 on 10/11/2021:
Sounds like you are super busy & challenged. You can do it!

Donkey on 10/11/2021:
I hear you with the issues with your son. I struggled a lot to find activities that he would like to do, and usually he was a willing participant (except for swimming, but I did require that he take classes until he could pass level 3, because I think everyone should have the skills to at least save themselves from drowning). But nothing really stoked a passion. He was pretty introverted as a kid, so social group things were difficult.

My daughter was the complete opposite, but once an activity became more about winning than just having fun, she was out. Just would not participate in that mentality. Too bad, too, because she was naturally inclined to do well in sports.

Looking back, as long as your kids know that you love them, and that they do some activities, either alone, or with you, or maybe with other adults, then it will be OK. And what I mean by activities is that they get out and be with other people, not constantly in their room or in front of a TV/computer screen.

Maria7 on 10/13/2021:
Sounds like you are having a very busy time. I hope you have a happy, blessed day.

KathyBlue - Tuesday Oct 05, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

Hey Lovely People!

It's an official Tuesday but for me it's Sunday as we have a public holiday today. I haven't worked yesterday either, so it's kinda cool to have a 4 days weekend. Although I did log in to work over the "real" weekend and got some work done as I felt awfully bad last week and my work got a bit affected. So I wanted to just put things in order for these two days while the other people are working and we in Portugal don't. I work remotely with a big team (over 50 people) and they are from many places in the world, so only a smaller group is off today. Well, TMI I guess, who caressss... 

I got a lovely workout yesterday morning. It was tough, and I did some exercises from the YouTube video I shared in yesterday's post. Some are super demanding. I felt very good yesterday all day, no pains, but today I woke up with a slight muscle pain in my shoulders. Yippe. On the other hand, the stuffy nose is still here to stay, and my mornings are very bad due to coughing and running nose. Last night I even woke up to a severely running nose, it was so weird! First I thought it was nose bleeding, as the feeling was very similar, but then I saw it was just regular snot leaving my body... uhh. I had to live 40 years to experience these things...

ANYWAY! Exciting stuff!:

My partner ordered a rowing machine. It's not a very pro machine, not a gym equipment at least. It's for home use, and it was a lower price. I hope it will do its job. I told my partner that I would use it, too. I am not a big fan of cardio at home, I saw many people buying machines (bikes, treadmills, etc.) and leave them to gain piles of dust.

I'm still trying to declutter the apartment. We have so many things here!!! It feels so overwhelming and it feels like a "mission impossible", especially with both me and partner having ADHD, and OCD.
I've been following the Decluttering & Minimalistic Life group on Facebook, they have some really neat ideas. Let me share one of them as a closing for my thread. Please, please, don't mind the colours... Half of the people commenting on this post on FB were confused because of the colours. They don't really matter - AT ALL. Hahaha...

Donkey on 10/05/2021:
I find it very nice to have a piece of cardio equipment at home. Sometimes, for whatever reason, I just can't make it to the gym, so it's good to have that as a fall-back.

Jacky82020 on 10/05/2021:
We have a very nice rowing machine. Takes up a lot of space, but we have a big downstairs gym. Think we got it used when some gym went out of business . Terrific exercise. You’re gonna love it!

Haha! Great clothes hanger tip! I seriously need to do that.

horn_of_plenty on 10/05/2021:
I'm sure you are enjoying this long weekend you are having!

nice idea in order to give away clothes we don't wear!

Horn_of_plenty on 10/05/2021:
yes, some parts of the US that are more rural and not bigger cities are having shortages; all throughout Covid.

Maria7 on 10/10/2021:
Hope you are having a nice day!

KathyBlue - Monday Oct 04, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

Happy Monday, have a nice week everyone!

Stuffy nose still, but I'm hitting the gym anyways. I was reading your entries and commenting and then I suddenly remembered I forgot to create a new playlist for the gym. Result: I had to create one in a rush, and it doesn't seem perfect but hey, I'm going to try...

(61) 44 Of The Best Medicine Ball Power Exercises - YouTube 

(I update this later if possible)

Donkey on 10/04/2021:
Hope you have a fantastic time at the gym! I don't envy you for your stuffy nose though. Those are such a bother and inconvenience. Hopefully you're clearing up soon :-)

bearcountrygg on 10/04/2021:
Hope you feel better soon.

Maria7 on 10/04/2021:
I'm glad you are feeling better but so sorry you got sick. Will be praying for you. Take good care of yourself. Try to get some rest when you can.

Jacky82020 on 10/04/2021:
What’s causing the stuffy nose? Mine is from pollen allergies. Taking antihistamines.

KathyBlue on 10/05/2021:
Yeah I took those too for the 5 recommended days, once a day, before sleep. I didn't take it last night and it was kind of weird. I woke up in the middle of the night with severe running nose... first I thought it was bleeding but no, it was just stuff in excess... so weird. I am 40 and I've been officially diagnosed as allergic for only a couple of years... It came out 2-3 years back and I'd been learning to live with it ever since.

KathyBlue - Sunday Oct 03, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0

Hey Lovely People of DD community!

I haven't had the chance to write for some time. I had really busy weeks, we had to go to the capital on Friday the week before this one, because my kid had to undergo two big sessions of psyhological tests (due to our request for special education) on this Monday. So, in order to make it a bit easier for him, we travelled after his school on Friday (3 hours bus, 1 hour of train), and we arrived at my friends' very late evening... We spent the weekend with them so the kids could play a lot, then Monday was easier to handle.

Unfortunately, I got sick there, caught a nasty flu. Kids bring these things home from school all the time. They get sick for a day or two, or not even that, but we adults suffer a lot more. We came back home on Monday night, and things quickly went downhill for me after that. I had 3-4 horrible nights because of the stuck nose, and headache. I really have no patience to be sick anymore, pffft....

So, I had a week completely off from gym / pool. Sad, sad! I miss my personal fun time a lot. I had to work and had to take care of my son + dog, and these activities drained all my already low level energy ...

This upcoming week will be different though. I feel alright by now, I still blow my nose a lot more than usual and my voice is not back to its original state, but tomorrow I'm so hitting the gym... Tuesday is bank holiday, and I took Monday off as well, so I am hoping for two calm days as a plus to my weekend.

Have fun 

bearcountrygg on 10/03/2021:
Little kids just starting school are germ magnets.........It seems like when the first child starts...the whole family is sick the entire school year.....Hope you feel better soon.

KathyBlue on 10/04/2021:
Yeah I'm better now! It's true, my kid is rarely sick, he never missed more than 1-2 days per semester so far. It's a good thing, I hope this will be the case for the upcoming years. He's so dense, so well built, inside-out hahaha...

KathyBlue - Sunday Sep 12, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0


For the 48 hours, you can join the DDs FB group via this link. Request to join, approval is needed but I'm there to do it. :) :


One more entry because I feel insipred tonight. :)

I just wanted to say... with all the noise coming from all sorts of social media on the Internet... My advice to everyone is: stay true to your own self. Don't consider others as "role models", don't fall for the influencers. We are unique... we only get to compete with ourselves, and we are on an eternal journey to reach our Forever Best! That's the real higher power, within each and everyone of us.

bearcountrygg on 09/12/2021:
So true and a lot to think about.....

Donkey on 09/13/2021:
You are SO RIGHT about social media... I feel like I'm getting caught up in a couple of women's journeys. One is realistic, she sounds a lot like me. The 2-3 others I follow, though... when I started realizing that I was comparing myself, then it started to feel uncomfortable.

One thing I wanted to mention is that my entire life seems to have been dictated to me by my uterus: the dangerous moods, the cramps, the nausea, the inflammation as a result of surging hormones, even my back problems are related to my uterus! It's hard not to feel like a prisoner in my own body.

horn_of_plenty on 09/13/2021:
Great advise to be True to Yourself! i asked someone advice not too long ago on how to be more professional or what to do in general to give myself an honest / good reputation at work - she also said be true to yourself.

I like having DD in one place, for me, because i do not feel i could keep up with it in two places and don't want to feel responsible to reply even sooner to people bc of facebook's "instant gratification" timeline if you know what i mean?

maybe i'll just join to watch and not reply...

horn_of_plenty on 09/13/2021:
yes, i am knowledgable per your entry below and how AA is very religious, god/christian based which works very well for many of it's members.

I have been to a couple AA meetings, to observe, not for me; and those two meetings had a spectacular leader who did a wonderful job. the meetings were very emotional and supportive :) I spoke of OA in it, actually! a few were OA!

KathyBlue - Sunday Sep 12, 2021
(Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.)
Weight: 0.0


For the 48 hours, you can join the DDs FB group via this link. It should automatically join, no approvals needed.:



Woohoo, Sunday!

The rest day... well. I've been resting for two days now, as I have the period and it's always a mess on several levels. Why can't we women "get used to it" over the decades, why... maybe some do, I just can't. I'm an emo wreck and my physical wellbeing is affected by all this, too. I feel bloated, fat, I keep critizing and sabotaging my own self over the course of these monthly period of 4-5 days. Then I have to work extra hard the rest of the month to lessen the damage...

Alert - some ranting follows...

I've been reading a tad bit too much of FB groups lately. I'm part of groups related to ADHD, decluttering/minimalist life, home gym and fitness groups and ultimately, the big group of Overeaters Anonymous. I don't know if you guys are familiar with the concept of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and OA (pretty much the same but focused on eating disorders)... but both of them are spritual approaches and they have the Big Book of AA/OA and they follow the 12 steps and take one day at a time. The baseline is to accept that there's a HP (Higher Power), that can be God or something else entirely if the person is an atheist or something, doesn't matter. The aim there is to accept that we are powerless about food and we become humble enough to seek help of this HP entity.
After this brief explanation, I have to say the group entries wind me up big time because people misuse the group for a diet group. OA is not a diet. OA doesn't follow or promote any diets. OA promotes having regular OA meetings (live or online) and a sponsor with whom we can work the progress based on the 12 steps, creating a meal plan, having regular talks to keep accountability on a certain level. OA is not about pounds. Not about inches. Not about losing weight. It's about balance, health, body and mind. It's about finding the reason behind the eating disorder and tackling the problem by its roots. It's a healing process, without drugs, without diets. People really don't understand it and keep posting stuff like "I need to lose 30 pounds until next month because I have a wedding to attend" and things like that. Bah...

Anyway, I feel like I should leave all the groups that have posts that make me nervous on a regular basis. They keep posting stuff that triggers me big time and I get anger issues over it. It's not like as if I was violent or anything, mostly I don't even bother to comment and I certainly don't break the phone/computer screen over them. A rule I live by is: do not argue with strangers on the Internet. But it doesn't mean they don't get on my nerves, haha...

I don't even do OA, but I respect/understand them and I like to read their motivational and success stories and their tips and tricks to work on the 12 steps. I'd love to assist an online meeting, too, but I'm afraid that it's so connected to religion and I'm not religious. For me, it's really difficult to find a HP they are talking about.

By the way, the 12 steps are the following:

The Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous

  1. We admitted we were powerless over food—that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a HP as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to the HP, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have the HP remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with the HP as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


Sunday Wisdom:


Maria7 on 09/12/2021:
Hello to you! Thanks for your comment to my post (answered it if you want to read it). Yes, I, too have been having to resist watching news on tv to lower anxiety. It seems these days that a lot of people (not you nor me) are creating their own anxieties and thriving on them. I am like you, Kathy. I like to live in peace. There is nothing like feeling peaceful. There is so much going on all over the world that who needs to read, listen to, or be a part of more anxieties? Ha! We have enough to contend with as it is. I hope you have a peaceful day and know that we love you (here at DD) and the Lord (Whom I believe in) loves you and you are a wonderful person who cares about others and tries to lift them up. I know that your message to me on my post sure did lift me up when I read it this morning and I thank you. Take care and have a blessed day. Love ya!

Donkey on 09/12/2021:
I have to agree along the lines with Maria. I don't need any more stress & anxiety in my life that I already have. So I've had to limit quite a bit of what I used to watch and keep track of. For example, this year, I just could NOT handle the coverage on the 9/11 memorial. Watched a little bit, realized it would be too much and consume my entire emotional spectrum, and then walked away. That's why I was so glad to watch something light and fun like Great British Baking Show. Thank you, PBS.

KathyBlue on 09/12/2021:
Great British Baking Show!!! That's interesting. Actually I remembered I wanted to research about how to make nuts butters at home. I stocked up on walnuts and hazelnuts as I found a 50% discount... lol...

Jacky82020 on 09/12/2021:
That sounds like what I know of AA, mostly from TV & films, some nonfiction books.

I wouldn’t read/stay in groups that irritated me. I am very active on Twitter and quite liberal with my use of the BLOCK feature. Unfortunately this fish forum has only an Ignore button. That means you won’t see this person’s posts, but they can read yours. If they comment, you know, but can’t read it unless you reverse Ignore. Greatly prefer Block. It’s as though the person never existed for you.

I’m saying less & less in this fish forum. “met” a nice man who lives in Northern England. We email & trash the mean ppl. Seriously fun!

bearcountrygg on 09/12/2021:
I signed up to join...waiting on an ok....it showed no members...LOL ....and it's a secret group...no wonder it was so hard to find.

KathyBlue on 09/12/2021:
It has members , I approved! :D I stand corrected , approval is actually needed, haha

bearcountrygg on 09/12/2021:
I was approved...you are right...it's quiet it's almost asleep...I'm in but may just be reading a bit there before jumping in.

KathyBlue on 09/13/2021:
I will try to introduce everyone :)

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