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graindart - Friday Jul 13, 2018
(OMAD, LCHF, counting calories)
Weight: 190.4

Day 5 completed successfully.

Yesterday was supposed to be a fairly easy day working, but turned into a huge headache and several more hours than anticipated.

My take on low carb high fat is pretty boring and repetetive.  I know that I could spice things up by researching recipes, but have little desire to put in any effort when my portion sizes are smaller than I'd prefer.  The good thing about boring and repetitive is that it's pretty easy to stay on track. 

Today's my last full day of being a bachelor.  The wife and daughters return tomorrow evening.  Have some work to accomplish in the morning, then hope to get some cleaning / organizing accomplished.  Will start with my office and see what I can get accomplished.  There's a chance that additional work may come in, but usually Fridays are slower.

On to conquer day 6.

Progress as of today: 92.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!

horn_of_plenty on 07/13/2018:
HELLO GAINS!! : -))))

Firstly, congrats to you on a Day 5 Success!! Good Good Job. I have gone thru stages in my own lifestyle changes where I did countdowns / counts. Those times helped me get to where I am at today. I don’t see myself stopping the calorie counting for a long time coming…for me, my days of countdowns involved once again calorie counting but I’d do averages for longer periods of time (even like a full month) and also I’d see how long I could “hold out” with a series of good days before I’d binge…now, my pace has changed a little from that approach…and I try to have in general good weeks, weekly averages. I know some days will be higher than others but that I can work it out throughout the week, trying to make everyday a moderate day.

I’ve gotten farther and farther away from binges. I did that by having less caffeine, getting more sleep, learning more about myself, and trying to get a good balance of fats/carbs/proteins to where I am not craving things to such a high degree. I’ve also gotten used to eating in a way that works for attaining the goals I want.

You’ve read what I eat…I’ve totally shaped my lifestyle and food choices for what works for me. Sometimes I yearn to be more natural in my food selection and less artificial, but for the time being I’ll say I’m pretty content with where I’m at now.

There are some groups I’m a member of that is specifically low carb high fat on facebook. LCHF is the acronym. You may want to google that. Maybe pinterest has photos/recipes. There are a lot of easy ones, you know, especially pertaining to desserts / heavy whipped cream / etc. I understand you not interested at the moment in recipes…I think the diet / lifestyle of low carb is still new to you – another reason you may not be interested yet in other recipes. And of course, you can cook veggies in similar ways you’d flavor all your favorite dishes, just without the grains, give them flavor.

One easy way for most veggies is roasting…just a little salt/pepper/oil and once in awhile even balsamic vinegar, roast in the oven. Tastes SO GOOD. Way better than steamed. If you want less oil, you can even roast partially without the oil, but remember your body needs the fat…I’ve done low fat at one point and my hair got sooooo dry and damaged, skin horrible, nails horrible. I wish I hadn’t done that – but I learned from it! I was so young. I think a senior in college. So bad…a learning experience. I have done a lot of tests on my own body throughout my lifestyle adventures..i still do.

With it being your last day alone, I suggest a good food shopping. Go get the things that’ll help you while they are back home. GET PREPARED. Being unprepared without the better options is going to make your life more of an annoying challenge and will make it too easy to get off track. I challenge you to find ways to make it easier to maintain your lower weight…for the long run. If you do it for the long run, you’ll have to find ways to eat and drink and a lifestyle that makes keeping the lower weight easy. For instance, without being able to indulge in cooked veggies often, I’d be having a MUCH harder time never being able to feel so full or I’d just get fat getting full on calorie dense options instead of veggies.

In order to maintain your weight / lose a little weight, you’ve got to have a system in place that you LIKE or even LOVE…that you know you can do for the long run…that actually becomes your lifestyle. I still struggle here and there because I’m always eating at the highest calorie range and have trouble eating on the lower end of what’s necessary to maintain, but I seem to be able to fix that when I really have to..

I did have to develop a system that works for me…and the system came into place slowly with many trials and errors. I have lots of memories from my past similar to what you are doing now. You are doing great, keep on, keep learning, keep challenging yourself, and keep your mind open to little changes that can help you.

My biggest change as of late is to remember not to push myself over my limits. That injuries aren’t worth it. To NOT work thru pain. To rest sometimes instead of work out….to listen to my body more. Past scenarios have practically forced me to use this sort of approach. But I also try to remember not to get to lax on my cardio…which is my hardest challenge always. As I’m looking to improve, so I still work to make it part of my schedule, but try to balance it still with rest and the rest of my life. It’s all a learning process, I think always, to find some balance with everything!

i had fun here, a break at work! just now :)

graindart on 07/13/2018:
Would like to develop a system of my own that I could live with on a daily basis, like you're able to. After I get back down into the 170's again, I'm planning on switching to maintenance mode for awhile. I'm good at gaining weight and pretty good at losing it, but just maintaining in one spot has never been my strength.

It would really be beneficial if I could get out of the habit of "all or nothing" and embrace moderate eating habits. An initial thought is trying to just maintain a weekly average weight in the 170's through the end of the year, instead of dealing with things on a daily basis. Of course, I need to get back into the 170's again before that can happen......

horn_of_plenty on 07/13/2018:

Donkey on 07/14/2018:
Maintenance is an interesting journey. Like you, I too struggled with maintaining for years. (Hence, the reason I gained and lost the same 50-60 pounds over and over...) I look forward to "walking with you" when you get to that point. I know you'll get there :-)

graindart - Thursday Jul 12, 2018
(OMAD, LCHF, counting calories)
Weight: 190.2

Day 4 completed successfully.

Didn't get much accomplished yesterday, but it was partially relaxing.  Ended up doing a few hours of regular work and a few hours of other stuff I was wanting to work on.

Working most of today, although if I'd get a bit more drive I could probably be done mid-afternoon.  Feeling lazy and generally burnt out as far as work.  I tend to get this way most summers.  I think it has to do with seeing my wife and kids getting to take the summer off (wife works at school).  In my mind, I should be able to take the summer off too......

Off to conquer day 5.

Progress as of today: 92.8 lbs lost so far, only 15.2 lbs to go!

horn_of_plenty on 07/12/2018:
I tend to get that feeling in the summer, too. I used to teach for a few years and was a student even 2 years after i stopped teaching, until i was 28. So, from 28-35 years old is the only time i've had to work EVERY week of summer. while a teacher, i did teach summer school, but usually only 1 month or 6 weeks. still some time off. and never a long day like i do now. Everyone, in my opinion, should have more of a "teacher schedule." !!!

graindart - Wednesday Jul 11, 2018
(OMAD, LCHF, counting calories)
Weight: 192.0

Day 3 completed successfully.

Yesterday was spent mostly just working / sitting in front of the computer screen. 

Ended the day with a softball game.  When I signed up to play this season, I thought it was going to be fun and something that I looked forward to.  Quite the opposite.  So far I really don't enjoy playing and it feels like just another committment on my calendar that I have to do.  I committed to it, so will continue through this season, but highly doubt I'll sign up again next year.

After a softball game a few weeks ago, the family was walking back to the parking lot.  I commented that I didn't really think that softball was "my game".  One of my daughters quickly piped up and said: "Yeah dad.  And by the way we beat you playing 'HORSE' the other day, I'd say basketball isn't 'your game' either."  (HORSE is a basketball shooting game.)  (She said it as a joke, not to be demeaning or disrespectful.)

Worked quite a bit yesterday so that I could kind of take a day off today.  Nothing fun planned, but am just getting some non-work tasks completed today.

On to conquer day 4.....

Progress as of today: 91 lbs lost so far, only 17 lbs to go!

innerpeace on 07/11/2018:
Have you liked playing in the past? I have troubles finding things I like to do as well. I just hope it doesn't turn tedious to you.

graindart on 07/11/2018:
Haven't really played softball / baseball since I was 10 years old (30+ years ago). Thought it would be fun to try again. Found out that I'd prefer not having the additional scheduled commitments, especially during the summer.

happy-1 on 07/11/2018:
Ha ha ha ha ha... This is how I feel about almost everything. I don't enjoy it until I've adapted to it and then can think about things going on in it that are interesting.

Maybe tennis? The back and forth ponging of the ball is super satisfying/zen meditative and I can totally focus on it and enjoy it. Plus lessons with your girls would help them learn something new too.

I guess tennis is to me as laser pointers are to cats.

Donkey on 07/11/2018:
I loved baseball/softball as a kid. Now I just don't have the patience for it, even when my team is winning. Watching, participating - nope, the love is gone.

I've been thinking about your needing to find a goal (before you decided to do another OMAD), but I see you've already come to the conclusion that I had: sometimes, a goal can be a series of successful days. Heck, sometimes, getting through ONE day is goal enough!

I was also going to suggest maybe adding a mile a day on the treadmill -- what would that take you, maybe 15 minutes depending on if you ran or walked. But then I realized that exercise-oriented goals aren't really your thing. And that's fine. Bodies are built at the table, not at the gym.

horn_of_plenty on 07/12/2018:
Well, in order to get better at anything, you need practice. Perhaps that's what's going on with your game? also, maybe it's just a personality thing and those are players' personalities are not meshing with yours? then i could understand not wanting to play on the team again...

good job on Day 3.

graindart on 07/12/2018:
Not a personality thing, everyone's very friendly and supportive. Not really about the game itself or my skill level. I think I'd just rather not have the additional weekly commitment.

horn_of_plenty on 07/12/2018:
i understand exactly what you mean about a commitment that at first it seems fun until the actual commitment of it leaves you stressed...that is starting to be my problem this summer...fun commitments but not enough alone time and it's not meshing well for me or my stress levels.

graindart - Tuesday Jul 10, 2018
(OMAD, LCHF, counting calories)
Weight: 194.0

Day 2 successfully completed.

Yesterday had a 4 hour monotonous round trip drive for work.  Packed some drinks / snack and was able to stay on track.

Summer really kicked in and the highs have been 92-99 pretty much every day for the past week or so.  Saturday the high is supposed to be in the 70's, which will be a nice change.  Not looking forward to playing softball tonight in the mid-90's.

On to conquer day 3.....

Progress as of today: 89 lbs lost so far, only 19 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 07/10/2018:
You're clearly built Ford tough!

Horn_of_plenty on 07/10/2018:
so proud of you! really loving your post today too!

good plans for the drive...good to be prepared. i had a lighter lunch, thank gosh!, today...because i planned it!

graindart - Monday Jul 09, 2018
(OMAD, LCHF, counting calories)
Weight: 194.0

Just a quick entry before jumping into work stuff.

Did a 4 week round of OMAD with LCHF a few months ago.  With my recent difficulty in getting back on track, I decided to give it another try.  So yesterday went successfully, although it's a good thing that I had limited quantity of food on hand at home.  While I had no desire to overeat the food I had on hand, I probably would've continued munching if there would've been a bag of pork rinds in the house.  On to conquer day 2.

Progress as of today: 89 lbs lost so far, only 19 lbs to go!

horn_of_plenty on 07/09/2018:
Yes ! Loving your winning attitude ! Love this entry !

graindart - Sunday Jul 08, 2018
(OMAD, counting calories)
Weight: 198.0

Yesterday started out good, but ended badly.  Was fully under control until 7pm.  Then decided to get a salad from McDonalds.  Once in the drive-thru, decided to add a McChicken sandwich.  Then it snowballed over the next couple hours with a couple more restaurant pop-ins.  Once I got home I wanted to continue eating, but I emptied the house of food a couple days ago, so I stopped.  Today is starting off good.  I won't be going to any restaurants tonight........ 

Was bored yesterday afternoon and went over to my sisters house to talk for an hour or so.  She's kind of in the same place mentally that I am.  She was eating better and exercising for several months leading up to the Alaskan cruise last month.  Now that it's over, neither of use have any real desire / motivation to eat right or exercise.

I feel like I'm now on the defensive, instead of offensive.  Before I was working towards a goal.  I had desire and motivation.  I wanted to accomplish the goal.

Now that the cruise is over, I'm just trying not to slip up and fall backwards too much.

I know I need to have a goal to work towards.  I'm just that type of person.  With that said, I can't think of a goal that I'm willing to set and commit to.  There are plenty of goals that I could arbitrarily set, but none that I can think of that have a payoff that I'm actually willing to work towards right now.

Oh well.  Even without a grand goal in place, I still need to finish today off successfully.

Progress as of today: 85 lbs lost so far, only 23 lbs to go!

graindart - Saturday Jul 07, 2018
(OMAD, counting calories)
Weight: 197.0

Yesterday I was completely back in control of food.  At the end of the day my mind did start reasoning with itself, saying "you've been good".  "You really should reward yourself with food for being so good."  I ignored myself.

Softball went better for me last night, even though as a team we had our first loss of the season.

The wife and kids flew off on the 5th to visit the in-laws for 10 days, so I'm home alone.  It's a weird feeling.  I both enjoy the "me-time" and also feel lonely at the same time. 

Without them here it should be easier to stay on track food-wise.  As long as I keep on-track, I should be around day 8 or 9 in a row by the time they get back next week.  It's always a struggle to get back on plan after going off-plan for a few days.  This time I effective jumped off the wagon for 1 full month.  It was only supposed to be around 10-12 days for the cruise and travel back/forth.  I don't regret the 10-12 days that I planned for, but do wish I could go back in time and have got back on-plan as soon as it was over.

One of the effects of stuffing my face for 1 month was that I went from averaging around 180lbs to seeing myself pop over 200lbs again.  I never intended to see my weight start with a "2" ever again.  It was totally avoidable, but I was stupid.  I kept stuffing my face daily and saw my weight stay in the mid to high 190's for most of the time.  Then one day it jumped from high 190's to low 200's and I realized that I had screwed up in a major way.  I finally realized that I was either going to get back in control of food or I was going to head straight back towards the 283 lbs I weighed last year.

With the 1 month weight gain, my clothes are fitting extra snug.  My belt loop is out 2 more notches.  All of my new size medium shirts now have to be pre-stretched if I want to fit in them somewhat comfortably.  Several of my new shorts / jeans are now too small to fit into comfortably.  I'm down to wearing a few size large shirts that I still had in the closet, along with 2 pairs of shorts and a couple of larger jeans that I hadn't gotten rid of yet.  I did think about running to the store to buy a few shorts / shirts in a size that would be comfortable right now, but decided against it.  I figure the limited wardrobe and tighter fitting clothing will be a constant reminder that I need to stay on track.  A week or two of being 100% on track should be all it takes for the clothes to start feeling decent again.

At the softball game last night I was talking with a friend who is about my age.  He asked how much I weighed and said I was looking really good.  I told him I wished he had asked a month ago, because I had just put on 25 lbs since then.  He mentioned that he has been trying to eat right, but has been stuck around 250 lbs for awhile now.  I told him what had worked for me when I initially lost 100 lbs.  Him mentioning my weightloss and looking good was extra motivation for me to stay on-plan yesterday.  Sometimes I forget that being more healthy isn't just for me and my family's benefit.  It's also motivation for others that know me and are overweight.  Once you see someone you know successfully make a positive change, it's motivating.  That's actually what got me started on my diet when I weighed 283 last year.  My best friend lost 40+ lbs and was starting to work out.  I knew he was on a diet at the time, but kept waiting for him to screw up and gain it all back.  In my mind, it was ok that I was fat as long as he failed and was still fat like me.  When I realized he was actually going to succeed, I decided I really didn't want to be known as "the fat friend".  It was the motivation I needed at the time. 

I'm guessing guys minds work differently than gals.  When the friend at softball asked how much I weighed, I wasn't offended at all and offered up the number even though it was more than I wanted to weigh at present.  In fact I've asked a couple other "fit" male friends over the past 6 months how much they weighed.  Generally for guys it's just trying to analyze things in order to set a goal.  Like everyone, the heavier we are, the less comfortable we are about sharing what we weigh.  While I didn't have a problem with the question, I'm guessing it probably would've been considered rude between females in general.  Or maybe I'm wrong......

I wanted to make sure to let you all know that I appreciate the responses to my entries, especially when I haven't posted for a few days.  Without accountability it's easy to go off-plan and stay off-plan.  When I get the email notification that I've got a reply, it's a reminder that I need to keep on-track (or get back on-track).

Progress as of today: 86 lbs lost so far, only 22 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 07/07/2018:
Ha, this is why I am tucking all my larger clothes in my mom's closet... If I can't get to larger clothes I'll feel the pinch as my jeans don't fit.

Horn_of_plenty on 07/07/2018:
staying away from energy drinks and caffeine will help rid yourself of some food cravings...caffeine always gets me MORE ravenous (though i like it, so i am not interested right now in stopping all caffeine....). though lately i had some energy drinks which helped cause new face breakouts! ugh!

Horn_of_plenty on 07/07/2018:
the only way you could have possibly done better after coming home from your trip would be to have made sure right away to have a LOT of healthy food options back at home right away when you got back - by going out and getting them ASAP.

also, after many days of high calorie eating, the body DOES have trouble bouncing right back and i general i myself have some trouble and usually new a few days to inch myself back to lower cals, it may not happen in 24 hours..could take a few days to get all the way back and body feel used to the lower cals.

Horn_of_plenty on 07/07/2018:
i have a few friends who see me successful at taking off a lot of pounds too (around 20-30lbs overall from the highest points in my life) and when they see me continue to keep most off, they are inspired.

i also have friends that WISH they could do it, and a particular friend i'm thinking about now who when i see tries to get me to eat poorly and doesn't really understand what i takes to lose weight and keep it off because his schedule is so much more relaxed than mine...he doesn't understand my lifestyle and it's actually starting to bother me as he thinks i shouldn't be able to "love" the gym....oh, he'd never understand what it's like to work and have hobbies that you actually want to stick with...i'm sorry he thinks my life is so menial.

happy-1 on 07/07/2018:
Speaking of motivation... how cool does this look???? You go for runs and virtually play zombie apocalypse. They've gotten to 2 seasons!!! https://zombiesrungame.com

graindart - Friday Jul 06, 2018
(OMAD, counting calories)
Weight: 204.0

Started yesterday good.  Had tons of work to get done and decided to eat an apple part way through the day as a break.  Followed right away by popcorn.  Followed right away by hamburger and chicken breast.  Then I didn't stop until around 9pm.......  Had a lot of monotonous work and I used the food to just try to cope.

Only good thing from yesterday was that I didn't drink anything with calories or caffeine.

Today is starting off ok.  

Progress as of today: 79 lbs lost so far, only 29 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 07/06/2018:
Good start today!

happy-1 on 07/06/2018:
Good job!!!

Donkey on 07/07/2018:
Well, keep trying... At least you are being completely honest about using food as a coping mechanism, and I feel, at least in my journey, that this is an important step to take to true behavior modification. I've done it: I am feeling (whatever) and I am using food to help me get through this, and I'm OK with that because I do what I have to do to get through (whatever) until I can do better. Does that sound too corny? Probably, but it's helped me.

When I was at my heaviest at this job, I found myself using food to cope with stress. So at around 3pm when everyone is emailing and I'm pressing to get deadlines met, I'd head for the chips. (My male co-worker still does this on almost a daily basis.) I found that interrupting my work to get food - and then to eat the food - would slow down the work that I was needing to get done - so counterproductive!

Now I get up and take a walk - usually to get the mail, to go outside to get something out of the car (real or not), to go downstairs for ice cubes or raw vegetables that I keep in the downstairs fridge specifically so that I have to walk to get it... I also make sure I have water (flavored) and sugar free candies (mint seems to calm me down).

Now I'm just babbling about myself... I guess my question would be that if you're using food to break up the monotonous work, don't you too find this to slow you down? Or does eating make you more productive?

The real important question is: how do you eat at your desk without spilling something or getting messy fingers onto your keyboard???? This is totally my downfall ;-)

graindart on 07/07/2018:
Using food to cope while working is completely counter-productive and I know that even while I'm stuffing my face.

I think the reason I use the food sometimes is that it keeps me at my desk. So I might only be 75% as productive as usual, but at least I'm getting stuff done. I've found that when I run an errand to break up the monotony, I might waste an hour or more and then feel even less like getting my work done when I get back.

graindart - Monday Jul 02, 2018
(OMAD, counting calories)
Weight: 197.1

Just a placeholder entry.

Decided to just stay off diet plan until after the 4th of July.  We're having a lot of friends / family over for the 4th and will have them take all of the leftover food with them as they leave.  The wife and kids are leaving early on the 5th to visit the in-laws for 10 days, so it'll just be me at home.  The house will be pretty devoid of food and I'll just go buy a very limited amount of stuff that I plan to eat.  Should be able to get back on track pretty easy without food temptations or special get-togethers planned while the family is gone.

So on the 5th I'll be back, on track, and catching up on everyone's entries.  Have a happy and safe 4th.

Progress as of today: 85.9 lbs lost so far, only 22.1 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 07/02/2018:
You get me time and a staycation!!! Good for you!

bearcountrygg on 07/02/2018:
Sounds like a plan

Horn_of_plenty on 07/03/2018:
Well, thank you for saving your spot :)

I hope you have a wonderful 4th of July too...today we are having bagels at work, i am not even in the mood, but figure i'll enjoy it. planning around having a bagel with cream cheese :) bagels tend to not fill me at all and i get hungry soon after, but i'm choosing to enjoy it...i think? after writing how i feel about bagels, i'm not even wanting it...

enjoy all your get togethers.

Donkey on 07/04/2018:
Hope you have a nice day with your family today. I'm glad you posted a placeholder entry. Sometimes, it helps just to acknowledge one's place - "this is where I'm at" - with no comment or criticism (from one's self).

graindart - Wednesday Jun 27, 2018
(OMAD, counting calories)
Weight: 197.1

In response to Donkey's question:

How am I doing pertaining to life, family, wife, daughters, work, and everything else besides eating right?  Great!

How am I doing food-wise?  Terrible.  And all of my new clothes bought over the past few months are starting to feel snug. 

It's kind of a "perfect storm" type of time period right now.  Got back from the cruise and now don't have a specific goal in mind to work towards.  Without specific goals, I tend to get lazy and revert to old ways of eating.  So no current goal coupled with 3 or so weeks of bad eating have taken their toll.  Have restarted a plan a few times since getting back, but keep choosing to jump off the tracks.  Wasn't going to stay on plan for our 19th wedding anniversary.  Took the family camping in the woods and fully planned on eating plenty of hot dogs / marshmallows / smores / etc.  Just got back today and tonight's "date night", so don't want to be back on track today.  Then 4th of July is one week away and I know that's going to be off-plan.  Right now, planning on getting back on-plan tomorrow and attempting to make it up to the 4th of July.  Go off-plan on the 4th.  Then the wife and kids leave on the 5th to visit the in-laws for 10 days.  In theory, those 10 days should be easier to get back on track since I won't have any additional food distractions.

I really just need to figure out exactly what I'd like.  Right now, I think weighing in the 170's feels good and looks pretty good.  So I'm leaning towards getting back into the 170's and then just transitioning into "maintenance" mode for awhile.  My mind has been on "dieting" for the past 14-15 months and it's mentally exhausting to have dwelled on the same thing for such a long period of time.  I'd like to be able to relax somewhat, but without throwing all of my hard work away.

Ideally I'd like to figure out a change of career that would still bring in similar money, but allow me to be more active.  My current career pays well, but the busier I am with work, the more I just sit in front of a computer for hours upon hours.  Then I want to combat the boredom and monotony with food.  I need to find a way to get paid to ride my dirt bike in the woods on a daily basis........

Progress as of today: 85.9 lbs lost so far, only 22.1 lbs to go!

happy-1 on 06/27/2018:
Sounds like you need an annual guys weekend ritual of doing a tough mudder. Motivate you all to do well or at least as good as the other guy.

graindart on 06/27/2018:
Competition does drive us "men-folk". But I'm already winning at the man-race with all but one of my friends. And I'm not willing to put in the effort to catch up with him. He goes to the gym twice per day for a total of 4 or 5 hours per day, 6 days per week. While he physically is looking great and says he enjoys it, I just don't understand how someone can spend that many hours doing something so mind-numbingly boring.

But like you said, I probably do need some type of event goal to keep me working in the right direction.

horn_of_plenty on 06/28/2018:
Hi Gains :-P I hope you still enjoy this nickname :-P I’m also happy that you are still logging into DD and we are lucky enough to receive a “Graindart Update!”

What happened to you after the cruise is a typical pattern with so many folks including myself. Like you, I have had instances, def more than 1, where I have reached a goal or reached a very happy place in terms of body look / diet / exercise only to reach it and have no new goal or motivation enough to keep on going.

But sometimes the issue is not just reaching a goal and having nowhere else to go. It’s also finding healthy habits that make it EASIER to remain at goal when motivation is lacking. This part of the process is the nutrition / calories / diet part and less the exercise part. I think this is the part that is frustrating you as you wrote above. Now that the trip is over, I recommend you try to eat in a way that you enjoy…and find ways to be able to enjoy life and not feel like diet is such a nasty task. Who would want to go thru life always on a diet, struggling. Yes, I too have my struggles…but what I’m saying is – especially bc you work from home – you have the opportunity to have the foods at your reach and have all kinds of good options. Eh. ..

What I’m saying is, instead of denying yourself like what you were in a habit of doing before the cruise, perhaps try to give your body more? Try to find what could work in the long term now. This is sorta what you had in mind coming back from the trip.

Who knows, perhaps you are a OMAD / IF person, just not everyday? The ball will always be in your court, it’s your life, it’s what you choose :-P Reminding you that it doesn’t all after to be only one way or the highway. Lifestyle and diet can be a mix of dietary options. For instance, I like to fill up and feel full. By doing this at times with vegetables, my diet can include lots of volume and I can fill my stomach but calories are not totally blown up out of proportion and weight gain is mostly prevented.

Same with that ice cream I like. I can eat my full share and not feel like I have to diet the next day. For me, it was finding some alternatives to be able to continue eating to feel full. I’m not saying my way is the only way though! I wish I always didn’t need so much volume or crave it. But, like I said, it works for me.

At times, I WISH I could be satisfied with a small sandwich or grilled cheese or something of that nature as it’s nice to be able to eat junk food and be thin, right? But I have a big appetite, so small amounts of junk food generally are not what I want.… But for some reason, I always crave VOLUME in my meals…but those other foods like grilled cheese (bad example bc I really don’t eat it bc it doesn’t fill me up) …but like the peanut butter – which I was in a previous habit of enjoying in a wrap for breakfast sometimes with my own sweetened with stevia cranberries..pb was not off limits…but when I crave to be full, I know what to do. For instance at work I generally have wraps for breakfast. They are small and I make them at home. I drink a full cup of coffee after to fill me up on top of the small wrap. Coffee is part of the plan…my volume plan…to filling my stomach.

So, in terms of diet, a lot of my habits that help me “stay sane” is making sure many of my meals have a moderate to high volume so I can feel full.

And like I was saying with all or nothing, perhaps if you have all these special occasions, it doesn’t have to be “all or nothing” days. Perhaps now while everything is volatile, try to have good days on the days that aren’t celebratory or have tons of food…and on the days where there is celebrations, perhaps allow yourself small / moderate tastes of the treats…and also try to plan to choose healthy things. Like can’t you fill up on a veggie tray / bring a veggie tray and bring seltzer / diet drinks. So eat the food, but then switch over to the healthier options. That’s how I have been successful more or less.

With maintenance, there are times that your weight will go up a little as it has now…and also you will be able to eat more with more muscle mass…so keep on with your exercise. Remember that even maintenance is hard work as you see with folks on here that maintain – like myself and donkey.

Can’t you just exercise more without changing careers? Are you sure you really want to change a career if you are already successful??? Or, perhaps you can have a dirt bike riding park for kids!

Donkey on 06/28/2018:
Like yourself and Horn, I've been in that tough spot where you've accomplished a goal and then you're left with, "Now what?" It took me a week or 2 to get back on track and find "the love" again, if you know what I mean. I also agree with you that timing is everything. So I've been in both spots before.

When it's right, it clicks. When it's wrong, it doesn't stick.

I thought of you this morning when they had on the news some guy setting the new plank record. He set it last night and then was trying again today to break his own record that he just set the day before. 8 hours. Of plank. Talk about boring! He starts each day with a 2 hour plank -- probably just falls back asleep in the plank position -- and 1000 push-ups a day.

I guess my point is that if that guy can find "the love" in doing an 8-hour plank, then I'm pretty confident you'll find your motivation again soon. Keep trying!

horn_of_plenty on 06/29/2018:
the guy friend that is in the gym for hours, is he single!? i doubt he can be married with kids and do that kind of time consuming isolated from family exercise??? does he work!? does he work from home??? how does he do it...timewise i couldn't.

i'm sure he is in great form!

graindart on 06/29/2018:
He's married, with 5 teenage kids. Him and his wife go to the gym for several hours each day together, 6 days per week. He's a realtor, so has a flexible schedule.

Both him and his wife are looking really fit. I just don't understand why people put that much effort into something so repetitive, with little payoff (other than looking good). It'd be different if they used their fitness and muscles to do something (sports, outdoor activities, paid to train others, etc). But they just basically live in the gym. They say they enjoy it, so good for them. (Personally I think it's a waste of time.)

horn_of_plenty on 06/29/2018:
maybe it helps them "play the realtor part" in selling homes by also looking good? i am sure all the compliments makes them want to keep going ...interesting.

5 kids!

interesting couple. def not the norm! i'm sure they are a bit inspirational, even if you don't want to be them!

graindart on 06/29/2018:
It's a combined family from previous marriages. Not much inspiration-wise, except for the fitness side of things. Hadn't really thought about it, but looking fit very well may contribute to making more money in the realtor game......

horn_of_plenty on 06/29/2018:
maybe it helps them "play the realtor part" in selling homes by also looking good? i am sure all the compliments makes them want to keep going ...interesting.

5 kids!

interesting couple. def not the norm! i'm sure they are a bit inspirational, even if you don't want to be them!

horn_of_plenty on 07/02/2018:

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