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happy-1 - Friday Oct 16, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

REM sleep... about 50 I think.

Headache turned out to be an inner ear problem in both ears, one burst eardrum. Inconvenient, a little painful... But I sure want to run around the house yowling and pacing. I sure hope I didn't put my cat down over an ear infection. Antibiotic drops for me. A call into the vet to find out if it could be zootropic, how I clean up, and if I am carrying it how long before I can go to someone's house who has cats.

Hard day.

Dad actually manned up and called the caregiver agency to come take him to the post office and the grocery store. Good job. 

Later, he hurt his arm, bumped into stuff, etc. I realized he had gone on an outing and I hadn't snuck his oxygen on him while he was asleep because I was trying to get my ear handled. Poor old man.

I did notice him wearing the adaptive slippers I bought him!


Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 10/16/2020:
I had lots of ear infections as a kid and even had an eardrum burst. But it healed.

Good for your dad knowing he needed helped and asking for it.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/16/2020:
I hope your ear heals soon :)

it's good some help for dad is coming soon <3

thinkpositive on 10/16/2020:
Sorry about your ear infections. I remember as a child, my mother taking me to the doctor with an earache. The doctor asked my mother why she hadn’t brought me in earlier. It was painful.

Donkey on 10/17/2020:
Oh that ear thing doesn't sound good :-( Yikes, on top of everything else to deal with.

happy-1 - Wednesday Oct 14, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

1h REM

A little tired. Short on total sleep. Brain feels like it got whacked with a croquet mallet. Gave myself a quiet recovery day. I had a lot of things on my to do list and did a couple of them. 

On track with eating. Meal delivery was the best choice I made in a long time. It's keeping me steady through tough times. Got a little daylight. Just took a chair and my laptop outside for a little bit.

My groundbreaking experiment today was to try an ADHD coworking session. It was really good. I didn't have things setup to do it effectively, but next time I will. I would definitely pay to do this once or twice a week. If it isn't expensive.

It feels weird and sad to be here without a cat. It is all I can do to not run out to the shelter tomorrow and ask them for the most obnoxious, bossy, and demanding tom cat they have.

At the very least I need to deep clean the house and everything my cat had to not infect the next cat. Also, I really shouldn't get another pet till I take my dog for a final adventure. Plus I might need to do a cross country drive and back...

But oh that purr... And the little daily aggravations that snap you out of the doldrums.

Cats can go on road trips, right?


Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

Donkey on 10/15/2020:
Of all 8 cats I've had, only 2 could tolerate car trips. Most of mine are miserable and puke or pee or both, even on short trips. So I say, if you have a road trip planned, make other arrangements for the cat.

But I understand the want for another cat. I do. However, I agree with ALL of your reasons for holding off for now.

Tuesday night, my Fitbit didn't record 4 hours of my sleep, for some reason. Perhaps I was abducted by aliens. But my point is that an hour of REM is nothing to sneeze at :-)

Horn_of_plenty on 10/15/2020:
yes, meal delivery i do sometimes...it feels good to cook new things...and have that variety...and have it organized already into an easy prep style!

will you give some thought to getting another cat? one day (far future, not now at all), i'm getting myself a dog!!!! 5-10 years and i'll have my own, hopefully. :)

happy-1 - Tuesday Oct 13, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

0:59 REM sleep

Did the hard thing today and put my cat down.

When I woke up and let him out of his bathroom, his face was covered in black stuff and it was crusted around his nose and eyes, which had also filmed over. He was wheezing and stumbling. He still wouldn't eat. And he was pacing and yowling. It was breaking my heart. So I did it. I had my dad and my dog say their goodbyes. I think my dog knew what was up. My cat and I said our goodbyes in the car, then we waited outside the vet office. I didn't want to keep him in the carrier so I held him. I didn't expect that they would let me in with him during COVID-19, but they did. So I got to hold him in the vet office. He was so skinny and tiny... soft and warm... and trusting. I felt like an #######. This cat blindly trusts that I will only ever be good to him and I was there to hold him while he was being put down.

At least it was me and not a stranger.

At least it was before he really got skinny and really suffered.

At least it was professional vet services and not animal control

At least he's with my mom now and she has all her cats.

I gave him messages to take to her on the other side. He can tell her how we all are, what we have been up to, and that we miss her very much. I told him to tell her I will be on the lookout for a grey tabby cat with green eyes if one ever comes my way.

I want my mom and my cat.

My nose is so red and swollen, I should be making balloon animals at a toddler birthday party. The bags under my eyes are so big, I could pack for a week. My head hurts like I got cracked with a sledgehammer.

Working very hard to stay the course tonight and not eat everything in sight. I won't watch Hulu or Netflix and end up in show hole and screw up my sleep. I want a real life.

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 10/14/2020:
I'm so sorry about your cat. :(

happy-1 on 10/14/2020:
TY. Maybe I'm making too big a deal over this, but there's something about making decisions for a vulnerable person (human, canine, or feline) that is just wrenching.

Donkey on 10/14/2020:
(((hugs))) Oh I'm so sorry :-( But I'm glad you were with him at the end. Now he is part of something much larger.

happy-1 on 10/14/2020:
Ty. And he's with my mom. She has all her cats with her now. And she'll get all the news on how we are doing.

grannyannie on 10/14/2020:
Having to put down a pet is a big deal - it's very difficult. Hugs.

happy-1 on 10/14/2020:

Horn_of_plenty on 10/14/2020:
I'm a person that sides with making the best decision for both you and the cat. and that an animal shouldn't suffer. so, i think you made the best choice you could. it's never easy, but your cat will not be suffering anymore.

i send you hugs and strength. i understand how you are so upset and grieving for both cat and your mom <3

happy-1 on 10/14/2020:
Hugs. Ty. Augh.

happy-1 - Monday Oct 12, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

53 min REM sleep. That's 3 days in a row of "more than I've had, not as much as I need... but still a big improvement". If this continues, maybe I will dig myself out of this mess. My friend called tonight and wanted me to leave and come crash on her couch. See if I do better away from home. I would like that, but I don't know what I would do with the pets... and I don't want to be under scrutiny. I need a vacation somewhere with a cold, dark, quiet hotel room I can crawl into and sleep/eat for days. Maybe a pool. Except in COVID-19 that is a challenging proposition.

Old tom cat update... Not treatable. Super aggressive cancer. This is what I get for asking the volunteer at the adoption event for the oldest cat they had... one that wouldn't last very long. At the time I thought it was genius... Mom was on hospice and a scarecrow. A cat would make her happy. Something we could do together and think about other than that she was dying. I never wanted a cat (cat box, destructive, fleas, can't go on adventures) and was literally only doing it because she was on her death bed... I figured that a half dead cat would get a family before his send off. Everybody wins.

But now... Augh. The soft furry body I cuddle at night. The primal satisfaction of a purr. That last link to my mom. A cat we rescued together. A soft, furry, squishable jerk that I can hug and know he misses her too... 

Not feeling completely alone is hard to lose.

And I can't shake that my mom felt that cats were linked to the other side. So if I give him a hug he sends it on to her.

Trying palliative/steroids for 8 days to see if he starts eating, settles a bit, and yowls less. It's not like we expect him to do much. He can be 75% dead and still be a perfectly good cat. Like Max said in the Princess Bride "There's a big difference between mostly dead and all dead."

He does seem to enjoy lounging on the new kitchen floor. That would make my mom so happy.


  • Errands
  • Tracking down care for cat


  • Dad canceled caregiver for tomorrow and I got upset. I'm on strike. If he doesn't need the caregiver agency, then he doesn't need me.
  • Not enough REM
  • Sugar too high
  • Yowling cat
  • Cat prognosis


Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

Jacky82020 on 10/13/2020:
I am so sorry to hear about the poor kit cat.

How do those activity trackers measure REM? Stillness and low heart rate? Never did get it, but turned off sleep functions on my Fitbit, too many known errors and uncomfortable to wear in bed.

happy-1 on 10/13/2020:
It is what it is. It's just heartbreaking. Poor old man.

I find Garmin is a million times more accurate and helpful, but you can identify your REM on Fitbit. https://www.businessinsider.com/how-does-fitbit-track-sleep

I literally thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown until I put all my Garmin stats in a spreadsheet and saw the sleep data. So relieved to figure out it was a med and not me. Might be worth turning on and wearing so you have data you can go back to in the future. Try replacing the strap with a soft elastic band.


And also, REM sleep helps with weight loss


Donkey on 10/13/2020:
I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. I love mine immensely. I still miss my Merlin. He was the first.

happy-1 on 10/13/2020:
Merlin sounds like a fine name for a cat.

I was never a cat person but he turned me into one.

Jacky82020 on 10/13/2020:
Thanks for the links, but they won’t open for me here. Maybe I can try cutting and pasting. I keep the Fitbit on my ankle, but remove nights.

happy-1 on 10/13/2020:
You have to cut and paste. It's so that people can't post spam links. It's a hack to avoid expensive and costly user created content work for the webmaster.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/13/2020:
I do remember when you got the cat when your mom was ill :) and the cat, i remember?, made you all happy, right?

So sorry your cat is sick...Donkey also has a sick cat...do cats get sick easily? maybe you both adopted yours when they were mistreated / older?

anyways, sending you strength to deal with this current difficult situation.

happy-1 on 10/13/2020:
Yeah, I adopted an old cat on purpose. I didn't want a cat for long. F me. I got what I asked for.

innerpeace on 10/14/2020:
Sorry about your cat. I am a cat person, they are destructive at times, but that purr! I hope you can find peace in knowing your mom has her cat back!

happy-1 on 10/14/2020:
Yeah... That purr.

Today was hard without it. There is something about being aggravated that still perks you up.

happy-1 - Sunday Oct 11, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

1:24 REM sleep. Only 10 min shy of the minimum mark. It's such a difference. Yesterday I was ready to peel the inside of my skull by bedtime. Today I was all there mentally, just worn out. It's such a relief to know it does get better.

And a kitchen floor that real humans would have in their house... fantastic.

Next, the living room. 

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

Donkey on 10/12/2020:
Yay for sleep!!! It's like a godsend when you get good, quality sleep in sufficient quantities.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/12/2020:
Will you show us your new floor? i'm very happy for you.

my kitchen floor isn't top quality and it was put in approx 2.5 years ago...one of the panels is already coming up!

Horn_of_plenty on 10/12/2020:
i mean tiles, one of the floor tiles.

happy-1 - Saturday Oct 10, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

20 min REM Friday. 40 min today. Zombie both days. Sleeping in the living room tonight to see if I do better.

Kitchen floor is replaced. I will miss the new handyman. I would have liked to adopt him. He was the type of big, tough, smart, scrappy guy I'd have liked to end up with. Sadly he's taken.

So tired. Gave myself a rest day... no major chores other than cleaning up all the dust and washing the floor. Even that is a stretch. Listening to my fav radio show. 

Cat is yowling in my bathroom tonight. I missed the call from the vet with my cat's test results.  Vet said thyroid, kidneys, cancer, or even all 3. I don't get it. He was a fat, aggravating, obnoxious tom cat last Saturday, and Sunday everything flipped. Fingers are crossed for thyroid. $6 a month for some pills and a kitty wrestle 2x a day. With the $50 vet visit and the $220 blood panel, I would still be under $400 for vet stuff for the year and get to keep my little frenemy. If it's the other possibilities, I'm looking at euthanasia and watching my ancient dog look for her bestie every time we go for a walk and she sees a black and white cat. It will break my heart.

I know I need to put my dog down soon. Haven't because I want to take her on one last adventure... But not enough REM sleep means I barely pull off chores and a shower. Forget doing anything worthwhile.

This is what I never understood about my dad... Your health is fundamental to being able to be there for the people (or furpeople) in your life. If you are in bad health, you do everything possible to change it. You don't just throw your hands up and say "I give up!" every day for 47 years until you rot in place.

Friday I had the home quality check from the caregiver agency. She referred me to someone who can look at my project plan and help me figure things out.

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

thinkpositive on 10/11/2020:
Tell me about REM? I keep track of my sleep through my Fitbit but never knew how many minutes of REM that I should have.

Donkey on 10/11/2020:
That's the thing about cats, their health can turn in a second. That's what happened with Baby Kitty. She was at the vet for her annual exam, and the following week started her fungal infection. A month later, she's knocking on death's door.

The last cat we lost was to kidney failure. We waited a day too late to put her down. Her last day was so miserable for her, but I had to work.

Good point about your dad's attitude on his health. I never got that either. Up until the end, my stepfather worked an unpleasant diet, to get himself as much time on this earth. Had he not, his time would have been much shorter.

I'm glad the kitchen floor is done. And that the agency will help you with your project as well.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/11/2020:
not that one cat can ever replace another, but, if she passes maybe you can adopt yourself a baby kitten ;)

new handyman sounds better than old handyman!

happy-1 on 10/13/2020:
I definitely see myself getting another cat when I go back to work. It's not fair to a pet to adopt it if you only have a $400 annual budget for vet care. It's got to be closer to $700 and an emergency reserve of $1000. Mom always wanted a tabby cat with big green eyes. I might keep an eye out for one... I think she wanted a girl, but I would absolutely go for another tom cat.

happy-1 - Friday Oct 09, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

0:32 REM sleep. I blame this on the cat. I think he passed a kidney stone. Poor little guy. He finally quieted down. Still taking him to the vet tomorrow.
I REALLY splurged... It's my birthday. I coughed up $175 for Nutrisense (https://www.nutrisense.io/). I see it as an investment in better blood sugar management, breaking the sleep/sugar cycle, and getting more REM sleep so I can exit my hell loop and get back to work. They asked what major progress looks like to me... I said "Blood sugar baseline down to "normal type 2" ranges. 1:34 or better REM sleep per night. 1:36 or better deep sleep per night. General improved energy, mood, focus, libido, and outlook. Drop in body fat. And just sweating less. I swear all I do is sweat. It's awful."
Today the Ex-ish said "It seems like you are sitting in the middle of chaos and blithely working on your REM sleep while everything burns around you." I said I am sitting in the middle of chaos because I'm not getting enough REM sleep and it was already all burning around me so I might as well get more REM sleep.
Handyman cometh tomorrow. Setting my alarm for 6. It is 11:30 now. I will have to tough it out.
I actually yawned yesterday. I didn't notice it then. I did it again today and realized I possibly haven't yawned and wanted to go to bed in... 5 years? It's more like a crash of fatigue and hopelessness bordering on crisis... not *yawn*, bedtime.
Oh the joys of fresh bedsheets and new pjs. 

Inch by inch. One foot in front of the other. 

*yawn*, bedtime.

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

Donkey on 10/09/2020:
I'm glad you found another handyman. We've had trouble finding one.

Keep working on the REM -- although, is that something we can actively control?

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:
Yes. You can work on all the contributing factors for sleep phases and total sleep overall to increase REM sleep. Your body wants and is desperate for REM sleep.

Good luck on the handyman.

horn_of_plenty on 10/09/2020:
Happy bday to you, Miss Happy!

I sweat too much in my underarms when I am nervous - I get Botox 1-2x per year in my underarms to lessen it a lot!

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:
Can I just get a full head to body tattoo of botox?

Maria7 on 10/09/2020:
Happy Birthday!

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:

Jacky82020 on 10/09/2020:
Happy Birthday!

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:

Donkey on 10/09/2020:
Happy birthday! I'm not sure how I missed that. I thought your birthday was in July, for some reason.

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:
Aaaw. No. My birthday is actually at the end of this month, but it's such a horror show every year, I decided to celebrate my birthday on the 9th every year instead so I can enjoy a happy birthday before the birthday disaster strikes so I can say, well at least it's not my actual birthday.

happy-1 - Thursday Oct 08, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

47 min of REM sleep... about half of what I need...

... which I attribute to the yowling, miserable cat locked in my bathroom, horror and guilt at the suffering of a scrawny rescued animal, doubt as to whether I can make it to Friday for a vet visit without completely losing my #$%^,  crying jags desperately missing my mom who would have instinctively known what he wants like Dr Doolittle, and intense discomfort of high density foam earplugs + noise canceling headphones, and 2 white noise machines. If we didn't have so many coyotes and neighbors, I would have booted him out the front door and wished him luck. Oh, and that if I did that to her cat, I'd have a lot to answer to my mother for on the other side. Or feel too guilty to show up. There is no card for a tiny pussycat to play like the "dead mom" card. No matter how horrible he is (and why he was at animal control for adoption in the first place) he's pretty much got a golden ticket for life. Extreme sleep deprivation and a horrible noise is how they interrogate POWs. I would like to volunteer my cat for service.


Tonight at about 8pm, I remembered that you can get a sick cat to eat baby food. You would be shocked at how fast I can put on clothes and get to the store when properly motivated. A couple of bottles of baby food and a new "no corners" bowl...  It is now 10pm. The cat is locked in my bathroom for the night. And... mostly quiet. He's stuck there till morning. I would sooner release the beasts of hell than let that cat out of the bathroom.

He's really a very nice cat. I swear.

This is why pizza and keto cheesecake were invented.


I spent the day in an exhausted lump in a corner of my bed crunching Garmin data on my timeline. I can report SUCCESS. All this pushing I am doing to reduce my stress level and get more REM sleep is working. Two 30 day sleep debt markers have cleared. Total sleep and deep sleep. REM (and the ability to drive more than a couple of blocks and have more than one hour of cognitive energy in a day so I can go to the botannical gardens or see the Ex-ish) cannot possibly be far behind them.

Like chipping away at a glacier. With a toothpick.

One foot in front of the other.

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 10/08/2020:
Hang in there. Hope the cat gets beter and is quiet!

happy-1 on 10/09/2020:
God heard you. Cat is quiet.

Jacky82020 on 10/08/2020:
Sorry about the poor kitty and poor you. How old is it? How long have you had it?

happy-1 on 10/09/2020:
He's 8 or 9. We just had our 1 year cattiversary.

Donkey on 10/08/2020:
I'm very concerned about your cat, and for your well-being. Funny how a distressed cat can cause so much strife in their humans. Been there.

happy-1 on 10/08/2020:
CBD oil worked wonders last night. Finally a use for that bottle.

Fingers crossed this doesn't exceed a one time cost of $400ish dollars and an additional 20 min of daily care.

He's utterly impossible even when he feels good, but he's family.

Jacky82020 on 10/09/2020:
Happy, has the cat had such issues as long as you’ve had him? BTW, I am an all around animal lover. I have cats, parrots, and dogs. I have been feeding a feral cat for a over a year that I’d dearly love to integrate into the household. I did trap him in a live trap a year ago with bad results. Long story. He escaped. Lately he will eat treats out of my hand. Tremendous progress I never thought I’d see.

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:
Yeah... he was kind of a wreck when I got him. $900 in dental work last year after my mom passed. I adopted him with my mom to be her hospice cat. I've never been a cat person, but I wanted to make my mom happy... So I deliberately asked the volunteer at the adoption event for the oldest cat there so I wouldn't be stuck with a cat very long. I kind of cursed myself. He grew on me and I am worried about my little nemesis.

Jacky82020 on 10/11/2020:
What does the vet have to say about the nocturnal vocalizations? Can you find online groups that know more?

happy-1 - Wednesday Oct 07, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

1 hr and some change REM sleep. No thanks to the cat. He had me up and down all night. Finally, I stuck the cat in a crate in the living room last night and got sleep about 1am. My dad says he meowed the whole time (and kept him up)so I made a vet appointment for Friday. They said if he stops peeing, it's an emergency trip. I geve him a bath when I brought him in tonight and he's finally quiet but hiding under my bed (exhausted?). He didn't eat, which is unusual for him. He's usually a garbage bin.

Oh, pussycat. Please don't be sick. I need to keep things in the house peaceful so I can get some sleep and pull myself back together. If I don't take you to the vet and you meow nonstop, I will not get any sleep and lose my mind. If I do take you to the vet and get you fixed up but spend $500-800 to do it, my dad will meow nonstop and I will not get any sleep and lose my mind.

Is this how Mom felt?

Caregiver came today and helped me clean out dad's car and try to get it started. All dad wants to do is get it running. All I want to do is donate it to a cancer group in my mom's honor. Get it gone. One more thing off the list. I honestly think my dad would rather lose a foot than that car.

I had a low blood sugar episode because I didn't eat. I don't know what it was, I had a plum and some hard boiled eggs, took a break, and got back at it, conquering more of the garage. There are a bunch of big black plastic contractor bags ready for pickup on Friday. With them a load of my stress will go.

I did manage to sneak in a bath today. Not a long one, but enough to really scrub my ankles. Why do ankles get so dirty? It felt like the most luxurious spa ever. At one time in my life I would go to the Korean spa for a really thorough exfoliation, then bask in the different rooms and eat spicy miso ramen. It was fun.

I miss fun.

Is that how mom felt?

I'm so tired. 

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

Maria7 on 10/07/2020:
I hope your cat will be all right. That is good that you had some time to do something for you. You are a hard working, dedicated Daughter, a very good Daughter. Your Dad is blessed to have you for his Daughter. Try to get some rest, even if little naps off and on, til you feel rested. Take care and have a good nite.

happy-1 on 10/10/2020:
Hugs. TY. If you think that, it must be true.

grannyannie on 10/07/2020:
You do need some fun. Hope you can find some somehow.

I check my sleep app as well. My REM was 2 hours last night and my deep sleep is always less than 30 minutes - sometimes only 10.

happy-1 on 10/09/2020:
What app do you use?

Jacky82020 on 10/07/2020:
You sound like the best cat momma in the world. Hope the medical issue can be resolved without great expense.

happy-1 on 10/09/2020:
Aaaaw, ty.

Donkey on 10/07/2020:
I'm so sorry about the cat. What the heck is going on? I often ask this of my cats. When Baby Kitty was sick, and we didn't know what was wrong with her... I fear that had we acted sooner, things might have been different for her outcome.

I should look more into my REM sleep. I only look at my Fitbit sleep score, usually.

Bear has a good question.

happy-1 on 10/08/2020:
My mom would have been able to tell you. She was practically psychic.

happy-1 on 10/08/2020:
Last time I spent $300 to find out he was bored and wanted a laser pointer and some cat grass.

Hindsight is 20/20.

thinkpositive on 10/07/2020:
Sorry that your cat kept you awake. Hope the problem isn’t long lasting or too $$. You definitely need to do something fun besides just taking a bath! Have a good day.

happy-1 on 10/08/2020:

Horn_of_plenty on 10/07/2020:
hoping cat is doing ok...

i'm sorry you are still tired and not getting enough sleep...hopefully you will soon :)

also, is anyone driving dad's car? do you have your own car still?

happy-1 on 10/08/2020:
Yeah, I have my car. He is nearly blind and surrendered his license years ago. My mom was the one that drove it. The last time it was driven was the night she came hoe from a cancer support group on the way home from chemo, had a bad reaction, and couldn't stand up the next day.

happy-1 - Tuesday Oct 06, 2020
(Week 2 - 9/20 60 day challenge, stubborn mule)
Weight: 225.4

Slept 10h but only got 30m REM. Dragging.

Handyman quit today. Showed up on time to collect his tools and tell me he wouldn't be doing any more work. Something about his girlfriend being mad at him for using her paypal address and not wanting to give me a receipt for cash payments.


Cat won't stop yowling at all. My utter inability to figure out how to make one little cat happy is just so heartbreaking. I had to shut him in the bathroom again. I can't keep shutting him in a dark, windowless bathroom all night every night. Mom would have known exactly what he wants.

Progress as of today: 91.6 lbs lost so far, only 65.4 lbs to go!

grannyannie on 10/06/2020:
Sorry about your handyman quitting.

Does the cat want to sleep in the bed with you? Would you allow it?

happy-1 on 10/07/2020:
He has a little cat bed next to me. We both prefer it that way. He really prefers to only get up close and personal if I am awake, thankfully.

happy-1 on 10/07/2020:
And when I am awake he's an inch from my face.

Donkey on 10/06/2020:
I'm sorry about the handyman. Well, there's more of them out there, willing to work.

A distressed cat can turn a household into chaos. Is he singing? Or in pain? Is he fixed? If not, maybe he's calling for... companionship.

happy-1 on 10/07/2020:
He's fixed. About 9yo.

I cannot tell the difference. He's always been a talker, but he started yowling nonstop Sunday night when he heard my dad up washing dishes. He used to yowl nonstop to try to be out in the living room with dad when I first got him and won that, but lost his house privileges when he turned the dining and living room into a cat box. I assumed he wants to be loose in the house at night... Which wouldn't work unless I put a third cat box in the dining room... NO WAY. But he won't take no for an answer... But he actually didn't stop yowling the entire night, morning, or afternoon. He clawed up my new vinyl footrest pouf through the crate. A couple of weeks ago he peed outside the box once, but stopped after I changed his box, so I thought it was that he wanted fresher litter more regularly so now I just change it every other day, which is fine because pellets are cheap and he seems to prefer less litter, more frequent changes. Could be kidney or thyroid. Psychological stress or boredom.

happy-1 on 10/07/2020:
But he's also stopped eating, so I'm going to try some ham tonight pre vet visit.

Horn_of_plenty on 10/06/2020:
UGH! that's unfortunate about the handyman....i am thinking there are others out there as well :)

Maria7 on 10/06/2020:
Our cats meow when they want wet canned food or milk. They get Meow mix every morning and canned food in the afternoons and eggs and milk, etc off and on, too. Love them both.

bearcountrygg on 10/06/2020:
Our cat just talks all of the time....he came to us from the shelter that way...he knows some words and repeats them to us....he has an attitude..and turns his back to us if he hears NO....maybe your cat is asking for something......he may have been taught to talk....we have never had a cat like this before...so it was a surprise to us when he always responds with a meow of some kind when talked to....and like maria's cat..he asks for canned food, dry food, fresh water, his litter box cleaned, he says hello when he sees me.....and repeats NO if told know and then turns his back....when we have company here...he hisses at them...jumps on the table ( not allowed)and has even scratched them....guess he doesn't like visitors.

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