Fresh start to a new day.
Yesterday I made some questionable food choices. Probably because I am a little discouraged... an extra couple of 100 cal frozen fudge bars, one of my dad's diet rootbeers with aspertame, too much seasoning in the turkey burgers, a bun with my burger, and a single serve pack of cakes I bought for my dad but he didn't want. I guess I need to find something new to give me hope. As the fortune cookie I got last week said... He who has hope has everything.
Trying to find a balance in tasks to decrease "overwhelm" and improve focus and attention. The OT had me structure my day into "zones" of type of work I should be doing based on wakeup time, food, meds, exercise, and environmental conditions... But I can't seem to get up and eat the frog because all I do is stare at the mess and piles of paper in the living room. So today I decided eating the frog was sorting out the boxes of paper. I sorted one. If I sort one a morning for a week, I can be through it all and ready to pull out more boxes.
Meeting up with my friend from camping to scope out a farmers market and some dog-friendly breweries today. Here is my outfit... gotta pack a backpack to carry my dog's water bowl and other items. I am still not 100% on the hat. I love the one from H and M, but it is not packable. The one from Columbia is kind of ugly but packable and already has holes for a lariat to keep it on your head. Everything else I already have... even if it is getting too big!
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
In a parallel universe today. My dad has been nice to me for several days and gave me $60 towards dinners and gas for the month. Apparently having dinner on the table every night at 7 is doing him some good too. He is less cranky and sleeping more consistently.
My mom is down to 209 from 223 and in a major depression over going on insulin. She says it is her tummy and it is in too bad shape to go out because it's too sensitive. I hope that is what it is. She's trying to give up fake sugar like I did... but it's hard. She's stockpiled lots of treats with aspartame in them.
Season 10 of Heartland is on Netflix! They jumped the shark with Season 9 and the little orphan girl Georgie. I hope they bounce back.
Returning the boots today. So bummed. So much money for shoes that can't be repaired.
Have been a little discouraged last couple of days, despite having lost 2.8 lbs. Just a general malaise. A little lonely without my ex, UDG, or Molly to talk to.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
What is UDG? And you are lonely without your ex? I think I might have missed some backstory here...
For making new friends... My friend K from church comes with strings attached, although it isn't stated clearly... I have to go to 5pm Sun services, Fri night church events, and possibly pick up a Wed night bible study. None of which I am opposed to, except everyone there HUGS YOU HELLO and I hate it. They won't stop at a handshake, they pull you in for the hug. My friend I from camping is just busy with her family and getting ready to relocate and she hasn't picked where yet.
I have a friend who HATES hugs. I am a born-again hugger. If you hug someone for at least 30 seconds, serotonin is released from your body, and it makes you feel euphoric. Trust me. Try it. With someone who you are comfortable hugging, of course!
Up and productive even though I woke up late at 8am. I actually got things done yesterday... Like 4. I am shocked.
Trying to decipher the mechanic's notes about repairs for my car... I can't actually match "fuel system" to any services online. I guess I have to go back in and ask them. UGH!!!! At least it will be a chance to get more dark chocolate from Ikea. I am out of chocolate... This is a terrible state to be in.
I did have the shocker today that a beach dress I purchased as a goal dress 3 years ago fits... almost well enough to wear out and about. I can't believe it. I thought at least another 20lbs. Makbe 4 or 5 more pounds till I can wear it like a normal tunic... right now it needs to go woth shorts or something on the bottom.
This is what I could have packed for the weekend to go down to my ex's. If I didn't want to bring a laptop and a hair dryer, this could have fit in 1 bag. Items in my H&M order that need to show up are the white tank top and straw hat... although I am kind of thinking twice about the hat.
I might do better with this packable straw hat from Columbia.
What is slightly frustrating is that the floral shorts and the khakis are getting too big. The shorts are a 1x and hard to take in without screwing up the flowiness. The khakis are stretch and I'd have to buy a different sewing machine to do the right kind of seam for any durability, plus the pocets would be too small to put anything in. UGH!!! Black belt will fit for another couple of months, but once I hit a size 12 I will need new belts. PHOOEY.
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Looked at Noom today to do instead of Rise.. but they ask you creepy questions like "Have you been on antibiotics in the last 2 years." Too personal.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
today i walked into Express on the way home to see about jeans bc they were having a sale. Buy 1, get 1 for $20. Well, the jeans are made well, yes, but for $80 for 1 pair and $20 for another meaning they are STILL $50 a pop, i put them back down and left the store. In no way is $50 a good price for jeans!
Restarting day. Overslept till 7 and took adhd meds late so my brain feels like a tub of pudding. Restarting and replanning...
Decided to make inquiries at church to see if there is anyone who works security and might accompany me for a few hours. Get unstuck. I have tons of empty file folders and need to get at them and buying them again is as much as paying someone to accompany me.
Weirdly the thing that is motivating me to be healthy today is a really big lady made an odd comment to me and I realized that I have been resting on my 95lb accomplishment and ignoring the 55lbs of "work" left to do to get to healthy and slacking on food and exercise because I feel so much better and just figure if I keep working on my habits everything will fall into place... but I've kind of let all my habits slide to match my parents again and I need to stop mucking around and rededicate myself to prioritizing health and sleep. Basically there is a lady who has some kind of disability and she's really huge. She liked my top and I said I got it at H and M. She said "Oh they have our size there?" I kind of paused for a moment thinking we're not the same size... I'm only a Lg/14... but then realized she was only making the distinction between tiny/fit and tall/overweight. I said yes online. I also felt small and mean for thinking that at all... but I am glad to snap back to reality however it happened.
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Frustrated because the boots I splurged on finally came! And they fit! And they cheaped out on the large size special run for Nordstroms so even though it is a workboot line, these are no better made than Payless. The leather is good, the sole and the zippers are awesome... but they used cardboard for the heel cups rather than leather and that means you can't get the heel cups replaced... in waterproof leather boots that have a stretch gusset and are sure to get wet inside eventually. So mad!!!
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
Ate a lot of junk food today and yesterday... laid around like a lazy loaf. Sloth and gluttony. So much to do but I always fall apart if I sleep late and I somehow slept 11 hours.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
Replanning and refocusing... I took my dad to Ralphs and I feel like I got hit by a truck. Plus it took so long.. 3 hours. There's something awful about that store... from the handheld scanners to the too many options for the same basic items... to all the noise and the weird absence of any smells other than industrial cleanser... it's more like a casino than a food store. I actually didn't buy anything because it was too overwhelming.
Still have to buy food this week, ugh.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
Some stores work for some, others not so much. My husband and I have similar conflicts/feelings about Sentry, Meijer, Woodman's (local)... And shopping with Dad in itself, I'm sure, has its own challenges.
I hope today was better!
Have ruined one pound loss with brownies and too much frozen yogurt. Partially due to hunger, partially due to sadness because Molly doesn't want to hang out this weekend to go to her aunt's pool party and maybe do some other stuff. Kind of bummed because it would have been good to do a girl's night out, but also because I think she thinks I'd be a drag. Oh well. Friends grow apart... and my ex invited me down to SD for a visit. Better than sitting here mooning over Molly thinking I'm a drag.
Had first doggie brewery social yesterday. One lady showed. One guy at the brewery said he'd be interested in socializing his new rescue dog. I'm thinking thursday night pack walk and brewery after is a better plan than just sitting at a brewery.
OT today and I haven't done the assignment. Gotta get crunching on that... and maybe redye my hair. I tried a new shade to match my roots but think it lurned out too orange. I have a bottle a shade to the darker side that might look less fake to dye over it. I can't tell. It looked ok at HM last night... although my clothes didn't. I was wearing XL top and a 1x bottom and they were super baggy and shapeless. Not cute at all. A size 14 dress and a medium tank looked just fine though. So frustrating! At least I picked up the blue beach coverup and a wide brim straw hat. I need to try everything on that I packed for the weekend... I can't take for granted that the stuff I packed will actually fit me. I should also take measurements again... I might have lost inches and need a new bra. I wish I could lose the fat in my under eyebags!!!
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Scratch going down to SD to see my ex. WTF was I thinking? I have a ton of car maintenance to do and a trip to SD to see a dude who didn't send me a Valentine's day card until MARCH is def not on my priority list.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
The doggie social sounds hopeful, with a little more time, it could develop into a solid group, perhaps.
Try hemorrhoid cream for under-eye bags. Yep.
And I think your decision not to see the Ex was the right one to make.
Yeah, I'm sad to spend the weekend alone... but I would have resented putting myself out to just sit in his apartment and eat food out somewhere as the big plan. I sent him a link to a $67 hotel on Hotwire if he wants to drive up to see me. It feels mean, but I can't put him up here and I'm not feeling like springing for a hotel and inviting him after not getting a Valentine's Day card till March.
Dad helped me remember to take my sleep meds at 8pm last night and I was up on time at 5 this morning!!!! YAY ME!
ALSO>>> Weight loss! About a lb. 221.4... At this rate nothing will fit me and I'll have to go running around nekked. At least my dog's fur won't stick.
I may have lost my mind last night, but I ordered a little too much off H and M. I think they updated their site inventory afeter I made my purchase because things I had favorited that weren't in my size when I made my first purchase were suddenly available... AUGH. I ended up with a second order of things I liked better, so I am probably stuck actually going in to make a return. at least returns are free. It will just suck for a couple of weeks.
Anyway, after careful analysis, I think what I needed to add was an oversize blouse/dress that can be a coverup for the beach (with cotton and some softness for sunburn), tucked into pants as a shirt, or worn over leggings as a top. Also, wide cut jersey pants and a couple of tops to tie other items together. I also need a hat, but I want better quality than what is available at H and M. I had a couple of other items too, but they are extras/nice to haves and may go back to the store. I will be on the lookout for a two-piece dress with at least some cap sleeves in a nice print... I can definitely see how that would cut down on the number of pieces I need to stick in a bag for travel. I am 6 of 1 half a dozen of the other on the pants. I think some Columbia trail pants in black would be more practical but my hope is that these are thin enough to be pajama pants but stil double as a spare pair of pants when traveling. I also bought a pair of bboots on Nordstrom Rack because I think they may be a good quality brand and it will be impossible to find a pair of waterproof black boots after August in size 13 (thanks Norwegian ancestors for my GIANT FEET)... I will take them to my shoe repair guy before I wear them and ask him if they are well-made enough to be worth repairing. I am done with shoes that are to cheap to repair. That's no way to prepare for a zombie apocalypse!
(and I had no idea I could just paste in images to DD!!!!! I thought I'd have to post them somewhere then link them over... Doh!)
Goal for today is to 1) get my dog more CBD treats, 2) apply to 5 jobs, 3) send the meetup announcement for happy hour on Thursday to get into people's inboxes after they check email and be at the top for lunch, 4) go to H and M and see if I can find the blue dress now because it would definitely make it easier to pack for Molly's this weekend. My ex in SD wants me to come down saturday night... I am 6 of 1 half a dozen of the other about that too. It would be nice to get away but A) sent a valentines day card in march and I don't feel special, B) he's een working overnights and I just got back onto my sleep pattern today.
Progress as of today: 95.6 lbs lost so far, only 15.4 lbs to go!
care about you first rather than adjust your life for him.
Thank you... I like that. "Care about you first rather than adjust your life for him."
This week my OT instructions are to get out of the house for 2 hours no matter what every day and be in bed by 9. I'll try my best. 11 or so last night? Just spaced and forgot to go to bed.
This is mostly possible because I discovered that there is a diner by me I can easily get to with AC and wifi... and NO SCREAMING CHILDREN! An improbable oasis. My big success yesterday was getting to sit down and relax, go through my mail and papers and make a to do list. Today I managed to sit down and reach the goal of applying to 5 jobs and it only took an hour. A veggie scramble with fruit and water seems like the least calorie-and death-laden choice and with tax and tip is about $11. Except I am hungry about 10 min after.
Lots of healthy eating last 2 days. Moving back to a normal sleep pattern.
Had my third OT appointment yesterday. She went over my time tracking notes and helped me identify why my sleep meds stopped working this past week and gave me new guidelines for getting to bed... basically moved everything up half an hour and no journaling or anything visually stimulating when I go to bed. This is going to be really, really hard for me to do. I have a really active brain at night... and I am trying to get to bed by 9 so I can be asleep by 10 and up at 5 and try to beat the heat and my parent's schedules to pull it together. She also adjusted my car seat for me to take the pressure off my neck and I felt the little bones pop apart in release. The feeling in my fingers is coming back and I didn' ven realize how much sensation I had lost.
Last night my friend from church asked me how my parents are doing I said better... my mom lost 14lbs because I have been making dinner every night by 7 and putting leftovers up in single servings so she has better blood sugar control. She said oh well walking helps too and I said... no they can't walk. I guess she didn't realize that my parents are THAT big. She said no wonder you are so petrified... I said Iam? She said yeah... you're always saying you just need to pull it together... but you hide it well. If you didn't tell me stuff was going on I would never have guessed you had anything going.
Food for thought.
Taking the day off from food logging, partially because I overslept and was so tired I ate things and didn't keep track. My neck doesn't hurt for the first time in weeks... not even a sore knot in my shoulder. Weirdly suddenly everything else hurts, I'm craving gum, and feel horribly lonely.
UDG said he'd hang out with me on Tuesday though. Looking forward to that.
The church group is at the beach today but I didn't go. I don't have anything to wear for sun protection that is cool enough right now and heat stroke has been a problem this whole month. I don't want to derail my phone interview early Monday AM and I would like to get the kitchen and patio picked up... Possibly more of the spare room cleared out.
Hugs all. I am so grateful for this site and the people here. When I started witing this post, I had that fluttery anxiety feeling all day I couldn't shake... but now I feel calm and focused.
Progress as of today: 94.9 lbs lost so far, only 16.1 lbs to go!
The OT is right. Sadly, I too am guilty of these "bad habits". IDK, there's some comfort, for me, to sit in bed, at the end of the day, and do stuff (as long as it's not snacking!). I would encourage you to give the OT's recommendation a try, see how it goes.
Perhaps the neck pain dominated everything else that you didn't realize there was other stuff going on too. That's a very interesting comment from your church friend. If y'all do a group prayer, it would be OK to ask for their support in dealing with what you're dealing with.
(((hugs)))
OT is in the right direction... I had a much easier week without neck pain and did manage to get sleep to snap back on track. Kind of fell off logging/responding.
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I like both hats.
Donkey on 08/03/2018:
My walking hat has a wide brim and a lariat to handle these Illinois prairie winds, even in the suburbs.