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happy-1 - Monday Apr 09, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Doing well today! I fit into my size 14 Lucky Brand goal jeans that I bought on clearance a couple of years ago this morning, no muffin topping! I have been trying them on periodically but even though I could get them zipped up I couldn't wear them out because I had a huge gut donut. I paired them with a pretty cotton tunic (only a size L!) that was white with blue anchors and a pair of tan heeled sandals. Loved being completely comfortable... and wearing pants that weren't trying to escape!

Bought a regular digital scale at Costco tonight with store credit for $14.99. I can't take not having a scale and my mom isn't picking out what she wants as a replacement... and the fancy one from kmart was open. Yuck.

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Bedtime meditation

3gs - 1) the money to pay for food and gas today. 2) making it to oc and back in 1 piece. 3) my parents. 4) my dog ate all her dinner tonight.

Things I can take pride in for improving my fitness: 1) dental care, 2) eating on plan, 3) packing my lunch the night before, 5) switching to coconut cream instead of half and half for my coffee... with stevia and cinnamon it is pretty good, 6) limiting cardio at bootcamp to 1h, 7) getting up at 7:30, 8) getting 9h of sleep, 10) putting the tv on a timer so that I can't accidentally stay up till 2am watching tv

Obstacles: iPhone f-d up, exhaution, not enough focus to sustain me throughout the day, The Circus.

My vision for what it will be like when I am fit: I will have even, sustained energy throughout the day and not lose focus. I will complete my reasonable to do list for the day. I will not sit and stare into space because I am too wiped to think. Simply driving an hour will not be more exhausting than biking an hour. I will have a banging fit body and an amazing after photo.

Intent for tomorrow: forward hustle

How I will work heroically: I will be up early and at the edd office by 8. I will push on the qa training. I will go home after and meal prep the stuff I bought at Costco tonight. I will do my Apple support appointment tomorrow and get my iPhone fixed. I will take my dog with me to the park by my DA meeting early and do my workout.

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!


happy-1 - Sunday Apr 08, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Woke up at 7:30 AM today... Which is good! I only had 5.5h of sleep though so I am running on a big sleep deficit for the week. It was better to wake up and get my day started than sleep in though... I need to get back on track and the best way to do that is to "feel" like I am back on track.  

I was up on time to go to services but didn't go because when I opened my eyes, all I could see was the mess I had made throughout the week trying to get something done and not finishing everything it takes to do the nightly reset because there were too many dishes in the sink each night and I was going to bed at 1 and 2 am as it was. UGH. The price of clutter. Would be interesting to see how big it would be if I put everything that I see in the AM that is "extra" in a pile... 

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Answer: It is about the size of a queen size bed... and it was hiding more mice. Put out traps.

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Decided next that the most essential thing I could do today is contact Apple support and try to get my iphone working again. Ugh... apparently nothing is working right and they had to escalate to a specialist. 

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Bedtime Meditation

3 gratitudes: 1) That I got it together enough to start tackling this computer/phone thing because I went to the DA meeting yesterday... so thank you to the people that ran it. 2) That I can keep trying again tomorrow. 3) That there is a bootcamp at 7 tomorrow and hopefully I can make it if I get back from OC in time (dentist). 4) The people on this board who cheer me on.

Efforts I can take pride in for my fitness today: 1) I got up at 7:30. 2) I tried to stay on target and my only cheat was a top ramen packet. 3) I took my dog fo a nice long walk and we found a new park to go to... she didn't pull or fight to not go home today.

Selfless act: I dunno if it was selfless, but I took my dad to the grocery store and helped him find what he was looking for. I did not participate or indulge him when he lost it on me later and said I make everyone's life miserable and am a ****ty person. I just grabbed my purse and got a burger and came home an hour later. The trip was too much for him to handle and he was tired.

Obstacles: Not enough sleep, adhd overwhelm, clutter/the horde, not having my own space, money, not feeling physically good. iCloud/iPhone storage is maxed and I can't use any apps on my phone including audible which means it is harder to get to sleep.

Vision for what it will be like when I achieve my fitness goal: I will stick to my priorities and have more fun. I will wake up right away and not feel like I am dragging along. I will fall asleep easily.

My intention for tomorrow: Take care of needful things.

How I will work heroically tomorrow: Get my temp crown fixed, fix my phone, track down training application.

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

Horn_of_plenty on 04/08/2018:
i do agree that actually getting up and out of bed on the weekend may be better than sleeping in for feeling like you are back on track :)


bearcountrygg on 04/08/2018:
Agreed...sometimes staying in bed feels more like hiding....better to get up and be productive.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
Ok. Next question. Better to get up and clean or better to get up and go to services?

Cleaning needs to get done and I am sharpest in the morning. But it also can turn into an all day thing because the horde is bottomless and moving things to clean creates more to clean. Have been at just my stuff for 2h already. Granted part of that was pulling everything extra to the front door. Turns out it makes a pile about the size of a queen sized bed.

Religious stuff aside... productivity and anti-depression only... Services are social and make you feel connected with the community, part of something, and help you get over yourself. 9am services are more populated than 5pm services.


Donkey on 04/08/2018:
I vote go to services. You'll get more done if you're centered. At least, that's how I am.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
ok. will try that


bearcountrygg on 04/08/2018:
I think the most productive thing is the thing that makes you happiest.....you want the social and in my opinion...the 2 best places to meet people is at school and at church. I always leave church feeling good. Since church services are at specific times.....you go then...at other times you can clean. When it comes to cleaning...I try not to pile anything that I want gone.....trash goes in a trash bag and goes straight to the garbage can when it's full...or when I'm done for the day. Donation stuff here goes straight to the car...and the next time I'm going past a drop off place it gets dropped off. If I piled stuff up...I would just keep moving the pile over and over again...I have to get it out of the house.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
Yeah... It's not all mine though and it's not trash... It's stuff that should be donated... but... hoarders.


Maria7 on 04/09/2018:
Hope you have a good day.



happy-1 - Sunday Apr 08, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Went to a DA vision board workshop today. It was pretty cool and met some nice folks. They had TONS of magazines and there was a lot to choose from. I just pulled pictures as they appealed to me, but a lot of the stuff really didn't nail down my own peculiar taste, except for what was in Sierra Magazine. I'll probably have to go through my Pinterest boards to find images of what appeals to me. It was very peaceful to sit and flip through magazines though.

I missed a workout today and had extra snacks last night. So far I'm at a 3% calorie deficit for the week... but hey. It's still a deficit and I will conquer tomorrow.

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So it turns out if I don't post it here... I don't actually do the bedtime meditation. At all. Here we go again.

3 gratitudes: 1) For the money to pay for the things I needed this week to get on track with my fitness goals and my parent's support in that. 2) For my dog who spent a saturday bored at home while I went to the vision meeting. 3) For the people working hard to keep that group going.

Efforts I can take pride in for my fitness today: 1) I packed a cooler the night before with all my food for today and dook it with me. I stayed on track and ignored all the cakes, cookies, pizza, pasta, sugar laden salads and other diet pitfalls. 2) When I went on my crappy OKcupid date after ("OMG you're so tall!" Yeah bonehead, it's in my profile. there are even photos of me standing next to short people.). I did not let peer pressure make me order coffee or a sugary drink at starbucks. I just had water and added some of it to my protein shaker. 3) I got back on track with diet after last nights insomnia-induced midnight snacks. 4) I sat and journaled about fitness instead of watching tv.

Selfless act: I knew it would be a cold day in hell before I ever nailed my OKcupid date so I used my starbucks gift card to buy him a sugar-laden drink and order myself a water.

Obstacles: Not enough sleep. Money.

Vision for what it will be like when I achieve my fitness goal: I will meet guys in events and groups that interest me. I will not have to fish on JustOKcupid.

My intention for tomorrow: Celebrate my doggie. Show her a good time. Be a good provider.

How I will work heroically tomorrow: I will take my dog to the dog park and let her sniff and explore the geese. We will get burgers or costco hotdogs after. I will try to get to church for 5pm services and work on my spiritual self care.

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/08/2018:
YEAH YOU!!!!!!!! Celebrate yourself!!! You deserve it!!!!! You found ways around the lack of pictures!!! You met some new people and you found a jerk and brushed him off!!!!! Yes..meet new people in person...become friends because you have similar goals.....and have some fun...and a big plus on resisting the unhelpful food!!!! GO YOU!!!!

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
Thanks for the cheering on!


Donkey on 04/08/2018:
I agree with BearCountry - WOO HOO!!!!!

How about starting a blog about bad dates? Bad Date Blues Blog... You did really well food-wise on the date, btw. Give yourself some props on that :-)

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
Hah!!!! How about "Meal Prep for 1"?


Maria7 on 04/08/2018:
Hope you have a good day today.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
hugs! You too!


Horn_of_plenty on 04/08/2018:
Donkey's suggestion is quite funny ;)

I think your vision fitness goal is cool - to meet guys at the events you participate in. Seems very logical and also a bold and confident thing to say which i do think is wonderful bc it's something i do not do but think it's a WONDERFUL skill and way to be social, positive, and enjoy life - just a few reasons why it's so great.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
That's funny. I'd think you would be a magnet.



happy-1 - Friday Apr 06, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Day 5 is Friday and a REST DAY... OMG I NEED IT BAD. 

Not so much because "everything hurts and I'm dying" but because meal prepping, actually eating and washing dishes for 6 meals a day, doing a 15-20 min toning routine and an hour of cardio a day, being horribly too tired to do anything of value, being too sore to move, then chasing or being chased by my parents/dog/dog+parents/parents+dog, and routine visits from The Circus... OMG. I HAVE GOTTEN PRACTICALLY NOTHING DONE ALL WEEK!!!

As part of my worksheets I am tracking what I actually accomplish hour by hour a day and then giving myself points for productivity... I got a couple of things done on Monday... but then NOTHING FOR 3 DAYS!!! They all have various cloud shapes with whatever chaos happened and how long it took me to recover from it. AUGH.  I think I might need to give myself an extra rest day and cheat meal a week while I work up to this just so that I stay productive.

Couldn't face Costco on a Friday. Went to Trader Joes and got basics. Will shoot for Sunday night.

BUT...

  • I am in the second round of my third scholarship atempt... this time for QA retraining. 
  • I am getting control of all my personal business stuff, one step at a time. Everything critical got done this week... for once.
  • The photo collages are great motivation to be on track and also help remind me what I ate for counting calories eod or next day.
  • The worksheets I made are really helping
  • I found an adult adhd support group. Trying that next week...
  • I'm not sure DA is the right place for me. I have never once just sat there hoping that someone else would pay my rent. Going to a workshop tomorrow and mabe I will figure out if it is right for me.
  • I'm burning enough fat that I had to buy new workout bras this week. I also splurged on replacement shoelaces... because I wore the ones that came with my shoes out!!!!! Getting my money's worth.
  • I had a store credit at KMART and used it to get a new bathroom scale! For $20 you get a scale that measures body fat, body water, bone mass and BMI, includes bone mass analysis... GEEZ. 

Now I just need to figure out what to spend my $100 REI member credit on before the 20% off coupon expires on the 9th!!!!!!!!

  • $260 for a $450 item... Inreach satellite GPS and text messaging? https://www.rei.com/product/119863/garmin-inreach-explorer-satellite-communicator
  • Bear-safe Yeti cooler?
  • Portable electric fridge?
  • Binoculars? 
  • Decent mountain bike?
  • Don't go overboard and just wait till another one comes out in the fall when I might be employed?

Trying out a mantra: Grit don't quit!

 (Scale: http://www.kmart.com/conair-weight-watcher-s-by-conair-glass-body-fat/p-005W005729273002P?plpSellerId=Kmart&prdNo=3&blockNo=3&blockType=G3)

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

trishpiglet3 on 04/07/2018:
We can only ever do so much in a day. Rest days and cheat meals sound great... it's what we do most of the time that makes a difference. You are doing awesome

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
TY!


bearcountrygg on 04/07/2018:
Creating new habits is basically what it all comes down to...have fun spending that card>>>>!!!!!

happy-1 on 04/07/2018:
Yeah... The portable electric fridge would be great because then all I need is a battery bank and a solar panel and I can stop screwing around with ice... but also keep my dad's insulin cold in an earthquake... but still $626 after coupon and credit before tax. Plus to power it I need to sink in another $450 on Amazon for a panel and bank... But all fit in my car for camping also. ($1076 outlay)

The Inreach Satellite GPS would be good to allow me to go camping and still be in touch for recruiters/school, but not as useful for emergencies at home... I'd need 2... One to leave at home for my mom and one to have in the car. ($710 outlay)

Planning on buying 2 Baofeng ham radios for fun and learning HAM (after I get an FCC license) if I make it through the 60 day challenge 80% on track or better.

happy-1 on 04/08/2018:
The Baofengs are only like $140 outlay...

What do you think, prepper lady?


Donkey on 04/07/2018:
I'm quite impressed with what you have accomplished, even if it feels like you haven't done so. The ADHD support group sounds so promising - I hope it's a good fit. Also, along those lines, I would encourage you to keep trying DA - even if it's not for you, sometimes it's good to be around other people, hearing their stories and struggles. Helps put your own situation into its proper perspective.

happy-1 on 04/07/2018:
The vision board thing today was pretty cool. Met some nice folks.



happy-1 - Thursday Apr 05, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Super tired so a short post. Day 4 of 60. 4 solid days in a row on track. Have to do a grocery run tomorrow. Might limit it to chicken, sweet potatoes and eggs to keep life aimple.

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/06/2018:
Sounds like a plan!!!

happy-1 on 04/06/2018:
:-) Love how on-target you always are. Reminds me to be.


horn_of_plenty on 04/06/2018:
Keep it Simple Stupid is the name of the game! The simpler, usually the easier it is to remain on track!!!

But, you will not buy any veggies!?

happy-1 on 04/06/2018:
I was crazy hungry the other day and the only thing I needed was spinach... so I bought an ENORMOUS bag... A normal bag is only like 2 servings and I'm eating 2 cups of spinach or broccoli at every meal, 6 meals a day... that's 84 cups a week. But it doesn't last long once you open the bag so I figure that I'll just get the veggies next trip.


Donkey on 04/06/2018:
Go get 'em!!! Donkey is cheering you ON!

happy-1 on 04/06/2018:
TY!


graindart on 04/06/2018:
The more successful days in a row you can get, the more addicting it can become. A few weeks ago I was at a point where I was wavering. (I still have certain days that I question whether it's worth it or not.) But today I'm on a successful 24th day in a row for food intake & exercise. Seeing the number go up daily helps keep me motivated because I really don't want to go back to zero again.

happy-1 on 04/06/2018:
Nice! That's the Seinfeld theory of productivity... Don't break the chain.


bearcountrygg on 04/06/2018:
OKAY...a Granny warning here...did you know that eating spinach daily can cause kidney stones??????

happy-1 on 04/06/2018:
Ok. Will break it up with broccoli, kale, and arugula



happy-1 - Tuesday Apr 03, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

OMG... That bootcamp class was intense. I did push myself to make sure I broke a sweat and maxed out my muscles to the point where they don't hold anymore, and I was appropriately rewarded... with horrible muscle soreness about 2h later that was soooo bad I was up till 2:30 AM just ready to break... even though I took glucosamine after... I held it together by doing the photo collage and looking at the photos so I could be happy with myself for being on track and stay in that mindset and not suddenly start eating. It worked well! I didn't break and go for the chicken top ramen in my bear barrel or eat an extra meal. All I had when I got home was my 6th meal for the day which I planned as yogurt but it seemed like too much to eat so I just had a protein shake from that new Musclemilk probiotic vanilla mix I got at Costco... and I was really surprised at how good it is! I read online today that I should have had more carbs afterwards, like an apple or other fruit. (https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness-exercise/what-to-eat-after-cardio#5) 

I did sleep really late though... If I was working I would have worked from home... I was so sore I really thought I had pulled a ligament but after coffee and oatmeal I feel a lot better.

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So far I have drowned 3 mice. I know I have to do it, that I have to put out sticky traps to fight back, and once they are in a sticky trap, they are struggling and it is the fastest way to end the cruelty... but at one point in my life I was vegan and went out of my way for animals. Now I eat meat and dairy multiple times daily. I keep thinking about The Good Place... an awesome TV show. Ellen in her enlightenment becomes a vegan and saves bugs.

Sigh.

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Just realized this is my 7th time through the challenge... And I'm just now starting to catch up to all the habits I had to build to do it.

 

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/03/2018:
Are you drinking enough water?

happy-1 on 04/03/2018:
Oooh I didn't even think of that... I buy gallon bottles of water and try to drink 1 a day (LA is arid, even if you are inside and I do near constant chores all day so I need a gallon) but with the mouse stuff I bet I got stressed and distracted and am not drinking enough. I'll add it to my photos so I keep track.


horn_of_plenty on 04/04/2018:
i ended up with horrible injuries taking a bootcamp class because it got me in shape so fast, my muscles didn't have time to increase and my tendons were doing more of the work. That class, in combo with my own increase in running, led to horrible shin splints that lasted for over two years as i never rested them enough for them to go away fully. Finally they are better and I am back to working on my leg strength and starting up running once again :)


horn_of_plenty on 04/04/2018:
those classes tend to be very good...very intense...sometimes they push you past your limits...which can be good and bad.


Donkey on 04/04/2018:
Hope the soreness goes away soon!



happy-1 - Monday Apr 02, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

So... total on-track % for health plan for last week is 70%... A great baseline to start from considering it was my first week tracking habits that way and we all need to ramp up. I thought I'd come in at 40% but that just goes to show cognitive bias... I always feel like I am doing a terrible job but the numbers are usually better than I expected. Just saying to myself I need to stop the negative tapes in my head and negative thinking doesn't really help. I need to be able to scientifically prove to myself that something I keep thinking isn't true. Grrr... get after it. Ignore the quit signals and keep going. The only way to get through something is to keep going.

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Invited 3 of the folks from church to join the 60 day challenge. I hope they do it. All have significant health issues aggravated by weight. 2 of the 3 are morbidly obese and look like they are about to die at any minute. Plus, I could really use the support.

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Day 1 in the bag. It's 1 am but I pulled it all off. Took a break tonight from all the horrors of the day to assemble all my food photos for the day into a collage for the 60 day challenge. I made it to the church bootcamp tonight, so I added that in.  It was kind of fun so I put it on Facebook. Kind of regretting it. We shall see what happens. 

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/02/2018:
Things are moving in the right direction I see!

happy-1 on 04/03/2018:
1 day at a time!!!


Donkey on 04/02/2018:
I appreciate and admire your enthusiasm! 60 day challenge? I hope your church buddies take you up on that.


horn_of_plenty on 04/03/2018:
Yes, your persistence is paying off so nicely...keep on, Happy!



happy-1 - Sunday Apr 01, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 228.0

Weight loss! 1.8lbs!!!!!! Man every pound is a battle, but it's a war and I'm winning. I've been more "on plan" this week than any other before and I think overall I dropped 5lbs or so to get that 1.9 below my plateau. I even got to bed on time last night... All I need to do next is find my blood pressure cuff and measure it for the new 60 day challenge that starts tomorrow.

Happy Easter everyone!

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I lost 4 lbs total this challenge.

Progress as of today: 80 lbs lost so far, only 48 lbs to go!

Donkey on 04/01/2018:
Woo-hoo!!!! Congratulations!

happy-1 on 04/02/2018:
Ty!!!


bearcountrygg on 04/01/2018:
Congrats on the nice loss!

happy-1 on 04/02/2018:
Ty!!! One incremental step at a time. It took a long time for me to get this fat and out of shape and I just need to focus and make steady changes.


horn_of_plenty on 04/02/2018:
Wonderful job, Happy, lately you are losing really well...look at your awesome progress chart!

happy-1 on 04/02/2018:
Slow and steady wins the race... and doesn't have to hang on to fat clothes because they are never going to be that fat again.

happy-1 on 04/02/2018:
Slow and steady wins the race... and doesn't have to hang on to fat clothes because they are never going to be that fat again.



happy-1 - Saturday Mar 31, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 229.8

I think my dog is worried about how skinny I am getting. I just watched her chase a mouse into a sticky trap and turn around and alert me to the catch. I think she expects me to eat them...

And my dog is smart enough to pre-meditate a mousey death in a sticky trap????

Progress as of today: 78.2 lbs lost so far, only 49.8 lbs to go!

bearcountrygg on 04/01/2018:
Who needs a cat when you have your dog...LOL


bearcountrygg on 04/01/2018:
She is proud and wants you to see what she did for you! Cats do that...they bring you dead birds, mice, leaves sticks and special goodies...and they line them all up for you to admire...LOL



happy-1 - Saturday Mar 31, 2018
(Complete 80% or better of 16 health acts a day)
Weight: 229.8

Grrr... get after it. Up at 6:30 today... in stages... plan was an 8am bootcamp, but it wasn't going according to the posted schedule and is a 10am Zumba class instead. Arrgh. At least I am up on time!

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Unpleasant discovery... one of my insurance accounts was cancelled and may not be reinstated. I am still sifting through my chaos and am not quite on too of things yet... crap. When will I have basic organization and life management happen? I'm 40.

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Got to Zumba!

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Next unpleasant discovery... Mice.

God, grant me the strength to figure everything out and then follow through on it.

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Speaking of planning... I do have to say that the worksheets really are helping. There is something about paper and pencil that accesses a different part of my brain and allows me to think more realistically about what I can do in a day. I am going to update my profile and change my diet to reflect this.

Bullet journals kind of work this way... It's kind of one of those. Just done up in Google and printed out once a week.

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From my planning, I see that I run out of prepared meals on Thursday this upcoming week. That means I need to check the sales on Tuesday when they change, go food shopping on Wednesday before my track workout... stick it all in the cooler and then take it home to prep meals right away! Oi! 

But I couldn't have told you that last week!!!!

I think writing out what I am going to have ahead of time is really, really helpful and might help me stay on plan for eating and working out.

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One mouse down.

Progress as of today: 78.2 lbs lost so far, only 49.8 lbs to go!

Donkey on 03/31/2018:
Well, I'm 47 going on 48 this year, and I do not know that I have mastered anything. I still feel as incompetent as I was at 24, which was pretty much the way I felt when I was 16 and then 10.

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Nooooo...


bearcountrygg on 03/31/2018:
Yup...I'm 68 going on 18. Inside I'm still a kid...the outside is a shock!

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Aaaaaaaugh. Is there a consultant who can come in and look at my pile of life and my parents and their hoarder houses and then tell me what I should do? Besides take what money I have left and try to rent a room in Texas and find work there?


bearcountrygg on 03/31/2018:
There are life coaches.......if you move to texas who will take care of your parents, or are they able to take care of themselves? Sounds like you are a pencil and paper gal...I love to write things down too......we all have different learning styles...looks like you discovered yours!!!

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
LOL, got a referral for one in the prepper community? Therapy was/is good, but not strategic enough or nuanced in the issues of elder care and legality.

The issue of my parents is kind of nebulous... It's a toss up as to whether they are helpless and I need to be here or they are taking advantage of the fact that I am here and not doing for themselves. I am dog sitting for a couple of weeks and planning on camping in between, so I will be gone 16 days with my dog. I'll see what I come home to.


bearcountrygg on 03/31/2018:
Have you ever seen the program called Hoarders? They come and bring dumpsters and a crew...and they film it all......in the end...the people are usually happier...but it's never an easy task....

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
I've done 2 hoarder cleanouts on the house I am currently in with them and they just fill it back up again. It's astonishing... And a huge emotional battle. I lurk on a children of hoarders support group and I am starting to understand it better now. So I am trying to have a minimal impact on them, but with this mouse/rat thing I may have to force the issue.


Maria7 on 03/31/2018:
Hope you are having a good evening. :-)

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
I actually am... I took today to just work on my worksheets and it is all coming together like a puzzle.

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Hope you are having a good evening too!

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Hope you are having a good evening too!


Donkey on 03/31/2018:
A few years back, we had a mouse problem. My cat Boo took care of that, but it was not pretty. Not fun coming down the stairs in the morning and finding mouse parts on the stairs. Did you know that mice stomachs look like cashews? YUCK.

All you can do is set traps. If I've learned nothing else from my job it's that exterminators DO NOT fume/smoke out mice.

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Yeah, I am starting with my sticky traps. Any recommendations on good traps to buy?


bearcountrygg on 03/31/2018:
Is it possible that the hoard is covering up some foundation holes...possibly rotten boards etc? Did you know that every step a mouse takes it pees? They gross me out and they carry the hanta virus that can be deadly if they have it. According to the hoarders program it is a mental illness and it is often triggered by a loss (death). I'm surprised they let you clean it out...maybe it's not that important to them...are they possibly just obsessive shoppers?

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
That is a good question... I do not know. There are big holes in the walls behind each sink that have always been there and the back door is not flush to the trim at the bottom so that would be fized first... but I swear they run right at solid walls and dissapear.


bearcountrygg on 03/31/2018:
If you go away for a couple of weeks...that will say a lot.

happy-1 on 03/31/2018:
Yeah it isn't on purpose but it will be a good learning experience. Just an opportunity to have a pool and some quiet downtime alone. Get away from daily crises



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